| Men Who've Passed Their Expiration Date
Posted: 4/19/2008 8:59:21 AM |
Just popped out and found this message from an English 38 yr old:
Think it is self explantory,
"Yes my home exercise regime works marveloussly regular shuttle runs to the fridge to get the next can of lager and extensive finger workouts with the remote
Gorgeous G..... xxx"
He is up for serious relationships
Well, thats his norm, and maybe there is a woman that would fit for him..... But here is a PRIME example of my earlier post....
Hey guys, I have to say, you are really missing out. Loz is one of my best friends and a soulmate for life. She is a wonderful kind and very caring lady. I have no doubt some lucky guy shall be sweeping her off her feet in the near future. Anote for Loz love you to bits lady, be good but if the guys are not kick ass babes xxx
be good but if the guys are not kick ass babes xxx
What would I REALLY be missing out of? Why does the "guy" have to be a kick ass babe? If you get to have that kick ass babe, why cant I?? | |
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| Men Who've Passed Their Expiration Date
Posted: 4/19/2008 10:01:03 AM |
Blimey I didn't write that - it is a testimonial from a friend, ask her why she wrote it.
Hiding under table, peeping out
Get out from under the table... No worries.. Just illustrating a point is all.
If your friends are pointing out that you need a "kick ass babe" Then why is it so bad for a man to have one?? | |
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| Men Who've Passed Their Expiration Date
Posted: 4/19/2008 10:24:50 AM | Personal preference aside, any man your age, instead of a happy go lucky woman on his arm, would be trading that in for an apparently bitter old one.
No, he'd have a strong, smart,funny and wise woman STANDING BY HIS SIDE. One who neither talks bull nor steps in it, except for occasions of humor...
No, according to your previous posts, men go for younger women because they want to avoid committment That isn't what this thread started out being about! It STARTED OUT being about older guys looking for younger women to COMMIT to and father children with,and whether or not that objective is unrealistic.
No, it's NOT unrealistic,IMHO. There ARE young women looking for "sugar daddy" relationships( that to my thinking would be the HEALTHY side of the coin) and young women looking for the attention from her REAL male parent that she never got( to me, that seems a little bit creepy,but no matter)
Even if it WAS unrealistic, it wouldn't matter to me. I don't want to be some guys' "settled for" 2nd choice, or a guy who is STILL confused over whether or not he wants to be a father. ( or start a 2nd family)
Wow, with criteria like that.... I hope you packed a lunch.. its gonna be a while.
I'm fine with that. I don't need to be on a man's arm to be a valid human being. There is no " he's not much but he'll have to do" relationship in my future.
I would rather have a single life, enjoying myself, with the occasional young flighty chick... than what you discribed... yuck!
So what is it you have the problem with? That I don't much care to get married again? That I don't much care to live in the same house with a man 24/7,52 weeks a year? That I can give, but also expect to GET, a certain degree of autonomy and respect for personal space ?
That I DO want committment, emotional support,romance, companionship and sex?
How is that a "yuck"? Did you misread part of my post?
And back to the OP( anybody remember HER)
Hon, just overlook the males who are chasing the young things because they want a broodmare. Pitching a bitch on an internet forum isn't going to make them rethink their dating goals. Do you really want to be with a guy because he's given up on getting what he wants? I know I don't.
Cindy O | |
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| Men Who've Passed Their Expiration Date
Posted: 4/19/2008 10:43:11 AM |
If your friends are pointing out that you need a "kick ass babe" Then why is it so bad for a man to have one?
This could just be a miscommunication..but,the way I read that was...be good..if the guys are not ( good)..kick ass babe ( nickname for loz?) ( comma after ass?) | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 10:50:24 AM |
This could just be a miscommunication..but,the way I read that was...be good..if the guys are not ( good)..kick ass babe ( nickname for loz?) ( comma after ass?)
ROFL...... Its very possible! I believe that would be an excellent reason for PUNCTUATION! ROFL!!
None the less..... its all good!
No, according to your previous posts, men go for younger women because they want to avoid committment That isn't what this thread started out being about! It STARTED OUT being about older guys looking for younger women to COMMIT to and father children with,and whether or not that objective is unrealistic.
Oh? Really? I dont recall saying anything like that.... If that is what you got from my posts, then you should have said something earlier..... if its something YOU read INTO my posts.... you should Re-Read them. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 12:23:11 PM |
Oh? Really? I dont recall saying anything like that.... If that is what you got from my posts, then you should have said something earlier..... if its something YOU read INTO my posts.... you should Re-Read them.
I did, and the overview that I perceive is a resentful attitude towards women who had children with "jerkweeds" and now are divorced and looking for guys like yourself, who have a job, take care of their responsibilities,pay their bills,etc to be 'daddy' in place of the now-banished "jerkweed".
That ISN'Tt what the OT was about. It was about older men who had spent their younger years having a good time and kicking the world's ass, while NOT spending time and effort to be a biological parent,and now they are trying to find young women to have children with. It was not about women with kids AND menopause-induced psychosis looking for men to take care of them and their kids by some "jerkweed". That may indeed be YOUR issue,but it wasn't the issue posted in the OT.
For the record,referring directly to the TRUE OT, I do not much care about the OPs resentment of men she sees as being not only unrealistic, but of trying to have their cake and eat it too. They got to have fun and have the world by the tail when they were young, and now here they are ignoring women their own age to run after women young enough to reasonably bear and raise their children. Boo-f*ckin'-hoo. Show me where the law is written down that says people MUST be "realistic" in matters of the heart.
The "older man seeking younger woman for childbearing", who are in reasonably good shape, and that can offer financial comfort, will find what they seek. The brokeass sick ones will have a considerably harder time. Not an "impossible" time, just a considerably harder one.
Some of these "2nd tier" men will genuinely have an epiphany, ( or just plain give up lol)and come to terms with the fact they missed the fatherhood boat,thereby allowing themselves to seek a relationship with women their own age. Some never will, and will die alone or in a last ditch "settling" relationship. None of this is any skin off MY ass.
I don't care about numbers. Having a couple hundred "unrealistic" men," shamed into letting go of their dream by SOMEONE ELSE'S comments and opinions,added to my "pool" of prospects, is NOTmy idea of a big thrill.
I seek a relationship with a man who knows who he is and what he wants, and who makes his decisions from his OWN experience and observation, not the resentments of other people.
Cindy O | |
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| Men Who've Passed Their Expiration Date
Posted: 4/19/2008 2:55:16 PM | Hey, kids, just thought I would pop in and make a little cameo. I see the post is doing just fine without me, so I shall leave quietly and leave it unspoiled for others.
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Posted: 4/19/2008 2:59:52 PM | Ladyc4, "I enjoyed reading your response to this thread"...I agree...Some of us older guys (over 40) have already raised kids, are firmly set in our careers, played the field enough and are able to look at the world realistically...
I find it amusing this thread was started by a woman older than I, while the aging clock is ticking away...She gripes about men that want kids because they have exhausted their youth into waste and stupidity...WHO IS SHE TO JUDGE ANYHOW?..Who cares?
Ive seen both male and female make mistakes while in their 20s and 30s...After years of mistakes, the light goes on and these same people wake up...If an over 40s guy or gal want a chance at happiness, "they deserve it, Dont they"?...This idea that a time clock is placed on someone because age is stupid...In this society the 40s and above age has shown clearly they are a strong force... | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 4:54:47 PM |
ROFLMAO.... Woo hooo... What a diatribe there Cindy O... Keep it up!!!
Let me make this REAL simple.
Over 40 men looking for young women to have families with, OK by me.
Men who've decided that women over 40 are menopausal man haters...fine. Misinformation is as good an excuse as any, I guess.
People who concern themselves with MY relationship status need to get lives.
Cindy O | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 5:22:58 PM | Old men chasing young women: A good thing
It turns out that older men chasing younger women contributes to human longevity and the survival of the species, according to new findings by researchers at Stanford and the University of California-Santa Barbara.
Evolutionary theory says that individuals should die of old age when their reproductive lives are complete, generally by age 55 in humans, according to demographer Cedric Puleston, a doctoral candidate in biological sciences at Stanford. But the fatherhood of a small number of older men is enough to postpone the date with death because natural selection fights life-shortening mutations until the species is finished reproducing.
www.scienceblog.com/cms/old-men-chasing-young-women-good-thing-14203.html
Unrealisitic...perhaps. But still a good thing..lol | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 5:33:05 PM | I dont recall being interested in your relationship status..... You offered what you are looking for... I just feel bad for the guy that takes you up on it!
but keep going!!!!
LOL! | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 5:36:17 PM | I have avoided this thread, but I see it is still going so I guess I'll chime in, since I'm trying to blow some time right now anyway. I get the gist of what the OP may be getting at, that a lot of young people act as if they aren't going to ever age and then by the time they realize that they have, it's about 5 years after the rest of the world has realized it. That applies equally to men and women, though only men envision themselves starting their first families in their 50s.
I don't think it is impossible for older men or women to find quality partners, but I do think it gets less and less likely you will find certain types of partners as time goes by. The question is, are those the partners you want anyway and also how lucky do you personally feel?
For example, I think unless a man in his 50s has a lot of money, decent looks, and a number of good personality attributes he is very unlikely to find a woman in her twenties who is fit, attractive, financially responsible, intelligent, kind, affectionate, emotionally healthy and able to really be a supportive partner to him in life. But if all he wants is a baby maker to have sex with when he needs it, clean the house and cook for him and the kids, and sit beside him each night while they watch TV together, nodding her head to everything he says, well he can easily find such a woman in any trailer park or third world country.
Sure he runs some risk that she will someday leave him and sink him into a child support and alimony financial pit, but anyone who gets married and has kids runs that risk. I don't think it's an increased risk, though the child support payments would be larger if she is a homemaker instead of a career woman, and there would generally be no alimony to a woman whose career can support her.
I could give examples from the woman's side too, but don't want this to be a ridiculously long post. Bottom line, people learn what is important to them in life when they do, and it does no good to say, "well you should have thought ahead" when the nature of being in one's twenties is that there is a tendency NOT to think ahead. So then you sort out what matters to you most when the chips are down and hopefully you find at least that. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 5:53:02 PM |  Life is what it is, WE ALL MAY EXPIRE TOMARROW, But dose that mean that we should all be in Morning today ???
 Who is past their Prime, Wisdome comes only with age, the older man requires the younger woman, only because Older Women Lack his Vision... | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 5:58:57 PM |
I dont recall being interested in your relationship status.....
and I don't recall mentioning YOUR name.
You offered what you are looking for
No I stated what my ideal relationship would be like. It wasn't an offer and I'm not so much "looking for" , more like being where I can be found.
"The guy who takes me up on it" will think he died and went to Heaven. Your sympathy will be about as much impact as a fart in a hurricane
Cindy O | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 6:11:27 PM | Heidi6626...Wow, the OP made a grand appearance, then slithered out"...ahhhhhhh ...I guess I made my point...Now, Id better slither out... ..Old woman, anyhow.. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 6:21:57 PM | Racer256, why the continued snide comments, rude remarks and insults?
You say you are in the Forums to have fun....if this IS your idea of fun, this worries me.
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Posted: 4/19/2008 6:37:15 PM | | I know a guy that I had huge crush on for a long long time.....we dated every now and then and I always wanted "more" with him, but came to realize that he just did not want to settle down with anyone....He is same age as me and will soon be approaching 40....he is starting to age some....and I've wondered will he ever settle and marry someone...I suspect if he ever wants children he will have to marry someone younger than himself b/c afer he approaches 40 if he dates anyone his own age or older possibility of having kids gets limited in some situations...I wonder will the ladies start to view him as expired...b/c he was starting to age... | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 8:21:06 PM | | It truly seems unfortunate that men and women are in such unbalanced situations regarding having children later in life. Medically, from a childbearing point of view, the risks after thirty increase for women dramatically for all sorts of problems. Men, in this specific regard, face very few up-front risks. Perhaps this also is a reason,(albeit perhaps a shaky one) OP, that men sometimes wait so long, then select younger women at such a late time in life. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 8:25:34 PM | | heidi6626, "I apologize"..Your right we should be here to have fun...Sorry...The thread has worn thin...Sorry again, I meant no disrespect... | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 6:43:29 AM |
I dont recall being interested in your relationship status..... and I don't recall mentioning YOUR name.
Ohhhh... I do appologize there Cindy O... I misunderstood, since you quoted me, I thought you were directing your diatribe towards me....
No I stated what my ideal relationship would be like. It wasn't an offer and I'm not so much "looking for" , more like being where I can be found. The guy who takes me up on it" will think he died and went to Heaven. Your sympathy will be about as much impact as a fart in a hurricane
And buzzards have their way of finding a free meal as well... The jury is still out on the "heaven" part though, had it been all that, you would probably still be attached to your previous S.O. ...... Glad to know it!
As for the Fart in a Hurricane.... LOL!! That was good!! | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 7:37:19 AM | what i find humorous and sad is this..
these playboys did alot of womanizing without thought to the woman's mental/emotional faculties while in thier(men)budding years...
now they are single and whine about why they cant find a good woman, or think they are just so good they cant understand why they cant find someone suitable to them.
take what i said in the opening of this post and compound it on a broader scale, like the internet/passing of time allows. ...and now it becomes pretty obvious why these types of men cant find someone for a serious relationship..you play,you pay.... | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 7:48:03 AM |
what i find humorous and sad is this..
these playboys did alot of womanizing without thought to the woman's mental/emotional faculties while in thier(men)budding years...
now they are single and whine about why they cant find a good woman, or think they are just so good they cant understand why they cant find someone suitable to them.
take what i said in the opening of this post and compound it on a broader scale, like the internet/passing of time allows. ...and now it becomes pretty obvious why these types of men cant find someone for a serious relationship..you play,you pay....
You play, You pay... So then why are YOU still single? | |
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