| Female Romantics!
Posted: 4/11/2008 11:14:09 AM | | Romance is in the eye of the beholder. Everybody has their own vision of what romance is. I want to be shown love and caring. I like the simple things - touch my hair, rub my back, slow dance with me in the hall - but I don't want sappy insincere words and flattery. | |
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| Female Romantics!
Posted: 4/11/2008 12:19:47 PM | | Don't get me wrong, I like the words too. But simple "I love you" or "You are beautiful." Just not the sappy, over doing it words. | |
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| Female Romantics!
Posted: 4/11/2008 12:39:05 PM | | I think the romance gets sucked out of you as time goes by because it's barely ever like the stuff they show in the movies or what you hear in a good 70s love song. | |
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| Female Romantics!
Posted: 4/11/2008 3:41:02 PM | Holy proverbial cow folks! If I'd known all I had to do was a punch a few tickets on the validation express and a bunch of beauties would hope on board I'd of done it long ago. Many thanks for the lesson kind lifer. 
It seems as the years go by and the fads pile up more and more of us are becoming incapable of stepping out of our comfort zones of consumption. Some guys stop approaching the women they find attractive because they've been shot down by the scourge of media driven expectation. Some women stop believing in the possibility of a good man. Resignation consumes all of us.
There's romance in most of us. If we can't find it then we're on the wrong track now aren't we? | |
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| Female Romantics!
Posted: 4/11/2008 4:06:57 PM | | Of course we are out here. I definitely love to pamper my man especially with massages. But ahhhhhhhh the search continues............................... | |
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| Female Romantics!
Posted: 4/12/2008 8:35:07 PM | | Good for you being romantic is great.I tip the brim of my cowboy hat to you and smile! | |
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| Female Romantics!
Posted: 4/12/2008 8:40:04 PM | | Hang in there they are out there.Its like a needle in a hay stack.I'm a hopeless romantic and I'm so tired of not findinging romantic ladies I'm writting a book.To maybe help refresh peoples minds what there missing out on.I'm glad to see a few romantics on here.But where are the older ones.????? I'll keep searching for the heart of gold.My highway to heaven.lol | |
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| Female Romantics!
Posted: 4/12/2008 10:38:33 PM | I assume by older lifeisanadventure....you mean my age group...50? I have been lurking on your thread, but, haven't said anything..
Yes, I am a romantic. I find though, that not that many men are anymore, in fact, many of them tell us it's a fantasy and unrealistic...if this turns out to be true, I'll be very disappointed...sigh...
I'm even a hopeless one...
And I am not alone....if that encourages you... | |
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| Female Romantics!
Posted: 4/13/2008 3:42:27 AM | | Im a hopeless romantic -love the little things that involve thought and effort rather than money!!Are guys not romantics or just not confident enough to try? | |
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| Female Romantics!
Posted: 4/13/2008 4:52:43 AM | As zangie said, doesn't being 50 qualify? 
hnh
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| Female Romantics!
Posted: 4/13/2008 6:29:13 AM | RedHeadedHotMom in Msg 9 Asked:
“However my question now is ...for you guys that are looking for a romantic woman ...what is it that you consider romantic?
My Comments:
After a very long marriage (most of which was wonderful) & now finding myself single, one of the things I miss the most is having someone special in my life to share romantic moments with. So your question brought back a lot of good memories. Here are some of those memories I consider romantic ...
- Writing little love notes & hiding them where your loved one can find them.
- Sending flowers, not on a special occasion but just to tell your loved one how much you love them.
- Surprising your loved one with a surprise get-a-way to a beautiful little B&B off the beaten path.
- A candlelight dinner at that cozy little Italian restaurant that caters to lovers.
- Spending weeks collecting old photos to make that special anniversary card that you can’t find at Hallmark.
- Using that rare quiet time to compose a poem for her that attempts to tell her how much you love her.
- Wanting to move your arm because it’s beginning to fall asleep but resisting because she’s fallen asleep in your mrms & you don’t want to awaken her.
- Curling up with your loved one in the dark on the sofa to watch that chick flick not because it's your favorite movie but because you know how much she loves to cuddle.
- Being there for the difficult times like when a friend or family member passes to hold her & assure her that everything is going to be ok . Doing your best to kiss those tears away.
- Learning how to become a better listener than talker & letting her know you always are available to listen to anything she needs to say.
- Rushing home to clean house because you know she’s had a tough day at work & preparing a candlelit dinner for two.
- Thanking God every morning for bringing her into your life & making sure she always knows how you feel.
I know there are those who will read this & think I am stuck in the past but nothing could be further from the truth. While I had been very blessed to have experienced all of these things in the past I look forward to having the opportunity to relive them all again in the future. I guess that’s why they call us hopeless romantics.
Thanks!
Gary | |
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| Female Romantics!
Posted: 4/13/2008 6:42:18 AM | gpb,
How wonderfully expressed. That is not merely the definition of romance, but real love.
I'm pretty sure we female romantics feel the same about doing these types of things for our (some day) partner.
hnh
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| Female Romantics!
Posted: 4/13/2008 6:39:50 PM | | The funny thing is i do have alot of luck and I meet women all the time.But the wrong types.Too many princess's,masculine personalities,controlers. A nice sweet feminine country at heart who'e fit would be nice,do you here that santa! | |
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| Female Romantics!
Posted: 4/13/2008 11:05:27 PM | | Don't know if it's being romantic, but willingness to be yourself whatever that is. No lies, deceptions, sarcasms, etc... to cover up yourself because somewhere along the way someone lead you to believe that you were less of a person for having those traits. We all have done things we feel regret for to say the least, if not guilt... yet we can always do better next time if that's not who we really want to be. The real you is a wonderful person that is expressed through your heart/emotions!!! And to be able to let me be my self without expecting me to pretend to be someone else... without holding conditions... | |
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| Female Romantics!
Posted: 4/13/2008 11:20:56 PM | | Don't know hardly anyone like me that's truly willing to open up to people, "faults" and all and take a chance on someone... Hard to find someone to be able to be able to do the same... So many stay behind their deceptions and sarcasms to maintain the comfort zone. People becoming more disconnected feeling every day. And it doesn't help that society keeps on insisting on an addiction to fear. Fear walking down the street because it's possible something, somewhere, may hurt you... oh and lets not forget the terrorists that are supposedly out there that have always been there just not covered much by the media... oh and all those germs, most of which we all have been living with for quite a few millenia before ever being seen under a microscope.... Then mainstream western religions want to try to tell you that you should be ashamed of yourself being automatically determined before your birth which you have to spend your life constantly pleading and doing what YOUR church says or else God who unconditionally loves you decides that you should suddenly be tormented in eternal suffering for the rest of eternity. So no wonder why people are reluctant to even find comfort with themselves in their own comfort zone without even trying to venture out into someone else's comfort zone. Yet keep in mind, if you can't even love yourself, respect yourself, want better for yourself... how can you expect any different for another? | |
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| Female Romantics!
Posted: 4/14/2008 10:13:37 AM | We are out there! I think of my self as a romantic, but it hasn't gotten me very far! And for me, I like the little things; that note or text that says simply "Miss you". And yes, I give those too. The soft caresses on the arm or back, at home or out in public; they say I want you so much better than words! Flowers are nice, but I'll take that soft touch any day...
I think that some of the more romantic moments in my life have been: Sitting in a crowed bar, at a crowed table, and just looking across the table at my date exchanging looks that say "wish we were alone". Standing together outside, talking quietly and looking into each others eyes, knowing that there are other people around you and not caring a bit, cause the world has just shrunk down to the two of you.
I wish I could find that again..... | |
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| Destroyer of Dumb Sayings
Posted: 4/14/2008 10:50:53 AM |
Isn't "Hopeless Romantic" an oxymoron?
I thought that was the point of that term. | |
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| Female Romantics!
Posted: 4/14/2008 2:51:42 PM | | were a jaded breed lol but we still exist! | |
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| Female Romantics!
Posted: 4/14/2008 3:06:56 PM | *Maurice*
I do believe he rocks.
Anywho, the same old. Define "romance", "dating", "fantasy" and "relationships", in the view of "Freudian Insanity" and you got it right.
Romance is when I go multi-hour, and bring my Debit Card instead of a Check.
Romance is when I pay for a Lobster, and remember you reminded me of a damned good meal (a high compliment thank you). Then I call you, and ask if you want some Lobster, but not in the nice way.
Trust me, Romance is me remembering you past 3:00PM, but if you REALLY struck a neuron, I will remember you all week. Whether I call or not is dependant upon Lobster Availability............but I probably will (you crazy gal you!).
Men- Logic, Solving those Problems
Women- Non-Logic, Fantasy, Creating My Problems
We, us, they, them- Insanity squared and cubed, as the math don't add up.
Best case scenario: We all die. With a little luck, you won't kill me first.
Worst case scenario: You chase nothing but fantasies, and I chase nothing but the best paying jobs. In the best of the worst case scenarios, we have a little fun, then get divorced.
No, the Court system is not "Romantic", not for any man I know............
Yes, romantic women are hot, unfortunately, they forget to not be lazy and romance a man, instead, depending on the man to do the work........... | |
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| Female Romantics!
Posted: 4/14/2008 4:06:46 PM | | Oh yes - we are still here. We just seem to meet up with guys who are not able to cope well with a romantic woman. Seems to be a threat to them somehow. Maybe it seems too forward or whatever, I am still trying to figure that one out. But I am not giving up or changing my heart for any reason. I am who I am - no apologies. | |
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| Female Romantics!
Posted: 4/14/2008 4:15:13 PM | I think its the girls gone wild culture. In the 80's, guys started wearing makeup, eye liner, strange hair, earrings; trying to be more feminine. Now girls have tats, piercings, and are proving their equality by being as sleazy as men. Look at myspace or even on this site. Its amazing how sleazy people are.
Whats sad too, is most women that want to be romantic, have a history of choosing bad men, and then having children, and it makes things complicated.
We also have a harsh society. Being romantic or kind is uncool; now you have to be sleazy, blunt and arrogant. They are still out there but things have changed; and for the worse. | |
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| Female Romantics!
Posted: 4/15/2008 5:32:52 PM | | I salute you .Values and ethics haven't died.Its great seeing other people out there who believe in what I do.The guys have come forward.So romantic ladies where are you all hiding??? | |
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| Female Romantics!
Posted: 4/15/2008 6:29:00 PM | | Gdp1953, I think a bunch of us Aussie girls are considering relocating to Ohio, I didn't think men liked things like that. I read at first, thinking the list was the things she did for you - what an eye opener, these were the things you did for her. I am stunned, I guess you won't be on here for long. How do mums produce sons like you? | |
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