| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 5/4/2008 2:25:57 PM | Don't let Gary fool you CD, he was hoping I would cook for him if he would spring for the first dinner!! Just kidding, Gary, just kidding.  | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 5/4/2008 3:01:14 PM | How about going for the meal then "doing a runner" afterwards, spen the money on Vodka at the local night club, dance till dawn and walk home barefoot like we all did as teenagers ?
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 5/4/2008 3:11:10 PM | Annette,
You can cook for me anytime or we could enjoy that dinner together on my dime ... it would be a pleasure. We just need to work out the logistics!
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 7/26/2008 12:30:08 AM | | It really never made a difference to me. Whatever she wants is fine by me. A simple fix to the problem? Go to a chinese buffet. One price for all. | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 7/26/2008 4:41:08 PM | I think most guys who ask a woman out to a nice restaurant have a general idea what he will be spending, and might be insulted or hurt if she orders just a salad. Might as well have gone to a Bonanza all-you-can eat salad bar for $6.99.
Haven't been out on a dinner date in a while, but if memory serves, I did always take my cues from him by asking him what he's going to have. If he tells me, "Order anything you want, he'd better mean it, cuz I LOVE lobster, which is usually the most expensive thing on the menu. And of course I don't order it just because it costs the most, but because I love it so much and I rarely order it.
I feel that a man should not ask a woman out to a very nice restaurant if he's afraid to order anything but catsup and a bowl of hot water.
Hell, but what do I know? Most of the time, men I've dated think their idea of a fabulous dinner date is actually going IN to the McDonald's, rather than just using the drive-thru.
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 7/26/2008 5:22:12 PM | | When I go on a dinner date I order what I want because I am fully prepared to pay for myself or the whole meal. However, I have never been on a dinner date where the gentleman would let me pay and I always offer and I think most men appreciate that a woman willing and able to treat them as well. I think men like to treat women, but I think they want to be appreciated for it and not taken for granted. | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 7/26/2008 5:58:51 PM | It's no real wonder some people aren't either getting any dates or getting to a second date if they can't even get past who's paying for the first one or a damn $2 cup of coffee.
I think men like to treat women, but I think they want to be appreciated for it and not taken for granted.
Summed up perfectly. | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 7/26/2008 6:20:38 PM | | Way I look at it, unless it's agreed upon as Dutch treat at the outset, whoever extends the invitation pays. I wouldn't invite you to my house for a home-cooked meal, then ask you to pick up the groceries on your way over. | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 7/26/2008 6:24:42 PM | I agree with grapevine. If a man invites me to dinner (keeping fingers crossed!) then I would assume he is willing to pay.
On the other hand, if it was settled before hand that we go dutch regardless of the reason, then I have no problem paying for my meal. That being said, we would have to have a mutual place to go eat. Usually if a gentleman asks me out he picks the place, and is expected to pay. | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 7/27/2008 5:50:42 AM | | I have has as many men offer to pay as expect me to pay( after deciding they do not like me upon meeting-they tell me this and say they are not paying for my dinner) (even though i always clarify this before meeting them-saying that I am more than willing to pay the first time we meet- always amusing to me since they all have seemed to have the assumption that I liked them when we met) a big nope on this one, at least some of the time. I send a pic, I actually look better than my pic according to everyone that I have ever met, they seem to think I will look like their favorite actress- maybe someone needs a reality check and to stop looking for some fantasy? | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 7/27/2008 6:04:26 AM | OMG, you have GOT to be kidding? Men have actually stated they will not pay for your dinner just because you don't turn out to be their cup of tea? Oh, I'd make sure I had enough money, all right. I'd make sure I had enough money for a huge plate of spaghetti and then proceed to dump every last bit of it all over his swollen to astronomical proportions head. How rude can some people get, for chrissake!?  | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 7/27/2008 6:12:20 AM | | This has not happened in a long time, but yes, it was quite ridiculous and one man tried to get me to go home with him after insulting me, said that I was a fat woman and that all the other fat women he had met were so glad to get a date that they paid for his meal also and then went home with him for sex and several brought a great looking thin friend along so he could get turned on since the fat woman was so gross looking to him. If this is true then my "fluffy" bbw sisters need to get some self esteem and stop letting men make them think they are less deserving of respect and admiration then thinner women. | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 7/27/2008 7:03:58 AM | How about a laugh for the day............a gentleman invited me out for a dinner date to a very up scale restaurant.
I was surprised for the invite to this restaurant ,yet agreed to go.
Everything seemed to go really well before ordering the meal...we were already talking about our next date.
I as always ,ordered a salad and he did the same.When the waitress arrived and took the order he said "We would like to have a half order on both".I was so embarrassed!!
The waitress looked at me and paused and- yes "I red in between the lines"
After the waitress left he turns to me and says"If you are still hungry I'll buy you more food".Needless to say,our date ended and there were no hope for the next date. | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 7/27/2008 8:04:49 AM | At my age and of my generation, I was raised that men always paid for dates. Whenever I have invited a women on a date, regardless of dinner, movie, whatever, I have always planned on paying and have been prepared to cover the cost of the evening. That has never been an issue.
However, I have experienced the frustration previously expressed by other posters, about the apparent lack of appreciation. I dated one women 4 - 5 dates over a couple of weeks, one evening specifcally involving dinner, drinks at wine bar and a movie, which exceeded 175.00 for just that one evening, and that lady, not once in all that time ever offered to pay, split the cost, or reciprocate on any level.
Needless to say we don't date anymore, and it does give men that wrong impression about the dating scene. When your middle aged and trying to find someone to complement your life, I believe we're looking for partners, not just an additional dependent. Heck, I already have children for that. lol | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 7/27/2008 8:14:28 AM | | I seem to know a lot of women who think that a man who is really interested will pay for everything. If the man makes any comment to them about them helping to pay they tell him that they will find someone who pays for everything and so many of the times the men seem to then do more for the women.....This lust/love thing is a strange thing to me. | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 7/27/2008 10:12:01 AM | Good for you outofthedesert! I feel the same way.
I have always made it a policy to pay for my OWN dinner until I know the gentle VERY well, and there is a real relationship. After that, I will pay about every other time if I can.
I am not an "eat out alot" type of person, so I enjoy cooking; even more if we cook the meal together. On the occasion that he wants to cook for me, I sit back and relish that too.!  | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 8/14/2008 5:52:35 PM | If I ask, then I pay. I don't have a problem with that at all. Hey nyclegend-good idea, Chinese is always good  | |
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Posted: 8/14/2008 7:31:05 PM | | I've only met a few fellas on here, but from my experience, money for dinner was never an issue. The few I have met were very nice and respectful. Maybe it's just me, but I'm not used to paying when asked out. It's not that I can't pay. If we like each other and looks like we will meet again it is not beyond me to buy the steaks and fix him a great meal at my house next time. | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 8/14/2008 7:32:19 PM | | I've only met a few fellas on here, but from my experience, money for dinner was never an issue. The few I have met were very nice and respectful. Maybe it's just me, but I'm not used to paying when asked out. It's not that I can't pay. If we like each other and looks like we will meet again it is not beyond me to buy the steaks and fix him a great meal at my house next time. | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 8/14/2008 9:03:33 PM | How was the woman supposed to reciprocate you for the $175 meal?
You said she didn't offer to pay or split the cost, what else is there? | |
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Posted: 8/14/2008 9:14:36 PM | | He said the evening was $175.00, for dinner and drinks. I always offer to pay half, leave a tip, or if we were going somewhere afterwards then I offer to buy there if they paid for dinner. Most guys dont want you to really pay as much as appreciate that they are in fact paying a lot for your company and you get the benefit of their company to...I do think to much is put on PAYING for things, you can go to a park for a picnic, so meet at some of the local music festivals etc...no one should have to feel they have to spend alot of money for someone else company. | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 8/14/2008 10:41:16 PM |
Posted By: gpsweetheart
When I go on a dinner date I order what I want because I am fully prepared to pay for myself or the whole meal. However, I have never been on a dinner date where the gentleman would let me pay and I always offer and I think most men appreciate that a woman willing and able to treat them as well. I think men like to treat women, but I think they want to be appreciated for it and not taken for granted.
Has all the proper bases covered. | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 8/15/2008 6:19:46 AM | The tradition that a man pay for the dinner comes from a time in history when men made more money than women and used it to keep them subserviant. Many guys who pay for a meal are "expecting something in return" (sex).
A woman should at least offer to pay her share. By doing so, she keeps her independence and isn't obligated to do anything she doesn't want to.
Why is a guy considered "cheap" if he agrees to share the cost? Women never offer to pay the entire costs, but are not considered cheap. It has to do with the social expectations, the way we were raised, and tradition. But the times have changed and we need to be freed of this ritual.. When everyone shares costs, true friendships can develop. | |
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Posted: 8/15/2008 6:44:03 AM |
The tradition that a man pay for the dinner comes from a time in history when men made more money than women and used it to keep them subserviant. Many guys who pay for a meal are "expecting something in return" (sex).
A woman should at least offer to pay her share. By doing so, she keeps her independence and isn't obligated to do anything she doesn't want to.
If a man takes me out and pays for dinner, I am under NO obligation to him whatsoever. He can "expect" all he wants to, that doesn't mean he will get it. It is an attitude such as this that gives a lot of men a bad name.
I don't believe it ever was a "tradition" that a man pay and expected to have sex or keep the woman subserviant. I don't know where this idea came from but I have never found that to be a fact. A man would pay because he wanted to take a woman out on a date, and was interested in her. She, in return would invite him over for a home-cooked dinner if there was interest on both sides. If the two became exclusive, either party would pay for a date, or go dutch. Times haven't changed that much, but it seems attitudes have. JMO | |
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