| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/9/2008 8:35:00 AM | I say order what you want merry. If they balk at it.... NEXT!! LOL
Really, if you want something on the menu, why would you pass it by? If they asked you out to dinner they must know the prices on the menu.
I am not out to impress anyone.. Just give me a good lobster and you will be my friend for life.. What a golddigger I am.. 
Oh by the way, if you can't afford the lobster, I will buy my own.  | |
|
| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/9/2008 8:44:19 AM | If I only have $20, we'll be eating at McDonald's. If I go to dinner with a woman, and I take her to the Ritz, then she should go for the surf and turf
I don't know how people can just go for the meal. It's not a moral thing, I'm not that good of a person, but if I sit across from someone I don't want to be with, my body language will be screaming "SCRAM. I CAN'T STAND YOU. LEAVE NOW.". I don't care how hungry I am.
I've yet to have dinner with a woman I felt was there just for the meal. I mean, ya sure, she may be hungry, but that's a good thing. All good experiences and company so far. If a woman only wants to eat a salad, that's fine with me and not worth a mention. As for the price range? It's on the menu.
If a guy takes you out, don't even glance at the price column. Go for what you'd like to eat. After all, that's why you're there right? If he said "I want to take you out to dinner, but don't get the most expensive meal on the menu because I don't have a lot of money." then go for the soup and free bread basket. | |
|
| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/9/2008 8:51:06 AM | Simple answer...
If I don't want there to be a chance she'll order the steak and Lobster... I won't go to Red Lobster.
Thats how you control what might get put on the bill... you go to a place that doesn't have anything you aren't willing to pay for. | |
|
| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/9/2008 8:58:29 AM | I really don`t think that there are that many starving hungry women who can`t afford
to eat at home, that they are going to jump at every chance to go out to dinner with a guy they don`t like, just to eat. I just don`t see that happening all that much. It is just too uncomfortable. I wouldn`t go to dinner with a man that I found repulsive. I personally don`t want to spend hours eating across from someone that I dislike, or do not care to be with in exchange for the food. I`ll stay home and have a bowl of popcorn
and watch a movie. I turn alot of dinner dates down because I don`t want to lead men on. In my line of work, I meet alot of older businessmen. Often they invite me to dinner. If I am not interested in them in a possible romantic way,or they are married, I turn them down, because I know where their head is at. Why make trouble for yourself for a bit of meat and potato?
I do think however when a dinner date goes bad and a second date is turned down, or
the romance fantasies of the host is not fufillfed to his or her expectations, sometimes
it`s very easy to say "She just used me for a free meal" But in all honesty, the date probably did not go too well, and it is easy to pass blame. | |
|
| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/9/2008 9:09:57 AM | The other thing that I have to say I have run into quite often (why I`m careful now who I go out with) is men saying things like "I know you girls don`t eat much to keep your beautiful figures for us guys. Most of the ladies I have gone out with only order a light salad."
So they will sit there and garbage out ( when they are heavy to begin with) and not think a thing of it, fully expecting that you should be satisfied with your little side salad
while they are going through several courses and dessert. Doesn`t bother them a bit.
As far as they are concerned, that is what women should do to keep their figures.
This has happened to me several times. Probably it has happend to alot of ladies. | |
|
| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/9/2008 10:07:36 AM | As Ageless said OP - order what you want.
When I treat a man to supper, I don't expect him to order "light" in order to save me the expense. I have asked him out to enjoy a good meal, and expect him to order what will make him happy - whether that's a Chef's salad or a 10 oz prime rib.
I also take him to a restaurant where I know the prices and can afford them.
I just don't worry about those things, and if a man takes me to MacDonald's for supper, I will be just as happy with that as the most expensive restaurant in town.
My motto is " it's the value and quality of your time with me that impresses me more, than the value of your wallet." | |
|
| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/9/2008 11:14:52 AM | Here's another little story for ya'.....
I met with a man that asked me out to lunch in the parking lot of a nearby family restaurant. As we started walking toward the doors.. he began a tangent on how much money he spent on "dates".. and if only he had that money.. allllll the things he could do with it.. and  ! Once inside.. the hostess asked how many? Two? I said ONE.. and walked to of to my own booth. He said.. what about me? I told him.. I'm saving you money.. and me a migraine..
Then.. as soon as I got home.. block/delete! | |
|
| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/9/2008 1:27:37 PM | How about if they offer to take you to a really nice place and you say, no, no, thats really not necessary. You both order the same thing. Then when it is all over, he starts complaining about how much it cost. Why did he insist taking you in the first place?
So I continue dating this guy for a little while. He eats all of his meals out, doesn`t like to mess in a kitchen. So he chooses the place every time, won`t let you pay, gets offended , but complains about the bill. So I just started ordering a tiny salad, would watch him eat a big meal, and then would eat when i got home. Can you believe it?
But he felt women shouldn`t eat much anyways so they stayed thin. | |
|
| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/9/2008 1:31:12 PM | I had enough of a man complaining every time we went out to eat how much it cost when I was married!!! Not doing that again.
If a man said one thing to me about the cost of the date..
I am more than willing to pay, if it is mentioned beforehand, not at the restaurant that he picked out  | |
|
| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/9/2008 1:37:22 PM | He has been kicked to the curb, Merry, hasn't he? Yes? Please tell us he is a looong time gone.
I used to go out with a guy that would find any excuse to stiff the tip on the wait staff at restaurants. He didn't mind spending big bucks for the food, though heaven forfend someone should be 2 seconds late with a glass of water! Solved that problem for awhile.....told him that I would leave the gratuity, as my share of the meal. Did catch him at the beginning of our deal attempting to 'take' a few $ off the table as we were leaving....he caught hell for that one. He was a weird one, anywho. | |
|
| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/9/2008 2:16:56 PM | Some of these stories are sooooo funny! Oh ladies.. I wonder what great stories the men must have...
 | |
|
| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/9/2008 3:47:32 PM | This reminds me of a guy who was on cheaters, I believe, could be wrong.
Anyway, he was with this woman, and she paid, and walked away, and then he picked up the tip off the table and put it in his pocket.. All on tape!! | |
|
| |
| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/9/2008 3:54:28 PM | ^^^^
Yeah, right or maybe stop by the pharmacy for condoms before they went back to her place..
Wait, he probably wasn't smart enough for that. LOL | |
|
| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/9/2008 4:13:07 PM |
It's not the box concept. When a lady orders a 12 oz steak instead of a 6 oz so she will have leftovers, that is where the problem comes from. Not to be a worry, I just don't want to feel like the grocery store for the week.
Whew! Thanks for clearing that up...now I can feel ok about going out on dinner dates sometimes. I do usually order something small, since I rarely clean my plate as it is. There's certainly no sense ordering more than necessary just so I'll have more to take home with me, lol. Seriously, I can see your point, now that you've made the clarification. I truthfully will quite often offer to just stay in and eat pizza..or cook myself, rather than dealing with the "who pays for what?" issue. I can't afford to go out a lot, so I just stay in a lot :D | |
|
| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/9/2008 4:21:49 PM | | Part of the problem is the restaurant's need to supersize food. Even at non-fastfood restaurants, the size of the plate is enough to feed two other people. | |
|
| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/9/2008 4:25:47 PM | I think part of the over-sized ploy caters to the "manly appetite". Not to say all men eat huge plates of food all the time. But.. I think that should be something addressed in dining establishments.
Too huge an amount! | |
|
| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/9/2008 4:35:01 PM | i like my food.
i dont eat huge portions everyday but when i go out i like to feast.
| |
|
| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/9/2008 4:50:42 PM | I've only gone out 1 time and she insisted she pay. Hey that was great! I was prepared to pay but it was so far down on my priorities it didn't matter at all really. I had asked her about the bill before and that was where she said her treat.
Having read the forum I like the idea of paying your own way and just seeing how it goes. Who cares about a few bucks if you could be meeting someone special. | |
|
| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/9/2008 5:35:38 PM | awww.. thanks for being so honest compactdisc..
Does it bother you if a woman wants more than a salad.. but not as much as the portion that's brought to her.. and asks for a doggie-bag?
I've never done this.. but.. I was just curious as we're talking about portions on dates.
I've been reading your posts.. and.. you seem like a real gem to me. | |
|
| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/9/2008 10:42:49 PM | If I go to Applebees and get the orange chicken bowl (one of the less expensive meals they have)... thats my dinner the next day too.
Why would I complain about my date asking for a "doggie bag" if I already plan on getting one?
Just don't order a complete extra dinner to go...
 | |
|
| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/10/2008 2:23:20 AM | | I always do lunch or coffee for the first meeting. Dinners come later and usually we have plans after so I don't like the doggie bag sitting in the car in July, that is why I order just what I think I will eat. Hate to waste food and try not to 'waist' it either. | |
|
| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/10/2008 8:41:01 AM | | I try to avoid this altogether and just pay for my own. However, there are times when "the yard man" will ask me to go to a chinese buffet with him....I eat....and then he tells me he doesn't get his money's worth with me because I didn't eat enough. What can I say...I don't eat much for a chubby girl...lol. Honestly, I'm just more comfortable paying for my own because that way, I'm free to eat or drink whatever I want without feeling like I'm gouging him. | |
|
| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/10/2008 8:51:29 AM | OK, I've been thinking about this since this thread began, and now I feel it's time to confess: I've actually asked my date, on two separate occasions (with two different guys), if he'd mind if we ordered another entree that we could take home to my partner/roommate.
Now I know this seems outrageous...and, btw, of course I offered to either pay for the entire meal or at least for the "doggy bag" portion...but both these guys know and really like my partner/roommate, so they were more than ok with it. We've all spent time together in the past, so it really wasn't all that outrageous at all to ask if we could take something home to him. The truth of the matter is, he would have been more than welcome to come along on those dates, but he'd had recent surgery and wasn't up to going out.
I think the only reason I felt the urge to share this was just to give you an idea of just how "friendly" a dinner date really CAN be, given the right circumstances and the right combination of people. Naturally, I would never ask someone who doesn't even know my partner to buy food to take to him, but when we've all become good friends, it just seems like a friendly thing to do...and my dates agreed and were more than happy to oblige. So all this "who pays?" and "how much should I order?" etc. talk just seems a little trivial, in the grand scheme of things. | |
|
| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/10/2008 8:55:29 AM |
I met with a man that asked me out to lunch in the parking lot of a nearby family restaurant. As we started walking toward the doors.. he began a tangent on how much money he spent on "dates".. and if only he had that money.. allllll the things he could do with it.. and ! Once inside.. the hostess asked how many? Two? I said ONE.. and walked to of to my own booth. He said.. what about me? I told him.. I'm saving you money.. and me a migraine.
What a great way to get rid of someone. Here when I was dating, I would have said nothing and suffered through the meal knowing eventually, the headaches would get blamed on me. | |
|
Home
login 
