| Took me by surprise
Posted: 4/26/2008 7:55:08 AM |
This woman is not very bright and couldn't ever imagine holding down a conversation with her.
She has no intelligence, no money and has a reputation of using men to pay her way.
I am well educated, intelligent, articulate and a strong person. I feel that maybe he is threatened by this and wants to be with someone who is needy and inferior to him and he might feel a bit sorry for her financially
perhaps he thought you are to into yourself and you look down on others...
a very ugly trait indeed.
It seems obvious to me that in his eyes, she has something that you dont have ....so swallow your pride, accept it, and go find someone that will worship you. | |
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| Took me by surprise
Posted: 4/26/2008 7:55:34 AM | What is this? A boxing match?
Frankly, we are just hearing one side of the story. Without knowing all parties involved, no one has an answer. Perhaps your lover needs both of you to find complete satisfaction?
The French have a saying that it takes three to hold a marriage together. The 3rd leg of this Ménage à trois obviously holds a very tenuous relationship between you and lover boy together. When you can't fulfill some need, desire, or fantasy of his, he turns to this terrible incomplete woman, as you describe her, for some fulfillment of his needs.
These arrangements aren't uncommon, so you had better get used to it or dump him.
The Eagle | |
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| Took me by surprise
Posted: 4/26/2008 7:58:14 AM | you like toxic relationships huh?
hoping for the best?
forget it...its a pipe dream.... | |
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| Took me by surprise
Posted: 4/26/2008 8:04:10 AM | | It's sad when you've been with someone and must let go..........think you know the answer to the question you ask , you simply must do the right thing for you immediately out of self respect..........send him on his way, tough as it is don't look back...........cheerio....... | |
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| Took me by surprise
Posted: 4/26/2008 8:13:14 AM | Do yourself a favor, don't examine just get out. I just wasted 3 yrs with this type of person and it was harder to leave, the longer I stayed. Someone said "smooth looser" thats a perfect name for this kind of man.
Prior to meeting him I was strong secure and happy, over the course time I lost myself.
I cannot speak for you, but in my case it was low self esteem and men like that seek us. I had to start working on me, what I wanted, my personal goals..
You will detox off this guy and hurt but ride it out and move on, it's worth it. | |
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| Took me by surprise
Posted: 4/26/2008 8:40:40 AM |
"smooth looser"
i like this...great description...
i ran into someone years ago who was slicker than teflon coated snot. a wannabe winner...but nevertheless...a loser...
too bad too. had a lot of great qualities but the qualities that really count in having a healthy relationship totally negated the other great qualities.
did all that come out right?? | |
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| Took me by surprise
Posted: 4/26/2008 10:00:29 AM | He has made his choice - a Bimbo it is then.
Hun - take a good look in the mirror how long are you going to let this carry on, arn't you worth more than this? Come on girl make the decision for him, and in your best interest.
Just an idea here:
If he has decided to return to the fold, and behave himself, for how long will he behave? When will he start with a new one, cos you are so giving him the message that it is alright to have a lover and you, and from what you are saying - you come second.
STEP UP TO FIRST PLACE - dump him  and surprize the sh*t out of him. | |
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| Took me by surprise
Posted: 4/26/2008 3:22:15 PM | It could be he is just a bozo and would never settle down with one person.
Or a possibility could be he finds something in each of you that he needs and desires that is not fully present in either of you.
Either way it probably would never work so quit wasteing your time and move on. | |
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