| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/10/2008 9:00:22 AM | | I think the partner offering should be open to paying for the meal. I'd like to date a women who has her own income so we can both contribute. I've been in one sided relationships before which don't work for me. | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/10/2008 9:23:49 AM | I find it best to say at the start:- "We going Dutch"?
Sorts out all kinds of embarrassing situations at the end of the meal been caught for coffee and a three course meal so far, not happening again.
ps he had the three course meal, two drinks and a coffee, I had a sandwich and a glass of orange juice, £33 it cost me. Oopse that makes me a 'suger mummy' | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/10/2008 10:55:44 AM | Ouch Loz.. that had to hurt.. but.. A suger mummy.. good one.
I'm sorry.. I just don't see how buying a $5 or $10 meal equates.. her having her own continuing money source. That may mean she's resourceful enough to be able to borrow=get $5 or $10 bucks off of someone else.
I think sometimes.. some of us read waaaaaay too much into a first meeting/date.
Can he/she afford to go out and buy meals/coffee/crumbs? If so.. how often? Should I consider the answers to these questions as my number one prioity in who I want to date/have perhaps a LT with? For me.. I don't think this is the end all. With the economy in the US today.. I know the almighty buck just doesn't stretch as far. I know last year I could afford a bunch more dates than I can this year. Does that mean I'm less likely to meet the SO of my dreams.. because I'm not springing for the same amount of dates? I don't feel this way about my date. Should he? | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/10/2008 2:05:19 PM | It's not how much one spends on dining out, it's the person you are with.
If the man I'm with is someone who makes me laugh, can engage in stimulating conversation and is respectful, the cost of the meal is NOT an issue. If my date selects a very expensive dining establishment, that would tell me that (a) he is NOT concerned about the prices, or (b) he wants to impress me, in which case, he hasn't.
I would be far more impressed with someone's ability to hold an intelligent conversation, who has a flair for humor, is interested in me as a person, eating at McDonald's, then to 'fine' dine with someone who is obssessed with himself and what he has and hasn't a CLUE about who's sitting across from him.
Personally, with summer on it's way, I think more couples/potential couples, should do picnics. It's inexpensive, fun and a great way to spend time together. You can both contribute with food, blankets, and perhaps a nice chilled bottle of wine. | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/10/2008 2:33:39 PM | ubetimreal, picnics are "what's up..." And cooking on the grille, too.......and both can contribute and neither has to feel "pressed" for $$$$$$.  | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/10/2008 7:14:30 PM | Picnics are the absolute bomb guys!!!!!!!!! barbecue your way to our heart!!!!!!!
The absolute best! | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/10/2008 7:26:49 PM | My preference for a meet and greet is something more casual. If dinner is suggested, I usually suggest we keep it casual for the first meeting. Perhaps coffee or a drink and a walk or just sit and talk for a bit. If there is a date arranged after that, then he pays. I've heard men complain about dating people who just want a free meal and honestly, I can buy my own if that's what I want. What I'm looking for can't be bought.... a true gentleman in today's times is hard to find....
If we are dating, I don't mind paying from time to time... it's not a big deal, I can't take it with me..... | |
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Posted: 4/10/2008 7:32:33 PM | | I am with I2 on this. For a first meet, I much prefer meeting for a coffee or a drink. Then should we get along that well and proceed to a date/dinner, I have no issue going dutch. Actually, I prefer the simple things anyway. I spend way too much time doing the fine dining thing in my line of work so simple works way better for me to relax and actually enjoy my company! | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/10/2008 7:40:19 PM |
Picnics are the absolute bomb guys!!!!!!!!! barbecue your way to our heart!!!!!!!
The absolute best!
...Hey...good plan, I love the taste of a steak done on the barbecue. Combine that with a baked potatoe, maybe throw in a salad....ummm.... And I'll bring the ice cold brew.
Heres to summer time and backyard barbecues .
...maeflowers | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/10/2008 10:13:42 PM | "Picnics are an absolute bomb"
My one experience with an early date picnic involved scouring the countryside, sideroad after sideroad, hour after hour, looking for a suitable site that was not packed, fenced, No Trespassing, or Stay Out or my dogs will eat you. Finally, late in the afternoon, more from exhaustion and starvation than anything else, an empty field was found, so we took our basket, blanket and sat amongst the ants, overhead seagulls, with broken cornstalks sticking up our butts and ate until it became extremely uncomfortable.
Yes, picnics are an absolute bomb. I concur completely.
cdn guy | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/11/2008 3:19:36 AM | | I know the best private places to picnic in the Smoky Mountains. I don't go to the well know public places, too over run with tourists. | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/11/2008 4:53:33 AM | I remember a date I had with a gentleman...we went canoeing and we were fishing. Didn't catch anything though!
I brought a picnic lunch. We sat in the really pretty little out of the way park that had a small pond. Sat watching the ducks swim and enjoyed our lunch and wine. It was so simple it was beautiful. We don't always have to make a big production out of going out to be able to enjoy our time together. | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/11/2008 4:59:54 AM |
My former landlord used the "split the entree" technique with all potential dates....only 'cause he's a cheapskate.....talks a big game (how he's a millionaire, etc.), though he could pinch a penny till it screams into non-existence!
Yanno? He may be. The grandfather of my grandchildren is going to make his sons millionaires when he dies. Drives a 1986 ford station wagon, and hasn't bought a new piece of clothing in a decade. . . . How do you think he got to be a multimillionaire, lol!?
To. Each. His. Own.
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/11/2008 5:26:40 PM | To those who don't like picnics = TOUGH!! It's about being creative, having fun and NOT spending fortunes. Anyone can toss a steak on a barbie, but not everyone can pack up a mouth watering picnic full of HOMEMADE goodies  So put that on the grill and ............... smoke it!! | |
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Posted: 4/12/2008 6:34:59 AM | | This is where you find out if the other is trying to buy your love by trying to overly impress with spending lots of money at first. Besides I think it's foolish to spend a lot of money at restaurants, unless you really have money to burn. Picnics are great and so are home cooked meals or snacks. | |
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Posted: 4/12/2008 7:58:41 AM | | Most times when I've taken a date to one of my favorite restaurants, I order for them (once I know a little about what they like) I've never had one complaint, and they seem to like that old-fashioned Carey Grant thing... | |
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Posted: 4/15/2008 4:57:45 PM | I just had the most wonderful date with my SO. My treat at our favorite family restaurant.. as it was a way of congratulating him on his new job. He made reservations from there.. right then.. for a restaurant out-of-town for the next weekend.. where he's originally from. This way.. I can see more about where his up-bringing was.. and.. be able to put on my new evening dress.. his treat with his first pay-check. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2008 5:58:06 PM | Yep, love to picnic....I even have that on my profile as a suggestion...or at least I used to....have to look again. Interesting that nobody has ever taken me up with that...what? They think I'm gonna grease them up with the fried chicken then have my way with them?
On guy I was dating for awhile...we finally went on a picnic, public place, and he thought it was very 'romantic'...!!!!
So, guys, take the hint. Most places even have bbq pits....I'd be happy to contribute the brew, juice, vino or sweet-tea. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2008 9:54:16 PM | | Merry0709, I have never had a man make a single remark about anything that I have ordered in a resturant. I am wondering where you are meeting these men and why you would ever even consider going out with them again. | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/15/2008 10:38:58 PM | My favorite restaurant is Fogo De Chao in Chicago, a Brazilian churrascaria steakhouse. I have never gotten away without paying over $150 for my date and myself. If I take a lady there, it is because I like her a lot and want to impress her. A big part of that impression is paying the tab and if I asked her on the date, I am paying.
On the low end of the spectrum, when I have been out of work or medically disabled and retired as I am now, Applebee's is a nice place. I also feel that I should pay for the meal unless some other arrangement between my date and I was made in advance.
I realize a lot of people are watching their calories so if my date orders soup and a salad at Applebee's I make no comment at all. On the other hand, if she does it at Fogo de Chao, after surveying the delicious repast prepared by the best steak chefs in the world, I question her sanity. It goes unaid however, that I have determined the dining likes and dislikes of my dates before going out. If she's a vegetarian, I stay away from steakhouses. | |
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Posted: 4/16/2008 1:11:34 AM | | As a guy, I fully expect the woman to order whatever she WANTS to eat and not take a que from me. Many higher restaraunts will have two menus - one with and one without prices so that one's date doesn't see the prices. | |
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Posted: 4/16/2008 7:22:44 PM | Thanks OOTD.. all the arrangements have been made.. as we'll be traveling for a few hours to get to his hometown. The name of the place.. he's keeping a surprise. All he said was "the little black dress".. dressed up.. will definitelywork!
I don't think many men take women to these finer restaurants on a first date.. let alone.. on a meet. They're still in that "getting to know you" phase. I never met one man from POF that was willing to get past the third date!
So.. going through the troubles of finding that just-right evening wear (thank the gods for that little black dress option.. then there's the shoes.. the bag.. the jacket that;'s all up to date.. ) would mean getting to know the person well enough for the higher-end dining spots.. or she may be buying (not renting like a tux) something that may end up being used once.. then discarded in a closet for allllll the years to come.. dropped off in a charity box.. or hopefully sold in a consignment shop. Rarely does a woman wear the same dress twice.. with the same man.. to the same place.
It is nice to see though.. that some men are willing to spring some real $$$ on someone they truly find worth their while. Nice! | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/17/2008 11:50:23 AM | it should ALLWAYS be 50/50 .
too many liars, cheats and players about just after having a meal bought for them. | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/17/2008 3:34:41 PM | compactdisc..
I'm not sure what "liars, cheats and players" have to do with sharing a meal on a dinner date? Bragging rights? Trying to understand here why someone would want to think about sharing a meal with another of these caliburs. How do/would you know they're cheats? Liars.. we've all seen them.. from age.. weight.. pics have been known to be a completely different person altogether. Players can be pretty easily spotted befor you get to the "dating" part and go out for dinners.
I don't understand the significance of how they relate to buying a lousy $5. or $10. meal for someone whose company you enjoy.. and may want to get to know better. That's the cost of a movie.. and with this.. at least there's some form of human interaction by two people who hopefully have been conversing on some level.. and also hopefully well enough to separate the users and the abusers before going out on a dinner date. JMO | |
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