| She is married, I am married, what do I do?
Posted: 4/3/2008 11:27:17 PM | gnuru - i'm with you.
this has been a hilarious ride and rivetting.
the op had to know the whole world of cyberspace would drop down on him from a great height and kick his butt.
maybe he's just a s...stirrer. | |
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| She is married, I am married, what do I do?
Posted: 4/4/2008 4:52:52 AM | Speaking from experience,
What the hell's wrong with you? You know the answer to this question. Do the right thing and don't pretend that you don't know what that is. | |
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| She is married, I am married, what do I do?
Posted: 4/4/2008 5:28:19 AM | Solve one problem first. Which is, what you aren't getting at home.
Next problem is this hottie at work. People flirt at work all the time, in response to the dehumanizing aspect of "professionalism". Take it with a grain of salt, if you want to keep that job of your's. You think the sex you two would have is mindblowing? she may not agree with that aspect at all, she may not be thinking any of the things you are thinking, were we to get her side of the story.
Like the others said, fix the first problem, first. that will most likely take care of the second problem. | |
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| She is married, I am married, what do I do?
Posted: 4/18/2008 10:49:07 AM | Talk about each other's marriages pro's and con's of being married...
Explore the area...
Maybe she feels the same...
If neither of you want to leave the marriage... and your partners are not into swinging... it would be a professional transaction ...
I often wonder why ppl confuse love and sex...
And most importantly why would one get married if their partner was not their ideal...in thoughts, attraction, beliefs, values... | |
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| She is married, I am married, what do I do?
Posted: 4/18/2008 3:36:39 PM | | If I were married, I would be committed to my husband and the moral bond we have. That is not to say that I would not also still be human and be able to be attracted to another man. This is just how life is, but I believe you BOTH need to honor your commitments to your spouses, and YOU need to back off your obsessing about how she is in the sack (which, truth be told, is prolly NOT going to be as "mindblowing" as you fantasize that it would be). | |
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| She is married, I am married, what do I do?
Posted: 4/18/2008 4:25:03 PM | | Why are you still married if you don't want to be with the woman. The problem is that neither one of you is being grown up enough to do the right thing. Get a divorce! | |
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| She is married, I am married, what do I do?
Posted: 4/18/2008 6:14:43 PM | We arent going to tell you what you want to hear. So don't look to us for permission. I think you know its wrong. Affairs are wrong and are often disasterous. In this cause it will be disasterous for both of you. Woman dont have sexual affairs they have emotional ones. its not about the sex. She needs marriage councelling and so do you.
And while you are at it get some individual councelling. Its not worth the risk!!
but fear for losing my job or a sexual harassment complaint and then risking my marriage. Listen to your own advise! | |
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| She is married, I am married, what do I do?
Posted: 4/18/2008 6:28:16 PM | 1) She may view you as "safe" since you're both married, and have no idea that you're thinking this way.
2) If you can't be faithful to your wife, you might want to rethink your marriage--BEFORE cheating on her. | |
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| She is married, I am married, what do I do?
Posted: 4/19/2008 2:05:28 AM | | From your own words though you want to hook up with her for sex as you say you can only think sexual thoughts when you are together with her. Personally I frown upon any type of cheating. If you are in a relationship, be in that one and don't look elsewhere. If you start looking elsewhere then be elsewhere, end the current one and go if that's what you truly want. So instead of having two incomplete relationships, choose to be in one or the other and not both if you want to be truly happy. Yet might be better in my opionion to make sure there is actual love there instead of just sex as it will end up ultimately be unfulfilling as you pictured it to be and you will have some serious stuff to deal with then. | |
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| She is married, I am married, what do I do?
Posted: 4/19/2008 2:49:05 AM | Keep your little wee wee in your pants and go home to your wife. Once you are home, you either pack your shit and leave or you go get the hots for your wifey...
~Welder's Girl~
And your display name SHOULD be holycowARD69...cuz that's all you are. | |
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| go for it
Posted: 4/19/2008 3:03:15 AM | i see some really stupid answers on four pages.
dont talk to your wife--its stupid. dont divorce--its stupid.
talk to the chick you want to bed and more likely she dont want you for sex anyway.
everything is temporary in this world and sex and love included. | |
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| go for it
Posted: 4/19/2008 3:07:52 AM | ^^^^^^^^^^^for the most part you are correct but
everything is temporary in this world and sex and love included.
But sometimes it's not temporary. My parents were married 54 years and very much in love until she died in October. | |
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| She is married, I am married, what do I do?
Posted: 4/19/2008 12:05:13 PM | When you say, 'the problem is we are married', should mean, you should let your partner know what is going on, cheating is wrong, not because I am old fashioned, but it is a betrayal
iI am lucky I have never been or have I ever cheated,if you love someone, and /or are loved by someone, it is horrible to betray that person, just my opinion | |
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| She is married, I am married, what do I do?
Posted: 4/19/2008 2:00:55 PM | Ladies - WHAT DO I DO?
well you do this
If this woman was you, what would you want me to do? Please help!!!!!!:
 this is what your hormones are doing.
This is proabably going on because maybe you and your wife have hit a rough spot, and this woman seems to posess things that you do not find in your wife. I have worked with guys and we got along great and I thought I was attracted to them and thought hmmm, but what I found out was he possessed things that my man did not. We would laugh all the time, he was comical and witty like me and we always got along great and could talk about everything. This happened because there was not relationship tension to begin with. Neither one of us had argued with each other or had any bad times they were all good, and this my dear friend is what you are expereincing with this woman at work. If you really feel your marriage is over and done then you should DIVORCE FIRST then embark on your sexual impulses. This woman is also married. CHEATING is wrong. You need to talk to your wife about your issues and your feelings and tell her what is going on.
What intimacy would you and could you have? Wouldn't you feel guilty while doing the deed? How could you relax knowing her husband and your wife are being betrayed?
Shari' | |
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| She is married, I am married, what do I do?
Posted: 4/19/2008 2:13:37 PM | Get a grip on reality! Not only is she married, but you are actually living in a fantasy. Maybe you ought to try thinking of your wife in the same way.......
And now I'm going to read the other posts in this thread and watch the show. | |
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| She is married, I am married, what do I do?
Posted: 4/19/2008 2:36:55 PM | | Dude, no disrespect here because it is hard to control the sexual hormones. I have never and never will cheat on any of my women. IT ISN"T RIGHT!!!!!! I will say though this is one reason I like to date, and I am up front with each lady as well. This tactic may allow me to miss out on some pretty cool women, but a relationship is something I DON'T want for now simply because of your post. In all you must not be in love with you wife any more, if you are thinking you need to get cheat on her. You know what? That is ok, I think that happens im ALMOST every relationship/marriage. That is just my opinion | |
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| She is married, I am married, what do I do?
Posted: 4/19/2008 4:15:45 PM | a sexual relationship with this women will probobly only last for a short time...does this woman even like you? by the sounds of it you're letting ur thoughts take over your grasp on reality...i could be wrong but reguardless.
if you're married you made a commitment to say i'm ready...i've been with the women i wanted to be with and i'm ready to NOT give into any more sexual urges...
if you cant do that...you shouldnt have gotten married in the first place....does your wife really deserve that? is giving up your marriage really worth a peice of ass?
once you get laid and the girl doesnt want anything else to do with you dont you think you might miss your wife? I can promise you she wont be there when you do.
try thinking rationally with your brain...you might have intense feelings for this women but those feelings will die too eventually...and then what? move on to the next one...wait untill that one dies off...pick up another one....end up living alone in a bachelor appmt with an ex-wife that hates you?
In the end it's your choice...but remember...you'll have to take responsibility for the choice you make...and there wont be any going back. | |
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| She is married, I am married, what do I do?
Posted: 4/19/2008 5:27:52 PM | Don't start something until you first deal with your wife. Honestly you stand to lose both and end up with nothing. If you cheated with this woman (and she cheated to be with you, big if) and then ended up with a relationship, a relationship with her would have over an 85% chance of failing. Why? Because you would be building a relationship with trust issues always at bay.
Ask yourself if scratching this itch is worth all it would do to your life. Are you ready to give up on your wife, the life you built with her? Are you ready to jeopardize your job and the security of what you have there? If you have children, are you ready to risk tearing their lives apart? All for a possible relationship that might not live up to what you envision?
These are hard questions to sit down and look at. Don't think with your hormones but with your brain.
If you do want something with her, respect her enough to have your life in order first. It sounds like she could be a special person and as such, both of these women deserve the respect of you acting with honor in how you treat both of them. This woman at work will see how you treat your wife and it would be a clue of how you would treat her as well. | |
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