| Profiles - why bother?
Posted: 4/23/2008 5:34:56 PM | wildheart.
I have already said this a thousand times already seems like. Men respond to the way they are being responded to. It's good that you don't just read/delete. Think about it this way, Before i started doing what i did, "Letting them come to me" I wouldn't be afraid to bet that i had at 50 to 75 women read/delete and never give me a second thought. When you take a man that has been turned down like this and worse the first thing he starts to do is protect himself. So here come the short 1 liners. As i have already said. There is to much read/delete. After a guy has been turned down 50 to 100 times it starts to mess with ones self esteem. Or they can be like me and wise up. I don't mean this to brag but when i started letting them come to me my luck changed. Don't ask me why, I don't know, It just did. I have sent out more messages that were as long as this message pertaining to a womans profile and how i liked it and how i liked the same things only to be ignored. I have sent out "wanna chat". That didn't work either. Things didn't change until i saw a post where another guy started letting them come to him and how it worked for him. In other words theres no right way to contact these women on here as far as writing to them. There is no way of knowing what each one likes when it comes to that unless they put it in there profile how they like to be contacted. Sorry, I know that women like to think us men are mind readers. WE ARE NOT MIND READERS. We only know if "YOU" COMMUNICATE to us. | |
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| Profiles - why bother?
Posted: 4/23/2008 9:34:02 PM | | I have gone to a few forums on here to see what people are chatting about it. I am quite often seeing the same information on disappointment on issues and people. Ladies, make yourself a list of what you want, your own expectations, everything you would want in a man. You don't need to post this, but read it everyday. When men respond to your profile, you will be much more easily ready to write off what you don't want and either block their profile or just delete what ever msg they sent you. You will also be able to knock off the real from the fake much easier. Another thing that I want to mention is that I don't post a pic. But it I chat with someone and I like the way the conversation is going, I wouldn't hesitate to email a pick at a later date. If someone doesn't want to send a pic even at a later date, move on for gosh sakes...!! Don't talk about what you don't want in your profile, talk about what you want. If someone doesn't meet up to your expectations they may feel intimidated by them and not even respond to you whereas if you post what you don't want, you are attracting it just my mentioning it. Come on ladies we need to take responsibility!! | |
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| Profiles - why bother?
Posted: 4/23/2008 9:40:31 PM | | I have gone to a few forums on here to see what people are chatting about it. I am quite often seeing the same information on disappointment on issues and people. Ladies, make yourself a list of what you want, your own expectations, everything you would want in a man. You don't need to post this, but read it everyday. When men respond to your profile, you will be much more easily ready to write off what you don't want and either block their profile or just delete what ever msg they sent you. You will also be able to knock off the real from the fake much easier. Another thing that I want to mention is that I don't post a pic. But it I chat with someone and I like the way the conversation is going, I wouldn't hesitate to email a pick at a later date. If someone doesn't want to send a pic even at a later date, move on for gosh sakes...!! Don't talk about what you don't want in your profile, talk about what you want. If someone doesn't meet up to your expectations they may feel intimidated by them and not even respond to you whereas if you post what you don't want, you are attracting it just my mentioning it. Come on ladies we need to take responsibility!! | |
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| Profiles - why bother?
Posted: 4/23/2008 11:03:58 PM | | Burnleybabe....Just a thought, You ask someone if they want to chat because thats how to get to know someone isnt it? Would it be better if he had said, I want to talk to you?...its all just a matter of wording really, but thats where you start from..chatting | |
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| Profiles - why bother?
Posted: 4/24/2008 3:44:20 AM |
Don't talk about what you don't want in your profile, talk about what you want.
That is not a surefire way to attract someone either. I'm a pretty positive person and I continue to contact men because I know there are good ones out there.
My profile does not say anything about what I don't want. I am willing to bet that the women with things in their profile about what they don't want get more contacts than I do........Just a feeling :) | |
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| Profiles - why bother?
Posted: 4/24/2008 4:03:46 PM | wild heart says.........
My profile does not say anything about what I don't want. I am willing to bet that the women with things in their profile about what they don't want get more contacts than I do........Just a feeling :)
Wild heart, Truth, From what i read on these forums the women with long lists of demands (want & don't want) get ignored by a lot of men. As for me, I will tell you that i do. I pass right on by them. It's a huge turn off when a man reads these list of demands. Some are OK like no drunks or dope heads. I have Actually read profiles on here where women wanted there men to make a certain amount of money. He had to be a 9 to 5 kind of guy, ware certain kinds of clothes, drive a new car, That's just a few. It gets worse. "If you don't reach these demands don't bother" I have read profiles like this, Laugh, and keep going.
Also, The ones i read about what they don't want, As long as it's reasonable it's OK. Most of then are not. If the women on POF would read these forums and take it to heart they might find out why there are more women on this site that get ignored. They might find out why they have been here for years and can't seem to get a man. If they do, why they can't seem to keep him. | |
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| Profiles - why bother?
Posted: 4/24/2008 4:23:22 PM | ^^^I know what you are saying because I read what the men write and that they don't like alot of restrictions.
Personally, I don't mind if a man has alot of restrictions. BUT my motto is that I can expect what I can offer. No more no less. | |
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| Profiles - why bother?
Posted: 4/25/2008 2:14:47 PM | I thought i would come back over here and add this. I know it might not get read but i will put it here any way. I came across a profile of a lady not to far from me. In her profile she was griping about men not returning her messages so i thought i would send her a message just to see if she would answer. Know what i got? Unread/delete It's amazing to me how women gripe about men and then do the same thing themselves It's enough to drive some men do drink  Drives me to  | |
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| Profiles - why bother?
Posted: 4/25/2008 2:22:08 PM | ^^^holy crap! Yeah that's crazy eddie.
Too many people on here are like that. They talk about values and morals and no games and not returning messages yet they do not uphold their end of the bargain.
I think it has been mentioned here that people that tend to write about not playing games etc., seem to be the ones who ARE playing games!
No wonder both men AND women are so cynical about each other.
I have no problem if someone wants to read/delete or unread/delete, but DON'T be doing any of the pot calling the kettle black stuff in your profile. And these people have actually procreated or plan to.....scary. | |
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| Profiles - why bother?
Posted: 4/25/2008 4:41:13 PM | Thank you wild heart for being understanding of my posts. I don't mean any harm. Just telling the truth. To bad we are to far apart. We might could actually get along  You have a good day and good luck to you. You seem like a very understanding woman. There are a lot of men out there that will find that in itself very attractive. I do. | |
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