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Posted: 5/3/2008 11:11:09 PM | | i disagree with you...not every guy out here works on the rigs and is disrespectful to girls..everyone of my guy friends are not self concided or ass holes or disrespectful...honestly i have lived in edmonton for two years now..(from a small town just outside of edmonton) and i didn't even know massage parlors exist...also..lol..is 6 feet tall short? | |
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Posted: 5/4/2008 10:33:03 AM | i am not joking i have never seen a message parlor. my tattoo artist has a studio in his house i dont go to those people down town with me being skeptical of weather or not they actually clean there needles and tools. I have only heard of these so called Rub and Tug things. and if any guy has to stoop that low to go to one of those thats pretty sad. just because i have some tattoos should not label me as what most people label me as. i am actually a successful guy. im not a druggie or anything like that. you laugh but for a guy that hasn't been downtown more than five times in two years, i dont know alot about things like that.so dont judge me because of my tattoos.  | |
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Posted: 5/4/2008 10:50:06 AM | Chill there John it was a tongue in cheek,...perhaps I should have made note that I too used to come from a "small" town just outside of Edmonchuk.
Oh well....... seems folks panic as usual on here.
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Posted: 5/4/2008 11:00:30 AM | umm majestik?
stop hangin out at bars if you don't want the hounddogs
and its okay to call the woohoo penis,********or whatever, no one is going to think you are dirty for saying it
perhaps the local church is your best bet?
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Posted: 5/4/2008 8:02:42 PM | sorry didn't mean to go off or make it seem like i was going off on ya..why was "small" in brackets...less than 1000 people not "small"?? i think it is. i can name each and every person..no not panicing making a statement..glad u have artwork as well..most people do  | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 2:19:38 AM | who said i was frequenting bars???
between work and more work all i have to meet people is on here...and as for the church been there done that dont need another Morman in my life thanks. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2008 11:20:25 AM | Hey Majestik,
I can empathize with your situation, and I find myself occaisonally losing patience with this site.
When I get exasperated is when I get this feeling that the guys I contact who are good matches for me in both values, interests AND attractiveness level, that they don't message me back because they honestly think Angelina Jolie or Pamela Anderson or Jessica Biel is going to come across their page one day, and will fall instantly in love with their awesomeness.
However, when I do find myself feeling that kind of frustration I try to take a step back.
I know I'm a keeper, but I'm also not for everybody. I know that I get flirted with and make friends once in a blue moon on POF, but on a very regular basis out in the real world. I live a bit far away, which I know that quite a few men find a bit off-putting when they're doing their searches, but I am also thinking that if I want to be closer to where the action is and be more available, considering a move can't be out of the question.
I have made a couple of friends through dating websites, so I don't think they're a total waste of time, but from what I've experienced- the best way to meet people is to go outside and smile, and treat anything that is on a man's Online profiles with a very big grain of salt. 'Connecting' through technology is really more a myth and wishful thinking than anything. It takes reading someone's energy and getting to know them in person to even give you an idea of who they really are and connect to them (or not). So, now you know all the signs of a guy playing the 'dating' and 'long term relationship' game ("I'm done with the bar scene. I like to hang out at home, cuddle on the couch, drink wine and watch movies = I like to have hook-ups come to me), don't play it with them.
Not letting a dating website drive you nuts takes a very weird combination of flexibility, allowing yourself to learn from lame experiences, lots of patience with complete dry spells (on POF), and an unshakeable conviction in your values. Not easy, but as the buddhists say - 'Your enemy is your greatest teacher, so be thankful for him.'
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Posted: 5/12/2008 10:00:24 PM | | I have a former Yes Former not Ex... girlfriend i met on here, who claimes i'm the only man who ever messaged her not wanting just sex. But I'd like to think there are more like me on here | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 5:25:55 AM | Hi Majestik,
Don't lose hope. Well maybe for this site. I consider POF as just another way to network. It's convenient for me and fits into my schedule.
You're so photogenic; hence, you will get attention from bottomfeeders as well as those more well intentioned. At the risk of appearing that I know it all at age 43 (I don't but think I know more than when I was in my 20's), you're so young still and I know from my own experiences, that being in your 20's...well the boys at that age are so...less mature.
A friend of mine once gave me the advice after I was "whining" to her about how I detest it when guys think I"m cute/attractive (insert your own physical descriptor) and that I had a whole lot more on the inside. Her advice was who cares? You've caught their attention (and if you like them), here is the opportunity to show them your inside.
Looking....searching....for that special one takes work. Be patient and don't lose hope. Losing hope well that's just so sad...never lose hope.
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Posted: 6/2/2008 1:58:52 AM | Talking to a friend of mine earlier and she was telling me that she seen something on TV to do with dating sites. She was saying that they were somewhat successful for the 20 something people but that their studies showed that it was only about 5% success rate for getting a longer term relationship for the 40 to 50 years old people. The reason was that the 40 to 50 age group are not willing to compromise. I wonder through my own experience and observation if this was a little optimistic.
Thats all,
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Posted: 6/2/2008 2:13:58 AM | my 75 year old Uncle met a lovely 69 year old lady on this site
yes POF
and they are getting married next weekend
I think pof is just another vehicle that can speed up what is to be eventually......jmo
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Posted: 6/2/2008 2:51:05 AM | OK MB,
That is one success story out of thousands of people that use on-line dating sites. I guess that is part of your 5% I was referring to. I was just quoting a stat I heard believe it or not. I also know from my own experience that stat would be close to reality. Like me and thousands of others that use on-line site dating sites we do put an effort forward but the return is not there for the amount of effort needed. Again this is a statistical reality that can be backed up by different dating advice experts. Also most of us are all very busy working people so our time is limited in how mush we spend on on-line chatting, coffee dates and events etc. Another thing there is probably thousands that have given up on the on-line dating sites and are no longer on here. I personally know a few of those people myself.
That is all,
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Posted: 6/2/2008 3:51:16 AM | I'm agreeing with maj on this topic,.this is the new meat-market hands down but in saying so and taking into consideration the whole dating scene,.the whole planet be it a pub or a website,.coffee or alcohol, a walk on the beach or a mall,.well, it's always been a meat-market because we are and will always be biological creatures with the need to find mates and procreate be it decent or not. Anyone who says they're not looking or just checking things out should re-examine just what the hell they're doing on a dating site. Ohya..this "buffet of women at your fingertips"? there's 2 sides on that fence,.where there's a buffet of women, there's an even bigger buffet of men following closely,.those are the numbers and they will never change. Last point - just like beauty is in the eye of the beholder..so is seriousness in relationships. That's my take,.I dont waste time farting around with ladies who arent open to some form of commitment in the future. In case anyone needs clarification,.yes, that makes me serious. Good luck all! Nothing has really changed about dating,.it's just a new place to do it.:modhammer: Haha!,.I'm not a moderator at all,.I just had to see if this thing works!,.Yup, I'm havin fuuuuuun! | |
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Posted: 6/2/2008 4:07:13 AM | Hey John,.just wanted to know who you been showing your tat's to,.I've had nothing but compliments on mine. No one ever accused me of attending a rub and tug either makes me wonder if your tat looks like this >>> IMA DOUCHEBAG - probably not Iknow but I'm wondering if you should wait a few dates or chats or whatever you're into before you start showing off your art. Mine is way more than art to me,.people never see it untill maybe after a deep conversation about culture and civilization and the like,.ohya, just what the hell is a message parlor? Is that where you get a sexy lady to write your emails for you?..... | |
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Posted: 6/3/2008 4:12:18 PM | | I think it's been easy to sort the ones who are out for "hanging Out" than others. I've met some great people on here. Maybe not the right one for me particularly, but now have some awesome new friends. Some people surprise you. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2008 5:45:36 PM | everyone is "looking" for something they think will make them happy. Women are just as guilty of looking for a wealthy guy as guys are of looking for a quick fix.. perhaps this is the place we learn about what really makes us happy..
When you stand in that sliver of space that is completely and utterly you, then will you be truly awesome, wonderful, magnificent. Joseph Riggio
I met a guy here I saw for a year and he was sweet and awesome .. and not meant to last.. regrets? nawh.. it was sweet... | |
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Posted: 6/6/2008 7:14:21 PM | | I too was losing hope in this site until I found someone that has time and patience dealing with my work schedule. I work two jobs , five times a week, on my two nights where I don't work, I train in martial arts and learning on how to ride a motorcycle. I sometimes work a month straight in my day job, before I get a day off. My other half also works, so when we get together on my nights after my martial arts, works out great. Who knows on how long this relationship will last, but I am glad that I had patience and stuck with POF. | |
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