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| Feel that there is no reason for me to live
Posted: 4/7/2008 11:49:20 PM | You may have a feeling of no reason to live.. that is selfish and I am angry at you.. I had a sister that committed suicide and we live with her loss.. her children, now adults live with her loss.. give us the respect of think ing about the living, instead of the death.. Just love yourself and all will follow..Reason to live is life.. it has a spiritual connect..that is it. no more negitive thoughts.. Divine Order takes care of your now..
God Bless you! | |
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| Feel that there is no reason for me to live
Posted: 4/8/2008 12:37:29 AM | Well good thing you haven't succeeded, Im no doctor but drinking when on antidipressents... i believe actually defeat the purpose....
Anyhow.... recently a friend of mine from this very site ... commited suicide... don't do it... .... his family devistated, his son 12 at the grave site crying and saying all the things he will miss doing with his dad... that could well be your parents or you one friend... and those who you still know even if you not in contact ....so much now .. .they all feel the pain.... if you succeed.....
Its not only your life ... .but everyone else that is affected... and not just for the short term..... so just think about it.
take care sure things will look up eventually .... Ive been in some really bad times... and really thought there was no way out... but yeh ... they pass.. its hard ... but they do....
And on a positve.... .lol the only way from rock bottom is up  | |
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| RE: Feel that there is no reason for me to live
Posted: 4/8/2008 12:42:04 AM | | Wow, you sound just like I feel half the time... it's sooo hard when you love somebody and you just can't stop and nobody understands. It sucks. I think it's possible to be happy again afterwards though, had a few happy times in the last couple years, doesn't seem to make up for the bad times, but it gives me hope. Still have my days when I wake up crying, or screaming, and so, ok, things aren't so great... but I can remember the good times and want to be there again, and it will probably happen, and you never know, it might be right around the corner. You could be right around the corner from your good times too! Or it could be five years from now! But whatever! Do you really wanna miss out on them when they finally come your way? | |
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| RE: Feel that there is no reason for me to live
Posted: 4/8/2008 1:00:55 AM | honestly, with time, it does get better :)
you will have your dark days and blue days but one day, you'll find yourself actually looking forwards and not back.
trust me. | |
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| Feel that there is no reason for me to live
Posted: 4/8/2008 1:29:30 AM | Dude,
Seriously.. you sound a bit like i used to be after an especially magic girl turned her back on me, i'm not going to write you a self help essay, but try the following things (they helped me)
(1) Sport keeps you mind and body happy (make yourself sweat till you hurt)
(2) Change your councillor today, seek reccomendations from whom ever you can, i had a brilliant councillor for a lil while, and never had to return, as she cleared up everything for me, if your paying for help, make sure its money well spend and not wasted on a "used to be a good councillor", its your cash...
(3) Stop drinking, its only making you worse dude, trust me on that too.
(4) stop looking so hard to find someone, you never find anything when your searching despritely for it...
(5) concentrate on what you like, want and need from your life, and focus your energy on those things.
i used to be exactly like for when i was going thru a rough patch not so long ago,
really tried to fu*k myself up, but retrospectively, delighted i pulled thru it.
its all about self discipline, a good friend once told me "you are and will be the predominating thoughts that occupy you mind", think about it....
finally, what ever way you decide to sort your problems out, make a coffee, sit down and write a action plan, and make part of it happen today, not tomorrow or next week.
sorry if im a bit abrupt, but some times we all need a lil kick in the ass, even if its from a complete stranger,
take care of yourself bud, your the only one that can... | |
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| RE: Feel that there is no reason for me to live
Posted: 4/8/2008 1:30:56 AM | | So much good advice already, and I haven't been able to read all of the postings so forgive me if someone has already said this. The whole thing that dictates how you feel and how you progress in life is your attitude, and we develope our attitude through things that have happened in our lives which shape our perception, but we can all change if we really want to. It's just about re-training your mind to see the positive instead of the negative in every situation i.e. If sh*t happens, it's been sent to strengthen us rather than to make us feel worthless. If we wake up in the morning feeling like cr*p we think how lucky we are to be alive rather than thinking we have yet another sh*t day ahead of us. If a relationship breaks up, we think it's because there are better things waiting for us on the horizon rather than thinking we are cr*p at relationships. It sounds completely corny and cheesy, but you can re-train your entire way of thinking, and once you have a positive attitude, nothing on this earth is going to bring you down again. I hope you find it, because you have so much to live for. | |
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| Feel that there is no reason for me to live
Posted: 4/8/2008 1:50:58 AM | 1) May be sound advice to get off the booze and anti-depressants,
However - a word of warning to ALL - taper off on those pills.
Cold turkey jerks your brain chemistry in strange ways - many "pull the plug" due to this, and the warning is hidden 6 or 10 paragraphs down, in the very fine print.
It takes 2 weeks to a month for them to get your Serotonin levels good,
Work w/ an MD to gradually wean you off the stuff.
I've been trained by a PhD in Pharmacy,
sold High-End Vitamins to enthusiastic and appreciative customers for 2.5 years,
and 14 years ago took a "Prozac vacation".
Been there, done that, got the T-Shirt. Currently, I'm WAY happier than most.
And after I find that sweet loving woman, I'll be in Orbit. 
If you need someone for the photo on the poster, I'm available. Call my Agent.
2) Brain chemistry is all about Serotonin and Dopamine. Do some research on 5-HTP. (Which is why "wildwoods_woman" post #60 mentioned St. John's Wort - an herbal source of this precursor to Serotonin. I like 5-HTP, standardized, etc.)
All the anti-depressants, even the newer Tri-Cyclic ones, have bad side effects.
If you would like to know more - or fine-tune your supplements to your life-style -
I'll be right here in the pond - find me - over by the waterfall... 
(if you are blocked as a guy, ask a gal to do the intro).
3) All that said for people who really need to know it. I'm not convinced OP is real. No one has called him on his sh*t yet.
In his Profile, his headline is "Looking for an honest woman"
and he is a non-smoker, and a non-drinker.
Like an honest woman is going to be interested in a dishonest man.
(You have no idea how much restraint it took - to not phrase that more direct).
Some timeless saying about what goes around, comes around.
4) While some physical activity is a good thing, might want to invest some of that time in co-counseling, self help groups, volunteering = helping those that need it.
I was in a world of hurt that makes your situation look like a picnic w/ a supermodel. Wallowing in the deep end of the Pity Party - then saw the Chris Reeve HBO special featuring disabled people that need to have "care-givers" come in to wipe their a$$.
Helped me get on w/ my life. You may want to check it out. Perspective, ya know?
There really is no reason for you to live, but as long as you are here,
Why not make the most of it? Just my take on it - your milage may vary.
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| Feel that there is no reason for me to live
Posted: 4/8/2008 2:07:30 AM | You poor thing you sound like you have had it extremly tough.....please you have to have hope....my life hasnt been very good in the relationship department but i live in hope..... when i read all that you had been through it made me very sad..nobody should have to go through so much and be alone with it.....PLease just have hope and you just never know we all have hope and dreams and its that ...that keep us going... x | |
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| Feel that there is no reason for me to live
Posted: 4/8/2008 2:25:50 AM | let me suggest you help yourself to a nice big glass of STFU! Your words are mean, uneducated, hurtful & of no use to the OP
and what are yours?
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I suggest to the OP that he educate himself about the way his mind is feeling. A healthy mind will NOT think suicide is an option. Suicidal thoughts are a symptom of a brain disease of some sort. Just like leukemia affects the blood, depression affects the mind. & for those of you (OP)who don't know, it is an evil, sneaky disease. Meds, professional therapy to help you learn the way your brain works or a combination of both offers a greater chance of survival & happiness than left untreated. & to surround yourself with those most like you too. You my friend are NOT alone. There is help available so that you won't always feel so pained & isolated. But the 1st step has to be that you are willing to work at it. Survival & happiness is possible. I know! I've been there. Feel free to write me if you want. I willing to listen because I undertsand! | |
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| Feel that there is no reason for me to live
Posted: 4/8/2008 2:34:18 AM | hiya, read your forum and i wanted to put in my 2 cents worth, I have been where u are, i am also taking meds for depression and anxiety panic attacks. I gotta agree with others, get a different doctor if you are not comfortable with the one u have. Some meds will also make u feel like u have no reason to live cuz i have been there too. I use to think about same things u think about and it only made things in my mind worse on me and on my family. Depression affects not only u but others as well..Booze doesnt help either...drinking socially is cool but mixed with meds it only adds to your problem..u can check my profile and if u need a friend to talk to send me POF email and i'll give u my messenger name and u can talk as long as i am online(which is a Lot) ...So cheer up sweetie, lot of ppl care about u ... | |
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| Feel that there is no reason for me to live
Posted: 4/8/2008 2:49:58 AM |
3) All that said for people who really need to know it. I'm not convinced OP is real. No one has called him on his sh*t yet.
In his Profile, his headline is "Looking for an honest woman"
and he is a non-smoker, and a non-drinker.
Like an honest woman is going to be interested in a dishonest man.
(You have no idea how much restraint it took - to not phrase that more direct).
Some timeless saying about what goes around, comes around
I didn't read the profile, but I would agree with this completely, though I do think there are a whole lot of people out there who think nothing of 'white lies' and that is in a way part of their problem, because rather than facing up to who they really are and accepting it or changing it, they get defensive about their inperfections and try to deny them. It's all part of hating who you are, and not being able to love yourself 'warts and all', and that's the core of a pessimist which is why they end up so miserable. | |
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| Feel that there is no reason for me to live
Posted: 4/8/2008 11:41:16 AM | | mate pull your self together no one elese can do it you have to do it your self buy a nice car good clothes get your hair cut do whatever it takes every one has problems if they all come in a short period its tuff but going on percentages you sound like you have had all your bad luck so in theory you are home dry bro | |
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| Feel that there is no reason for me to live
Posted: 4/8/2008 12:15:02 PM | The OP says he is divorced...his profile says single.
He says he has only 1 friend...he has a picture on his profile of him and his 4 best friends.
He says he is drinking and smoking and popping pills...his profile says he does not drink, smoke or do drugs.
His profile is overall happy and upbeat with several interests listed, and it has only been one week since he wrote it...does not read like someone with suicidal tendencies wrote it.
I would like to know where he is lying at...here or on his profile.
From his profile:
I love to try new things and I often like to joke about things, usually with a bit of sarcasm.
I stick by what I said in an earlier post...I DON'T BUY IT...NOT AT ALL.
Keep giving him attention, sympathy and advice...he is probably laughing his ass off.
Edit: Let's not forget that his user name is Mr. Addiction. Maybe he is addicted to lying and attention seeking.
Maybe I am wrong...only he knows. | |
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| Feel that there is no reason for me to live
Posted: 4/8/2008 4:47:18 PM | Naughtical ^^^ my very thoughts yesterday, but I figured maybe someone else will need to read this down the road and it may save their life.
Then I saw the 'Mr. Addiction' and thought, this man is trying to get our attention, or someones attention and maybe is in need of help. Doesn't matter. All works out in the end somewhere, somehow. | |
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| Feel that there is no reason for me to live
Posted: 4/8/2008 5:02:32 PM | I want to tell you something...my life really sucked...I felt like I had reached the lowest point and that it would never get better...I know that people often say that...I prefer not to share the things that happened to me...but things were bad. I wanted to die.
But, I made a choice to live...that's where you need to start. Once you make the choice, I can't tell you that things instantly get better...they don't. But you take small steps and get through each minute, each hour, each day. Today, I found some old writings of mine in a journal and I can't believe I am that same person who wanted to end their life. I made it.
Is each day perfect? No.
Am I still hit with disapointments? Yes.
But I am here to tell you that you can get through this...Please don't give up on yourself and don't give up on the folks around you. | |
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| Feel that there is no reason for me to live
Posted: 4/8/2008 6:43:49 PM | Listen Buddy,
It'll be short and sweet because that's how I am, direct to the point. I'm 24, Peace Officer, Slowly settling in, I just got out of a 7 year old relationship and it sucks NOW!
There's nothing wrong with your profile, there's nothing wrong with you, the only problem I can see is YOUR WILL! I'm going to use profanities because sometimes, the only thing you need is a good kick in the nuts to get the message straight. YOUR F***ING LIFE WILL ONLY SUCK AS MUCH AS YOU LET IT SUCK! I'm not blaming you, I'm just saying that YOU'RE THE MASTER of your own body and soul. What I'm getting at is that you're letting something or someone else take control of yourself! Like so many people have said, GET UP TOMORROW AND MAKE CHANGES, REMIND YOURSELF THAT YOU'RE HAPPIER THAN YESTERDAY AND LESS THAN TOMORROW, THAT LIFE IS TOO SHORT AND THAT YOU WILL TAKE ADVANTAGE OF EVERY MINUTE OF IT!
Smile, find happiness in anything. People will not be drawn to you if you're in your little shell and don't let anyone in. OPEN UP! Get your humor running, ladies love that. **** SAKES THINK OF THE PEOPLE THAT WOULD KILL TO LIVE ANOTHER DAY!
Your worth more than you think, I've got some criminals in mind that I'd rather see in your position than yourself... Life is not always fair nor just. But your life is what you make of it.
Cheers,
P.S. Reach out, People will want to help and those who don't...tell them to go **** themselves on my behalf. I've dealt with a couple of suicides already and in my line of work, trust me, you don't do any favors to anyone by ending your life. | |
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| Feel that there is no reason for me to live
Posted: 4/8/2008 6:54:32 PM | i just read what you posted and i saw a very handsome young man.
are you kidding you want to end you life.
do you think your the only one that has had bad luck if you call it that.
snap out of it and appreicate what you have.
you can't imagine what i had to endure and i'm still here for heaven sake,
who ever said like is a bunch of roses.,
life is just life and we must make the most of it.
read the book the "secret" and just perhaps you can make your life
better by being more positive and being grateful even for having one friend.
your young and handsome and have much to live for.
seek another therapist if you must but just stop feeling sorry for yourself.
so many have to endure such sadness in life but despite all this life can
be just beauitful again.
good luck dear | |
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| Feel that there is no reason for me to live
Posted: 4/8/2008 6:58:08 PM | Ok it's time to end this thread it's going from me needing to get more help and get off the drinking and pills I get it already...and that one guy halfngorge thinks I'm going to be the next highschool shooter.....where I'm not in highschoolyou ****ing idiot....
It's guys like him that really piss me off. To people that offered positive advice I appreciate it. I have to do something with it now. I do appreciate the notes and advice.
I'm not going to read this post anymore so please stop posting. It's just going in circles now. | |
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| Feel that there is no reason for me to live
Posted: 4/8/2008 7:03:18 PM | Mr. Addiction...
Yeah you will...you will be back to read it time and time again. People are not going to stop posting...most will never even read your post where you ask them to. They will just read your opening post and respond. You can close your account and the posting will continue, because you are just not a necessary part of it anymore.
All along I took you for a phony (see post #88) and I stand by it but...there are others out there who may actually be going through something like you describe, who may really need the advice. Some excellent advice has been given here so it served some good. Thanks!
EDIT: you can continue to make changes to your profile...just remember I am not the only one who read it before you did. It just gives more weight to my theory. | |
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| Feel that there is no reason for me to live
Posted: 4/8/2008 7:15:03 PM | | It seems to me that your anti-depresants aren't working! You need to get back to the doctor and have them changed or adjusted. And you need to find a new counselor. But most of all you need to understand that being with someone isn't really what makes people happy. Happiness has to be found all on your own by bringing meaning into your life. Maybe you could do some volunteer work, or join some citizen groups, or take some courses. # 1 thing though...get back to your doctor. Hope you get well. | |
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| Feel that there is no reason for me to live
Posted: 4/8/2008 7:22:20 PM |
It seems to me that your anti-depresants aren't working!
No sh*t sherlock? Everyone knows marijuana is the only effective anti-depressant, majority of commercial antidepressants do NOTHING for depression.
BTW wuts up wit all these ppl wanting to kill themselves tonite? U know, the crazy thing is that the other post was a woman. U should get wit her. | |
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| Feel that there is no reason for me to live
Posted: 4/8/2008 7:35:07 PM | | I just want to say a couple of things and not give you too much to absorb at one time. Divorce is very hard! More so for the individual that did not want it. I know because I have been through it too. It may take years to get over all of the negative feelings. Divorce totally changes a person's life. You run the course from feeling you are not worthy to hating the other person for turning your life upside down. You feel as though you are in a constant state of "Twilight Zone". You may feel like life is not worth living for awhile and honestly, life will never be the same again. The fact that it will not be the same does not mean that life cannot have meaning for you. You must learn to take life one day at a time. Try not to think about what you have lost but rather what good things are still in store for you. I would suggest not trying a relationship for awhile. Get to know yourself again. It is ok to be alone. Helping someone else is always a good thing. Human nature is such that we are selfish. I think all of us are. But when we come out of self and have concern for our fellow man I think we begin to realize that life is not all about US. It is about what we can do for others while we are here to make life bearable for someone. It does not have to be a BIG something to make a difference. I would like to share, not push, the idea of accepting Christ if you have not already and if you have then take advantage of your Christianity and lean, lean,lean on him............and last but not least, smile at least once a day at something or someone, be silly, share a nice thought, say a prayer. AND you may have to "FAKE IT TIL YOU MAKE IT" Look within every day and search for ways to improve yourself..........GOD BLESS | |
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| Feel that there is no reason for me to live
Posted: 4/8/2008 7:40:51 PM | HAY.
YOU WANT TO KNOW WHAT PAIN IS,, I'LL TELL YOU.. I LOST MY LOVE TWO YEARS AGO...A HEART ATTACK,,,, FORTY NINE YEARS OLD. THERE WASN'T A BETTER WOMAN ON EARTH, SHE ALWAYS GAVETO EVERYONE, WOULD GO WITHOUT JUST TO HELP A PERSON IN NEED..
YOU WANT TO KILL YOURSELF YOU FU----ING PIECE OF SHIT. DON'T THINK FOR A MINUTE ABOUT ANYONE ELSE YOU DIRT BALL. YOU MAKE ME SICK,
HERES A THOUGHT TRY BEING A MAN, STAND UP AND MEET LIFE HEAD ON,
NO ONE LIKES A QUITER NOT EVEN JESUS CHRIST.. DON'T BE A FOOL ,,
LIFE IS WHAT YOU MAKE IT... DON'T WASTE IT !!!!!
THE HITMAN | |
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| Feel that there is no reason for me to live
Posted: 4/8/2008 8:03:36 PM | | TryingSomethingNew-BANG!!-Volunteer. I agree 100%. Nothing makes you feel stronger than helping others help in need. Find a group you like to help, find something you like to do, and cut loose. Look around. Get involved. The life you save may be your own. You may also meet a groovy gal during the process... | |
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| Feel that there is no reason for me to live
Posted: 4/8/2008 8:51:58 PM | | Nautical it's women like you that make me sick.....I am no phony ...but then again I don't even know you and I really don't care what you think....My life really does suck right now and I have told some of my story to people who took time to message me and not judge me......You really make me ill.... | |
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