| what if your soul mate is NOT financial stable
Posted: 5/5/2008 8:42:30 AM | | msg 274"fire"...that was just wrong telling the person since he his now disabled to get off POF.......soulmates or just that special someone can be found anywhere including here on POF........my best friend found her soulmate on a dating site, her now husband is financially on the very low side due to disability, she is in no great health herself, but they fell in love and know that it was meant to be.........my SO that I met here is not financially secure due to circumstances and believe me neither am I, but I am picking up and relocating to be with him cause I know he is the one I have been searching for all my life. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2008 9:39:04 PM | Thanks for having my back, Aluria! And don't worry about me. I have found a wonderful man on this site. We may not be rich but we are doing ok. Life is what you make it. All the money in the world won't make you happy if you are basically a miserable human being. When my late husband died, I had money from his life insurance and a widow's pension. I would have traded it all for one more day with him. I've had money and I've been broke. Believe me, I'd rather be just getting by with a man I love than well-off financially with someone who treats me badly or living a lonely, sad, miserable life.
And if MIman01 feels so negatively about the people on this site, maybe he should get the f*ck off. I haven't had one man ask me how much money I make or what my financial status is. Nor do I ask them. I am in an exclusive relationship (yes, we met on this site!) and we've discuss our finances since we both feel this is likely to be a longterm arrangement. If MIman01 has been treated differently, perhaps he's dating the wrong women. | |
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| what if your soul mate is NOT financial stable
Posted: 5/7/2008 8:40:03 PM |
msg 274"fire"...that was just wrong telling the person since he his now disabled to get off POF
Good LORD. I was being sarcastic are people on here illiterate or is your reading comprehension just deficient ? | |
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| what if your soul mate is NOT financial stable
Posted: 5/7/2008 8:46:27 PM | | if she is not financially stable but taking responsibility to paying her bills and things. I'd continue dating her. If she's not responsible with paying her bills and things. Forget that. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 4:44:20 AM | I have lived through quite a few humbling experiences and gained many beliefs about the human spirit. Money is a driving force behind necessity and abundance, it depends on which playing field you are on as to what your attitude is. The person that I commit to for the rest of my life will have the same core values that he lives by and our status in this world will not be the most important thing. I know that I come into a relationship able, with God's help, to take care of my needs and I would want my partner to have the same ability should anything happen to either one of us. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 7:54:49 PM | What's a soulmate?
why dont you read the damn thread, if I replied and told you, your ballicking azz wouldnt read it anyway and if you did you wouldnt comprehend it, so I ask you
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Posted: 5/9/2008 8:22:01 PM | Hmm...been there done that...not an issue at all...not sure about "soul" mate per se but definitely someone who I could easily have spent the rest of my life with...he contributed in so many other ways...he was a great cook  | |
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Posted: 5/30/2008 2:44:12 PM | | I just updated my profile and am really looking for someone please check it out and get back with me, I already told all my friends on AOL that I was having a girl come and live with me so somebody please hurry up and send me an email If more than one person wants to send me an email I will pick the girl that looks the best probably the girl with the biggest chest as long she isnt too fat or something. | |
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| what if your soul mate is NOT financial stable
Posted: 7/12/2008 7:05:18 AM | | most people (men and women) just aren't attracted to what they perceive as irresponsible bums. financial stability also reflects other values in life: tenacity, work ethic, ability to defer gratification, ambition, drive. i have those qualities and i expect them in my friends, family, colleagues, mates, etc.. moreover, i worked long and hard to get the degrees i have and to get the career i have. i gravitate towards peers (in all aspects of my life)- plain and simple. men who aren't peers and who don't have core values similar to mine turn me off. there's nothing more to it. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2008 7:21:13 AM | In reference to the person that started this topic.
I met my so-called soul mate last year. He is an American, I am Canadian. He has major issues but that still didn't keep me from wanting to be with him. In fact, I think it was the matter that I was stable and independent that eventually led to our relationship's demise, on his part anyway. So, to me, as long as you're with someone you care about and are happy, money, etc does not matter. I was more than willing and still am to share what I have with him and he knows that, but that's not here nor there, because here I am on POF.
Just wanted to put in my opinion on this subject. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2008 10:46:59 PM | I thought that for 35 years of my life. They can't or won't get a job, you find you suddenly owe $5,000 in phone bills one day because they tried to go into business, they were going on vacation with you and you were paying for it all and they cashed in the ticket, ran off and told the whole world you were a ****, so they wouldn't have to pay it back.. It doesn't work and you hurt, hurt, hurt, hurt, hurt. Don't fall for that crap. There is more than one soul mate in the entire universe, and you desrve one who can and will pay his own bills, and not wipe up the floor with you in the name of someone owes them everything.
Romeo and Juliet both had plenty of money. They were children of gentlemen, and in those days, that was at least upper middle class, probably lower upper. I'm tired of this whole cult of the lady of the manor running off with the Gypsy Davey. After making fantastic love on the greensward for two weeks, sleeping on the cold, wet grass, being pregnant every year and Davey turning into a roaring drunk and deadbeat gets old. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2008 11:07:28 PM | If that soul mate that lives is Michigan is my husband and he lose his job and our house is reposes that is a different story, I will do my best to help him. But if he lose his job and his house soul mate or no soulmate I won't date him , myself is a enough baggage for me to take care and I don't need another baggage....lol | |
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Posted: 7/12/2008 11:31:08 PM | I'm looking for a life mate, not a soul mate. Someone who will be my partner.
I'm not going to date anyone I don't really like, even if he is working at Walmart. As for the guy who lives in Michigan with no job and no house, I wish him the best. I'm not married to him.
Did you actually read Romeo and Juliet? Two teenagers that confuse infatuation with love and then die? Yeah, I'll pass on that type of relationship, thanks.
I'm looking for someone to share and build a relationship and life with. Idealism won't feed you or keep a roof over your head. I'll choose a guy that I can love and admire who will stand by me over a fantasy. | |
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| what if your soul mate is NOT financial stable
Posted: 7/12/2008 11:35:33 PM | | i wouldn't date anyone who isn't financially stable,i respect people who work hard enough to be stable..i do i expect the same in a partner, someone who didn't wouldn't be my soul mate (i would work 3 jobs before my house would repossesed)..its not about being rich, or have a bunch of expendable income its about being stable. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2008 8:46:34 AM | This is my take on this subject for what it's worth.
I have dated well off men, I have dated not so well off men but I have given them all an equal shot. From this experience I have learned that for it to work for me a man must bring what I bring to the table and that there is nothing wrong with that expectation. | |
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Posted: 8/23/2008 2:26:24 AM | If money is part of your criteria for a soulmate, and that "soulmate" doesn't fit that aspect of the criteria, than maybe that person is not your soulmate. Take it from a guy who doesn't believe in soulmates since we pick and choose who we want to date, sleep with, etc. Love isn't fate, it's about choices we make. Somebody decides to talk somebody and it grows from there. I know a couple who dated for seven years, that's right SEVEN, my cousin and his ex-wife. You would think they are soulmates right??? WRONG. Their marriage lasted only six months. Oh yeah, by the way, money was the primary reason for their split. Just because a couple dates for seven years, doesn't make them soulmates. How tragic. Please, don't talk about soulmates, it's one of the worst, most irrelevant words ever invented in the English language. Have a nice day.  | |
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Posted: 8/24/2008 9:14:56 AM | Amen sister!
I've heard..."how people treat money is how they treat their relationships"
Of course bad things happen to good people, and that's terrible.
But you really do need to have your own act together before you can make a relationship work. | |
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Posted: 8/24/2008 11:01:59 AM | if your soulmate is in a financial distress like getting laid off from a job
or his business tanked or gone belly up,then you should stick by him no matter whats going on,for thick or thin you should stick with him,if you are a true soulmate with him.after all a pack of wolves sticks together no matter what ,so we should'nt be any less different. | |
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| what if your soul mate is NOT financial stable
Posted: 8/24/2008 11:13:52 AM | OP: Not everyone has the same expectations of a "soul mate". Some might want financial stability. Others may have your more romantic view. There are a multitude of combinations of likes and dislikes and needs and requirements...
...but ultimately when you elect to go into a relationship you take on the whole package, the good stuff plus all the flaws and quirks and idiosyncracies. In my incredibly pompous opinion, it's ignorance of this fact that prevents long term relationships from happening and causes the disintegration of many others. | |
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Posted: 8/24/2008 11:26:06 AM | I've had my fair share of hard luck...I didn't sit on the sofa crying woah is me. I got off my back side and did what I had to do to support my family. I've had some unusual jobs for a woman. I've fought brush fires, farm hand, you name it I've probably done it.
I've worked hard to get to where I am now, I'm no snob. I don't look down my nose at what anyone does for a living as long as they are trying to do something..
So if my soul mate turns out to be a gas jockey so be it..I'm betting he's not sitting on a sofa whimpering about how life has done him no good..cuz that's just not the kind of man I'd look for.
He's the one gettin up and brushin himself off and gettin done what needs to be done, just as I would. | |
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