| Do women think less of a guy in his 40s who doesnt have children?
Posted: 4/5/2008 3:01:25 PM | | For me it doesn't really matter if a man has kids or doesn't. Life is like that, ya know? The only thing I have a problem with is dating a man with young children. Been there, done that. I'm at the point in my life where I don't have to worry about babysitters or going to school functions, etc. (Well, except for going to grandkid's activities, if I so choose.) I have a friend who is 38 and has never had kids, but you couldn't imagine a guy who loves kids more than him. To see him with his nieces and nephews is great. He really would have made a great dad, but that's probably not in his future. I sure don't think any less of him for not having had kids. | |
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| Do women think less of a guy in his 40s who doesnt have children?
Posted: 4/5/2008 3:25:42 PM | I think it would be easier to date someone that has kids, just because he could probably relate better with me as far as my life goes since I do have kids. If he didn't have kids, I wouldn't find it a problem dating him, as long as he was understanding that I do, and they are still one of my priorities.
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| Do women think less of a guy in his 40s who doesnt have children?
Posted: 4/6/2008 4:05:19 PM | No, we assume you a a child molester. 
I do tend to worry about the men who have reached my age or older and never married or procreated. I figure there is a good chance they are either players, or there is a certain segment of men in their 50ish range that suddenly realized they never settled down and want insta-family. | |
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| Do women think less of a guy in his 40s who doesnt have children?
Posted: 4/6/2008 4:40:36 PM |
Do women automatically assume that I dont like children or that their must be something wrong with me?
Nope. As a matter of fact, you're the brass ring baby. At almost 46 and childless, I would
want to find a man doesn't have any "crumb snatchers"....
I know nothing about being a mother and don't wanna learn. I'm happy with the status
quo and want the same from the man I'm seeing.
Me. Him. End of story....  | |
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| Do women think less of a guy in his 40s who doesnt have children?
Posted: 4/7/2008 6:32:36 PM | | Never having had them myself, nor want to, I would covet such a man if he is a fabulous person. The same goes for men with children. Having or not having children does not always mean that the person is good or bad. It seems that we may relate to whether or not someone has children based on our own situation. | |
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| Do women think less of a guy in his 40s who doesnt have children?
Posted: 4/8/2008 12:07:32 AM |
Do women think less of a guy in his 40s who doesnt have children?
Are you kidding me? Id PREFER it! lol I dont have any either and am not planning on it (seems i just answered a thread very similiar to this lol).
You sir,,in my mind,,are a hot commodity (sp) in that you dont have kids! Too bad you live so far away. | |
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| Do women think less of a guy in his 40s who doesnt have children?
Posted: 4/8/2008 12:23:15 AM | Well,
We're bound to wonder why you don't have kids. But your explanation makes sense.
Also, I was reading an article the other day in a psychology journal that was discussing the increased risk of potential birth defects for couples attempting to concieve where the man is over 40. I guess as women we're biologically driven to take these things into consideration when choosing a "potential mate." Different strokes for different folks though... | |
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| Do women think less of a guy in his 40s who doesnt have children?
Posted: 4/8/2008 10:46:41 AM | No, but I've also been involved recently regarding this very topic in another forum so I definitely can't and won't judge anyone who doesn't have children, for whatever reasons they may have. Sometimes it just doesn't happen that way, sometimes it takes longer than others, sometimes it's just not meant to be, sometimes people make choices, it's a very subjective thing.
I think a lot of women forget thatmen can have children MUCH later and longer into their lives than women, look at Tony Randall for example. And many others!
I also come from a blended family and know many people who are also, and I know bonding doesn't necessarily mean you have to give birth to the child or have fathered one to have a bond with it, it's just not going to be a "blood" one. Doesn't make it any less important, powerful or loving. | |
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| Do women think less of a guy in his 40s who doesnt have children?
Posted: 4/8/2008 1:40:07 PM | I must admit that I'm impressed by the amount of positive responses by posters about men that don't have children by his 40s; it's actually become less uncommon than some might think, and the idea that it's a red flag isn't a something several consider, although I'm sure some still stigmatize men for being in that state. It still applies that some men are dysfunctional/undesirable in a fashion, and that's almost akin to being offensive to us that held out for may be legit reasons.
If anything, it seems that there is an attitude that having a series of relationships over the years versus never married/never had children is viewed as "better" Not exactly; you can have a healthy marriage or LTRs in the past, or the negative side---a myriad of failed relationships that in each crashes and burns in every one. I'm always dismayed at the idea that being single and childless is perceived as "lesser than" as opposed to people who have had a volume of relationships that turned sour---I'm not the only one, but I'd rather be alone than suffer through a string of partners that I could barely stand because I was fearful of being alone---I'm not.
I myself never wanted children, and raising someone else's is completely and utterly out of the question (it's amazing how many people don't get this). Sadly, I've had more than one woman that I've dated---that were quite attracted to me---eventually bail when they realized how adamant I was. We were all in our 20s at the time. I think that women who stick to their guns and reach their 30s and 40s are a good indicator if she's childless and wants to be that way, she'll probably stay that way. | |
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