| Reasons for hidden profiles
Posted: 4/13/2008 5:52:41 AM | Well one time I was dating a guy from POF & it turned out he was emailing chicks in another site! That ended pretty quickly, as I confronted him & put him on LOCKDOWN!
I think it's normal to look & even flirt, but anything beyond that (giving out phone #'s & arranging to meet them for pizza or coffee) is a huge NO-NO
You know how to train a dog? get a leash & collar, a doghouse & a fenced in yard...plus some doggie treats. Every dog needs to know who his master is & where his boundaries lie | |
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| Reasons for hidden profiles
Posted: 4/13/2008 6:25:59 AM | | hidden profile= hidden life... hidden factds and a great deal of trouble waiting. | |
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| Reasons for hidden profiles
Posted: 4/13/2008 6:39:30 AM | To answer the general question, I hide my profile off and on for a few reasons:
1. If I'm emailing with a few different guys and want to see if any of those go anywhere. I just can't always keep track of that many people at once and I like to be able to focus my attention if I've already established a connection with someone.
2. I sometimes feel like I just need a break.
I don't have anything to hide. | |
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| Reasons for hidden profiles
Posted: 4/13/2008 7:51:55 AM | You said it.
Its akin to "Have's and Have Not's"
Some have had enough and when they find someone worth their time and viceversa - they have had enough. They are done with it.
Some have NOT had enough and when they find someone they eventually start looking for someone NEW again - they have NOT had enough. They are NOT done with it. | |
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| Reasons for hidden profiles
Posted: 4/13/2008 8:04:24 AM | i hid mine for a while... mostly because i was interested in someone, thought he was interested in me, and while i was only writing to two people i had known for a while... only friends.. email friends... he was still on, active.. and looking ..:(
so i unhid and came back to pof recently... not necessarily to fish , it hurts to be lied to... even on the net lol but i do enjoy the forums, and have met ppl who have similar interests who i hope to meet one day, not for dating.. | |
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Posted: 4/14/2008 9:08:44 PM | It does hurt to be lied to and yes, even on the net but the men that do that are the ones with the problem. Not me, not you. I don't believe every man you meet on here or any where else will necessarily do the same thing. I have come to feel pity for the child in a suit that did that to me. Remember who you are, you are good, you are gorgeous.
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Posted: 4/14/2008 9:11:50 PM | | As said in the above post. The penny finally dropped. I was trying to have a relationship with a child in suit. He will definitely marry an 18 year old from his home country when he is 40. Bless that woman and pray for her because it won't stop him from playing. | |
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| Reasons for hidden profiles
Posted: 7/8/2008 10:39:35 AM | | If one's profile is hidden and emails someone can they then see the hidden profile? Haven't found an answer to this. Thanks | |
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Posted: 7/8/2008 9:00:18 PM | before you jumped to conclusions, you could have deleted that and checked to see if it came back
ooops, just saw the 18 yr old from his own country add on post, haven't you ever read the forums of women from certain countries complaining how almost all men there cheat and divorce to marry young girls when their wives turn 30ish? Did he like vodka perhaps? | |
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| Reasons for hidden profiles
Posted: 7/8/2008 9:13:48 PM | | I hide mine because I'm not looking for anyone to date/see/meet/sex right now. I met someone on here a while back, and it's still going strong. I'm here to get advice, give advice, have a laugh and chat with folks. Could that be what he was doing? I'd have been checking his acct - you could have told if it was hidden or not without even logging in. | |
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Posted: 7/8/2008 9:25:19 PM | | OMG you did not just type that!!! Shes not saying its a "link" in his favorites, shes saying it was the first thing on his dropdown menu...you dont have to assume its the last place hes been, it IS the last place he has been!! Not a broad jump from point A to point B at all, more like common sense, even "simple" minds could figure that out...sweetie..LOL ;-) | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 2:45:02 PM | If one's profile is hidden and emails someone can they then see the hidden profile? Haven't found an answer to this. Thanks
Yes. If your profile is hidden and you email someone...they will be able to see your profile. Same thing if one of you is on the others fav's list. 
Mine is hidden because I'm not interested in dating right now...but I like the forums.
And yeah, on my computer the last site I visited is the first on my dropdown. Regardless, you don't trust him (possibly for good reason) so I'd say you don't have much to build on. Just my .02 | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 7:25:53 PM | | lol; the first thing you need in a relationships is trust; something you guys dont have. Date him casually but this is a doomed situation. Neither trusts the other so you should just move on. | |
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Posted: 7/10/2008 3:42:26 AM | The dropdown menu she's referring to is the address bar in Internet Explorer and probably other browsers. When you click on it (to go back to a site you've previously gone to, which is how I get here for that matter) the website at the top of that list is the last one you visited. So if POF was constantly at the top of his browser address bar, that was the last place he visited before she used his computer.
That said, no one knows why he was logging in here. My profile is hidden, but I still like the forums, so if someone saw my computer they'd think I was still here trying to find someone and that's just not the case. | |
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Posted: 7/10/2008 3:45:02 AM | | Uh.......you consider a man a dog that needs training, and you his master? I just don't even know what to say to that. Except that maybe there's a reason why you're single. | |
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| Reasons for hidden profiles
Posted: 7/10/2008 3:48:22 AM | | Caskey, in IE you can't delete an item from the address bar drop-down. you can only delete EVERYTHING by deleting the History under Internet Options. but if someone did that, it would be very noticeable. | |
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Posted: 7/10/2008 11:40:17 AM | My profile is hidden because I'm in an exclusive relationship and totally in love with my bf! I have no wish to date or even look at or for anyone else. I am here only for the forums. I do find the information interesting and sometimes helpful in my relationship. Have learned quite a bit about men in particular. I also like to encourage others occasionally since I met my bf on-line and feel like we are a success story.
I have never cheated on any man in my entire life--not even a boyfriend I was just starting to date. I am a one-man woman and can be trusted completely. Nothing underhanded going on, nothing to hide. Just plain enjoy and learn from the forums.
I see nothing wrong with that. Yes, it would be nice if I didn't need a profile to participate in the forums. If I didn't, I wouldn't have one--period. I found the POF forums when I did have a profile up on the site. I became familiar with it and am sticking to it for now. Never thought about looking for another similar forum that is not connected to a dating site--don't even know if there is such a thing out there--at least not one with the same type of relationship information. So feel most comfortable sticking with what I already have, thank you very much!... | |
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Posted: 7/18/2008 8:32:30 AM | | OBXchick, you might have to decide if someone is a computer wiz or a computer moron yes, many people never use the dropdown bar and wouldn't even know you had cleared their history | |
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Posted: 7/18/2008 11:22:02 AM | If someone I was dating asked me to hide my profile, I would if we were exclusive. If we were just dating, and we didn't have a conversation about seeing other people, or just to see eachother I would tell him that unless there is an agreement between two people that we aren't dating others, sure and we both take it down and don't date anyone else online, or period. However if it was too soon, I would tell him its too soon for exclusively but im open to it once we get to know eachother better.
Bottom line if someone has their profile up, after you are just dating eachother, I consider that cheating. If you aren't consciense about what dating sites your on, and how to remove them, I don't think I want to date you anyway. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2008 11:46:51 AM | The only reason I hide my profile is because I need a break here and there or I have personal stuff I'm going through and I just can't be bothered. Otherwise, it's always there.
It's up to you. Maybe there is a good excuse.
Good luck. | |
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| Reasons for hidden profiles
Posted: 7/18/2008 1:42:50 PM | | Well if yours is hidden and his is hidden and he is on your favorites you can tell when the last time he logged on was. Really simple, hidden doesn't mean removed. Just means others cannot find you unless you are already on their favorites and doesn't mean you can't find others. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2008 1:55:23 PM | It's pretty simple to me actually. If I had a GF (which means exclusivity), and I still wanted to be here on the forums. You can bet, that I would not only be set to Non-searchable.
But I would also rewrite my profile and detail this wonderful woman in my life, that got me off the market. It would be apparently and blatantly obvious that I was in a relationship and NOT LOOKING.
In the meantime, I stay hidden and just check out the forums.
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Posted: 7/18/2008 7:10:58 PM | | Why is it your ex's business whether you are dating or not? I think you are dumb to have any contact with an ex. | |
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