| Single and Pregnant
Posted: 5/20/2008 8:48:55 PM | | Hi my name is Ashley and i am a single mom to my 9 month old son and he means the world to me and the father left me when i was 5 months pregnant and that is not right. I thinkthat guys that gurls pregnant should be there for the child no matter what. | |
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| Single and Pregnant
Posted: 5/21/2008 12:23:11 AM |
OP has never came across as someone with a good contraception program. At least it was not obvious in any way obvious from her post. I mean accidents do happen but OP is not coming across as an accident lady....Most 19 yo are somewhat relaxed about contraception.....Op started a journey before she turned out 21.....
Well theres nothing like tarring all 19 year olds with the same brush is there??
A friend of mine became pregnant at the age of 16. She is now 22. Has recently bought her first house and has a good job. And yes...she did keep the baby... | |
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| Single and Pregnant
Posted: 6/8/2008 1:32:06 PM | | Sounds like things are pretty stressfull for everyone right now . Why not take this time to look after yourself and the Baby. Concentrate on that for now and let him do what he wants...perhaps he will come around in time and perhaps not...you CANT control that..but you CAN control looking after yourself and the baby right now...make that your priority ...regain the peace in your life | |
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| Single and Pregnant
Posted: 6/8/2008 2:34:11 PM |
Hi my name is Ashley and i am a single mom to my 9 month old son and he means the world to me and the father left me when i was 5 months pregnant and that is not right. I thinkthat guys that gurls pregnant should be there for the child no matter what.
The mother should be there for them also, instead of lying on their profile and claiming not to have children. | |
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| Single and Pregnant
Posted: 7/4/2008 4:34:52 AM |
The mother should be there for them also, instead of lying on their profile and claiming not to have children.
Maybe she forgot to update--I guess she has a lot on her mind.
I'm 25 weeks along. Baby's dad dumped me 5 weeks ago, but I still think he's going to pay child support. He still hasn't given me any indication if he wants to be involved with the child or not--may not know till she gets here. Sent her some 3d ultrasound pictures--can kind of tell what she looks like, finally. Seems perfect in any way and pretty, too. I told him I was thinking of giving her my last name (and that of my other 2 kids with my ex-husband) but he said he didn't want me to give her my last name. He also didn't say he wanted her to have HIS last name, so I asked him to clarify. We talked about this months ago, including the possibility of giving her my maiden name, but didn't come to any conclusions. I think that was before we had the DNA paternity test and knew for sure it was his (I knew--he was hoping it wasn't his although he had no reason to think it wasn't).
Would like an update from the OP. | |
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| Single and Pregnant
Posted: 7/4/2008 4:47:02 AM |
God doesn't decide if I get pregnant--I do..(except in circumstance of rape etc).....If I don't want to have a baby - I don't have one...it is pretty simple...
I have to say (since God was mentioned--I assume he is acknowledged to exist) that the Bible says plainly MANY times that God is the one who opens and closes the womb. Just because a woman "decides" to get pregnant doesn't mean she will--despite all the technological advanced in that area. Even if she gets pregnant, there is no guarantee that she will maintain the pregnancy. Even when a woman is using supposedly 99% effective birth control or has even had her tubes tied--if she allows sperm to enter her body, there is a chance she'll get pregnant, whatever her "decision" or "expectation" is.
We can "decide" to avoid pregnancy by avoiding sex. We can voluntarily avoid carrying a child to term through abortion. That is the control we have. No birth control (except removing ovaries) works 100%, including pills and shots. | |
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| Single and Pregnant
Posted: 7/4/2008 7:47:39 AM | I am pregnant also... I chose to handle this in a different way.
I wanted to do this alone, he was a good friend a one time deal. I don't want him in my life that way.
As far as child support well who cares. The baby is my concern not him, he wanted to marry me. I can't marry someone I don't love.
The scary thing is I am in a new state here and I don't know anyone so that has been difficult.
Oh and let's not forget the men that have a thing for pregnant women. That was is scary.
Note to you:
Regardless if he wants to admitt the child is his or not REMEMBER the child is yours.
"People are going to do what thier going to do" You have control of your own life make it the best for you and the baby. Whatever gifts you recieve beyond is just that a gift.
I have 3 children and I raised them well I have no regrets at 38 this is an odd situation but when I see the success of my other 3 and now alone. I think a beautiful baby would be wonderful. | |
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| Single and Pregnant
Posted: 7/4/2008 8:54:48 AM | | Why does this topic always evoke such negativity. In relation to some ones answer maybe if more peole where married there would not be so many single parent families.It does so happen that sometimes the pressure is too much for the man. He then fidns himself another woman. John why is you always have to post on s ingle parent forums? What do you have against them? You never have kind words | |
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| Single and Pregnant
Posted: 7/4/2008 10:14:41 AM | Cahood^^^^^^^
It is sad this kind of stuff DOES generate negativity. Seems the way people like to be, and since they are sitting ontheir superiority thrones, they feel the right to judge and beat others simply because they can.
I have my own post, where I told a guy that at date three sex was to soon. He had a hissy, said it was all over, and blah blah blah...
On this thread a guy wrote that since I spoke to this guy for three weeks, that would be three weeks to long to wait...
Wait for marriage well that was a very nice ideal a long while back, now days if sex isn't happening within 5 dates, then someone seems to cut bait and go for someone that will spread um...
The OP thought she was in a relationship and had contraception failure. She wasn't asking for pitty for her situation, but rather why the father wouldn't want to be a part of this amazing process called human life that HE is half of.
She didn't ask what she should have done prior to the fact, or even pitty herself. She has a good job and isn't 18, but 23. Life happens, and sometimes we gals have babies without a daddy around...
Marriage is NO guarentee daddy is gonna stay. Take a look at the famous stars who's marriage are in the toilet and they have just had babies... For better or worse seem to have little bearing these days to holding much water or meaning...
Personally seems that these ideals to should be changed to for better, or out the door if one or the other is unhappy.
With that said marriage or not, there are a lot of single parents raising kids these days, I seen something that said it was up to 60 percent of most family units, that is one heck of a high number, so it is more of a norm these days... | |
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| Single and Pregnant
Posted: 7/4/2008 11:05:08 AM |
If you don't want kids celibacy is the answer, not contraception. No contraceptive method is 100%.
No girlfriend of mine ever got pregnant in the butt. | |
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| Single and Pregnant
Posted: 7/4/2008 12:27:48 PM | | Question does any woman here ever feel like thier mate was entrapping them by getting them pregnant? | |
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| Single and Pregnant
Posted: 7/4/2008 3:23:37 PM |
The mother should be there for them also, instead of lying on their profile and claiming not to have children.
You know lots of single mothers will not put that they have children on their profile because of sickos out there that are looking for children. There are many sick people out there and I would rather not subject myself or my child to harm because some sicko is looking for a single mother to pray on. It is easier to keep it off your profile and when the time comes to tell the man/woman about your children. And at that point they can tell you if they still want to be with you or not. It wont hurt my feelings if a guy doesn't want to be with me because I have a child. My child comes first before any man.
And to the people who are telling this girl that she should have used protection and bla bla bla...well guess what Im one of the 1% if people who did get pregnant while being on birth control and my fiance turned out to be horible and therefor I am now single (since I was 4 months pregnant). My boy is now 5 months and beautiful.
I would just like to say that you will be able to do everything that you want to, you just have to work a little harder at it. Congrats on your pregnancy and be happy about it that baby knows and feels everything that you do. So make the best of it, love it with all your heart and it will always love you. | |
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| Single and Pregnant
Posted: 7/4/2008 5:07:10 PM | Hi,
OP....focus on you and what you have going on with you and your child. Let him figure out on his own what he will be and do....hopefully the right thing and get his S**t together. You to think about you...cause you can't change him it seems...so don't worry about it. Give it time, let it be and it will work out as it is ment to. Well IMHO. Good luck! | |
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