| It's all about looks...
Posted: 5/18/2008 2:17:51 AM | | People don't get into relationships only for someone's apparent beauty, but it is a factor in many relationships. What should be kept in mind is that beauty is a complex concept, which has common and also different elements across different cultures. What is seen as beautiful in one culture is not necessarily seen that way in another. This means beauty is to a high degree something which is subjective, in the sense beauty and our sense of it depends on our cultural conditioning and perception. If one person judges you to be unattractive, another person with a different set of criteria in judging attractive and unattractive features in a person might come to a different conclusion. In any case, even if you dated someone who found you unattractive, you would get rejected later on anyway. | |
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| It's all about looks...
Posted: 5/28/2008 1:05:00 AM | I love this story!!!  Did I say I love this story!!! Yep Idid. And you just got to love this lady she said it all in a nut shell, got it right on too!
There are so many women out there that just cant get past the picture/looks stigma. These same ladies who will just waste away forever alone, looking for the just RIGHT looks or picture, are in fact missing the best times in the rest of their short stay here on earth!! At least 90% of all men are in fact after all just average Joe's in the looks department right? Anyone ever mention to these ladies you cant hold time in a bottle!! ::Author easybutton2:
Lady.Rancher65 on 4/8/2008 4  19 AM: I definitely understand the initial writer's point. But 'huukdonfoniks' is exactly 'right on',also. Now, let me give you a 3rd scenario. Just yesterday, I decided to drive a few short miles (it just so happened the guy lived nearby and I located his address after he kept leaving his phone # whenever I would ask for a pix. I finally gave in and called him to let him know I was 'on my way' to meet him at his house. He said he was just getting o/o the shower and that it was a 'bad time'. Well, that 'bad time' could have meant a lot of things so that made me even more determined to put an 'eye' on him. After all, there has to be 'something' for the eyes to see to get your motor revving. (Before I go any further, NO, I was only going to sit in my car (which I did) and face it for a 'quick getaway'...never know, could be a bad dude...and wait for him to come out)...I told him I only needed 30 seconds. (Found out when I got there, he was on his way to work...2 pm weekday). Let me tell you this...my heart was pounding so hard it hurt, after I met him. His eyes made me melt. They appeared to look right into my soul and he would always look right into mine. I kept my cool, though, because I didn't want to drop my guard. After all, I hadn't spent any time with him as yet. We ended up talking for 20 minutes, with him standing out in the cold with only my passenger car door to block the breeze (I thought he would come to the driver's side..and I was staying right there with the engine running (mine, too, ha! ha!) All I could think about on the way home were 'those eyes'. Yes, folks, he also had a sense of humor and he didn't look 60 nor act it. He didn't have as full head of hair as I would like. He will be contacting me today to see if I want to go a step further and go to coffee. (His comment was that he was 'pleasantly surprised'), You can bet I will go to coffee with him for 'another look at him and 'those eyes'. I was determined to have a visual for various reasons. He believed in "personality" first. Usually, that's because they don't consider themselves very attractive. I ended up being swept (almost) off my feet and I almost missed my chance at possibly dating him. Of course, it was 'handy' that he ended up living so close to where I work. That was sheer coincidence!! I was ready to, not totally give up, but to back away from the site for a few weeks to wait for 'fresh blood' to join. I still believe fully in being able to put a face with the profile, first, but I took a chance. THIS HAPPENED ON THIS SITE. We'll see where things go from here. Author: easybutton2 | |
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| It's all about looks...
Posted: 5/28/2008 2:53:35 AM | All about looks? That explains a lot. I tried to post my quality photo and the download cut off half my head. I had to use the blurred snapshot my ma took 2 years ago for my main photo instead.
Seriously, though, I was speaking to another guy I know who'd tried e-dating and we'd both been disappointed by the quality and number of the responses we'd received compared to the women we'd met face- t0- face in the past. This guy is a 22 year old professional rock musician, so if he's not getting much play, it doesn't hold out much hope for the rest of us.
Hey, I have to rely on my personality to impress women, I might as well enter a monastery now. Not a bad idea, actually. I've already got chastity and poverty down pat and the way my hair's going, I'm well on the way to a Friar Tuck haircut. Sandals and a brown bathrobe, though... | |
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| It's all about looks...
Posted: 5/28/2008 3:37:52 AM | my friend ~ much of life is salesmanship and packaging ~ you have just confirmed this simple fact. ~
and it applies ~ wherever you go.
so take this knowledge with you ~ and your time not be wasted here. dance | |
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| It's all about looks...
Posted: 5/28/2008 5:41:00 AM | lol well all i have to say about this thread is that, well arent most of us looking for the full package? well to a certain extent? You want someone you can be attrated to, you want someone with the same morals and values as you, i dont think anyone wants to settle.
Anyway misrepresentation will get you nowhere. always shoot from the hip!!!
good luck to everyone. | |
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| It's all about looks...
Posted: 5/28/2008 5:46:08 AM | I'm with the OP....Supermodel or Brad Pitt get dates on here. How many times have I read "Looking for a hot guy" crap. Or "I don't respond unless you have a pic. I've had pics lots of pics still no response. Never see "Looking for an honest hard working man" | |
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| It's all about looks...
Posted: 5/28/2008 6:15:44 AM | | That certainly is disturbing. Its natural to be attracted to a good-looking person but your experiment proves that yes ppl can be shallow and can take appearances way too seriously. | |
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| It's all about looks...
Posted: 5/28/2008 7:57:49 AM | (quote) Somany men and women on this site are hypocrites. Both sides are guilty of being pic-whores, and both sides are skilled at putting the right words in their profile, yet remaining shallow in their true interests.
That is true...when I first put my profile on here I could not upload my pic so I got very few emails..What I had written about me is the unvarnished truth..some that I mailed did not like that I am a born again christian...Then I had some recent pics taken and was able to get them on here. Shortly after I put them up I was bombarded by emails..suddenly noone cared if I was christian or demon..It was Hey Sexy..beautiful pics blah blah blah...How the heck did they know if I was sexy or not looking sexy and being sexy is two entirely different things......I remember as a child going to school at christmas time we drew other kids names to give gifts to and if someone who got my name did not like me I would receive a beautifully wraped gift only to find a plain notebook inside....Hey guys don't worry to much about the packaging once un wrapped (and I don't mean taking off the clothes) you'll be surprised at the awesome beauty you could find inside.... Some of the most beautiful things I have received came in plain brown paper. | |
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| It's all about looks...
Posted: 5/28/2008 12:03:59 PM |
Anyway misrepresentation will get you nowhere. always shoot from the hip!!!
Where was salesmanship and packaging conscrewed as misrepersentation?
Jack Palace, Richard Boone were the ugliest men dead or alive and they were covered up in women. ~
If you have a history of poor accuracy ~ it's best to concentrate and aim carefully before you jump out there ~ no hip shots please ~ at least until you are printing on paper. Hone your skills ` Poppie's "me yam what me yam" don't cut it.
Everything that you "ever" bought was sold by someone. ~ was it not?
Women care less about looks then you do! dance | |
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