| Feel that there is no reason for me to live
Posted: 4/11/2008 10:42:03 AM | I haven't read all of the replies to your post and I haven't read your profile yet. Like many I will tell you no matter how you feel now, you do have a lot to live for. I can't say I understand because I don't know you or really what your life has been like. I can tell you that I am a Lifestyle Manager and work with many men and women. I am a date coach, life coach and so much more and help people with achieving the life they seek.
I am NOT a counselor or therapist nor do I claim to be. However, if you would like to see if I can help you please feel free to contact me through this site. Just let me know who you are through the subject line. There are so many things to talk about and cover it would be best between you and I. I am good at what I do and I even write profiles for others. With my own (truly from my heart on who I am) I am on 189 favorite lists.
The one thing I want you to know and remember, no matter how bad things get, this is just where you are RIGHT now, it IS NOT who you are. It's only a place in time it does not define who you are and you will get through it. | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 11:04:59 AM | For those who haven't read all the posts...I'm happy to say that the OP is doing much better. All the wonderful advice and encouragement he has been given has helped him. No more thoughts of suicide.
and...just because I can't help myself:
With my own (truly from my heart on who I am) I am on 189 favorite lists.
Thousands of women are on hundreds of favorite lists, nothing to brag about...any woman can achieve that:
To get there, most women simply post a picture of their breasts almost fully exposed and make it plain in their profile that they are very "sexual and sensuous". | |
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| Feel that there is no reason for me to live
Posted: 4/11/2008 11:28:48 AM | | My advice will be different than most. First you must come to the realization that you personally are 100 percent responsible for your predicament. Dont try to push the responsibility on to your counselor, woman, or lack thereof, or your life situation in general. Your healing process must start within and not in any change in the outer. I suspect that your counselor is just as lost as you are. Getting your woman back, or finding another one will not give you what you need. Yes, I do understand what you are "going through".Getting involved in various activities may soothe the ache temporarily, but you will eventually return to where you are and WHO you are. I promise you that you will have to repeat these problems over and over again until you are willing to make the changes at your core. It is never what you DO, it is always what you ARE. The previous sentence is the answer for every question you have. All the best to you. | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 11:39:44 AM | First off I don't really know what has happened to cause you to feel this way, however I am 36 yr old female that was physically, mentally and sexually assaulted by my mother , who was on drugs and poppped a kid out every nine months for me to care for. I have been divorced twice, both abusive relationships and my last husband attempted to kill me. I am also a EMT/nurse that see "victims" and people that are depressed, have anxiety, etc. I have gone to homes to pick up a dead body. IT devastates your family, friends, the police, the firemen, emt's , coroner, the neighbors. An action of suicide is selfish. Just think of all the outpouring you have received from this post...I am attempting to have the state police trace your email address because you need help, seriously. Pick up the phone and call the crisis line, everyone gets depressed and I pray you pick yourself up by the bootstraps and realize you have the air in your lungs and a beautiful day that may change the mood your in....give yourself and life a chance...and maybe the meds you are on are not the right ones. | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 11:42:53 AM | i agree with with everyone on this matter.congratulations everyone for being right.
no easy answers to this one. lets say all small guys think they are too small,all tall guys think they are too tall,all medium sized guys either think they are too short or not tall enough.
hope this helps? | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 11:57:03 AM | | Stop being a whiny pathetic moron! Everyone has problems its just how you deal with them. Do soemthing constructive. YOu don;t need a relationship you need a psychologist. Maybe you should get a pet liek a cat or dog to sooth your nerves, get some exercise when you get better and talk to old friends and family who care. maybe even try moving to another town. Or going on vacation. Killing yourself or feeling miserable is just stupid and a sign of weakness. Only the strong survive. Try actually going out and meeting people, get some friends, a support group. Join a club of some sort of people with common interests. Jsut get out of the hosue becuase you are making me physically ill. | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 12:09:51 PM | Isnt it amazing that some ppl understand and some ppl dont ... I understand ....
Understand = Been threw or knows someone that hs been severaly depressed
Dont Understand = Never been severly depressed or knew anyone ...
Dont get it ppl = are those who just are plane mean ....
Lives life has a person of love = just a beautiful soul for understanding .... | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 12:09:54 PM | | go to a hospital and become a volunteer...after seeing how bad off some people are,you might stop feeling sorry for yourself...which you are doing....also,try joining a church and volunteer your time to help out...you need some kind of spiritual uplifting...or work with animals...listen to music,constantly and do some reading...and,if you can,find a mentor...someone you admire and spend time with them..it is terrible to be lonely,but if you have faith and hope,it makes things a wee bit easier...just be glad that basically,other than what you are doing to yourself,you are healthy...work out,get out,walk,walk,walk....and make sure you eat proper foods....vitamins don't cut it....when you drink,you probably don't eat...ps..you won't kill yourself...it takes a lot of guts...but if you insist,I would suggest putting a rope around your neck,go sit up in a tree with some booze and wait till you lose your balance...should work....a woman is not the answer here..you have to find inward happiness and that takes lots of work and reading...try yoga...we all want instant happiness and that never works..alcohol is a depressant and you shouldn't be drinking with anti depressants....what is the sense in that?... | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 12:10:07 PM | So, what if we don't believe in the book of fairy tales?
Yeah, leave it to a crazy Catholic to inject their nonsense here and not help in any way. I would like to think a Christian would be more forgiving, but I know a Catholic is usually just full of sh!t, misery and self loathing. Hurry up and die old dude. Your spending my social security.
Before responding old timer ask yourself this: what would Jesus do?
The Jesus I know would stop what he was doing and help you pull your head out of your ass.
OP
I haven't read all the posts but here are my thoughts for whatever they might be worth to you.
Everybody needs something to believe in. If you are not comfortable with the concept of a Higher Power, then believe in YOURSELF.
You need to get some better treatment, very possibly a different counselor. There ARE incompetent ones out there...I know, I was a victim at one time.
Depression is GENERALLY part situational and part screwed up brain chemistry. There are a wide variety of anti depressants on the market...and some good ones ARE available as generic(low cost)
Once you get your emotional feet back under you, follow some of the other excellent suggestions...volunteer, find interest groups or maybe explore some new hobbies. You do sound HORRIBLY isolated, which can really mess with your mood, but people/new friends aren't just going to fall down the chimney into your lap!
And please, at least for the time being, stop, or at least sharply reduce, your alcohol consumption. Right now drinking is stonecold counterproductive, if you truly WANT to manage your depression.
Yes people DO care about you!
Cindy O | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 12:15:57 PM | Hey You!
So this is a new thing for me posting this . . . but your posting broke my
heart and so I wanted to help . Not to toot my own horn , but I am what most
people consider a hot chick! Anyhow looks or no looks , people feel energies ,
you are not ready to date!!!!!!!!! I have been where you are for different reasons
I was in a very abusive relationship for many years that left me feeling hopeless
and so NOTHING good was coming into my life . Buy this book HAPPY FOR NO REASON, by MARCR SHIMOFF , it will change your life , you need to make you
happy 1st , secondly you have to believe that the universe is looing after you . STOP
TRYING TO RUN THE SHOW!!! Thirdly I believe what is holing you back is forgiveness , to forgive is the highest form of love in return you will recieve untold
peace and happiness . Take ownership of your own happiness , the biggest myth in life
is believing you will be happy when . . . you drive the right car . . own the right home
. . meet the right girl , let go , clean house . BE HAPPY NOW! And the rest will follow
when you let go and trust .
I hope this helped you .
P.S BEAUTY SHINES FROM THE INSIDE OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 1:01:58 PM |
The Jesus I know would stop what he was doing and help you pull your head out of your ass.
He did. That's why I'm not a Catholic old lady. He came up on his chopper of love and said unto me, "Brother take it easy and have fun. I didn't die so all these hypocrites could point fingers and say stuff like "burn in hell." I didn't die so people could shove their religion in everyone else's life, especially when they're feeling down. I died because people like them killed me. I was a man just like you. I preached about love and peace. Those people twisted it all around. Now here's another joint and when you wake up have fun."
Yeah Jesus is a cool dude. | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 1:38:51 PM | That's why I'm not a Catholic old lady
Nor am I. Neither am I a Muslim, a Buddhist, a Mormon, a Jew, a Wiccan, a Sikh, a Lutheran or an Episcopalian. But I wouldn't dream of disparaging those who are.
What I am is a Christian woman who doesn't disrespect anyone else's beliefs and religious practices as long as they don't use that belief as an excuse to harm, or insult others who may not see things the same way. Even if I disagree with their viewpoint.
OP, I hope yopu can sort through all the side issues sprouting in this thread and hold fast to the basic premise that there ARE people who care about you, and that life is VERY worth living!
Cindy O | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 2:43:54 PM | Cathlics believe God and Jesus are the same person ... So what they are saying is that God will condem you for murdering yourself , but Jesus asked SOME BODY (LOL) to forgive the ppl who were murdering him ... WOW ... I think I need a drink ...  | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 3:52:23 PM | I'm no expert by any means but my advice (in addition to finding a counselor and antidepressants that work for you. There are many different kinds out there) is to change your focus. You seem to be looking to friends/woman in an attempt to make you happy. It just doesn't work that way. Depending on another person to make you happy or give your life meaning is leading you down the road for disappointment and failure. The only road to true happiness is going to come from within. Focus more on making yourself happy and content instead of looking for someone else to do that for you. If you can achieve that, the friends and healthy relationship with a woman will fall into place by themselves. You might try a book called 'Become a better You" by Joel Osteen.
Good luck! Remember God loves you and there are people out there (even strangers) that care. | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 4:07:20 PM | MrAdiction....
Please don't hurt yourself. No one will miss you more than
the people who really care...Family.
You need to seek GOD, for one. Get a good bible and just start
reading one scripture at a time. Take small steps...attend Mass
on Sundays. Don't always ask how come know one loves me?
Instead ask ..How much do I love myself FIRST.
God is always there walking along side you.
GOD: THOSE WHO LOVE ME
I ALSO LOVE....
THOSE WHO SEEK ME
FIND.......~~ME~~
GO BE WITH GOD...AND LIVE!! | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 4:39:55 PM | Why do you ask yourselves everybody runs away from you?
I think you know the answers:
You tell everybody you are pathetic
You say there is no interest in anything on this earth including you
that you are worthless
that nobody likes you
You want to die and kill yourselves...
It is a CHOICE you took - you chose to be unhappy and you reap the consequences- you can just turn that ALL AROUND if you decide to be happy! Choose LIFE not DEATH! so if your wife left you...is it only you that partners and lovers and friends have left?
Never ever say something BAD about yourselvs so other people can love you and adore you. If you do not like yourselvs who would want to be your friend and like you?
Everything you say to yourselves will BE YOU! If you say you will be happy; you WILL! there is a POWER to the word you say with your mouth! tell blessings to yourselvs not curse and doom! unless that is what you want and desire! | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 4:48:09 PM | someone earlier wrote: what would Jesus do?
I can't say for certain. But here's what I imagine Jesus would do:
get up from his praying, thinking to himself that "The Lord helps
those who help themselves." And to that end, he would then
perhaps go to his doctor to get his meds checked. And then
beyond that, he might to out to get some "uppers".*
* "Uppers" being the sort of pleasurable activities which are
good for us, the kind which emotionally put some wind back
in our sails, as it were.
Now I might be altogether wrong, but nevertheless, that would
be my guess. Yeah, seriously, I'm thinking that even Jesus might be
of the mind to say "This situation requires more than just prayer."
Apolinary
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Posted: 4/11/2008 6:42:31 PM | ^^^^He'd probably get high and mellow out. Get a group of people together, bang some drums, talk about love and then light another one up.
as long as they don't use that belief as an excuse to harm, or insult others who may not see things the same way. Even if I disagree with their viewpoint.
You've been living under a rock lately? Modern Christianity is just what you've described. And the fact that it took a self described Catholic to start tooting his "purgatory & be damned" horn, just reveals the standard mindset. You can sit and be silent hoping that something will change. Or just call 'em like you see 'em and not let them spread that crap around unchallenged. We're talking about someone contemplating suicide here. Check out this website and read #4. Tell me if being silent on this matter of someone's self righteous preaching is the best thing to do.
www.metanoia.org/suicide/ | |
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| Feel that there is no reason for me to live
Posted: 4/11/2008 11:44:46 PM | The most important friend you will ever have is yourself ......... you need to understand this from the deepest part of who you are ....
If you decide to live which is a decision that you make to you in front of you you begin to break into the deepest part of the emotional pain that you feel...
I know that you will not end your life .... because for a very very long time you have already died and you are writing albeit bravely to express somewhat haphazardly that you kindah sortah want to live... you have to understand one thing ..... that it is okay to have great pain ... because only great people experience great pain .. and you and I both know that you have some very phenomenal energy to offer the world when you heal from what is bringing you so much inner pain...
Please start by remembering this .. your quote ...
"I had a major accident and broke my hip and arm and my 72 year old dad had to take care of me."
I cannot imagine the depth of pain you would leave for this man who loves you so very deeply , do you know that he knows your pain .. even if you have never told him what is goin on inside of you ? YOU need to tell your father of your pain and anyone who loves you so that you can embrace this journey openly ..... I need someone who will send me the sounds of raw anguish and I will send you my tears .. and my love and you will help me be me .. by you being you .. email me if you want to connect ... | |
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Posted: 4/12/2008 12:09:33 AM | I thought I should post an update on this forum....I am feeling quite a bit better...then I did when I wrote that initial post....You might think I regret posting what I did as it might put peope off me...but I dont....I have been reading and replying to many private messages...as they seem to be alot more constructive then some of the stuff on here.....
As for the spirituality that people are trying to get me to turn to...I never have and never will believe in God ....Jesus or the bible....I think it's a bunch of crap....I'm sorry but this is not what I need to turn to and you will only ever make me set foot in a church for a friends wedding and even then I'm counting the minutes to get out of there... If you have a God post...please spare me the time and effort of reading it and deleting it...
The stories and things people have shared with me in confidence have been really inspiring....I can't believe what some of you guys and gals have been through and it really makes me feel not alone....I'm not saying that I am miraculously cured....but I don't feel like my life isn't worth living and fighting for...
I wanna thank everyone who took the time to send me a message...right words of encouragement...and gave me constructive idea's to make the days seem easier....one lady told me to go out and karoke and let people laugh at me....I can't think of anything stupider and more fun to do...I'm glad she shared it......
Thanks again... | |
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Posted: 4/12/2008 12:59:42 AM | | Man, you are looking for ppl to validate you and make you feel better about yourself. What you've got to do is start thinking about you and looking out for number one. You're embarrassing yourself here | |
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Posted: 4/12/2008 1:25:48 AM | | listen ive been there & no at times it does feel like youve got no where to turn but you have to stick with even if it does seem pointless at times. there will always be people who find life easier than us & just seem to seem to sail through life but you have to remember they are not us,they havnt experienced what we have,they arnt on anti depressants,they dont have the same shit to deal with everyday ok. your doing the right things to help yourself & yes you will fell like your being slapped in the face when you fall again but pick yourself up & try again. lissten ive been knocked down(literally) so many times that even the vicar at my place of work used to come to see me specially to bless me & say a prayer for me lol.you also have to remember that we are not to everyones taste but i do believe there is someone for everyone. we may not find each other phyiscally attractive but that dosnt stop us being friends ok.take care & always feel free to talk to me about anything ok.kimx | |
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| Feel that there is no reason for me to live
Posted: 4/12/2008 4:59:44 AM |
mradDiction wrote:
> I wanna thank everyone who took the time to send me a message...right words
> of encouragement...and gave me constructive idea's to make the days seem easier....
> one lady told me to go out and karoke and let people laugh at me....I can't think
> of anything stupider and more fun to do...I'm glad she shared it......
LOL. Actually, that one's not a bad idea at all.
Apolinary | |
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