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| why are MEN over 40 so desperate to get married??
Posted: 10/25/2009 10:03:05 PM |
.Hey, marry me and I promise I will make sure you get plenty of excercise
You're right, Miss Mae . I did forget a few things, didn't I?
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| why are MEN over 40 so desperate to get married??
Posted: 10/25/2009 11:46:24 PM | OUI, got to love the stereotype. I did not date for a year, and when I did, I did not like the game, so I put dating on pause for 9 months more and spent the time in thought.
Desperate to get married?! Have you met my ex?! I am in no rush to repeat that. Believe me, I can wait to get married. I am more than happy to date for years, long after the honeymoon is over, before even thinking about marriage. I am not even worried about marriage... what is it but a piece of paper that makes it official. | |
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| why are MEN over 40 so desperate to get married??
Posted: 10/26/2009 10:35:59 AM |
This is a joke right? What man in his right mind needs or wants a woman around all the time? He's absolutely right. He has "dating" on his profile because all he ever does is go out with women, show them a good time, and then drop them at the door ... right?
Yea you are great to date and what not but really there is very little you can do for me that I can't do for myself. And when he gets tired of "Rosie and her friends", whatever he can't do for himself, he has a collection of blow-up dolls for that ... eh? 
Or is that what you meant by "great to date and what not"? What is "WHAT NOT"? Does that mean what I think it means? One of those guys that just wants to date around and get your dip stick wet and then move on to the next?
BUSTED!!!!
I just don't see any woman bring enough to the table to even consider marrying ... Some men really do get a lot of satisfaction out of "dipping it" around so much that the thought of having someone to go home to and love is just too much commitment. | |
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| why are MEN over 40 so desperate to get married??
Posted: 10/26/2009 12:47:29 PM | There was a thread why are women over 40 so desperate to
get married...I can only assume this one was started because of
that one.
I don't seriously know anyone that is "desperate" to get married...
not sure where all these over 40's are...and if there are a bunch
of over 40 men and women that are desperate...why the heck are
there so many single people?
What a bunch of nimcompoopery!
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| why are MEN over 40 so desperate to get married??
Posted: 10/26/2009 12:58:42 PM | So desperate to get married???? No way. I can't even get them to ask me out when I meet them for a meet and greet! They do NOT like to be the one who asks either, and I just mean for a date....!
So lady, you are unique! | |
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| why are MEN over 40 so desperate to get married??
Posted: 10/26/2009 1:15:08 PM | Once bitten, twice shy. I believed her the first time and now the lady will have to tell me twice, till death to us part.
I am certainly in noooo hurry to get hitched again, however I do believe that life is much much much better, fuller and more enjoyable when it is shared. So here I am looking around again for a SO.
I don't need to get married but would like to live out my years with someone else instead of alone. I am not so jaded that I think the bad outweighs the good, but you do need to kiss a lot of salamanders before you find the right lady. I don't need a princess, just a lady and who knows maybe it will be more than one lady, in a row not at the same time.
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| why are MEN over 40 so desperate to get married??
Posted: 10/26/2009 1:36:20 PM | Why in the world would a person get married if they don't want kids? I will never figure that one out. It is for the kids only...
Who would face gov't rule, and make yourself more susceptible? Is it for religious reasons or something? If it is, oh brother  | |
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| why are MEN over 40 so desperate to get married??
Posted: 10/26/2009 1:47:07 PM | I agree with you! I dont understand what all the rush is about. It just about scares me away. I wish that men would want to take the time to get to know me and let me know them.  | |
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| why are MEN over 40 so desperate to get married??
Posted: 10/26/2009 8:05:32 PM | | having just moved back to Oklahoma after 22 yrs and a carreer I read that Oklahoma leads the nation in people that have been married and divorced more than 3 times, I thought this was kinda scary, maybe its because some got married to early in life? Im not sure, Id think though at my age now I could surley find a match, with someone (not to marry real soon) that would know what they like in a person, but there is a lot of scar tissue around the hearts of many, so I guess its a crap shoot , I would like to marry again, but gezzzz IM not in a hurry unless she sweeps me off my feet, LOL | |
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| why are MEN over 40 so desperate to get married??
Posted: 10/28/2009 9:33:32 AM | ...
and actually. most men are not desperate for marriage and would not re-enter partnership vows where prospective disagreements are likely which are facilitated by persons empowered to dispute and abuse they whom see no free benefits.
in the case of defense for the man in society. in all his powerlessness and illusions of contrarilies. man would be foolish to enter a contract in these times where not religion or state can articulate relationship facility dynamics to the benefit of they whom pay over to their vanities and facilitative powers.
thus.....marriage as religious and marriage as public agreement is an utilitarian agreement ...not much involving respects of man or woman past material sexual relations. and therein....be confusions to principles.
be well ....relate without license nor fear | |
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| why are MEN over 40 so desperate to get married??
Posted: 10/28/2009 8:44:08 PM | | 59 y/o divorced for 16 years now. I came close one time and thought about it two other times but after 21 years of marriage I have had enough for a life time.and I for one don't want to get married again. Beside I will never find a woman to could put up with my bull Sh-t | |
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| why are MEN over 40 so desperate to get married??
Posted: 10/29/2009 9:42:06 AM | I'm getting ready to go through the joy's of divorce (facetious) and to tell the truth don't see myself getting married again.
I'm sure, in the future, that I'll want a relationship so that I can share certain things in my life. Someone I'll be able to connect with on a deeper level than "was it good for you?".
But for now I see myself tiliting at windmills and if anyone wants to join in that's great . | |
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| why are MEN over 40 so desperate to get married??
Posted: 10/29/2009 9:55:20 AM | ...
as for me. i have been personally involved in a life long process of creating the most heavenly of marriage vow proposal. by equal partnership contributions to purposefull and flexible contract negotiations and re-negotiations.
thats not desperation. thats self commitment.
and i do await the big wall of rejection and many distractions of unbelievers which had their contracts lost or changed in lifes confusions.
blessed be purpose and commitment to love.
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| why are MEN over 40 so desperate to get married??
Posted: 10/30/2009 8:52:22 AM | Men need women more in later years. They need a nurse maid, a mommy, a housekeeper, so they can toddle around and druel everywhere and know that somebody is cleaning up after them. However, women need to know that the bills will be paid while she's mopping up the bathroom floor after he 'miscalculated' his middle of the night pee pee. So it's a wash. LOL
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Many women are dependent on their husbands. Women don't have a monopoly on health. How are the bills going to get paid if he is bedridden, not able to pee with accuracy, and foaming at the mouth; and you're taking care of him 24/7?
This ranks right up there with the logic that if women got paid for everything they did in the home they'd earn $150,000 annually. If she sews, she's a seamstress; if she cooks, she's a chef; if she cleans the house; she's a maid, and on top of all this she's a nurse and a CEO. Men on the other hand are drooling, babbling fools who can't do anything for themselves. They can't even pee. Maybe we should all just stay at home, share in the responsibilities, and we'll each make $75,000 annually. There we go, economic problem solved, men are no longer babbling fools, and women are no longer subserveant submissives (although women will call this being caregivers who willingly give of themselves).
My ex, in the beginning of our marriage, wanted to stay home and take care of all the domestic chores. When the kids were older, and in school, she still wanted to stay home. I couldn't get her to go and get a job. At that point she would complain how I had a maid. I divorced her when she started racking up heavy debt (how she got $40,000 in credit without a job I'll never know). She lost her meal ticket, I lost a maid. I reminded her that the expense of paying for her clothing, medical, dental, food, car payment, insurance for the car, gas for the car, lodging, etc...........was more than enough to send my laundry to the dry cleaners, buy a mercedes (instead of paying for 2 cars), and could eat out at a fine restaurant every night. Or, I could live frugally and save my money to pay for a qualified nurse in my old age, and not someone whose qualifications consist of giving me chicken soup, and handling a mop. Now, if you can handle medications, IVs, and being able to monitor medical equipment to keep this old man alive, you're in. Does this mean I might have to do this for you too? If I do, then I can see how it is a wash. | |
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| why are MEN over 40 so desperate to get married??
Posted: 10/30/2009 10:33:21 AM | men who wanna get married? what are you talking about ? i have not yet met a man in my life who wants to get married...the ones i meet just wanna be a p/t, man boyfriend, drop-in men....etc. where and how do you meet a man who even considers getting married!!!!!?  | |
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| why are MEN over 40 so desperate to get married??
Posted: 10/30/2009 9:59:36 PM | Men over 40 who are desparate to get married? Where? Maybe its just the ones I'm meeting but I seem to encounter 3 distinct types -- the perpetual bachelor who has become such a commitment phobe at this point that he'll likely never change, the "thinks he's still a playa but he's not" guy desparately trying to reliving his teen years , or the paranoid "once bitten twice shy" guy who thinks every woman he meets has ulterior motives. Give me a flippin break! I own my own home, pay my own bills, take care of my kids and myself and am looking for a companion, not a sugar daddy.
I just want someone that respects me for who I am as a person, makes me smile and gets me. Someone I can talk with and trust, who thinks I'm sexy and beautiful even when I'm pms'ing or exhausted, someone who sees me and loves me for who I really am.
I'm complex and passionate and real, and thats what I want in someone in my life. Yet I seem to keep meeting men that are mentally 20 or 90 -- and wondering if i bought into the fairy tale, soul mate, true love thing too deeply. Maybe I should have settled for close enough and eaten my disccontent. I didn't even try to date for a long time and I guess I was naive in thinking that people would be more mature by this point in their lives. My female friends are (for the most part) but the men my age seem to either be stuck in the past or frozen in fear. Maybe I just haven't met the right one yet...hope thats the case. | |
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