| | Would you stand a better chance IN-Person than on here?Page 6 of 7 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7) | LOL Duece....I th ink there was a post about how women , who were noticed online....out in public, like a mall or something.
Some said they didn't mind at all,....so I guesss it depends on the person. I guess it depends on how you bring it up in conversation I suppose.
I mean, I'm not going to go otu and say, "HEY< you're the woman that rejected me, aren't you!" I won't be accusatory. | |
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| Would you stand a better chance IN-Person than on here?
Posted: 4/25/2008 8:48:54 AM | | example; i received an email from a man on a site and he was asking more about me, like where did i go to church, etc. i was not interested based on his age and pic but almost answered his question until i read his mail again and saw that he goes to my own church???? so i decided to not respond because i didn't want to start any communication at all with him and didn't want him and others to know i fish. now this is a person who has been there for at least awhile, not sure exactly but awhile. I play in the band every week and enter and exit the stage at the same spot every time and walk in and out the same door every time. if he really wanted to meet me, he could have. and i can guarantee that if i had been interested and gone to meet him, then he would have acted just like these guys act: a. "golleeee it's a woman, what do i do??? " and giggle and gawk the rest of the time we are both there , or b. run like i threw poop on him, or c. oh a woman who reeeelly wants me, let me see how much i can get her to do while i play with others. but on the internet, ohhhh he was like ohhhh who are you and where are you, etc. PUHLEEZE. so if i had been interested, i would have said so, but i would have asked for an explanation on why he had not bothered to meet me if he was so interested because i'm not that hard to find. i'm in the same place every week. so yes i'd make him explain, but date him if i was interested in him. | |
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Posted: 4/25/2008 12:21:47 PM | Out on day to day activities I find it really easy to have conversations with all kinds of people, but it is not too often that people ask strangers out on a date. I guess this is where this new way of meeting in internet land comes in. But I found when I had an active looking to date profile up it was really difficult to get a feel for who I was conversing with. When I tried to joke it was missunerstood and if someone caught me in a serious mood that was not good either. lol...I cannot say I have figured out the best ways to handle meeting this way yet. Please forgive the lady who did not recognize the real you. That is a really hard thing to do.
So in answer to the OP , yes people do stand a better chance in real life. So where's the party? C | |
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Posted: 4/25/2008 4:48:56 PM |
Nah, I figured it'd be a good icebreaker anyways, better than approaching a woman cold-turkey....at least you HAVE a reason. :-)
One time I was shopping in a store, and come face to face with a woman that I saw on here, lol.
I think I might try it one time.
I don't really think it would be a good ice breaker.. it would be a little creepy. But, good luck if you try it. | |
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Posted: 4/25/2008 5:04:36 PM |
Hence why I'm no longer interested in meeting girls on POF. I kind of regret rejecting her because she was good girl, but I couldn't get over the fact that she deleted my message but yet in real life she thought I was relationship worthy.
Maybe your message sucked.
Looks like she dodged a bullet there. | |
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Posted: 4/25/2008 5:47:05 PM | Definitely! First and foremost, I am never photogenic. My pics are an embarrassment. I think I would attract more guys in person than in an online site. I am the whole package in real life. At POF, I am just as good as my profile or as the guys perceive the written word. Nothing more!
I do not usually get ignored when I talk to a guy in person. Most especially if I am asking directions. More often than not, the guy may even take me to the place and then, it's the start of a beautiful friendship. As well, guys smile back when you smile. Here, well, they do the read/delete as a retaliation for something you may not even be aware you have done. I am saying this because I don't normally contact POF guys first so seldom experience read/delete unless they did not like my response. Read/delete experience comes from guys who, one way or the other have issues with me for not towing the line. 
I absolutely have a better chance in person but I have not really tried it as a way of meeting a guy. But having been asked for my telephone # a few times while walking in the street, I would say, yes, maybe the IN-Person me may have a better chance than my POF profile. ;)
Speaking of POF, if a guy in person refers to it to try and get my attention, I definitely would not consider it an ice breaker. It will be a turn off just like some posters said. If you want to discuss POF, go to the site and and contact me there. Then we can continue our discussion on real life. | |
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Posted: 4/25/2008 7:12:37 PM | Speaking of POF, if a guy in person refers to it to try and get my attention, I definitely would not consider it an ice breaker. It will be a turn off just like some posters said. If you want to discuss POF, go to the site and and contact me there. Then we can continue our discussion on real life.
Well, at least you can use the cheesy one-liner "Hey, haven't I seen you somewhere before" and it actually be TRUE this time.
See only THEN it wouldn't be cheesy. ! | |
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Posted: 4/25/2008 7:25:57 PM | Ok, maybe!
But, if someone indeed refer to my POF profile to get my attention out of the blue, he will be surprised at the read/delete version enchanted107 can apply in real life. Let's see if any ice pick can break that rock!
Yup! Try me! | |
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Posted: 4/26/2008 9:45:50 AM |
If someone happened to reject me (or the other way around) right away on here without chatting or anything, then we actually met later on and really got along well, I'd go with what happened in person.
Really.. If that's the case you're a better person than I am in that respect. I totally felt like I was being settled upon. | |
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Posted: 4/26/2008 9:57:46 AM | | I do better in person myself and I stand a better chance I believe in person meeting than on this site. I don't meet quality people very often on here and in person I know right away and I can send them on their way! | |
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Posted: 4/26/2008 10:26:33 AM | I do much better in person than on the net. No matter what you type it can never have the same meaning as saying it. Actions speak louder than words.
i.e. If a lady says "your cute" online you could read into it the wring way. Over analyze per say. But its in person and she's flirting with you or doing the classics, playing with hair, light touching, etc. Then you'd be more inclined to say that shes "into" me.
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| Would you stand a better chance IN-Person than on here?
Posted: 4/26/2008 11:43:21 AM | The thing that makes me chuckle so hard online is..
I hear women always complaining why can't I find a decent man. All I get are creeps or pervs.
Now my profile is not perfect by any means and I know it can always use improvement. But I cant see where it screams perv or creep or player or anything like that...
When I email I ALWAYS keep it simple
I may say something although I know it may sound a bit generic
Hi
I read your profile and it seems we have some similar goals and interest. (give a few example ). Please take some time and read my profile. I would like to to get to know you better. So ask me anything you like.
Really at my finest moment 90% or more get read delete and rejected. I have NEVER receive an email from someone age 28-40 within 50 miles who initiated contact. I have recieved I think it might have been 2 from women over 47 who lived over 5omiles.
Its just insane online
40 yrs never married no kids or baggage decent job 58-60k a yr
I have a house no criminal record or anything crazy like that. I think over all Im decent looking... I maintain a normal life with friends .
But this is not seen online
In person when they dont know you from a site it is so different. They do talk to me and honestly most want to go out with me..
Then to top it off I see post of women who complain because they met some fu@#up.
What the heck so how did they sucker you then what was is about these idiots that makes you say yes to them and no to people like me...
I will offer anything as a wager that for most in person is by far the best way and I will submitt that online is the ulitmate worse way and in some cases worse then just sitting a home hope by some miracle a guy a girl may knock on your door. Why because at least when you deliver pizza it may be woman for a guy and you are at least going to make guaranteed exchange of communication.
I've said a mouthfull huh
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Posted: 4/27/2008 10:58:03 AM | Personally I think you have a better chance in person than meeting on here. You get the "feel" of a persons character better obviously in person. On here its all in what you write . sometimes wish I was a columnist for playboy or something..may give me a fighting chance on here!!!...................................................... | |
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Posted: 4/27/2008 11:40:40 AM | The thing is: If u met these people in a grocery store line or a book store and they started chatting u up......u would probably run like a turkey with a firecracker in its ass, but somehow meeting them via the chats is so much more......um......well u just get to know some1 totally backwards, then when u meet them in person and see their gestures, hygiene, abliltiy or lack thereof to make eye contact etc. U end up saying to yourself " and I told this person my life history WHY"?
Chat is an interesting place to meet people and communicate,and its always nice when u finally do meet the chatter in person and u click. And if u dont click, well....duh duh duh another one bites the dust! LOL true ? | |
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Posted: 4/27/2008 12:12:08 PM | For my own self,, In-Person, would not be better, unless she made the moves,I am shy, when it comes to seeking a relationship. I probably would still speak to someone, but, never ask those right questions to take it to the next step.
I am more agressive on-line, sort of !! Everyone is different, yet, everyone is still on here, right ? | |
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Posted: 4/27/2008 1:23:33 PM |
Really.. If that's the case you're a better person than I am in that respect. I totally felt like I was being settled upon.
Interesting because, the way your original post was worded, it just seemed more like you couldn't get over the fact that she wasn't interested in you online and "got back" at her by rejecting her.
Which is why I think that
a) your message to her probably sucked; and
b) your subsequent rejection of her (after spending quite some time building a friendship with her) was petty and revenge-orientetd.
And if you're going to behave like that, after starting a friendship with her, then she probably dodged a bullet because, what other petty stuff would you pull later on? And even if it wasn't done CONSCIOUSLY, the fact that you just couldn't get over it, even after getting to know her, speaks volumes.
Yeah, she dodged a bullet there.
There was obviously something she saw in you OFF-line that was not presented in your profile or your message. I haven't checked your profile (and don't care to) but I'm just saying, if you struck out online and hit it off OFF-line (without the aid of your profile) well then, bean counter, you do the math. | |
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Posted: 4/27/2008 1:27:24 PM |
h e l l o...when you do meet someone from here it is in PERSON ISN'T IT?!
They mean initial meetings as in never-seen-you-before-not-even-online. Not responding to a profile and setting a date to meet. | |
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Posted: 4/27/2008 1:51:32 PM | I stick with my original answer, I prefer meeting someone IRL.
I have any upcoming functions that I'll be attending stated on my (hidden) profile, along with the statement that we can decide from there.
Although it's my preference, I'm not that rigid about it, that I've forgotten that rules are made to be broken on occasion...well, theoretically anyway...
hnh
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Posted: 4/27/2008 2:26:14 PM |
When you read a profile you learn a number of things you assume to be true; some of which are,
1. Marital Status
2. Kids.. age, attitude.
3. Where you live.
4. What your interests are.
5. What your looking for.
6. The type of girl/guy you want.
7. Proffression.
8. Your age.
9. Your body type ( or self perception of yourself)
10. Your height.
11. Your desired age group your interested in dating.
12. your sexual orientation.
13. Your drinking habits.
14. your Drug habits.
15. what your not interested in.
All this with no eye contact. No intonation of their voice, no mannerisms.
Not to mention what you judge from a one dimentional photo. And if like me your much much better in person, photos are unflattering. There is no dynamics in a photo with out a bit of help from photoshop!! lol
Imagine sitting in a park and seeing someone you think is pretty cute, you strike up a conversation there is something about them that tweeks your interest., What do you do talk to them about how do you get to know them. How dam boring if you know all the basics.
Id love to hear how someone sees themselves, and thier world in person. The way they smell & smile!
Anyway thats just me. Call me boring !!!
But thats just me.. In Real Life anyday. | |
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Posted: 4/27/2008 3:37:13 PM |
I read your profile and it seems we have some similar goals and interest. (give a few example ). Please take some time and read my profile. I would like to to get to know you better. So ask me anything you like.
This seems like a reasonable email, if you combined it with a few things you thought were similar from their profile, that would let them know you read through it. May I make a suggestion, respectfully? Rather than wording it "Please take some time and read my profile" perhaps, right after similar goals and interest, say..."do you agree?"....she will automatically read your profile to answer your question, and it won't seem as if you told her what to do...
Of course, she may just read/delete. I don't think I have ever done that for an initial email, but then again I got so tired of answering emails from men who obviously didn't read through my profile, I hid it from searching....
I think I communicate better online, as there is time to think about what you want to say and how to word it. But I think I look better in person, though I probably draw people initially based on my appearance, which is really only a small part of what anyone has to offer.....
I have been brushing up on my people skills now that I'm in a customer based position again, and that more than anything has helped me meet new people and make friends, regardless of whether they are potential dating material... | |
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Posted: 4/27/2008 6:00:05 PM | | for me every guy stands a better chance in person. there have been guys i don't reply to here but if they approached me in person it might be a different matter, maybe there would be chemistry or something. definately. 100%. | |
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