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| Can you make love to someone you are not in love with?
Posted: 6/1/2008 4:14:17 PM | No. I used to be able to have sex with people I didnt care about. But, I can't even do that anymore. And I definitely can't make love to anyone I dont love.
Besides, it's so much better when you're in love with someone anyways. My boyfriend and I have been together over a year, and it's the best I've EVER had. And I believe thats because I love him, he's honestly the only man I've ever really, really loved. He's the only man I havent gotten bored with, and the only man I've wanted to have sex with for more than the first three months.
Caring for someone=much better sex, at least in my book. | |
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| Can you make love to someone you are not in love with?
Posted: 6/9/2008 8:53:16 PM | | ^^^^^ So very right. It doesn't even take 3 months for it to really register. But oftentimes, we are hopelessly desiring more than can ever be with less. Shortchanging ourselves over hope is retarded, but I know, I've done it - and I know they've done it too. What a shame. Congratulations to you both. | |
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| Can you make love to someone you are not in love with?
Posted: 6/15/2008 6:31:58 AM | IMHO, no. I believe you can make love to a person without being IN love with that person. That being said, notice I said make love TO someone, not WITH someone. There is a difference.
You cannot make love TO a person , you can only sex them if not in love with them. The difference between sex and lovemaking is FEELINGS. without those feelings u need there is no lovemaking. if u ever go to bed with someone u dont love and then go to bed with someone u do love...you will see a huge difference. its not what u do in bed that makes it lovemaking or sex its how u feel about the person. the act is the same but the feelings are so much differnt. | |
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| Can you make love to someone you are not in love with?
Posted: 6/15/2008 1:22:25 PM | I think CarlisleMan is right.
But an interesting related question is, how good is the sex for the woman in sex vs. love--if her partner is either not in love or not making love? A quote from PhD sex therapist Ian Kerner suggests that women are more likely to have orgasms in lovemaking than sex, "From a purely orgasmic point of view, women in relationships fare far better than single women. " (_Be Honest--You're Not That Into Him Either: Raise Your Standards and Reach for the Love You Deserve_ p. 20)
OP, do you have in mind certain types of sexual activities that you would only do within lovemaking--or are you just asking about the affective state of the people doing the same activities? | |
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| Can you make love to someone you are not in love with?
Posted: 6/15/2008 1:56:58 PM | | sex is just that sex..making love to or with someone is entirely different, there is more emotions flowing, more real passion, you are more in tune with that other person and you want to please them on every level. you want to take your time exploring, touching, tasting. sex again is just that. | |
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| Can you make love to someone you are not in love with?
Posted: 6/15/2008 5:12:27 PM | I think you can...
Having sex, is about your body, your senses, your physical desire.
If you add your soul, your creativity, your feelings, etc., it is not more "having sex", but "making love". The whole person is there...And you don't have to be IN love to be whith someone that way.
IMHO, ; )
*for sure, in "having sex" you put also some soul (?), and in "making love" you have a big part of pure physical desire, but I guess it is a question of proportion to call it having sex or making love,  | |
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| Can you make love to someone you are not in love with?
Posted: 6/15/2008 5:20:26 PM | We all know that sex doesnt require love. You see the effects of that with all these babies that dont know their fathers. Sex involves lust and making love involves "love and caring"........Hey this may sound corny, but I never claimed to be Dear Abby!  | |
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| Can you make love to someone you are not in love with?
Posted: 6/15/2008 5:52:20 PM | I think this is the stupidest question ever posed in a forum. Sorry. it's just so dumb in so many ways. It's just semantics. "Making Love" might mean the same thing to you emotionally as "having sex" does to me. You think I want my disgusting ex-wife to tell me, "I "had sex" with that guy but when I was with you, forget about it, I was making love!"
F.U. don't be so stupid. | |
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| Can you make love to someone you are not in love with?
Posted: 6/15/2008 6:16:30 PM | well on a lighter note, to me in my wild child days- i still wouldnt have sex with a man who i didnt think enough of to lend my car to,probably some goofy since of honor- if i would let him touch me and wouldnt trust him to run go get us another 6pk, in my mind that was using ignorant judgement ....then i grew up and found out making love,with trust made sex so much more intense and wild---you can still bet if i will lend you my car i would make love to you(LOL)
had a truck for a few years now, and nobody drives it but me | |
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| Can you make love to someone you are not in love with?
Posted: 6/15/2008 6:28:52 PM | | I believe you can have sex with someone and make it caring and gentle but as for making love to someone (which ive never ever done!) i think that you have to be in love otherwise its sex lol x | |
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| Can you make love to someone you are not in love with?
Posted: 6/15/2008 9:28:34 PM | Hi ,
You are not wrong .
You can make love to some one not with WITH someone .
So rather making love to someone to whom you wanted to make love , one should make love to someone who really loves to you . | |
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| Can you make love to someone you are not in love with?
Posted: 6/16/2008 8:25:13 PM | Yes -- Without a doubt.
One can easily make love to a female WITHOUT being in love with her.
Women may protest but -- making love is an art form.
Knowing excatly how & where to touch, how to set the ambiance, etc....
Casanova is the perfect example of an idividual studying the art of making love without investing emotional baggage into the mix.
And as opposed to popular believe that is not F***ing!
It's making love without having strings or rings attached. | |
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