| Too intense to orgasm.....possible?
Posted: 4/14/2008 4:58:26 AM | I dont agree, i think you should carry on with you fingers untill "the cork pops"....all hell should break loose, screaming, howling, scratching, biting, ohh gods !!!!!!!!!
I knew a woman once that puched away when she came, then she taught me not to let her push me away untill she came proplery, and thats intense !!!! It took 4 times of being told to stop and ignoring it untill by the fith the fireworks went off !!!! | |
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| Too intense to orgasm.....possible?
Posted: 4/14/2008 5:17:25 AM | | Well,I'll have to take Peter's word for that one...but speaking as someone with a vagina,when I say "no",I don't mean "yes"...To each his own,I guess. | |
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| Too intense to orgasm.....possible?
Posted: 4/14/2008 5:35:51 AM | I agree, I wouldnt have tried that if I wasnt told to do it !
Mind you, it took me 24 years untill I found a few new tricks with my own****! | |
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| Too intense to orgasm.....possible?
Posted: 4/14/2008 7:26:51 AM | haha... this has happened to me... Idk what to think of it.. I'm not overweight.. and I was at the time very much in love... I'm not self concious.. it was like a reflex!!
like AHHHHHHHHHH
it felt good as hell.. not like a usual orgasm.. better... if thats possible.. but I couldn't control anything... but I did push away, it was a reflex....
Hopefully in the future I will learn more about this and be able to get back to you.. but I'm pretty young still haha... but I know EXACTLY what she is talking about! | |
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| Too intense to orgasm.....possible?
Posted: 4/14/2008 10:09:10 PM | | If the fear of peeing is still an issue for her, try fooling around in a nice hot bubble bath. I agree with the person suggesting that you might be doing it wrong and rubbing too hard, so try different things, and don't put pressure on her (total turn-off). I also don't think it's that unusual to just not be able to let go and come. But if she's really turned on, she shouldn't really be wanting to stop, even if it's scary. Try stimulating her g-spot more than her clit. Oh, and try doing her dishes for her or cleaning the bathroom, or something like that before you even have sex (you might not think of that as foreplay, but every little bit helps). | |
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| Too intense to orgasm.....possible?
Posted: 4/14/2008 10:48:36 PM | Women have really different reactions to orgasms. I have a friend who never orgasms anymore because when she does she gets really bad stomach cramps for some reason (she also has a whole bunch of other problems with her female parts and is most likely going to have to have an ovary removed next week, if not both ovaries and her uterus and the poor girl is only 21!). Then there's some women for whom an orgasm isn't really this great big huge thing that everyone talks about. Sure it feels good but nothing spectacular.
I would tend to agree with the other posters who say in this case it's probably psychological given her objections to trying to play on her own and see what she enjoys. I would suggest the whole romantic dinner and massage thing, but instead of making it sexual, just get her to the point where she's comfortable and can talk freely. Say something like "I'd really like to be able to give you the pleasure of an orgasm but for what ever reason it isn't happening with us. Can you think of any reasons why this may be? Is there anything you'd like to try that might help?" You might even want to suggest that she seek professional help, depending on her answers. (For example if she was sexually assaulted in some way). | |
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| Too intense to orgasm.....possible?
Posted: 6/26/2008 11:55:37 AM | | I think it is stupid to assume that the orgasm isnt as important for the woman. It is that OLD school way of thinking that causes so many men to not put in the effort. The issue with this girls is her own and it sounds like there is not much else you can do to help her. I want to know how old she is..its strange that she is so removed from herself. I dont think I could handle a partner like that. | |
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| Too intense to orgasm.....possible?
Posted: 7/10/2008 6:56:52 PM | | Ok, so just an update, and hopefully a chance to get more responses. My girl now says that whn I am going down on her she gets a very strong feeling of peeing and I told her to go ahead and try and pee, as I have heard about female ejaculation etc.. She says she has tried to just relax and let the feeling go but she can't. I really want her to experience an orgasm. Any suggestions? | |
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| Too intense to orgasm.....possible?
Posted: 7/10/2008 7:11:22 PM | I think you are getting very close to the right spot, but not the exact right spot. Or the exact right pressure. That will cause that intense feeling, to the point you just want to stop. Before I ever had an orgasm, I use to reach that point a lot. When I got a vibrator, I had my first orgasm, and I KNEW where the spot was. She needs to do that.
Sherry | |
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| Too intense to orgasm.....possible?
Posted: 7/10/2008 7:13:32 PM | she stops right before I feel like she is going to have an orgasm
...right before YOU feel like it? How exactly, one wonders, does SHE feel right then? I agree that she needs to tell you how she likes oral sex. Personally I hate it when my lover treats my clit like a little penis. It isn't. I like it when there is a flat tongue against it. Every woman is different. Find out how she likes to be licked. Try different ways and ask her which one is the best. Good luck. "Too intense," to me, means she simply lost the urge and wants to just forget about the pressure of having to orgasm. There is a thread on the subject of guys inadvertently making girls fake it....read that thread, the guy knows what he is talking about. I admit I have faked it before to save a guy's ego. Good Luck. | |
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