| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/24/2008 2:18:00 PM | moonchild,,,,, you're a riot!!!!!
the penis colada comes after the date!!!! not during (most of the time)  | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/24/2008 2:28:12 PM | | I always offer to pay, have rarely had men accept my offers, unless they are the ones who have already told me that they do not like me and are not going to pay (I find this rude, since they have asked to meet me, and should have enough manners/sense to sugges going Dutch when they talk on the phone, but they failed Manners 101 I suppose). H as anyone else had these kinds of situations where the men said they would pay if they liked you and they didn't....? | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/24/2008 2:53:46 PM |
H as anyone else had these kinds of situations where the men said they would pay if they liked you and they didn't....?
Sweetie? I have to say that I wouldn't even entertain meeting up with a man who suggested something so outlandish! He will pay if he likes you but will not if he doesn't? That sounds so very much like grade school to me. I would tell him something, but I can't say it here! | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/24/2008 2:56:58 PM | | they don't say that when we talk on the phone. they say that when we meet, since they realize that although they have seen a pic and I am not angelina, guess they were still hoping so this is how they react....sounds like a boy to me for sure. | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/24/2008 3:26:06 PM |
....sounds like a boy to me for sure.
Perhaps that and a person who is pretty shallow. Not someone I'd want to get to know. | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/24/2008 5:09:12 PM | | I don't give a crap how expensive it is, order whatever the F you want..."Fill 'er up, Mac!" | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/24/2008 6:37:19 PM | ^^^^^^^ there's a real gentleman for you!!!!^^^^^^^^^^^
willing to take the bill whether he likes you or not! well said sir!!! | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/24/2008 6:53:30 PM | My new SO and I shared the $$$ of our first weekend together as a couple. This was the first time I met his mother/stepfather/siblings.. as we spent the time in his hometown. He drove his car.. I offered to pay the gas.. he paid for the expensive dinner out.. the hotel rooms.. flowers for my room.. the wine we drank for the weekend.. and his mothers gift for Mothers Day.. as I purchased an appropriate card for her.. the dinner/meal at her house (we spent Saturday afternoon shopping.. sight-seeing.. and we made the meal together for her.. she loved it!).. as well as the extra chicken for our picnic luncheon on the way home on Sunday (made in his mom's kitchen while making her Mother's Day dinner). We had a great time.. together! The best part.. we didn't have any huge-overblown "discussions" over who was paying for what.. it all went as smooth as glass!  | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/24/2008 7:04:33 PM | It sounds very gallant for a man to pay for a lady's dinner. But, perhaps nowadays some ladies like to pay for her own because she doesn't want to feel beholdin'. We ladies really do get propositioned for sex because we were bought a coffee or lunch. As hard as that might be for some of the men on this forum to comprehend. And, yes these guys seemed like upfront and respectful guys. Who knew?
It's also been insinuated that women are users for a free meal and perhaps some of us don't deserve the label. So, we make damn sure that were not seen as gold diggers.
Personally, I like it when a man wines and dines me if he's interested in having a relationship with me. Just 'cause it makes me feel special in his eyes. And I, on the other hand would want to be as generous as he, by cooking a home-cooked meal or getting tickets to an event he's wanting to attend.
I'm with Mae on this one. I'd be willing to take a hammer to my piggy bank for the right guy.
If in a relationship, I think it's vital for a couple to have a date night at least once a week. Doesn't have to be a fancy smancy five course dinner every week. It could be a picnic with wine, strawberries and your special someone.
Post Script: I'm thrilled to hear that things went so well for you on your special weekend Ms. Red. | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/24/2008 7:14:09 PM | | Phoebe.. have you ever gone out to dinner with someone.. felt so relaxed and comfortable being with him.. and without thinking.. just grabbed the bill and paid it? I know I've done this one a few times lately. Alzheimers? | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/24/2008 7:26:03 PM | I have always done the back and forth thing. And yes, I love to be wined and dined too, and would always reciprocate with a home cooked meal, and alot of time a wonderful massage. I think everyone was always happy.
But since I moved to So Cal, the dates I have had in the last year,have been more interested in getting their due the first night and not giving me a chance for reciprocation. Life in the fast lane I guess. So now I turn down dinner dates and don`t cook for men any more. I had too many scary experiences lately. don`t know if it is SoCal or sign of the times or just a run of bad luck. never had this much trouble with aggressive scary men before. | |
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Posted: 4/24/2008 7:36:37 PM | Merry:
On some dates with men in Ontario Canada, the scenario is the same. So. California is obviously not the only place where women are having this problem. | |
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Posted: 4/24/2008 7:39:26 PM | Nothing better than reciprocating with a home cooked full course meal! When I get the chance to do it (not often as of late dang it all), I like to make sure my man is well fed....get it? lol
After he is done, send him to the couch with a nice glass of wine. A nice massage of his tired muscles.
See? The fellow the OP spoke of is missing ever so much on the real quality of giving and life in general with the attitude that he has. There are so many many ways of carrying your share without money being paid at a fine restaurant! | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/24/2008 7:40:22 PM |
Phoebe..have you ever gone out to dinner with someone..felt so relaxed and comfortable being with him,,and without thinking..just grabbed the bill and paid it?
Short answer: .......yes. | |
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Posted: 4/24/2008 8:29:34 PM | I`m a really good cook and most the time much better than in the restaurant. I used to love to find out the very favorite food of the guy I was seeing, do the whole candleight
wine and dinner, massage, great music, dress real pretty. Then maybe a great video, or do it at his house----so much better than going out. Or a great barbecue and eat outside under the stars---the very best. But the problem is, even getting to the point of trusting someone enough with our own safety to be able to spoil them. Maybe they don`t care about this and just want to get laid . I don`t know. They could have had their cake and eat it too instead of blowing it and leaving with blue ba**s. If they would only be a gentleman and have some patience. I wish!
Sometimes I think these guys don`t really like women and intentionally want to dis us and give us a hard and scarey time. I can`t figure it out. | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/25/2008 3:42:47 PM | | Yeah.. I guess we've all seen that merry.. I'm from Pa and had a few very scarey moments like that (men having to leave with blue-b*lls).. and had one man I went to meet.. "insist".. I go to his fav country bar.. as he "knew" it would change my opinion of the music. He grabbed hold of my arm and tried to pull me into his car. I had to twist my way out of his grasp.. got home.. and blocked/deleted him. Sheesh! At this stage of the game.. I know what I want.. from whom.. and when! Force?!?! Wrong! | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/25/2008 7:03:03 PM | | I figure who ever invited who for diiner pays. If a man asks me out I expect him to pick the resteraunt and pay. Why would he be asking me if he couldnt afford it? He'd be asking me for a walk on the beach if he was broke. If I ask him I pay, it only seems fair. If he asks me to pick a resteraunt I presume he is serious and wants me to chose where I really want to go. I would never wait to see what he ordered. I presume this is a bit of an event for him , as it is for me and I am going to enjoy it to the fullest. | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/26/2008 12:58:27 AM |
I figure who ever invited who for diiner pays I wouldn't mind buying you dinner, what would that cost me $3? | |
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Posted: 4/26/2008 1:26:06 AM | | Three dollars? I can't think of one place where two people could eat for that amount of money. I think your dating pool just narrowed. | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/26/2008 3:03:51 AM | They could each have a Krystal or White Castle burger and split a small drink.
^^^^^depends on where you live. Here the burger is 69 cents and the soda 1.19, plus tax comes to about $2.75. For those not familiar with Krystal or WhiteCastle, the burger is 2 inches by 2 inches and the meat is about 1/8" thick with onion and pickle. Just don't ask for cheese, that might through him over his limit. | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/26/2008 3:17:13 AM | I was born and raised on an island so when I see a name like "islandw" I look to see where they're from. She lives on islands off Honduras which I know little about other than the cost of living is probably a lot lower than it is here. In the 80's I was in the service and stationed were we had guys baby sitting Tacan's one site was classified in Saudi the other was up the hill in Tegucigalpa. He told us how impoverished the country was and what he could get from some pretty local girls with a bottle of shampoo. Another story you wouldn't be interested in hearing but I have similar ones that amuse me when I reminisce in my old age, She's probably in a more progressive touristy area with a higher cost of living but probably on the mainland you could get a decent meal for close to $3.00 even with our fast sinking dollar.
P.S. I try to stay away from McDonalds and Wendy's but sometimes get either a burger and chickin sand for $2. Bacon Jr cheese and chicken sand from Dave's place $2. too. File this under who cares but Arby's is trying to buy Wendy's. Oh yea, I get the 2 fer specials at Arby's or catch the 5 for $5.5 special. | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/26/2008 4:52:25 AM | Reading the original post here made me laugh...I once met up with a guy at a bar before we were supposed to go out to dinner. We played quite a few games of pool and chatted quite awhile. Getting hungry I asked where we were going to have dinner, to which he replied, "they have free snacks here, why should we go anywhere?"...WTF...He then told me that dinner would be our next date...needless to say there was no next date. I would never be that hungry, and I would not travel sixty miles again for nothing....
When on a dinner date, I always ask my companion what he is having. If money is a problem, we probably should have discussed that ahead of time. I always make sure I have sufficient money on hand to pay in case I have perhaps went over the price limit. I don't like cheap people...if you can't financially afford to go out, the we could do something else, or go dutch.
Reading further...I don't feel that if a guy buys dinner I owe him something...it's a first date...if I don't feel like banging the guy then I don't. The meal has nothing to do with it. If they are gonig to buy the meal feeling I owe him something, there probably won't be another date to say the least. | |
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| Money spent on dinner dates
Posted: 4/26/2008 5:13:13 AM | decent meal for close to $3.00 even with our fast sinking dollar.
Wow ...that WAS the 80's We dont have a hamburger place ( yet! A Wendy's is being built as we speak)
If you are going to a nice place a dinner for two on this piece of the Caribbean will run you about a hundred dollars with wine! In Tegucigualpa, on the mainland it will be a bit more. | |
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Posted: 4/26/2008 5:54:13 AM | I happen to think that it's a HOOT that some women feel the man is untrustworthy (what does he think is going to happen after this dinner?) or MEN for that matter think that a woman owes them something simply because he asked and took them to dinner. It's a dinner date, for Pete's sake... Perhaps it's a first date and he (like me) enjoys the social setting of a nice restaurant, the food, the****ails, the ambiance, etc... For many people, Me included, a dinner date is also a social situaiton. It is entertainment to us. Certainly a gentleman wouldn't expect (or accept) a woman's invitation to her home for a cooked meal on a first date, so one of the better ways of enjoying an evening of good food, lively conversation, and an intimate setting would be a nice restaurant. No pressures, no foolishness, and certainly other than the quality of the dinner itself, and the company of a nice woman, no "expectations".
When I ask a woman to dinner (a first or subsequent date), I also let her know the location, and "atmosphere" of the place, and also what I will be wearing, so she can plan accordingly.
As I have asked her out, I expect to pay. It is a common courtesy for me to pay for the dinner (including tip),****ails, or even cab-fare, if she has chosen to take one, or not feeling really comfortable allowing me to pick her up at her home for a first date. no questions asked, and no complaints about what she orders, whether she eats all of it, or not.
I think it is reprehensible to ask, or think that a woman would have to pay for any part of an evening that I have invited her to. If she is insistant, then I politely tell her, "You can pay next time, or whenever YOU ask ME out." | |
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Posted: 4/26/2008 6:09:12 AM | ^^^^ And that, ladies, is how MOST guys think. It's a shame that threads like this are allowed to go on and on, giving attention to the small minority of slimeballs that think otherwise. Men (and women) like that shouldn't get any attention at all -- let alone, almost all of it.
Excellent post, sir ...
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