| Has anyone here done a deed poll name change for a child
Posted: 4/12/2008 12:33:45 PM | Hi,
Yes, I've done one for myself and for my son.
It was very easy, I found a template on line changed the details and took it to a solicitor for a signature..
He only charged me a fiver for each one.
I think your well within your rights to change the name if the father is distant..
I changed mine to my ex-wife's name (hold on let me explain)
My father left me when i was five and never did squat for me or my mum.
My mothers family where arsehole's to her and too me because she was a bit of a hippy.
so to me both family names where unattractive..
I meet the love of my life, her family became mine so we talked about it and did it..
I don't regret it even though were now split up.
Remy my son has started using a double-barreled name at school.. Bless..
good luck with whatever you decide..
jode
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| Has anyone here done a deed poll name change for a child
Posted: 2/11/2009 8:31:11 AM | wow how things have changed since this..... His involvement is fantastic now, couldn't ask for more...
I did change my childrens names but only within school and healthcare to Maiden name-Married name rather than just Married name(fathers name)
He isn't happy about it, but thats as much as he says.
There is a few reasons I wanted my maiden name included in my childrens name. One being, I was rather immature when I had my children and didn't think I would ever part from their father, I should have registered them from the start with both names.
Secondly, being the last of 5 girls, my poor daddy-o has no boys to live out his name.
And there is a few other reasons too, Very glad I did it now. | |
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| Has anyone here done a deed poll name change for a child
Posted: 2/11/2009 10:37:50 AM | I changed my eldest sons name to my married name after I had my second child. My reasons were that all my children would have the same surname which would cause less issues and problems during school years.
All I did was inform the doctor and his school of the name change. At 16 he received his NI number in this name, and never had a problem.
When he joined the army they accepted this name as he had been known by it most of his life and so did the passport agency. He can get married with this name even though its not on his birth certificate.
My sister changed her name to my mums maiden name when she was 13 and again she didn't have any trouble with the legality of it, she had a passport and was buried with this name when she died. Non of them did it by deed pole or through the courts. | |
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| Has anyone here done a deed poll name change for a child
Posted: 2/11/2009 11:07:29 AM | My first son had my maiden name as I had him before we married, my second had my married name, as soon as he came old enough he decided to use my maiden name..I didnt do it by deed pool we just did the same as I did when I decided to use my maiden name. after the divorce
I never did it by deed poll, so he still has his dads last name on his Birth certificate although my maiden name on his passport..I expect we will have to change that at some point ( if he wants to marry ) or he will have to be married under his dads surname. | |
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| Has anyone here done a deed poll name change for a child
Posted: 2/11/2009 12:15:51 PM | For a mates 21st we changed his name by deedpoll. All it needed to become official was his signature and for the paperwork to be ratified legally.
I still say that a name is an awesome present for someone!! Especially at the £20 ish it cost us | |
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| Has anyone here done a deed poll name change for a child
Posted: 2/12/2009 8:24:58 AM |
why do people always think they own their children?
For once, I agree 100% with your sentiments!
To own, is to have bought. Beings I did not buy my children, but instead carried them, cared for and they are part of my flesh and blood, they do belong to me.
Therefor, it is upto me what I want for them as I am their guardian. | |
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| Has anyone here done a deed poll name change for a child
Posted: 2/12/2009 5:22:35 PM |
Of course, I recognise there's sometimes a real need to change a child's name for their own physical protection from a violent parent, but that isn't among the reasons given by the OP in the very first post of this thread, and that is the scenario I am basing my responses upon.
Thats all very well and good, but I do talk to julie quite often and know of her situation fairly well.
Julie isn't doing it out of spite or any other reason that could be deemed as hatefull. Julie's doing it for peace of mind, because not only is the surname of the child(ren) different but it will be a constant reminder to her about an issue in her life julie would not like to be reminded of on a regular basis. And as she is raising her children for most of the time and having a difficult time provided by her ex, I think that she is entitiled to do it.
After all it's just a name, it makes no difference in the childs love for either parent.
It's just a matter of someones pride getting in the way. | |
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| Has anyone here done a deed poll name change for a child
Posted: 2/13/2009 5:35:13 AM | I am not changing a name though  I am adding an extra one... My maiden name.. the children now have a double barrelled name within school and healthcare.
Once they are old enough they can make the names offical by deed poll so its THEIR choice or can eliminate their fathers name, if thats what they want.
Their fathers surname is very unusual and all in this area are related and it is also associated with violence and nut jobs. | |
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| Has anyone here done a deed poll name change for a child
Posted: 10/14/2009 12:59:47 PM | I changed my sons name by deed pole to my new surname after I got married, he has never known his own father and had my maiden name to begin with. Unfortunately I am divorced now and it wasn't a great separation so there is no continued contact. However my son's surname is now part of his identity amongst his peers and in his work and school life so I am stuck with keeping my married name to keep us both the same.
The only thing that concerns me about people changing their children's surnames is when they have contact with their father or if there is a chance that contact may be re - kindled, it would be unfair to take away that part of their identity and pretty confusing depending on their age.
Another thing is when applying for a passport, bank account or any other formal ID thing in the future entails having both forms of identification. Your birth certificate and your deed pool, so your original surname always stays with you whatever you do. | |
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| Has anyone here done a deed poll name change for a child
Posted: 10/14/2009 2:33:06 PM |
are you saying i can change my sons name for 40 pounds with no ones consent please get back to me ellia
It depends on whether the other parent has Parental Responsibility. If the father's name is on the birth certificate and you weren't married and it was prior to the law change then you have to notify school, healthcare etc of his new name and he should be known by that name for (I think) 3 years. You can then ask the school/docs for a letter saying he has been known by that name for X amount of time and apply for a new birth certificate in the new name.
If you were married or your child was born after the law change then I'm not sure whether you have to get permission from the child's father to change the name. | |
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| Has anyone here done a deed poll name change for a child
Posted: 10/14/2009 2:35:18 PM | | I changed my own name by deed poll as soon as i was old enough to do so without my parents consent. They've never forgiven it but to me it just served them right for fighting over me and my brother for fourteen years. It made the point that i would choose none over one or the other. | |
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| Has anyone here done a deed poll name change for a child
Posted: 10/15/2009 1:55:16 AM | | I suggested name changing to my daughter who was ten at the time of my divorce and she declined, she is now 16 and after years of neglect by her father she has choosen to change her name. My son is now ten and again ive given him the choice if he wants to be the same name as his mum and sister or his absent father. I wouldnt have changed their names without being sure they fully understood and it was their decision I choose to change my to my married name and therefore choose to give them their birth names as their fathers. | |
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| Has anyone here done a deed poll name change for a child
Posted: 10/15/2009 2:11:05 AM | I had my boys changed into my name a few years back,and i didnt need thier fathers consent as he wasnt about.
I didnt have any problems with it,just make sure you keep all the documentation safe i somehow managed to lose 1 of the boys actual document during moving house and it took me agaes to get a copy sorted from the solicitors and caused some problems trying to get thier passports. | |
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| Has anyone here done a deed poll name change for a child
Posted: 10/15/2009 2:42:11 AM | Hi
I have been through this and have recently changed my daughter's name if you want to contact me direct i will talk you through what you need to do.....as it is simple and easy once you know what you are doing..... | |
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| Has anyone here done a deed poll name change for a child
Posted: 10/15/2009 2:58:22 AM | When I divorced my solicitor had papers drawn up to the effect that my children were now to be known as, my maiden name, I phoned all the relevant authority's etc and the job was done..
However 2 years down the line when I needed a passport for them it was a nightmare..
I had to supply a letter from their fathers, one was in Canada and one I had no idea where he was, without these letters they would have had to have the name on their birth certificate..
It took a few months to get it all sorted, but was worth it in the end..
It was my children's choice to change their names..
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| Has anyone here done a deed poll name change for a child
Posted: 10/15/2009 3:14:10 AM | When my children were little I changed their name informally as my ex had no contact with them for several years. My children agreed with it totally at the time.
A few years later he got back in contact and remianed so up until the present day. The change of name was the only thing that ever caused any conflict through these years.
We decided to leave things as they were and let the children decide - both reverted back to their birth names in adulthood.
Personally I think ( now I am older and wiser) 'A rose by any other name smells as sweet' - its really not important what name your children have - it doesn't affect whats important within relationships in any way.
Its simply not important enough to risk causing upset and conflict in the future. | |
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| Has anyone here done a deed poll name change for a child
Posted: 10/15/2009 12:34:36 PM |
Bitterness and resentment are not my reasons.
Reasons would be his lack of interest and involvment and not paying his way!
In fact the ONLY reason you should consider this is because THEY want to change their names. After all, it is who THEY are. It is THEIR identity, regardless of what your ex is like. As you say they are in favour of this, I see no problem, but some children treasure a name as a reminder of who they are. (BTW, there are human rights laws which guarantee a child the right to their identity, and to KNOW their identity) In Scotland, you can call yourself whatever you want as long as it is not for the purposes of fraud.
I speak from experience, where my ex tried something similar after we split, but of course it is slightly more complex...
1) We got together; she was a divorcee, still with her married name.
2) Our daughter was born, and given my family name on her birth certificate.
3) After we split, my ex reverted to her maiden name.
Okay so far? Good...read on...
4) After we split, my ex changed my daughter's registration name at school and everywhere else this was necessary.
Nothing unusual about that, is there...?
5) Teachers got rather confused at parents' nights as they assume that I have the same name as my daughter, since she has a DIFFERENT name from her mother...
In fact she decided to change our daughter's name to that of her ex husband who hadn't actually been seen in twenty years, so now she doesn't share EITHER parent's name. Oh, and for anyone who thinks that there may be doubt over the parentage, she looks like her biological father: this is more so as she approaches adulthood
She forgot something;
A rose by any other name smells as sweet. | |
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| Has anyone here done a deed poll name change for a child
Posted: 10/15/2009 3:05:23 PM | You don't need a deed poll or anything...you can legally call yourself whatever you like. Solicitors will charge you for what is, in effect, a totally worthless piece of paper.
Onlt problem might come later when they need a passport or whatever, but it's easily sorted.
Don't pay a solicitor anything you don't need to...single parents struggle enough! | |
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| Has anyone here done a deed poll name change for a child
Posted: 10/16/2009 6:41:59 AM | My ex-wife did this...
First she cheated with another bloke, then when that became 'too complicated' for him, he passed her on to his friend...all this while she was expecting our first child.
I don't understand your reasons for wanting to change it, but I don't think it's the best idea in the world as all it achieves long term is to rub salt into a wound...
Bob. | |
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