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Posted: 4/10/2008 4:20:36 PM | Majestic 19: Mommies can be awesome but sometimes it's best to follow our own wisdom. I decided a long time ago that I would not settle either ... been there, done that, don't wanna go back. I'm not expecting perfection, just someone who deserves all that I have to offer. Thought I might have had it this time but apparently not. Oh well ... c'est la vie! Thanks for the hugs ... man, you thew in a kiss too. I feel a whole lot better now.    | |
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Posted: 4/10/2008 4:41:16 PM | One thing that I have found out here is that the definition of "honesty" is very different for some as compared to mine,,,,and that is NOT a good thing,,,,,,for those others
I think your last statement Walt, sums it all up and brings back full circle. It's other's lack of honesty that is ruining it for us that are up front. In my experience on here, (granted I have only been on here on and off for 2 years), men only wanted a roll in the hay. Didn't matter that they put dating or long term....the end result, most times on the first date, was they wanted sex. I am once again considering hiding my profile, just cause im tired of the same game. | |
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Posted: 4/10/2008 6:19:23 PM | hmm...guess I've been lucky ...or not.... no one has tried to solicit sex from me
to my knowledge... I just love everyone I've met
and yes in my world everyone poops butterflies
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Posted: 4/10/2008 6:47:09 PM | you are lucky then, mb. That seems to be fairly common.
Have you come across the married men on here? it's crazy | |
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Posted: 4/10/2008 7:05:08 PM | no married men to my knowledge ,
but then I wont even talk to "separated" men about meeting and am FIRM about that
and it's written in my profile so perhaps that keeps them somewhat away ? | |
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Posted: 4/10/2008 7:33:21 PM | There is still hope..
I have met a number of nice men through POF online and at the POF events. The majority of them have been kind and considerate, and I would recommend them to a friend. I do watch for warning signs that show up, whether it's in their profile or through emails, or face to face, that indicate anger, lack of respect, etc. I found out years ago not to ignore the red flags and not to think I can fix their anger or any other issue they may have. Not that I'm perfect because I do make mistakes, but it works fairly well.
But it takes patience I think, and definitely perseverance. So don't give up because then your chances of finding someone really bottom out! And someone that didn't seem interested might become interested (men are so fickle). Have you watched 'When Harry Met Sally...'? Hopefully it won't take years though. Good Luck! | |
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| starting to lose hope in this site
Posted: 4/10/2008 8:39:40 PM | For me the choice is clear. Non-smoker.
I'm don't have a preference of skinny women over overweight women, or vice versa. That said, even if the woman was not skinny, but was perfectly proportioned and beautiful to me, smoking is still a deal breaker for me.
I've read similar sentiments in other thread and other forums too, so its a common preference.
Sponge, you are doing the right thing in working so hard to kick the habit. I wish you best of luck and hope for your sake, and the sake of your children, you succeed. Remember you are the role model for your progeny.
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Posted: 4/10/2008 9:11:18 PM | Smoking is a no-no for me too.
Her physical attributes are of no consequence but she got to keep up with me.    
I alway looked at PoF as a tool to help me find the "one" for now or, better, the "one" for good. Hope has nothing to do with PoF. Hope has to do with me and I know that she will find me. LOL
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Posted: 4/11/2008 10:43:23 AM |
Have you come across the married men on here? When intimacy is just around the corner, I always suggest to the guy that perhaps we could go back to his place for a little privacy, even if it's just to cuddle & watch a movie or whatever. Watching the guy wriggle in discomfort, babble out lame excuses, the expression of angst on his face & his refusal to take me back to his place is usually a good indicator that he is either living with a partner or is married. If he can't come up with a valid reason for not bringing me back to his place, then it's adios amigo. I HAVE never & WILL never date a man, who to my knowledge is already attached in any way, shape or form. | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 11:36:47 AM | Here we go again  FAS48s sexual escapades on married men and dateing them and putting them in an awkward postion  way to go babe ,with all of your sexual quotes ,advice i'm glad too see that you still have morals . | |
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Posted: 4/12/2008 10:21:03 AM | Ive been finding that the first IM conversation they are pretty quick to let known their true intentions.
If they aren't willing to just go out for a coffee first, in a public place take that as a warning sign.
I also found out that key words like "open minded" means do i like kinky sex.
I am hoping still that i will find that special someone on here that really does want a relationship. | |
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Posted: 4/12/2008 7:33:13 PM | | yah i never get guys that want to go for coffee its always "hey want to do a movie night at my place or your place?" translation want to come over and have sex with me .. | |
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Posted: 4/12/2008 9:22:31 PM | starting to lose hope........ more like lost it.
i put this profile up and purposely put up pics that arent that good and dont give a good reprensentation of what i look like in the hopes of finding someone of substance.
looks are imporntant to everyone on some level, ( like to argue with me and lie to yourself and say im wrong ) but your looks will fade like the setting sun.
sad but true ........... unless you go for cosmetic surgerey.
have had this profile with up for over a year. message very few people since i only write to those who have something to say and put some effort into their profile in other forms aside from adding airbrushed photos. ( they get you more viewings and alot of dissapointed meetings )
well off the dateing aspect of this site ( have a healthy dateing pool where i am, just be realy nice to meet someone who is more than a pretty face. | |
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Posted: 4/12/2008 9:32:12 PM | talking about looks is a whole other thread which i have so much to say about ... though i wont
i wouldnt want to sound repetitive
im not familiar with OP's area but perhaps she should change up the crowd she is in if the pickings are undesireable? | |
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Posted: 4/12/2008 9:48:58 PM | My thoughts are, don't ever give up hope, either here or in any other areas of your life. Once the hope is gone....what do we all have left? I believe that in any area of life, we are going to meet up with people who mis-represent themselves. This site is no different than in real life, except that we see the "look" of the other person immediately, whereas on here, it takes awhile longer. Meeting someone through the site, can be much like playing the lottery...we might win right away, or it might take much more playing before we hit the jackpot! As for the jerks and jerkettes (heehee, for the guys!), we all just have to remember to be cautious, keep our eyes and ears open, and take our time to get to know someone. Remember...if your gut is not feeling right, LISTEN to it. Hang in there OP....your time will come when you least expect it!  | |
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Posted: 4/12/2008 9:57:12 PM | come on people this is the internet for freaks sakes !
this is getting sad, ,sad for all the people that relly on this site to find a person of value.
GET OUT OF THE HOUSE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Posted: 4/12/2008 10:00:04 PM | | I agree with you G29, this site can be more about looks than substance. If I was just into the 'look' thing, I'd go to the bar or the beach or the gym. I was hoping this site was more abour the profiles. | |
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Posted: 4/13/2008 10:30:57 AM | well I am staying in edmonton for a month trying to work my butt off and save money..
and let me tell u what ...the men here are not much better..they are all perverted and think there cool cause they work on the rigs and have money...Its a no wonder that there is a massage parlor on every corner...so these guys have somewhere to go cause thats all they do is think with there wooohoo...and for some reason alot of the men here are wayyy short | |
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Posted: 4/13/2008 10:49:56 AM | | well Maj, my nephews live in Edmonton and they are hawt, smart, seriously tall and your age...... so not all men are like that. Although they are polite underneath I'd still be willing to bet they think with their smaller head,..... c'mon girl they are 19/20. LMFAO! Come to think of it that underlying current driving most men doesn't change much throughout life just their ability to control it's expression. | |
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Posted: 4/13/2008 6:09:34 PM | I have met alot of really nice people on this site.
Contrary to popular belief in these threads I dont think everybody is just hunting for sex.
Patience.This is not Walmart where you can go and pick what you want off the shelf.
Some of my closest friends are men I have met on this site and they are not thinking with their little head.
Most of the men that I know and have befriended are looking for the same
thing as I am. Companionship and eventually a relationship with that special somebody.
In the meantime get out there and meet people. Make friends. Enjoy life. | |
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Posted: 4/13/2008 10:23:09 PM |
all they do is think with there wooohoo... and for some reason alot of the men here are wayyy short
NOW that is a serious problem... Obviously having a short woohoo is grounds for instant dismissal. | |
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