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Posted: 4/1/2008 4:57:24 PM | In Jamaica.....
"Poke'mon.....& Die" !
Somehow I sense this dude to be along the lines
of those 'ticklers', gets their kicks from cruelty,
thinking it's 'hidden' from everyones view.
Poke someone anywhere , the response won't
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Posted: 4/2/2008 3:42:54 AM | | It sounds to me like your the insecure one because of something you have done. Just because youve done some things to hurt the relationship now you think hes up to the same stuff as you. He needs to get away from you and your insecurities. Noone has the right to demand anything from anyone. Respect and love arent given, they are earned. And you cant earn it by demands. | |
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Posted: 4/2/2008 5:15:57 AM | Eh.. I've met girls like you. It's not a matter of him being the problem. It's more like your outlook on his behavior is the problem. Unless hes had a previous record of cheating on you, then you have no reason to show so much distrust in him. Lack of trust can ruin a relationship. And In my opinion there can't be love without trust.
"I still love him, but not how he treats me anymore."
that sentence bothers me mostly because, the only way it seems hes changed is that hes grown a pair and started doing what he wants. Hes your boyfriend, not a pet to command on a whim.
Also, just because hes doing harmless physical contact like poking doesn't mean he wants the girl hes doing it to. People communicate in different ways and for some physical contact is just part of how they converse.
I think you just need an attitude change and to get over trust issues. You say hes not respecting your feelings yet your the one with a 2 foot leash around his neck, let him breathe a little! | |
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Posted: 4/2/2008 5:18:19 AM | | You say you beleve in give and take, but it sounds to me like he was the only one giving and you got used to it and he finally had enough. You need to grow up alot. | |
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Posted: 4/2/2008 6:52:27 AM | Someone above mentioned that as you don't work together how do you know what he does, so obviously he is telling you this stuff.So he knows you are jealous, but he tells you stuff he knows will arouse it. Could this be revenge for what ever you did to him.There are two sides to every tale and his side seems to be to needle you, watch you squirm and put thoughts in your head.People choose their actions and words for a reason.Seems to me, your guy is as insecure as you are and gets attention by making you jealous. You both have control issues, but his are passive aggressive.Why are you even together, you bring out the worst in each other.The past incident is hanging over you both like a dark cloud and simmering beneath all your interactions.You are scared , he will leave because of it and he is getting subtle revenge.You sense this and it is making you behave irrationally. Be single Melissa, sort your head out and learn how to conduct relationships through counseling. Dont worry ,you are just twenty and inexperienced, not a monster or psycho. Just a young girl with her wires crossed. We have all been there, you live and learn in this world. Mistakes are life's lessons, its how we learn to be adults.Our choices and mistakes are just that, they do not affect our intrinsic value as human beings. You are a valuable person , who has wandered up the wrong road. Change direction, you will be much happier. | |
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Posted: 4/2/2008 11:14:24 AM | OMFG! Grow the fvck up! What is wrong with you? You are just the type of controlling psycho bltch who has cost me a lot of my guy friends in the past.
Yike! | |
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Posted: 4/2/2008 11:34:54 AM |
But it still doesn't mean he has to disrespect me and act like an ***hole towards me neither.
He is disrespecting you because he doesn't fold to your every whim? I don't know what you did to him but it sounds like he should leave you. | |
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Posted: 4/2/2008 11:55:34 AM | I'll have to vote with Ruckus on this one, I would have dumped you AGES ago. Poking with a finger is fun and playful. You'd have probably died if I went dancing. I go blues dancing every week or so (if I can).
something like this http://youtube.com/watch?v=tC0SWyKEqnw | |
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Posted: 4/2/2008 11:56:40 AM | | dollars to donuts that the op will delete her profile and run away crying. | |
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Posted: 4/2/2008 12:05:17 PM | | This is coming from someone who has got out of a very controlling relationship, dont do it to him he deserves to be happy as well and all you are doing is making him miserable and stamping on his confidence, you need to think about his feelings and stop thinking of your own. | |
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Posted: 4/2/2008 12:13:48 PM | I'd say, OP, that you aptly titled this thread: if men poke you, they die. Hmmmm...... Take heed, all those who are male. Seriously, though, I have sympathy for your boyfriend, and I wish I knew who he was so that I could point out to him that even though you want to control his access to and interaction with every other female ON THE PLANET (or so it seems, reading your profile), YOU are on a dating site, looking for a MAN with whom you can "talk/email." Hmmmm.
While this next is totally unrelated to your query, I just can't resist telling you that I found your profile highly entertaining, as I had to check your age to make sure you weren't in 2nd grade -- due to your still-developing writing skills here and in your other forum posts.
Well, good luck, and please tell your boyfriend that the reason you're so insecure is that YOU cheated on HIM (presumably that is what you're referring to in your posts regarding the horrible thing you did to him which he needs now to forget, so you can get back to the "give and take" of relationship).
And Sam, can I join you in that bet? I'll provide the krispy kremes, you bring the dollars. | |
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Posted: 4/2/2008 12:14:20 PM | OMFG! Grow the fvck up! What is wrong with you? You are just the type of controlling psycho bltch who has cost me a lot of my guy friends in the past. --- Unquote
Some times I despair at what I read on here, what happened to simple human tolerance and understanding. Dogging people does not work, it makes things worse.The men surprisingly have been way more tolerant and less insulting. | |
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Posted: 4/2/2008 12:23:04 PM | I wish I could "poke" this thread and IT would die.
The whole "poke" thing bugs me. Is it a regional thing? Are we talking about literally poking someone with your finger? How irritating...and it hurts, too.
The OP needs professional help.
The boyfriend needs to keep his finger to himself and get away from the OP.
I need a beer. | |
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Posted: 4/2/2008 12:31:36 PM | You know, I don't usually reply to posts, except the ones that make the hair stand up on the back of my neck. I'm absolutely blown away that you can't realize what you are in this. And what's with this "give and take" you're talking about? From what you've posted, the only things you've ever given were orders, threats, probable tantrums, and a mysterious "very terrible thing" all under the pretext of that "give and take" garbage you seem to hide behind. Kudos to the guy for growing himself a spine; why anyone would put up with your kind of behavior is beyond me.
Try owning a goldfish, but I suggest only one. After all, put a few in a tank and they just might poke each other, right? | |
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Posted: 4/2/2008 12:39:10 PM | Well here ya go, naughtical!!! 
Hmmm, a 7-pack....wonder how I could market that??!!
~ds~ | |
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Posted: 4/2/2008 12:43:10 PM | | one for the road...maybe? | |
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Posted: 4/2/2008 12:56:12 PM | Pokey Pokey Pokey! With my banana! Hey its jsut harmless joking around. Its not like he's making out with these women on his lunch break or getting BJ/HJ with them his car. (Those were the days)
You sound like a control freak. Let the children play. Hell at my college anime club we poked eachother, tickled eachother and hugged. and yes it was both males and females. Sometime a peck on the cheek was a way to say hello to a close friend of the opposite sex. nothing to get Jealous of. When I go to a bar or to a friend's house I kiss women ont he cheek who I am familiar with. and Will even give a peck ont he cheek toa girlfriend's friend, sister, mom, aunt. And its not big deal.
You are a control freak jsut face the facts. And you need to trust your byofriend. he should leave you for making him give up friends jsut to make you happy. You have to learn to let go and trust or you will enve rbe happy or have a sucessful marriage int eh future. | |
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Posted: 4/2/2008 12:59:29 PM | I know that if you can not trust yourself not to do something then you can't trust others not to do it either.
I'm not sure what you did that was so horrible, but I to me it sounds like you don't trust yourself and you are putting that lack of trust on him. If you want to be with him then let him be who he wants and have faith that he won't do anything to hurt you. If you think that you are capable of doing something to hurt him, then obviously you will think he is capable of hurting you. He may not be, however, it may just be your own insecurity.
If you are not ready to trust him, or let go of the control you are trying to have on him, then I would say let it go. It is not healthy for either of you.
Work on youreslf, and be comfortable and trusting within yourself before embarking on any kind of relationship with someone. | |
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Posted: 4/2/2008 1:06:39 PM | Ok first thing: If you have a BF , then WTF are you doing on this site in the first place? Huh?
Before I tell you what I think. Let me first say that I know you don't really want advice. You just want someone to co-sign with you and say that you're right. As far as I can see, that hasn't worked out for you so much.. Obviously you're insecure w/ yourself. Deep down you think that if he pats a woman on the back that he'll end up cheating on you, and leaving you.
Maybe he hasn't forgiven you for that "Horribe thing" that you did to him.
Look carefully, you might have to read this twice: Maybe you haven't forgiven yourself, and you're projecting what YOU would do if you were him, ONTO him. Think about it.
When people demand that the other person answer every beck, and call to prove they love them, it is ALWAYS a power play. YOu are being a little control freak. A person can only do that for so long before it either changes who they are, resulting in a weaker,more timid,wussified version of who you met, or they get tired of being a doormat, and then rebel.
I believe in "Give & Take", but he's not giving me anything anymore. He's says he given me too much before, and now I should give him everything.
Tell me something......WHat have U given to him besides orders, and headaces? Looks like a big mess.
When I read the post I wondered what kind of idiot would ever implement a "no poking/patting" rule. Then I saw that you were only 20 years old.(Bless your little heart) I can only assume that yourBF is somewhere close in age. This would explain the immaturity level on both of your parts. Then I saw you were a Gemimi. Not for nothing but, almost every Gemini I know is prone to bi-polar-esque type behavior regularly. Witch really REALLY explains some of what you wrote. I know that smart rational people don't fall in for all this hippie mimbo jumbo, but I have to say you might just be dating the wrong astrological sign .
The laws of the universe are , well....universal. If you want to see a change in whatever....,be it the world, your boyfriend, your job, etc... YOU first have to BECOME THE CHANGE THAT YOU WANT TO SEE. In a nutshell, if you want HIM to trust you... BE trustworthy. If you want HIM to love you... BE loveble. If you want HIM to treat you with kindess, and not to judge you...BE kind and non-judgemental. Get the pattern yet?
I could go on, I won't because I don't really think any of this will,have any lasting effects on you, unless you feel the need for a change yourslef. I see you as being extremely unrealistic, self-absorbed, insecure, and you have a sense of entitlement rivaled only by the bratty kids of royaly, and celebrities. Basically
GROW THE F___ UP!!!!! | |
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Posted: 4/2/2008 1:07:54 PM | | If I was him you would already be dumped. | |
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Posted: 4/2/2008 1:12:15 PM | Very good post katie katt!
Hey people, she's only 20!
She needs constructive advice, not abuse.
Melissa, I would say you shouldn't be in a relationship until you have looked at yourself, why you have jealousy issues, and how they came about in your life. Whether from childhood or other areas. How about getting someone who knows about this to help you? Once you understand why you have these issues then you can set about dealing with them, but this has to be done alone without having a partner. | |
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Posted: 4/2/2008 1:15:29 PM | "Melissa, I would say you shouldn't be in a relationship until you have looked at yourself, why you have jealousy issues, and how they came about in your life. Whether from childhood or other areas. How about getting someone who knows about this to help you? Once you understand why you have these issues then you can set about dealing with them, but this has to be done alone without having a partner."
Unfortunately while thats good advise its wasted on the OP. Some people here have already given her this advise in a previous post and all she did is argue with it. | |
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Posted: 4/2/2008 1:16:39 PM | Obviously you either grew up with no guidelines or boundries, or in the reverse felt so unloved that you are so insecure as to not trust to any degree. You should actually probably not be in any relationship till you correct this. Counseling would be a good start. I'm sure you wont do that however.............people with control issues as intense as yours seldom get much help from counseling.
Self help books maybe? Do you have so little confidence in yourself that you think someone cant be honest and true to you that you have to control their every move? Do you see what a problem this is? That would definitely take to much energy as far as I'm concerned. Relationships at your age should be fun and loving.......not full of angst and control. Both of you need help!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 4/2/2008 1:32:30 PM | diablo 11 has given very good advice. I skim-read the thread before, my fault, but I agree with her.
I just don't think hurling abuse at someone especially that young is going to do any good at all. She'll just be on the defensive. I'd rather give good constructive advice than belittle someone to the extreme. | |
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Posted: 4/2/2008 1:40:25 PM | Hmmm controlling much? You gave him an altematum. Do as I say, or leave, find someone more laid back. If that's the case, why didn't you just leave him?
Poking someone usually intails some sort of flirtation. This could be his way of being free from the "claws" at home and expressing himself more freely at work. Some guys like being controlled(could be his nature) if not, I suggest you find another more submissive guy. | |
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