| How to seduce a Woman over 50?
Posted: 4/9/2008 4:59:22 PM | Pazoozoo, I disagree..
Seduction has absolutely nothing to do with relationship. Its sex, pure and simple. Its not love, its not commitment. Its being intrigued and attracted enough in a person to want them physically. Yes, it can happen within a relationship, but not always..I assure you I was married for 15 years and I can honestly say I was never seduced by my ex.
Mind you, thats probably because I was always the one doing the seducing
Every women will answer this question differently. I may be wrong here, but in my opinion its much easier to seduce a man then to seduce a woman. Women need more mental stimulation, but like I said, it varies, I'm just going by what would do it for me..
Besides....If all else fails, bring chocolate, that always works.. | |
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| How to seduce a Woman over 50?
Posted: 4/9/2008 5:06:07 PM | Pazoo says:
"Every woman who has ever been married has been seduced."
That is sheer nonsense. I enjoyed being married to a wonderful woman and she was never seduced. We treated each other with respect and honesty as equals.
If a woman needs to be seduced I don't want her. I respect people who are capable of making a choice and expressing their desires clearly and honestly.
If I offer her something and she says either "yes" or "no" I will NOT argue with her or try to "seduce" her, I will just accept her right to make choices.
If she says "no" I will NOT act as if she really does not mean it because I do NOT read between the lines or try to second-guess her or try to over-rule her. I will respect her enough to take it that she means exactly what she says. If I cannot respect her I am outathere anyway. | |
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| How to seduce a Woman over 50?
Posted: 4/9/2008 5:45:44 PM |
Its being intrigued and attracted enough in a person to want them physically
I can't imagine I would marry a man who did not intrigue and attract me enough to want them physically.
I enjoyed being married to a wonderful woman and she was never seduced
She must have truly been a wonderful and understanding woman to have enjoyed a sexual relationship and never had a romantic evening, a sweet note, or some hugs and kisses beforehand. Quite frankly, had my husband said "Do you want to have sex?" with no precursor or foreplay, we wouldn't have ever gotten married, much less had the long and successful relationship we enjoyed.
seduce - 2. to persuade or induce to have sexual intercourse.
Whether you persuade or induce by sweet words, little gifts, affectionate gestures, or a back rub, you are, in some form or fashion, seducing. | |
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| How to seduce a Woman over 50?
Posted: 4/9/2008 5:47:03 PM |
It is sad though that you have to change one or two words from someone elses post to start your own... lol. Brownoser.
I enjoy seeing how some peole behave when the shoe's on the other foot. You'd be surprised how many people only have one. | |
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| How to seduce a Woman over 50?
Posted: 4/9/2008 6:25:02 PM | Ok. Great responses folks.
Men expect to be seduced sexually (heavy innuendo?). However, to seduce a woman, women are saying to "Look in her eyes, not at her chest or other body parts."(plus the obvious candles, wine, soft music.).
It seems that men usually try to seduce a woman the way they would want to be seduced themselves. And from what I'm reading, that's wrong. At least until a relationship is formed, at which point, all bets are probably off. lol.
Do women try to seduce men the way they would want to be seduced? Hey.... wait a minute!?!?!?! I've been on a few dates where the woman seemed awfully attentive and interested in my actually very boring work. Did I miss something there?? Hum.... | |
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| How to seduce a Woman over 50?
Posted: 4/9/2008 6:27:50 PM | I won't be 50 for a few more years but I am willing to help in the quest for an answer now if we want to set up a control group.
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| How to seduce a Woman over 50?
Posted: 4/9/2008 6:47:08 PM |
If she gives me what I want only because I have "seduced" her then I don't want it anyway. So you want her to read your mind then. How is a woman to know if you're interested in her if you don't at least give her a hint? Oh.... I get it.... you're afraid of rejection so you want her to take all the risk. Nice guy.
If you look at a woman and she smiles at you, then she's no good? Are you sure you're not gay? | |
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| How to seduce a Woman over 50?
Posted: 4/9/2008 7:04:17 PM | sam-spade wrote:
> If she can't be seduced, then maybe there's no connection between
> the pair. But I think you're confusing being seduceable with loosable (lol).
> What if the lady IS seduced but holds off and doesn't give in? What's wrong
> with that? Isn't that a good thing?
Generally speaking, to "seduce" means to persuade to disobedience or disloyalty,
or to lead astray usually by false promise, or to entice to sexual intercourse. So
perhaps you need a better word because your meaning here seems to be
somewhat of an oxymoron.
So perhaps, given what you've said here, your original question is
more one of asking "How does one entice a woman over 50?"
Apolinary | |
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| How to seduce a Woman over 50?
Posted: 4/9/2008 7:20:09 PM |
Take my word for it, rearguard is handsome, and I didn't e-mail him first.
...Yeah, I got a nice e-mail from him a while back....and I agree with AG...the mans not too hard on the eyes haha.
...maeflowers
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| How to seduce a Woman over 50?
Posted: 4/9/2008 7:24:14 PM |
Lawyer eh?
Let me try and whisper this and see:
"I want to seduce you"
-or-
"I want to entice you".
No.... seduce is what I meant. Trust me. | |
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| How to seduce a Woman over 50?
Posted: 4/9/2008 7:30:22 PM | Message 33
Although your definitions of the word seduce posted are accurate, there is an additional definition that you seem to have missed in your search.
Seduce: something that attracts or charms
Source: Merriam Webster Online Dictionary
So perhaps, given what you've said here, your original question is more one of asking " How does one entice a woman over 50?"
Or perhaps OP your original question is accurate. " How does one seduce? meaning attract or charm a woman over 50?"
Now, which one of you big boys wants to charm me? | |
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| How to seduce a Woman over 50?
Posted: 4/9/2008 7:41:13 PM |
Men expect to be seduced sexually (heavy innuendo?). However, to seduce a woman, women are saying to "Look in her eyes, not at her chest or other body parts."(plus the obvious candles, wine, soft music.).
....And that would be a very good start.
It seems that men usually try to seduce a woman the way they would want to be seduced themselves. And from what I'm reading, that's wrong. At least until a relationship is formed, at which point, all bets are probably off. lol.
...My goodness, someone has being paying attention. Give the man a gold star haha
...maeflowers
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| How to seduce a Woman over 50?
Posted: 4/9/2008 8:04:24 PM | "I enjoyed being married to a wonderful woman and she was never seduced"
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"She must have truly been a wonderful and understanding woman to have enjoyed a sexual relationship and never had a romantic evening, a sweet note, or some hugs and kisses beforehand."
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That's called a non sequitur. This poster jumps to the conclusion (quite mistakenly) that there was never "a romantic evening, a sweet note, or some hugs and kisses."
Romance, such as dancing in the darkened living room to Stevie Wonder's "Songs in the Key of Life" when it was first released, is shared pleasure, not a scheme by one person to get the other one into bed which they wouldn't do otherwise.
Then she says:
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"Quite frankly, had my husband said "Do you want to have sex?" with no precursor or foreplay, we wouldn't have ever gotten married, much less had the long and successful relationship we enjoyed."
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Which relates to what? Does she really think that anybody says "Do you want to have sex?" with no precursor or foreplay, unless they are seducers? Has she had such little experience of human relationships? Does she imagine that all couples have such a limited repertoire - that it's either "seduction" or "Do you want to have sex?"
Then she adds this definition of "seduce":
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seduce - 2. to persuade or induce to have sexual intercourse.
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Fair enough. Well, I do not "persuade" or "induce to have sexual intercourse". I hope I will never be a seducer. I despise seducers. They are just a few notches above rapists. People who impose their will on others.
Here's what I do: (1) have desires, (2) express desire by words and acts, and (3) respond to other people's desires honestly expressed.
"Persuading" and "inducing" is for salesmen and missionaries. I am not a salesman or a misionary. I am a lover.
Sexual intercourse is not a prize to be won or a goal to be pursued. It is a pleasure to be enjoyed, and a gift to be exchanged, a satisfying experience to be shared with a person who has your caring and your love.
Love, and its expression in sexual intercourse, is a gift to give away and to receive when it is given to you, not just a commodity to be bargained for. If you have to "persuade" or "induce" somebody to receive a gift there is something wrong. A beautiful human relationship should not be reduced to the status of a market deal.
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| How to seduce a Woman over 50?
Posted: 4/9/2008 8:14:58 PM | I think seduction can occur when one loving partner is caught a bit off-guard.. by the other. An afternoon while she washing the lunch dishes.. or.. when he was under the car and toiling away.. and.. the other partner was thinking how great it was the night before.. and go off for an unexpected afternoon romp. Start by kissing the nape of her neck.. or taking off his shoes.. or sliding up his legs while under that car. That's is seduction between two loving people. Not a sales-pitch. It's fun.. romantic.. and playful being caught off-guard. (sigh) | |
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| How to seduce a Woman over 50?
Posted: 4/9/2008 9:31:43 PM | | What is wrong with seduction? and what's wrong with being seduced? Obviously, no one can seduce a person who isn't open to being seduced by them, but don't we all seduce in our own ways? Seduction is not a dirty word. I think it takes more to seduce a woman the first time, than it does a man because we view sex differently. Most men think that sex is a good thing even if it's a one-night stand, but women can become depressed when they feel they were used for sex (if they were hoping for more). To seduce a woman who equates physical intimacy with emotional intimacy, a man has to convince her that he cares about her as a person and that he cares about her welfare more than he cares about getting her in bed. She has to feel that he wants her because she's special and not because he's horny and would do it with nearly anyone. It usually takes a little time and a concerted effort for the initial seduction. After that, it doesn't take any more effort for a man to seduce a woman than for a woman to seduce a man. Sometimes, it can be just words whether written or spoken over the phone or in person. It can be a certain look or a touch or just being in the same room with each other. Yes, a kiss on the neck works for me too RedarcAngel. | |
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| How to seduce a Woman over 50?
Posted: 4/9/2008 10:19:29 PM |
sam-spade
Lawyer eh?
Let me try and whisper this and see:
"I want to seduce you" -or- "I want to entice you".
No.... seduce is what I meant. Trust me.
Alright, well if that's the case, then let's not talk about crap like
" What if the lady IS seduced but holds off and doesn't give in?
What's wrong with that? Isn't that a good thing?" because that's
just rationalizing, and poorly.
Apolinary | |
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| How to seduce a Woman over 50?
Posted: 4/9/2008 10:21:38 PM | From msg. 38:
I am a lover.
From another post:
Lovers and casual bed partners are a dime a dozen
I hate to risk a non sequitur, so I won't even try to guess why the poster would make such an inference about himself.
From msg. 38:
Which relates to what? Does she really think that anybody says "Do you want to have sex?" with no precursor or foreplay, unless they are seducers? Has she had such little experience of human relationships? Does she imagine that all couples have such a limited repertoire - that it's either "seduction" or "Do you want to have sex?"
From another post:
Personally I have enjoyed a lot of wonderful women and two satisfying marriages
As a widow with only one very happy marriage, I obviously lack the credentials in human relationships of the poster. | |
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| How to seduce a Woman over 50?
Posted: 4/10/2008 3:21:34 AM | First...you have to know ...that woman has one very important part of her body...and it is "ear".
What you say...she will use her logical and emotional part of her brain...
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| How to seduce a Woman over 50?
Posted: 4/10/2008 3:26:51 AM | I have always said, if a man knows how to make love to my brain, he will figure out what to do with the rest of me.
Start at the top and work your way down. Sex for sex's sake starts in the middle.
Either way, I can't be seduced and many have tried. I would only go there because I want to go there, not because he did some BS sales job on me. | |
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| How to seduce a Woman over 50?
Posted: 4/10/2008 5:49:14 AM | This thread is all semantics, with a scoop of anger and superiority thrown in.
For my part - *sigh* - seduce me already! Nobody even tries any more. | |
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| How to seduce a Woman over 50?
Posted: 4/10/2008 6:10:56 AM | in agreement, RoyalPain,..... Hopefully, a "woman over 50" has reached a point in Her Life where she is smart enough to SEE/KNOW the ' seduction', and Be In Control OF that 'enticement & luring', all the while letting 'him' think he is.....  | |
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| How to seduce a Woman over 50?
Posted: 4/10/2008 6:12:33 AM | Seduction towards women is mind over matter. If you can get past what her
mind is telling her... it's then that it will matter.
Seduction raises and interest in your physical body... but, it seems some
women's attitudes stops seduction in it's tracks. Therefore, if you can
get past her mind your in.
I believe it is very easy to seduce a woman. It is her mind you have to get past.
What she is telling herself not to do.
Some women will give in, while others will not. It just depends on the woman
you are dealing with. | |
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| How to seduce a Woman over 50?
Posted: 4/10/2008 6:25:34 AM | Get a $2000.00 tailored suit and go to a lounge. Get 3 $100.00 bills and about 30 $1.00 and one $20.00. Put 1 $100.00 bill on the bottom and 2 on the top.
Spot the woman you're targeting and find a spot to sit where she can see and hear you. When the server comes to take your order, hand them a business card that says Dr. xxxxxx and explain that your cell phone got stolen and you've left a message at your office that you can be contacted here incase of emergency and when they come back with your order, ask if you can pay right then in case of emergency you don't want to forget to pay and ask if they can make change for a $100.00. most places won't so when they say no, say wait a minute I think I have a 20 and pull the wad of cash out of your pocket and let her see it and fumble through the wad to find the $20.
If the place is a hangout for doctors of lawyers, there will be plenty of decked out women to pick from. | |
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| How to seduce a Woman over 50?
Posted: 4/10/2008 6:30:42 AM | This thread is all semantics, with a scoop of anger and superiority thrown in.
There is some truth in this statement. Some people see "seduction" as something distasteful, as a PLOY or as a GAME with ulterior motives and a means to an end (sex). Instead, I see seduction as a way of interacting with someone special because I want to please him and make him happy.
Perhaps, for a man to successfully seduce a woman ( aside from my previous suggestions) she must not feel seduced? Perhaps, she needs to think she seduced him? Not the other way around. Perhaps for some women, they need to feel " in charge". If that's the case, give her the victory!   | |
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