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Posted: 4/11/2008 7:02:11 AM | Not-For-You
You've mistaken my comment for interest. I have have no interest in speaking with you or meeting your strap-on. I suspect the reason you own a strap-on is because men within a 100 mile radius already know your MO and have no desire for your brand of loathing. Keep that strap-on handy, I would wager it will come in handy since a warm male body will be hard for you to find. | |
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| Profiles - why bother?
Posted: 4/11/2008 8:07:38 AM |
Gosh so many of you fellas are interested in me
Hey peepelz ... Please don't feed the bears!! They tend to stick around wanting more and more!! hehe | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 10:04:36 AM |
The attraction is either there or its not. With her, it most definately was!
And there's the rub!!
I think though that most of us will say that if someone who we are attracted to both physically and profile wise contacts us with an email such as the one you mentioned - it's a no-brainer.
I'm thinking more along the lines of men who are not an instant attraction, not the  that you experienced. But then again, even guys who I may have an instant attraction to physically will not mean I have the mental attraction (profile).
And as I also said, I have responded to the "hi" or "wanna chat" emails, but the ensuing emails proved to be just as effortless once I replied. | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 10:21:53 AM | You are online??...to meet people??...How do get to know someone if you DON'T WANT TO CHAT WITH THEM??????????......This has to be the most irritating complaint , and it 's continuously made.....I suppose if they E-mail, "what to F*ck?? " and thats it......thats okay??????...You want a man with a brain? but you just don't want him to use it!!!! How do you know he is interested in you if he doesn't CHAT with you?
Did you THINK about this thread before you wrote it? | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 10:27:28 AM | | For some guys, this is the best way they know how to start a conversation. It can seem impersonal, like the guy is bored and just looking for someone to hang out with. I usually say no. But occasionally I will ask what they want to talk about. It could always lead to an interesting conversation. And besides, once in a while I am bored and don't mind chatting back and forth. | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 10:29:24 AM | Well indeed why bother - with you that is! I consider your attitude insensitive and shallow. Do you really want to meet anyone?
As a guy, I've found it a waste of time to say much more to a profile that I've found interesting than, "Do you want to chat?" I've already read it and found it interesting, so my next step is to ask if she is interested in me (my profile). Why spend time writing to someone who may not respond?
I look at it this way. The profiles are the introductions to each other. When I say, "do you want to chat?" I'm in essence saying take a look at my profile and do you want to go any further?
So many women here have so many restrictions in their profiles that I'm just not interested in meeting them to begin with. In reality, these restrictions are no more than a form of control and they do a number on any form of communication. What are you ladies so afraid of? Frankly any man who is willing to play your restrictive game of roadblocks is either a wimp or a player.
Oh and getting back to the OP, you can add another restriction to your profile that the email has to be a certain length. That'll ensure you won't get any "Wanna chat messages!"
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Posted: 4/11/2008 11:07:35 AM |
So many women here have so many restrictions in their profiles that I'm just not interested in meeting them to begin with. In reality, these restrictions are no more than a form of control and they do a number on any form of communication. What are you ladies so afraid of? Frankly any man who is willing to play your restrictive game of roadblocks is either a wimp or a player.
If you aren't interested in someone that smokes, lives a million miles away, is this old, etc., I don't see how that is control. It isn't fear either. I like men that are healthy and don't smoke. If you aren't healthy and like to smoke, I am not a good match. I have done long distance relationships and have not found them to work well, that is me. There are enough people out there and figure I am not who they are looking for, not a game, reality. If someone is close and healthy, well, yeah, I probably will consider meeting them.
Going back to the definition of chat, it sounds like they want to do just that chat online. I still won't chat online and am not interested in pen pals. I try to answer my emails if there is a question or if they aren't what I consider to be disgusting or vulgar. I have found some men aren't looking to meet someone, they play games with emails. Someone that can't email me at my email address is a player as far as I am concerned. They have a girlfriend or a wife that they don't want to know that they emailed someone. They can hide their pof emails, but not their email. That is how I feel. | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 11:23:33 AM |
As a guy, I've found it a waste of time to say much more to a profile that I've found interesting than, "Do you want to chat?" I've already read it and found it interesting, so my next step is to ask if she is interested in me (my profile). Why spend time writing to someone who may not respond?
Exactly -so if you mean that, why not just actually say that? "Hey, liked your profile (a detail or two that personalizes it) and would love to talk to you...could you read my profile and respond if interested in return?"
Just...."wanna chat?" doesn't even hit the radar for us, because most that have said that to us haven't read anything.
I look at it this way. The profiles are the introductions to each other. When I say, "do you want to chat?" I'm in essence saying take a look at my profile and do you want to go any further?
"Do you want to chat?" would never (to me) mean any of that, it's too vague and doesn't tell us anything about why you're messaging. You're better off saying that outright. | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 11:27:26 AM | @trueblue....maybe YOU might want to think before you post....
I have no problem chatting/msn'ing with a guy. I am talking about the initial first contact. You would know this if you read my post...I guess it is not only the guys that aren't reading here, eh?
Now...where's my beer....ah, there we go | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 11:29:22 AM | | why bother with a more in depth response? Most of you just "read delete" anyhow. | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 11:33:48 AM | You would not walk up to a person at a bar or night club and say....."Do you want to talk?"
Most would walk up and let that person know that they are interested in knowing them better by sharing some information, or asking some personal question that relates to them and the situation.
Emailing another is about the same, and those sending that email of interest should explain in some way why they just might be interested, and to let you know that you they would like you to view their profile in order to see if there is any interest back or connection.
I just had one sent to me the other night from someone that had no picture and emailed me that they thought I was cute, and to send my number to them and we could talk......shakes head.......
As usual, I sent them a thank you for the compliment, and that if they read my profile all the way, they would know that I do not correspond with those that do not have pictures, or send them with the email. I gave them the chance to send me some, and they chose not to, but still wanted to talk on the phone. I thanked them and said no thank you without making the playing field equal.
Oh well......just part of the fishing in the pond......
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Posted: 4/11/2008 11:37:40 AM | you know what the point is here where all here to chat and get to know the other person be hind the computer. help me out a little here what are going to say that would get you girls to talk to us. i tried them all and still dont get to chat with any one.
what do you woman want us guys to say
iv bin here for a long time and i have talked to many nice people on here but whats the point of this post of us saying hey you wanna chat or hello care to chat or hi i was wondering if you and i could chat. you know make your dame mind up at what you would like guys to say to you so we all know some of us are having a hard time talking to the woman on here.
i think it all as to do with being picky or us guys are not your type but how the **** do you know if you dont give out 5mints of your time to chat with any of us. im a good guy and all i have to do is show that to the ones i talk to but if we cant say hi or anything what do you want us to say. well op for the one who posted this. i think you should lower your standers and stop being so mean to guys and think with your brain your self and tell people what you want them to say also a girl like you im sure you are a nice person but get your picky bull shit and learn some new skills and stop being a road girl may be you will get lucky one day | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 11:48:49 AM | Um... I read your profile.
I do think it needs a revamp all though it's not all that terrible. You have to percevere to the end to get to the no { wanna chat} part.
I think it's unfair to pick on men. I took myself off of here for a while to see if something would work out.... changed my profile to read... sorry I'm currently unavailable, I'm just here for the forums for the time being.
I had 2 women mail me to tell me they liked my profile, and would I like to chat?
I mailed them back asking just what part they liked... funny I didn't hear back.
People are people... they are lazy and this does not nescessarrily apply to just men. | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 11:49:32 AM | @valinteno - uh, no...don't plan on lowering my standards anytime soon. Why should I? They are MY standards, others may choose to do differently.
I'm "mean"...how so? And why do I need to tell grown men what to say? I'm not their mother. They should know by now how to approach a woman and introduce themselves properly. It's not rocket-science.
What the heck is a "road girl"? Speak English, man! | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 12:10:59 PM | what do you woman want us guys to say
ONE FACKING QUESTION.
That's all it takes to start a convo. I'm not dating anyone from here who can't ask one question to get a convo going. If you think that is an effort, I'd hate to see what you think is effort in real life.
C_deacon: I did give an example of how the whole "hi" thing in person would go down and likened it to online and still came up with the same logical argument against those thinking that "wanna chat" or "hi" is acceptable, but nobody bit and provided any fact to dispute that my post made logical sense.
People are people... they are lazy and this does not nescessarrily apply to just men.
No, it doesn't. However I am NOT lazy. I can expect what I can offer. | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 12:27:21 PM |
You would not walk up to a person at a bar or night club and say....."Do you want to talk?"
Most would walk up and let that person know that they are interested in knowing them better by sharing some information, or asking some personal question that relates to them and the situation.
Emailing another is about the same, and those sending that email of interest should explain in some way why they just might be interested, and to let you know that you they would like you to view their profile in order to see if there is any interest back or connection.
THANK YOU. Well said. | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 12:29:09 PM | burnleybaby
your here to tell us guys what to say to woman like your self well for me im kinda lost here what are u talking about and what are we man going to say to get some one to chat so come on here think about it whats wrong with saying hello would you like to chat or hi care to chat or do you wanna chat. would you like a big long page of what where like be for you talk to one of us. you know what i think your to blind to see what a good guy is but you know when you see a bad guy fly your way so lay off us guys for just being who we are and if you dont like hey you wanna chat then tell some of them what to say maybe you will help some of them i dont have a hard time chating with people on here and if they dont want to chat i dont care any ways. i tell you why there is more then one sweet girl out there looking for some to chat with.. for your self you should not put guys down for nothing give some of them a chance to talk be for you say there not your type or anything k buddy good luck to you and lower your self a little you might get lucky with a good guy for your self k | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 12:36:21 PM | | BestOf1963 ... You do have a nice pic ... something I could realy sinnk my teeth into ... lol ... | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 12:42:14 PM | @valinteno - wow...that long-winded paragraph hurt my eyes....use a few commas, some capital letters...geesh...ow!
You're whining about girls not giving you a chance but then you say you don't care...make up your mind.
How did simply asking a few questions to peak someones interest turn into a "big long page"? I ain't going to tell you what to say....you guys are adults...figure it out for yourself. BE A MAN!
And it goes both ways...if I want a guys attention, I make the effort. | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 12:43:12 PM | I just got a sweet email:
My goodness, woman,
what fun does that leave room for?
Saw one of your posts, liked it.
Read your profile, liked it.
Noticed you have a sense of humor, which is always a plus.
Well... either that, or we get our drinking water from the same source.
How's your beautiful Friday afternoon?
p.s. the pic wasn't sent to impress or startle you.
But simply to let you know what I look like.
This guys is charming isnt he? Now of course I wrote him back and I cant wait for his reply. | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 12:45:33 PM | | Oh my goodness. Burnleybabe! Are serious? Be a man???? Hello...I'm reasonably certain English isn't Valinteno's first language. How many languages are you fluent in? | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 12:50:31 PM | not-for-you..I've got to admit that your profile is some what sarcastic but I also agree with many of your points ( um does that make me sarcastic ) the real funny one is.....occasional smoker,I so agree..either you does or you don't  I think all in all..some people can be take life ,roll with it and some are just so defensive! By the way I read ALL profiles..even the long ones | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 12:58:17 PM | Not-for-you-you-you or you...maybe that woman over there...
Hahaha...and what post would this fictitious man be referencing? The post where you suggested he and the rest of us amuse ourselves while you **** slap us with your strap-on? No…I think you’ve probably resorted to emailing yourself. | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 1:07:41 PM | I just got a sweet email:
My goodness, woman,
what fun does that leave room for?
Saw one of your posts, liked it.
Read your profile, liked it.
Noticed you have a sense of humor, which is always a plus.
Well... either that, or we get our drinking water from the same source.
How's your beautiful Friday afternoon?
p.s. the pic wasn't sent to impress or startle you.
But simply to let you know what I look like.
This guys is charming isnt he? Now of course I wrote him back and I cant wait for his reply.
Perhaps it was, however to others that it may not be quite so charming and emails such as this more often than not get ignored. Of course there are always exceptions.
Sometimes I would use a lyric to a song or a funny quote and at the most it would get read, but more often than not it would be overlooked. And seeing as I've used up a good number of contacts in my area, I've turned to the forums. | |
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