| Im dating somone 8 years older, advice wanted
Posted: 4/15/2008 12:04:26 PM | I dated someone 13 years older once (and got tired of HIS childish BS, actually), and my fabulous recent ex and now good friend is 9 years my senior. There were ways that we were in different stages of life, especially since he has an 8-year-old daughter, but mostly we noticed it when cultural references from our respective youths came up. He'd laugh at me for being young, I'd laugh at him for being old, and that's about it.
If you and this woman don't have a problem with the age difference, why should anyone else? If they don't want to date older women, they're welcome not to do so, right? | |
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| Im dating somone 8 years older, advice wanted
Posted: 4/15/2008 12:14:42 PM |
Msg: 20 -- Just be prepared to give up some freedom early.
What an ODD thing to say. ANY romantic relationship REQUIRES the sacrifice of some freedoms. For that matter, ANY ENDURING FRIENDSHIP **REQUIRES** the sacrifice of some freedoms and **EVEN** OBLIGATIONS to others.
The only persons who are TRULY FREE are hermits and skid row inhabitants.
A relationship imposes a bond. Any bond restricts certain freedoms according to the dictates of that bond. | |
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| Im dating somone 8 years older, advice wanted
Posted: 4/15/2008 12:15:42 PM | If you're both happy... age doesn't matter. Never let anyone tell you it does. At 35 I was dating a 22 year old. We were very happy... his friends were all ok with us dating, I suppose because I rarely act 'older'. My friends were different, and couldn't believe that we were seriously dating. They hounded us until he decided it wasn't worth the hassle. Though we rarely hung out with my friends, they were still an issue. I miss him, and wish I hadn't allowed them to come between us. Had I been more stand up with my friends, he and I might still be together today, and maybe I wouldn't be here still wondering 'what if?'!
Follow your heart! | |
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| Im dating somone 8 years older, advice wanted
Posted: 4/15/2008 12:16:33 PM | | Age truly is only a number. The soul is AGELESS. My ex husband was 11 yrs older, my last longterm (together for 4yrs) was 9 years my junior. Bottom line is how you feel about each other. If you are mature minded you need to understand that the issue of children may be an important factor to consider but regardless, many women are having children much later in life anyway. She has another potential 10years to consider having them with you. I like the 6month rule of thumb. Enjoy each other and see where the flow takes you. You could end up with someone who truly loves you and whom you truly love. What more could you want? As for those who warn you off...free will to choose is yours and maturity does not break under peer pressure when the heart knows its right. | |
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| Im dating somone 8 years older, advice wanted
Posted: 4/15/2008 12:45:24 PM | Here's the only problem i can foresee. Ok, When she's 59 and you are 51???? This is about the time males want some 30 yr old, if you can deal with it, she should love it. My Mom was 6 yrs older than my Dad, they were married 18 yrs, til he left her for a younger women.
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| Im dating somone 8 years older, advice wanted
Posted: 4/15/2008 12:52:28 PM | | I dated an 8 year old when I was 27. On February 29th I gave her the best birthday present she ever got. She still loves to ride mustaches to this day. What a gal. I think she's about to turn 13 now. | |
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| Im dating somone 8 years older, advice wanted
Posted: 4/15/2008 12:58:28 PM | my xbfriend was 8 yrs younger, it was wonderful until his friends start poisoning his mind.
beware, society accepts older men dating much younger women, but the reverse is often criticized | |
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| Im dating somone 8 years older, advice wanted
Posted: 4/15/2008 1:19:01 PM |
I dated an 8 year old when I was 27. On February 29th I gave her the best birthday present she ever got. She still loves to ride mustaches to this day. What a gal. I think she's about to turn 13 now. .
What the hell is this?
OP, young dads can be great fathers because they have the energy to really engage with thier children. You will need to start really quickly because even now it could take some time for her to conceive. Whether things work out for the long term or not, if she is talking of wanting children, she will be grateful I am sure.
As for the relationship, nothing in life is a sure bet. The only thing any of us ever have control over, is what we decide to do with the chances given to us. Give it your best shot and count your blessings, you have found a rare and precious thing. Good Luck. | |
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| Im dating somone 8 years older, advice wanted
Posted: 4/15/2008 3:02:47 PM |
I just want to get everyones opinion, people keep telling me she’s too old, but I cannot see it, we get along great, love being with each other, and both seem to have the same goals.
So what do you think?
what do i think? i think if everyone jumped off a bridge would you be far behind? it's your life... so why are you letting others live it for you? if you like her and get along with her what's the problem? | |
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| Im dating somone 8 years older, advice wanted
Posted: 4/15/2008 3:11:49 PM | I dont think you should let anyones opinion get in the way if you really care about someone.
My father is 10 years younger than my mother-- he just passed away recently- but my mom and dad were married for 43 years. Even on his death bed I heard him saying to his sister "I worry about her (my mom) every day." (Mom is sick too).
So you see ... live your life with your heart--- that usually makes for a happier marriage. | |
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| Im dating somone 8 years older, advice wanted
Posted: 4/15/2008 4:17:44 PM | I married a woman 6.5 years older than me and it was horrible. Unless you are dating her go for it. Women live 7-8 years longer than men do anyway. There will be some adjustments to deal with as she has by now gotten used to living as she pleases. Come to think haven't you as well? If you are BOTH in it for love and not being desparate and grasping at straws it will work out just fine!
One issue that will come up very soon is children. She will most probably want them sooner than you. This is no big deal! I was very afraid when I found out I'd be a parent. Turns out all they need is love, attention, feeding, and oh yes the wonderful diapers (NOT!) lol.
Bon voyage captain! Wish you both the best! | |
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| Im dating somone 8 years older, advice wanted
Posted: 4/15/2008 4:38:05 PM | | Hi there. 8 years is a big deal when you're in high school. When I was 19, I dated someone who was 8 years older than me for close to 4 years. I will say that it can be hard because you may be in different places in you're life but that doesn't mean you can't make it work esp if you're really in love. My sister is a year older than you and she's dating someone 10 years older than her for 2 years now and they just got engaged so my advice to you is enjoy it and see what happens. As long as you 2 are able to communicate honestly with each other it can work. Good Luck! | |
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| Im dating somone 8 years older, advice wanted
Posted: 4/15/2008 4:43:06 PM |
It came up later that she was 8 years older...
Yikes! She's like, 29 or something? That's WAAAaaaay too old for ME, for god's sake, and I've got a couple of years on ya.... sheesh....
Don't know how you could stand going out with someone so old.
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| Im dating somone 8 years older, advice wanted
Posted: 4/15/2008 4:46:36 PM | I think your showing your immaturity by posing this question to be honest. If you liked her as much as you say you do you wouldnt be here!
8 years is nothing but if is a question now then its not gin to go away and it'll become a bigger gap as time goes on.
Id get rid now and move on if I was you, its obvious you are bothered by the gap. | |
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| Im dating somone 8 years older, advice wanted
Posted: 4/15/2008 4:57:48 PM | I think that life is too short to worry about trivial things. If you are both happy... that is all that truly matters........... Go for It!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| Im dating somone 8 years older, advice wanted
Posted: 4/15/2008 5:21:28 PM | | Age is only a number, it's how you feel about the person. If the person was your age would that make them right for you??? Go with your heart man, finding that someone special is something rare!!! JoJo | |
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| Im dating somone 8 years older, advice wanted
Posted: 4/15/2008 5:27:04 PM | I'm getting a kick out of how many women say " Age is just a number " until they hear of a guy my age dating/having sex/being 'in love' with a 21 year old....
And, just because I'm feeling particularly cynical this evening, OP, your lady is getting to that age where the ticking of the clock begins to get louder and louder. Keep it wrapped up well, buddy. Just a word to the wise....
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| Im dating somone 8 years older, advice wanted
Posted: 4/15/2008 5:30:48 PM | ****I'VE HAD MANY DATES ELDER THEN MYSELF. ****
IT WAS SUGGESTED TO ME BY A WISE OLD MAN THAT ITS GOOD TO ALLOW YOURSELF TO DATE WHOM YOU HIT IT OFF WITH REGUARDLESS OF THERE AGE SO LONG AS YOU BOTH FEEL OKAY WITH IT. YOU'RE BOTH OVER 21YRS. I SURE AS HELL WOULD NOT ALLOW ANYONE TO MAKE YA FEEL BAD ABOUT IT. ITS THERE PROBLEM IF THEY DO. GO WITH IT AS LONG AS YOU TWO FEEL OKAY WITH IT. SIT DOWN AND VISIT WITH HER ABOUT IT TO SEE WHAT SHE FEELS. BE FORWARD AND STRAIGHT ABOUT ALL OF CONCERNS YOU MAY HAVE.
IF ANYONE HAS A PROBLEM, TELL'EM TO GET A LIFE OF THERE OWN!!! | |
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