| When someone points out that you're old..
Posted: 6/10/2008 11:45:58 AM | I understand what you are saying, but still think that there are many of us that have bridged the gap of age and how we approach it.
10 years is nothing in either direction for me if the one I am attracted to, holds my attention, we have that mutual attraction and chemistry, and we are in the same place at the same time, doing the same things....
The turning point, for me at least, is when they are young enough to be my child, or within the age range that my son is at. I have a hard time seeing someone that is my son's age in any way other than as a child or young adult, and nothing even close for a desire to date or know them as a relationship.
I may be "older", but I am far from "old", and I resent those that try to "pigeon hole" me into a specific group because of the number on my birth certificate. It is amazing to me how many times I am with others and all seems to be going just fine, then the age part comes up in some form, and attitudes totally change once known that I might be younger or older than they are......go figure....
Dating someone that is 10 to 15 years younger or older than I am, is a wonderful experience if neither seems to know or care about it, and both just enjoy the experience and each other...
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| When someone points out that you're old..
Posted: 6/10/2008 12:25:36 PM |
Dating someone that is 10 to 15 years younger or older than I am, is a wonderful experience if neither seems to know or care about it, and both just enjoy the experience and each other...
Only 15 years??????  | |
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| When someone points out that you're old..
Posted: 6/10/2008 2:40:28 PM | Charlie:
I read the reply above yours and do not feel the same as Vintage Babe.
. She is, of course, entitled to her thoughts and feelings, and I was trying to formulate my own for posting.
After reading your reply, there's no need for me to do so. We, once again, agree on another aspect of dating life. You've said it all, as far as my thoughts and feelings.
I never feel that anyone asking my age is being rude... My age has seldom been a turnoff for anyone interested in dating me. If it was, it would have served no purpose for us to even meet. At my age, there are very few around here who are my age or older, so, most of my dating is with younger men. Most of them tell me it doesn't matter.
I think VintageBabe may not have reached the stage of being old enough to find out that the years tend to meld and blend after awhile.
Normally, I am not out on a date with a gentleman if it has not already been established by correspondence and phone talk, that we have enough to say to each other, and enough interests in common, to venture out on a date.
Just yesterday was my first meet and greet with a gentleman 84 years old. Although he's a nice gentleman, I felt like I was out with my father....I will not blame the next man for my thoughts about this man, but I will keep my eyes and ears open for similarities. I truly believe that it was his personality and attitude, more than it was his AGE. (I must admit that I did wonder if he was able to drive in the dark...or even stay awake after 9pm?)
Just my thoughts,
Knittin Kitten
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| When someone points out that you're old..
Posted: 6/10/2008 4:12:47 PM | I have had this said to me too. But not on the dating sites.
I have said................If you consider my age old remember you are heading this way too and as the song goes... Don't Blink...... | |
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| When someone points out that you're old..
Posted: 6/10/2008 6:40:10 PM | | Why even care what some "immature child" says about my age. I am proud I have made it this far in life. It takes brains, cunning, desire, purpose, strength, compassion, adaptability, humor, love and luck among other things to come this far. Only time will tell if they have what it takes. Live fast, die young is for those to stupid to make it too old age. Just tell them, "yes I am old, my CHILD"! Gets 'em every-time. | |
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| When someone points out that you're old..
Posted: 6/10/2008 11:40:55 PM | .
First of all I think asking someone's age is Rude and no one's business unless you plan to enter into some type relationship with that person.
After 30 , When someone was Rude enough to ask My age , I answered "How Old Would You Like Me To Be?"
Asking age is rude? Wow! I never realized that. Ask my ancient mother how old she is and she says 96 and a half, with pride! Fact is, I’ve only had one woman friend who seemed ashamed of her age. I, of course, know her age, but humored her anyway.
Personally, I laugh when I meet a new gal in public and she cheats on her age. There was a time when I would simply say: “Whoops, you’re a little young for me, then” and walk away. Today, I just look at them and smile a little. After a little time, the number changes voluntarily.
Point is, after being a research physiologist for a couple decades, it’s not necessary for me to ask about age. I can already guess close enough. Also, when meeting someone new, the conversation often runs to where we grew up, what high school we attended and where we went to college. With local people, that usually nails the age thing down closely.
Nope, talking about someone’s age is not “rude” to me. Not at all. To me, it’s one part of who I am. If someone doesn’t like my age, they should go away. No skin off my nose.
If there is more than 10 years difference in two peoples age they are not going to be on the same page re: life.
Y’know, I felt that way once. Today, I’m not so sure. But, that’s just me. Because, based on my family heritage, I’m going to be very active for another twenty-some years. Can I find someone my age to come along for that ride? Maybe. But. . . .
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| When someone points out that you're old..
Posted: 6/11/2008 12:25:17 AM | This would be a good time to play a childs game
''The Bet
Like say Nah nah nah na
Bet my Dad knows more than your Dad !
Bet I have more money than you do "'bet I Have more sense than you do ''Bet I have more scars ''pain '' than you do '' LOL
Bet I 'm more experienced at sex than you are '''LOL
Bet I'm smarter than you are ...
Bet I been arround the Block more than you '''LOL
Bet you dont know a good person when you meet one !
Bet you cant fight your way out of a paper Bag ......... LOL
Bet I got more grankids than you !
Bet I 'm not as confused or mixed up as you !!!!!!
Younger
people can be cruel
ya just never know what s gonna roll off them tongues & in
reality they
probably dont know ither
TA DA
Being older Rocks !
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| When someone points out that you're old..
Posted: 6/11/2008 7:15:15 AM | | I, personally, do not understand why anyone would not tell their age. If you lie about your age, you are still just that old, you do not really become younger. I am 57 and most people say that I pass for late 40's. I would hate to have to explain how I have a child that is 38 years old if I am telling that I am that young. It also makes me feel good that some would say "She looks good for that age" instead of "She sure looks bad to be so young". I have a lot of life experiences and am proud of them all. | |
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| When someone points out that you're old..
Posted: 6/11/2008 7:59:31 AM | I would suggest that the OP hang out in places where age and wisdom are valued. In my karate dojo, for example, we "elders" are respected and honored, not just for our martial arts prowess, but for our years of life experience.
Just like one's religion, faith and belief in self cannot be shaken when it is strong and true...and that usually takes years to develop. | |
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| When someone points out that you're old..
Posted: 6/11/2008 1:01:41 PM | Hi there dbndon:
Nice to read your words....it's been awhile since I've caught up to one of your posts...
As usual, I like what you have to say.
Didn't I see a new pic? Am I getting OLD? or do you change them around????
Fondly,
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| When someone points out that you're old..
Posted: 6/11/2008 3:06:05 PM | Tell them you didn't know that and ask if they needed to tell you that because you didn't know or because they hadn't grown up yet.
My Mother is 99. She always says, Don't Get Old. I tell her it's the better alternative. | |
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| When someone points out that you're old..
Posted: 6/11/2008 4:27:32 PM | I will admit my age of 62 and say I am doing very well! And wish to
meet a nice lady maybe even older than myself. I just want to find a
nice lady, that's why we are here isn't it? Have a great evening folks! | |
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Posted: 6/12/2008 5:49:49 PM | Every once in a while I will have a younger person, usually women in their mid-20s who I am NOT trying to pick-up, say to me "You're old". It happened here on POF. I was debating someone in the forums when a girl in her late 20s not liking what I was saying started calling me "Old man". How do you respond to something like this?
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You respond with something like
"Although your bloated ego may well find this inconcevible little girl, I was NOT, trying to pick you up"
Young women are totally convinced that ALL men are trying to pick them up all the time. | |
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| When someone points out that you're old..
Posted: 6/15/2008 11:52:56 AM | hell I am old..and actually I've lived longer at 55 and 9 months thatn the last 8 males in my family. So heck yes i'm proud of being alive still..:) and hey my bp is still 110/80!
It does astound me that a majority of over 50 women pof profiles seem to opt for 35-45 males and I get atleast 2 emails daily from 40-50 yr old women. I don't date younger than 50 for many reasons, they think there was one woodstock..they still have kids living at home, I'm not their father and don't want to play one, I'd like to be able to talk one on one with someone wo remembers the 50s and 60s and were out of diapers but that is a whole nother forum topic..
So what's wrong with being in the older age group? I like the image of maturity, experience and survival of my crazy youth! I will say the funerals of my parents, my siblings and first cousins were the most difficult times I've yet endured..
So..in closing, I wish you all a long life, keep your inner child enthusiasm for life and be content in the knowledge you are only here for a relatively short time.
When someone says.."hey you are old!" say hell yea!..and dam proud to be!
Dusty
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| When someone points out that you're old..
Posted: 6/15/2008 1:35:49 PM | When I was about 10, my next door neighbor (who was like "Dad #2) said "You'll never be as wise as me." At the time, I thought "yes I will!" because I was thinking I was as smart or smarter than him already!
As I've grown older, I've grown wiser! Now I understand that he meant that he'd always be older than me, have experienced more than me (in some areas!) so he'd always be ahead of me in the wisdom department!
I tell my kids the same thing now - but I also explain what that means. I get to share my life's experiences with them so, hopefully, they can avoid the rough stuff.
I guess all that is just to say "Older is wiser!" | |
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| When someone points out that you're old..
Posted: 6/15/2008 4:41:42 PM | My first day at church in Bucheon, Korea, a middle-aged man walked up to me, introduced himself, and gushed, "I am so happy to have someone here old like me!"
I still smile when I think about it. I knew what he meant. Most of the congregation was kids fresh out of college. They were really sweet kids, but sometimes you want to be around an age-mate. (And on my last Sunday, he shook my hand again and again and said, "Don't go! This is your home!" He's such a sweet guy.) | |
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Posted: 6/15/2008 5:13:35 PM | | The first time that I had it pointed out that I was old, it sort of took me aback. I had been a nurse for a long time and was now 52 years old. For years I had worked in a Clinic in Dallas for senior citizens (to them I was just a young thing), and my co-workers were about my same age. My SO of many years was my age and so were our friends. After our separation, I moved back to my hometown to be near my grown children and went to work in a hospital for the first time in many years. My first day on the job, a nurse came out of the ICU and walked up to me and told me her name and said "So you are an old nurse too. How many years have you been nursing?" I told her that I had for nearly 33 years and she stated that she had for 29 and I found out that she was 2 years younger than me. I was the oldest nuse in the hospital and I had become a nurse before most of the other nurses working that day were born. I also found that when family members were looking for the nurse in charge to tell of a problem, they came straight to me. I had to be in charge, I was the oldest one there. It was also pointed out by someone that none of the other nurses had ever had to wear a cap, white nurse's uniforms (dresses no less) and that I had worked before dopplers and fetal heart monitors, CT scans and MRI's. I was a regular dinasouar. Never before that experience had I ever felt old in the least. It was a real eye-opener. I have since retired but my oldest sister is 62 years old, an RN since 1971 and still puts in 12 hour days. She is also considered a prehistoric nurse and says that she went to school with Clara Barton. She has decided to retire also and is now counting the weeks to the date. | |
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| When someone points out that you're old..
Posted: 6/16/2008 2:45:10 AM |
I always reply with something like "that's right, I old enough to have had every thought you've ever had at least 5 times. So, just give up on getting the best of me. I eat kids like you for breakfast"
What a great answer, and one I'll take pleasure in using on my kids when they start giving me attitude, although I did have to put number one son in his place once, when he pointed out 'the bleedin' obvious' by saying I was almost bald. I replied,'baldness is hereditary old son, I started losing mine at about age 30, as did my father, as will YOU!' | |
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| When someone points out that you're old..
Posted: 6/16/2008 6:35:07 AM | Now this is a good one!
I have a t-shirt that says "old enough to know better, young enough to do it again!" I'd like to get that on a t-shirt also!
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| When someone points out that you're old..
Posted: 6/16/2008 11:43:48 AM | | Have you been speaking to my 10 year old? She is happy to inform you that you are too old to have fun, you walk like a duck or have a very large head. Needless to say myself, my father and my mother really love the little imp despite our flaws. | |
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