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| Can you make love to someone you are not in love with?
Posted: 5/27/2008 3:22:06 PM | No one will ever agree on the answer to this question! So just to weigh on the side I support I will give my opinion which is just that....mine!
When the sex is sensual and romantic, candles lit, soft music playing and its all about looking in each others eyes and feeling his breath and moving with the rhythym of their body, then I call that making love. Can you do that with someone you don't love? Yes, but is it far more intense when you do love the person you are with? Absolutely.
Then there is having sex. Rough, playful, kinky,role playing, hardcore, whatever your mood of the night is, that doesn't require emotion just.....motion! However, if you are with someone you love then the trust is higher so it may also be more intense because you feel safe to explore boundaries together.
Best of both worlds? Find someone who likes all of the above! | |
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| Can you make love to someone you are not in love with?
Posted: 5/28/2008 4:33:09 PM | are you even serious, oh the **stardization of the word love. it has a hard enough time in the english language with it's limited scope to deal with "IN, TO, or WITH."
no you can not have love with out love {for love is of love}, intercourse w/out love is sex, you can have tender, gentle, or what ever other classification you want. and sex w/out emotions is f_cking and do not try to get all hollywood or trash romance novel about it either. people and their damn justifications. why try to complicate a topic that is already complicated. i do not think i need to tell you what sex is and is not, what is has been perverted into "you people are grown arse people, do you not kn ow the difference bewteen black, gray, and white?'
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| Can you make love to someone you are not in love with?
Posted: 5/28/2008 5:05:10 PM | All i can say is, as for me, I was always the odd ball when it came to sex. Even when i was in my late teens and early twenty's i wasn't like a lot of the guys i knew. Back in the late 70's and early 80's before aids got so bad my guy friends thought i was crazy because i wasn't like them. If they could get it they took it without a second thought about not having any feelings for the woman. So for me if there are no feelings involved then it is just fu$%#&G and that never was for me. In other words, Simply put, If i have no feelings for her it ain't gonna happen.  | |
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| Can you make love to someone you are not in love with?
Posted: 5/28/2008 5:28:33 PM |
oh the **stardization of the word love.
the word in question is "B A stardization" did not know that was a bad word, i wonder what makes a "B A stard" cause i have been one all my life. but it's good company if you ask me. | |
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| Can you make love to someone you are not in love with?
Posted: 5/28/2008 6:07:47 PM | | Some folks use “making love” as a euphemism for sex, but sex does not equate to love. You could poop in my mouth and called it a cream puff, but that doesn’t make it a confection worthy of Sara Lee. Call it what you like, but for me, in order to truly make love you need the key ingredient: l-o-v-e. | |
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| Can you make love to someone you are not in love with?
Posted: 5/28/2008 6:44:18 PM | I have to say that you are sooo funny. It's too bad that we don't live closer together. I would love to meet you. I'm a bit of an off the wall person too. Life is to be enjoyed, not dreaded. Humor is the heart of life.
Jack | |
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| Can you make love to someone you are not in love with?
Posted: 5/28/2008 7:01:26 PM | The onset of infatuation makes you "feel" in love. So the sex is "making love"
The course of the relationship can go stale, or even bad. Then the sex is "something to do"
You hope that the picnic will always be sunny, but it's not. And often, after a good storm, the "make up sex" can feel like you're "in love" again.
What a crock. Animals are we.
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| Can you make love to someone you are not in love with?
Posted: 5/29/2008 7:21:00 AM |
Some folks use “making love” as a euphemism for sex, but sex does not equate to love.
Yes, It's hard to believe that some folks still think that getting your rocks off and having sex means your in love or might be in love with said person or persons.
Sex is good and can be the icing on the cake but it can't hold a candle for being in love with someone.
Being in love is the greatest high if you dare allow yourself to go there. ~smile~ | |
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| Can you make love to someone you are not in love with?
Posted: 5/29/2008 8:18:25 AM | I think many people are not in love with Mr. Hand or Ms. Rabbit. Is that what you mean?
I'm always confused when someone calls it "making love" when they're talking about sex. Isn't love expressed by being kind and gentle and making sacrifices and sharing your life in that way with someone?
Wouldn't one who loves someone have sex with them in that same way?
What's wrong with calling it "having sex"?
The very term is confusing. It's like a 1950s movie when the camera would leave the lovers and pan out to the moon and go dark or something... Naive... inhibited... constrained sexuality.
I would think anyone who needs to use this term has an issue about anal retentiveness... | |
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| Can you make love to someone you are not in love with?
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:12:35 PM | | Sex is sex ;unless, yes your in love with someone ;then, it's making love. Now sex can be hot, intense, passionate depending on what happens during the act. I don't know I can't have sex with someone that I'm not attracted to, that I don't like.... | |
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| Can you make love to someone you are not in love with?
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:15:18 PM | | Sex is sex ;unless, yes your in love with someone ;then, it's making love. Now sex can be hot, intense, passionate depending on what happens during the act. I don't know I can't have sex with someone that I'm not attracted to, that I don't like.... | |
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| Can you make love to someone you are not in love with?
Posted: 5/31/2008 8:36:33 PM | | i am in agreement here. i had an fwb that we had a great sex and other life together but i did not love her b ut had very strong feelings for her--i cared about her very much but i just did not truly love her or want to marry her. | |
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| Can you make love to someone you are not in love with?
Posted: 6/1/2008 10:16:00 AM | | Aargh everybodys so dumb. Read the question and its easy to answer..making love as it implies is having a sexual experience with someone you love. Having sex is for people you fancy, lust after, have drunk too much or whatever. Its not rocket science, but all continue to perceive the question as you will. The question should be can you have sex with someone you dont love? Im sure weve all done it, but i for one know i never want to again , as there's nothing to gain from in for me anymore..its totally pointless..i cant relax and enjoy myself with someone i dont love unless i'm drunk and then theres the chance i would have my beer goggles on or not be careful so i avoid that whole thing!. Love everytime baby! | |
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| Can you make love to someone you are not in love with?
Posted: 6/1/2008 12:33:34 PM | you should ask like this "can you have sex with someone you are not in love with ?"
coz in my opinion .. make love is between two persons they are in love with each other
have sex is between two persons they are not in love with each other ..
well i was around 18 yrd 19 yrd yup i did sex with someone i was not in love with coz that moment i was not looking for love
but right now i found out here are more interesting things than just have sex with someone i dont love ..i just wanna make love with someone i love ..no more play with sex . | |
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