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| Best friend dates ex
Posted: 4/20/2008 5:15:30 AM |
yeh but the thing is her being a best friend shouldn't have even gone after him in the first place!!!
The heart wants what the heart wants. I think you should wish her and him the best of luck with one another and walk away with your dignity in tact rather than letting either of them know how upset and angry you are about it. Just step away from the situation and don't let them be the focus of your thoughts / day.
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| Best friend dates ex
Posted: 4/20/2008 5:40:57 AM | I think there is a code of rules and conduct all friends know is there. It also depends on the relationship and length and seriousness of it.
For instance if you dated someone for a short time.. and couldn't care less about them or dumped them then who cares. fare game! Maybe they could hit it off and work into something serious. I"d be glad for them if it did if it was my best friend.
But if it was Someone I went out with for five years or really cared about.. I'd need some time to come round with the comfort level. I eventually would ... It also depends on the depth of he friendship with the friend. Let's face it... friends do tend to disappear anyway when they meet someone. Let it go....
With your friend .. she has stated if you did it to her she would flip! Double standard there. So.. its okay for her to do it to you.. but not you to do it to her? In the future .. a best friend has no place hanging with you and your boyfriend "all" the time... that would be your first clue .. something is up.. in the future .. you could see it as a red flag!!!
Chalk it up to one ex per best friend.... every dog gets a free bite after all...
Truthfully though... Depending on the situation I could over look one ex with a best friend but a second or third one the best friend just becomes a desperate b*itch shagging my left overs..... no friend of mine.
Competition between friends can be healthy and does happen to a point. There comes a time though, you could look at that from a very sick psycological problem. But that... is a whole new thread.
The clues of the attraction were probably there all the time. Just be aware this does happen with your trusted friends. Now you know why some friends will cut you off once they meet someone. Protecting their interest for lack of a better word!!!
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| Best friend dates ex
Posted: 4/20/2008 5:58:07 AM | Your young and experience will teach you who to trust and who not too, Friendships can take years to develop and can change for better or worse.......
I treat people the same as they treat me, If they are loyal then I am, if they are not then they dont receive any from me in return, I would re evaluate where she stands in your life, you dont need to dismiss her,but put her on the sidelines, chances are he will break up with her too, and she will be minus your loyality.... she may learn and she may not, this expereince could change her and be somehting you both need to learn
People are very strange creatures, you will learn this and close friendships can be as difficult as any other relationship, take time to trust and dont expect too much......
Would I be pissed off, absolutley, I dont want my xs around and especialy no that close, she would be disconnected immediatley.........
should she break up with him, I may go out with her, but she wouldnt get so close again and she defiantley would not get the opportunity to meet any o f my future boyfriends, I would be making that fact very clear to her.....
Spme girls are ok together but throw in a man and soem women like your friend jsut dont have any morals or boundaries, she will get what she deserves,,,,,USED
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| Best friend dates ex
Posted: 4/20/2008 6:27:34 AM | Hey, Doodles, what does it mean"every dog gets a free bite?"
After I broke up w/ my ex husband, my best friend began dating him. At first I thought it would be good, because my son was already bonded with her. She started getting all snooty w/ me in short order, thinking he was going to marry her, and she began to believe all the crap he was telling her about me. He actually had another gal on the side & was using my friend for babysitting, meals, etc. They break up, but the toxins of brainwashing stayed in the form of hidden resentments. Years later, she ended up betraying me in a major way, taking out a temp restraining order, & making my life hell, because her grandaughter liked coming over to my house better than being at home. Now the cops are pulling me over and searching my car, making me do drug tests & harrassing me. ( all bogus, they never find anything )The worst part is, now I look like a criminal for no good reason in the eyes of the new peeps I might like to date till this is all over. It just snowballed into a huge mess.
So loose the "friend" because this is just an indication of future crap. | |
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| Best friend dates ex
Posted: 4/20/2008 9:30:45 AM | Hey there,
The phrase i work with is "you dont touch what your friends have" EVER!!!
It shouldnt matter if you had a one night wonder or a lengthy relationship with him you simply dont go where your friends have out of respect for the friend.
some people may not have an issue with it so she should have sat you down and said "how would you feel if........" and talked to you about it first and then respected your wishes if you had turned around and said sorry but it feels wrong please dont.
I have lost a couple of friends over one of them doing the same thing to me and them decided that she had done nothing wrong....in my eyes they are not worth my time and loyalty if they cant give it back and therefore are no longer my friends.
Chin up and realise that you are better off spending your time and effort on real friends who have the same values as you. | |
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| Best friend dates ex
Posted: 4/21/2008 7:26:46 AM | | Righty right. My rule is NEVER get with ANYONE a true friend or family member has had before. Or anyone at work. You don't crap where you sleep, as they say. | |
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| Best friend dates ex
Posted: 9/9/2008 3:09:32 PM | Now is the time for you to decide if you will cut off your best friend ...
What kind of friend would start dating your ex bf 1 week after you ended your relationship? Looks as if she was just waiting in the wings until she had her chance.
I learned young that you have to be careful as to what details you tell your friends of yur relationships ... they kow your secrets and they will know exactly how to snag your man ...
Experience teaches wisdom!
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| Best friend dates ex
Posted: 9/9/2008 3:33:53 PM | I dated my best friend's ex for two months.Of course,she set it up.I think that is a little different.
We both a heck of a laughing fest when comparing notes,I must admit   | |
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| Best friend dates ex
Posted: 9/9/2008 7:16:52 PM | O.P. I think that if you and this man were meant for each other, you'd still be together. The two of you are over. If she makes him happy and he makes her happy, who cares. Rules are ridiculous in this area. Honestly, a friend of mine went right after a guy I was interested in. But, I gave her an out long before hand. I basically told her that even if I like some guy, if he doesn't feel the same way about me, but does about my friend, I'm not getting in the way.
Sometimes things or people just aren't meant for us. At least you know she's seeing him. Let it go. There are more important things in life to be worried about. | |
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