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| why are MEN over 40 so desperate to get married??
Posted: 7/15/2008 4:04:38 PM | statistics show -
Single women without children are the happiest and live longer than married women with children.
Married men are the happiest and live longer than single men.
Single men are the unhappiest and generally die before married men
Married women with children are the unhappiest and generally die before single women.
Married people without children are the most satisified with their relationship. | |
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| why are MEN over 40 so desperate to get married??
Posted: 7/15/2008 9:10:27 PM | why are MEN over 40 so desperate to get married??
As a man WELL over 40, I don't feel desperate to be married...
I would deeply value a long-term relationship, fully committed, and exclusive...
but "marriage" brings into the mix some other things.
I have some debts that should not be burdened on to the love of my life, and a legal marriage will do that.
Pre-nupts or not, if you are in hock...so will be the one you leave everything else to!
That's my main fear of marriage....what I might be committing my partner to..other than just love and respect. | |
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| why are MEN over 40 so desperate to get married??
Posted: 10/23/2009 10:18:00 AM | Lately I am meeting men who want to close the deal right away ! instantly !!
I am not sure what this is all about, but it seems to me there are a lot of really desperate men out there.
I think getting to know each other makes more sense,  | |
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| why are MEN over 40 so desperate to get married??
Posted: 10/24/2009 1:49:55 PM | I know for myself that marriage (married once already),is so far away in my mind that the hubble telescope couldn't even find it.
But I do know some men that are this way,poor **stards! | |
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| why are MEN over 40 so desperate to get married??
Posted: 10/24/2009 2:40:43 PM | | Men need women more in later years. They need a nurse maid, a mommy, a housekeeper, so they can toddle around and druel everywhere and know that somebody is cleaning up after them. However, women need to know that the bills will be paid while she's mopping up the bathroom floor after he 'miscalculated' his middle of the night pee pee. So it's a wash. LOL | |
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| why are MEN over 40 so desperate to get married??
Posted: 10/24/2009 2:49:13 PM | well...methinks the men of desperation become so as they sense the autumn years getting more near and their relationship dream getting further from.
i am inclinded to agree that women need men less in this (short) period than vice versa.
and i am inclined to agree that once over 40 she is much less marriage oriented...
by some rest enjoyments she may be experiencing now that her children are more mature and the peace and freedom from any marital conflict or turmoils. and she may have all but given up trying to agree on very much...and now enjoys the company of like minded women or others which give some peace to her and support in her confusions from relationships prior...
the path to security do not always come easy or be equal but she is fortunate in these times to have gained some security by her new relationship to bigger of gov[t and corp. or inheritance(s). more over than what some risks and losses were to they whom yet try for relationship openness and honesties...rather than keep a confusion ..judgement or false grudge for purposes to serve social status.
sign this...
not desperate for marriage but would enjoy gentle intelligent company with also purpose to re build or re create.
and i do hope and wish that any would have peace time. | |
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| why are MEN over 40 so desperate to get married??
Posted: 10/25/2009 11:15:48 AM |
Men need women more in later years. They need a nurse maid, a mommy, a housekeeper, so they can toddle around and druel everywhere and know that somebody is cleaning up after them. However, women need to know that the bills will be paid while she's mopping up the bathroom floor after he 'miscalculated' his middle of the night pee pee. So it's a wash.
Wow, now you're portraying women as helpless and dependant,,,
I've been defending in you in emails with someone, saying you're just spewing the anti-male crap as a pseudo challenge to see if a man can prove to you that we're not all that you say we are,,,
I stand corrected,,,
you have no respect for men or women,,,
-owes my opponent a dinner- | |
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| why are MEN over 40 so desperate to get married??
Posted: 10/25/2009 1:17:09 PM | "Which leads me to my final theory...Men need women a heckuva lot more than women need men,especially in later years!
Who's with me on this one? If not,why not?"
Well I'm sure as hell not! Are you serious? No one hand me the line about how married men are happier and live longer than single men either. Most married men around my age will be lucky if they make it to 65. I know ones 10 years younger that will be lucky to make it to my age.
My next door neighbor has been married over 35 years. He cannot even walk down the end of the block. Another neighbor guy is 62, had a stroke already and is completely blind in one eye and takes blood pressure medication. Another neighbor guy on the next block is 8 years younger than myself. He walks with a permanent hunch back and has a morphine bag implanted. One of my closest friends in Colorado (age 61) has failing kidneys and spends most of his time in and out of VA hospitals.
Ya know now that I think about it the OP is right with regards to men needing women more especially in the later years. Shit they will all need a live in nurse, the married ones that is. | |
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| why are MEN over 40 so desperate to get married??
Posted: 10/25/2009 3:26:42 PM | ^^^^I'm in agreement with your synopsis on single men living longer, but that's only if said men have an ambition/purpose that fuels their day with passion and enthusiasm.
Without which, they fall right back into primal instincts of running after skirts.
Many men in your age have eclipsed the turgid desire for sex, and channel said energy for life-quality pursuits, which might be a factor in why single men live longer.
Married men tend to get bogged down/stressed, if their spouse is not both inspiring and supportive, leading many to suffer mental, emotional and physical hardships leading to an early grave.
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| why are MEN over 40 so desperate to get married??
Posted: 10/25/2009 3:35:58 PM |
No one hand me the line about how married men are happier and live longer than single men either.
it's NOT a line - there are hundreds of studies showing this. i double-dog dare you to find ONE that proves *your* theory!
it's also quite obvious that YOU will most likely be a miserable old single man given the attitudes you express here over and over and over again. | |
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| why are MEN over 40 so desperate to get married??
Posted: 10/25/2009 4:18:48 PM | I agree with juniper -~ they're just looking for someone who knows how to work the vacuum cleaner. If you can wear the ex's clothes, so much the better.
FAIL
Whoever's been washing your socks to this point can go right on doing it.
I'm not interested in your whole dreary life, just the fun part
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| why are MEN over 40 so desperate to get married??
Posted: 10/25/2009 4:28:52 PM | I've been wanting to get married again for the exercise.
You know...
jumping to conclusions, flying off the handle, dodging responsibilities, bending the rules, running down everything, circulating rumors, passing the buck, stirring up trouble, shooting the bull, digging up dirt, slinging mud, throwing my weight around, beating the system, ...... pushing my luck. .... | |
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| why are MEN over 40 so desperate to get married??
Posted: 10/25/2009 5:24:20 PM | Ref. Msg. no. 240
That is brilliant bro, I really mean that and the first part describes me to a T.
DB , you are wrong, wrong,wrong dear. I will die a happily coupled old man and will live to be well over 100 and in excellent health. My SO will be a rich widow and she will have years of happy memories with me. Then when she goes she will join me and all the dogs and whatever animals she may have and we will be a family for eternity. That's my future and anyone can think whatever they like.
BTW you do not have to married to be a happy couple. | |
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| why are MEN over 40 so desperate to get married??
Posted: 10/25/2009 5:37:00 PM | quote]Lately I am meeting men who want to close the deal right away ! instantly !!
You certainly must be talking about sex because I have not noted any men looking to get married any more.
Lately I am meeting men who want to close the deal right away ! instantly !!
I am not sure what this is all about, but it seems to me there are a lot of really desperate men out there. Again that sounds an awful lot like sex ... not marriage.
"onlyluvcando" ... are you one of those ladies that won't have sex until marriage?
I'm not inferring that men would not want to marry you right off ... elope to Vegas perhaps on the first date ... but it seems to me that men come up with some strange behaviors just to get sex ... eh?
I'm a nurse, and have had many a men write me saying they sure could use a nurse in their life ... a few marriage proposals as well. | |
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| why are MEN over 40 so desperate to get married??
Posted: 10/25/2009 6:01:13 PM | SOME MEN ARE AFRAID
JUST AS SOME WOMEN ARE
No one wants another divorce. We can't give guarantees either.
So, those who are brave enough to put themselves out thee, to love, trust and put in the effort make it work, will marry/remarry and hopefully find the one they will share the rest of their lives with.
I for one do not want to spend the rest of my life alone, it's much better shared. My parents are deceased, my children spread out all over the country/world. So, here I am, on POF, maybe to just share in the forums, maybe, by chance meet the one who will put that song back in my heart and then fall crazy in love again.
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| why are MEN over 40 so desperate to get married??
Posted: 10/25/2009 7:34:12 PM | | This is a joke right? What man in his right mind needs or wants a woman around all the time? Yea you are great to date and what not but really there is very little you can do for me that I can't do for myself. I would say that I am desperate to NOT get married. I just don't see any woman bring enough to the table to even consider marrying, and as I age that seems to be more and more true. | |
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| why are MEN over 40 so desperate to get married??
Posted: 10/25/2009 7:52:35 PM |
I've been wanting to get married again for the exercise.
You know...
jumping to conclusions, flying off the handle, dodging responsibilities, bending the rules, running down everything, circulating rumors, passing the buck, stirring up trouble, shooting the bull, digging up dirt, slinging mud, throwing my weight around, beating the system, ...... pushing my luck
...Hey, marry me and I promise I will make sure you get plenty of excercise
...maeflowers | |
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