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Posted: 4/3/2008 6:00:14 AM | As I read the above posts, a thought came to me.
Are we asking to much from PoF? What should we expect from single dating sites like PoF?
As I see it, PoF allows me to weed though all unavailable, the married, the attached, the unwilling and unable to date for whatever reason...so I can focus my energy toward the one who are, like me, looking for friends, love and happiness forever and ever.
But now the real work is starting. I HAVE to present myself in a good light to attract potential friends, I HAVE to approach these new "friends" via Email's, IM's and phone calls, I HAVE to find a common ground to meet in person for this is the only way we can find if a spark exist, I HAVE to present to my new friend some activities that the two of us can share, etc...
I find that participating to various PoF events is a better way to meet others. Dancing in a group, camping in a group and doind fun stuff in a group is very conducting to meeting the ONE and only.
PoF is only a tool that allows us to find in a more efficient way the ONE. We still have to do the bulk of the work. True love is very hard to find. If it was easy, it would not be this rewarding.
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Posted: 4/3/2008 7:43:17 AM | Msg #28
honestly think that my pics are far from sexy and suductive...
Considering that I am likely one of those Island dirt bags who thinks with his lower head, and is too old and doesn't understand.............
You are attractive, and your pictures are very sexy, especially when compared to many others. Because you stand out from others in attractiveness, people consider you sexy.
Naked doesn't define sexy. Clothes don't define sexy. It is the perception we have of someone, that is sexy.
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Posted: 4/3/2008 9:44:35 AM | | lost faith ?not exactly but its hard to just pick one to invest time on in the real world and it goes for men and women as well I am sure ,,the selection is to large and that makes everyone very very selective ..there are also to many lookers and playing as well?,,you have to admit .. you could go forever meeting new people and just trying to make sure you found the best match..pof makes it very easy to start over .and over and over and over ,,i wonder if thats just the way of the future with Internet sites now.i am glad i am older and haven't had to live my entire life this way ... the large never ending selection makes it harder to get into a long term relationship but it does promote relationships..with all the fish in here i am sure there is one for everyone ,,but it will be a little tricker separating her from the very large school of fish she swims with .. | |
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Posted: 4/3/2008 9:48:20 AM | Patience with the site and life in general is what I have learned.
I came onto POF thinking i might have the odd dinner and a movie date with a nice gentleman 
I ended up with a terrific group of friends ( pretend lezbos) and now i am thinking where would i find the time for that dinner and a movie with a nice gentelman??
Not to worry... Doesnt look like he is waiting in the wings anyways 
Oh ya come to think of it I have had a few "odd" dates lmao | |
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Posted: 4/3/2008 7:32:19 PM | It's been 50/50 for me, but still hanging in there. I have only met one person so far but did not work out. For the moment, just emailing a few of people.
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Posted: 4/3/2008 7:55:26 PM | [A gals gotta love a man who can handle knives and kids. /]
aaah....P....you crack me up....yup, gotta order me one of those men.... | |
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Posted: 4/3/2008 10:10:44 PM | majestik:
You must live in Vancouver, and if you don't, I am a little sad. That means there is other places like this....kidding its not that bad...and I know they are everywhere...maybe just more with on-line dating... ???
However, I totally agree with you. I love how they (most that Ive met) say "dating" and its obviously not what they are looking for. I used to say "dating" is what I am looking for, but Ive changed that, and it has seemed to ween out (some) of the douche bags.
Well, I honestly do not have any advise for you... so I'm just here to agree with you. I've wanted to post just what you wrote for a while now...
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Posted: 4/3/2008 10:25:02 PM | | I wish I lived in Vancouver..but unfortantly Im on the island where its real slim pickins...I am honestly thinking long and hard about just switching over to woman.. | |
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Posted: 4/3/2008 10:50:43 PM | ^^^ and when you've found one willing...
put it in your profile with picture and write you are still looking for a guy.
Betcha half the islands males will come knocking on your doors
just kidding
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Posted: 4/3/2008 11:35:18 PM | OP, I doubt that the percentage of guys out for a quick ride is any different here than anywhere else, online of off. You never know where you are going to meet someone special.
It only takes one. Sometimes life can seem like one of those reality shows where you have to stick your hand into a tank of gross crawly things to pull out the prize buried inside. | |
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Posted: 4/3/2008 11:48:44 PM |
majestik ^^^^
I wish I lived in Vancouver..but unfortantly Im on the island where its real slim pickins
Slim pickins on the island? So it is true, the grass is greener on the other side. . . of the Strait of Georgia.
Hmmm- obviously not Pouce Coupe as suggested earlier.
I'll guess again. Kyuquot
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Posted: 4/4/2008 12:29:59 AM | lol. slim pickings indeed.
well living on the extreme end of the island it dosent get much slimmer. a very
shallow dateing pool. the landscape of where i live makes up for it.
still would be nice to meet someone worth investing some time in.
have faith and know that not all men have curly tails. some even think that even think of the truth that every woman in the world is somebodys little girl, and act accordingly.
there are still a few good ones left.
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Posted: 4/4/2008 7:05:12 AM | the OP posted ;
Erotic Toys & Your Partner
Posted: 4/1/2008 7 14 PM
I think toys are the greatest!!! some are a lil intimating but I couldnt imagine being jealous of my bf using them....I have actually purchused toys in the past for my partner..It made our very long distance relationship stronger if anything..
and here i was reading your thread thinking you were single and complaining about the "losers" | |
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Posted: 4/4/2008 7:58:47 AM | i am single....my bf and I broke up in November because of the long distance thing...he is from washington DC we tried it for over 2 years and decided that it was costing us more money and grief then anything..we remained friends up until february when he got a new gf and now we dont speak...
when i refered to him as my bf it was past tense...Geez reading a lil too much into stuff now arent we...
first it was i sounded badass cause i didnt list my location...then it was my pics were too sexy with too lil clothing...now im just a whiner who actually has a bf....If i had a bf i wouldnt be on this site. | |
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Posted: 4/4/2008 8:34:40 AM | oh yeah almost forgot....we also have a microwave section on the island
oops sorry double post...
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Posted: 4/4/2008 8:17:43 PM | Heh, a friend of mine was asking me about a good place to meet some guys. I suggested this site and she asked me if there where any crazy people on here. I told her that no matter where we go in life, there are going to be crazy people. I explained that she just had to filter out the good ones from the bad ones and go from their.
She wrote up a detailed profile and stated what she was looking for. She posted a couple of pictures and than waited to see who would write her. I think the first message she got went something like...
"Good food, good sex, good bye!"
and it was signed "Dr. Lick Lick"
She deleted her profile shortly afterwards.
Some of us looking for long term, really are looking for just that... but we quickly get thought of as just looking for sex and it gets insulting.
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Posted: 4/4/2008 8:31:42 PM | hey maj........lol funny seeing you here.......yep im back too......dunno where to suggest meetin guys......i too, have had no luck......obviously, after all im back here lol..........but who knows....just gotta keep on with things n see what bumps into you....btw...if you find out the secret place all the island men hide out let me know lol :P
PS......i remember the event we put on......that was fun..... | |
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Posted: 4/4/2008 9:15:59 PM | WOAH!
long time no see.
so im not the only one back for more punishment i see.
Im sure that there is no actual hiding spot on the island where all the good men are...They simply just arent on the island at all...im thinking Seattle is my best bet. | |
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Posted: 4/4/2008 9:25:58 PM | Yes...I remember the event as well...I think... Not sure if we are allowed back in that hotel yet...think they still have my credit card.
-edit-and I wasn't even in the damn room!! lol
2nd edit-Yep Doc, that was the one! Great event!!
2yo? How can that be? I can type.
I still have the fish!! | |
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Posted: 4/4/2008 9:33:00 PM | Was that that big one at The Foundery in Nanaimo three years ago where a group ended up by the pool at 2 or 3 o'clock? Most of the noise was done by the basketball team. I remember that wild party.
Doc Sage
vvvvv Yes, it is. 30 minutes north of Nanaimo. | |
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Posted: 4/4/2008 10:01:03 PM | O.P.Message #51
All the good young men have left the island because all the good jobs in logging
have disappeared .The young bucks are up in the oil patch (Alberta and Northern
B.C.) Lots of opportunity up there for young people M/F to make a new life.
Most coastal communities of B.C. are kinda boring,that's fine if you are my age.
You are young,make a move. | |
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