| Can men and women be friends?
Posted: 4/13/2008 1:57:23 PM | I do believe that we can b freinds and if they dont' want to be, than that other person is shallow and I move on. | |
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| Can men and women be friends?
Posted: 4/13/2008 2:06:55 PM | Of course we can be friends.......just nothing more.
It becomes much more like having family and sisters when you have female friends. You care about them, but have no desire to ever even think sexually.
Now, we also have those of the opposite sex that because they are married to friends or relatives, or untouchable for some reason, that they are friends but you do see that other side of them, but never go there.
And then you have those that you enjoy being around, spending time with, and helping out, but you do not ever see a serious relationship developing, and you still enjoy their company and sexuality......and those few just might become a FWB if you ever go down that path.
The only men that think every woman is a potential lay, are the same ones that can not think with their large brain, and will hit on 100 hoping to get lucky with one......
Just my opinion.......   | |
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| Can men and women be friends?
Posted: 4/13/2008 2:38:23 PM | | I have a few woman that are great friends albiet in a relationship so one never truley knows if more could happen but Im very happy I have them as friends, Never say never | |
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| Can men and women be friends?
Posted: 4/13/2008 2:44:08 PM |
I recently was told by a man that men and women can never be friends…Personally I think he's full of crap
me too | |
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| Can men and women be friends?
Posted: 4/13/2008 2:45:52 PM | Your "friend" was only speaking for himself and his view of women.
I have woman friends who I don't WANT to have sex with and could. There are many funny wonderful women that I've felt lucky to have encountered and have them as part of my life, but don't want to see them all naked.
Tell your friend to quit listening to that loser Tom Lykis | |
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| Can men and women be friends?
Posted: 4/13/2008 4:22:16 PM | | well what i can tell you is that its very rare, you will find a GENUINE platonic male/female relationship..i'm kinda with your friend on this one sort of..because like i siad..its very uncommon to find that type of friendship. | |
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| Can men and women be friends?
Posted: 4/13/2008 5:54:10 PM | As someone else said, men and women can be friends pretty successfully if there's no attraction on either side.
That seems to be the problem, though. Generally, one or the other will have some level of attraction for the other. This ruins the platonic chemistry.
My advice (and many people disagree with this, but it's worked really well for me), date somebody before you befriend them. Someone you've dated makes the best opposite gender friend.
I'm not talking about some past serious relationship. I'm talking about somebody you dated for a few months, slept with, and that was the end of it. Where no serious feelings had a chance to form on either side because you weren't together long enough.
My best friend is female. We're like brother and sister. But we're only able to be as close as we are because we got all the romantic crap out of the way at the beginning. So there's no curiosity or awkwardness on either side.
If you're friends with somebody of the opposite gender that you've never been romantically involved with, there will always be awkward situations because there are barriers that have not been crossed.
But if you've already dated them / slept with them / whatever, then it's really hard for things to be awkard. Neither of you care. If one of you walks in on the other one changing or something, it's no big deal.
That being said, I've had many female friends in the past (and still have many) who I have never been romantically involved with. And while I thoroughly enjoy their company, I'll never be as close with them because there will always be barriers that have not been crossed.
I'd also like to add that you should always do it in that order; date first, friendship later. If you try to date somebody after you've been friends with them just to dispell the curiosity and awkwardness, you have a good chance of just ruining your friendship altogether. | |
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| Can men and women be friends?
Posted: 4/13/2008 11:04:01 PM | | they can be friends, its a known fact, that women have more male friends than female, and males have more female friends than male, as for his explanation which doesnt bear repeating, he is a chauvanist pig. | |
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| Can men and women be friends?
Posted: 4/14/2008 12:26:30 AM | Truth:
Gay man straight woman yes.
Straight man Straight women, no, only if the man is much better looking than the female (and not sexually attracted to her.)
The rest of those guys are attention whores, men who secretly want to have sex with their female friends but instead listen to their problems. | |
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| Can men and women be friends?
Posted: 4/14/2008 6:20:01 AM | ...there are barriers that have not been crossed.
To some extent this is true. It is widely accepted science that men bond with men. The act of bonding is both mental and physical (ie. competition, bravado, tribal identification). For many men physical contact with a woman could be something more so bonding is not really possible. So there can be friendship but if too close it can be awkward. Picture this... a woman is attractive and married yet she has a "close" single male friend that's not gay. This is awkward because it could open a door. Also the "friendship" thing sometimes can be a "have your cake and eat it too" form of rejection that also could open a door or slam it shut. | |
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| Can men and women be friends?
Posted: 4/14/2008 7:15:44 AM | | So true. Men and women can definitely be friends but one, if not both have actually looked at the other at one point and wondered what it would be like if they went beyond the friendship thing. You have to either ignore the fact that you are attracted to your friend or discuss the matter. Once that's done then friends it is. | |
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| Can men and women be friends?
Posted: 4/14/2008 7:56:54 AM | those type a actors really piss me off coz they are believeable to girls.
hang around messin up for other dudes so that later on they can come out....
well, if the girl is eye catching attractive.
or if she has a man. if she does have a man her man will not be ok with it. "honey your best friend john is calling your cell phone"... riiiiiiiiight. | |
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| Can men and women be friends?
Posted: 5/8/2008 9:09:59 PM | I have a few female friends....what I find interesting is that they frequently try to get me to check them out. Pulling their pants down a bit and asking about their tan lines and asking if their butt looks good in this or that, comparing their breasts to other womens' etc.. I usually pass on the invitation and it frustrates them. they say "C'mon were just friends here...you can look!".
It seems as if women want a guy to be able to just be friends, but are insulted that he isn't interested.
The funniest thing about it is these girls probably would consider themselves to be out of my league! | |
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| Can men and women be friends?
Posted: 5/8/2008 9:45:18 PM | that guy is only full of crap as to making that statement to incorporate all men.
For him..it is true, ..for him..it is impossible
he cant speak for me,...but while im not ready to agree with his statements...i wont argue either lol | |
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| Can men and women be friends?
Posted: 5/9/2008 12:32:36 AM | It really depends on the people involved.....
I will say though that, for the most part, guys, more so than women, WILL take advantage of that 'friendship' if they thought they could get away with it........ | |
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| Can men and women be friends?
Posted: 5/9/2008 3:40:12 AM | of course men and women can be friends. however-if she's got a great bod, infatuation is strong. (honestly doesn't mean we haven't thought about shagging her. most, (no all) guys cant help but to think about what she looks like on her back -if the opportunity rises -they'll take it) -then again i'm positive she's thought about a quick tassel as well. -it all depends on how well you want to stay friends -and what your motives really are. | |
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| Can men and women be friends?
Posted: 5/9/2008 4:23:30 AM | | I've had tons of female friends over the years, at least as many as male. I've never thought of them as anything other than friends. | |
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| Can men and women be friends?
Posted: 5/9/2008 7:06:46 AM | | Absolutely,ladies and men can be just the best of friends.I think the actual question here is"why will the next lady you date frown heavily upon you having a female friend" that should answer your question.Anyways your question also is about if I originally find you very alluring then I will always fantasize about sex with you every moment we're friends and hope someday that happens and if I never found you alluring then I will not fantasize throughout the friendship. | |
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| Can men and women be friends?
Posted: 5/9/2008 11:44:32 AM | Some men cannot have female friends and some women cannot have male friends, but most can, I would say.
I can.
If she is either wrong age for me, or already in a firm and happy relatonship with somebody else, or is not quite the right one for me to fall in love with, or simply does not want a lifelong relationship with me, then it is just the natural course of things to become friends if we like each other's company or share some interrest.
I have found that the few friends I have of the opposite sex have broadened my wiews a lot and made me a slightly wiser man.
Some people find it strange, but that is their problem and not mine. | |
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| Can men and women be friends?
Posted: 5/9/2008 2:14:41 PM | Sally: We are just going to be friends, OK?
Harry: Great, friends. It's the best thing...You realize, of course, that we can never be friends.
Sally: Why not?
Harry: What I'm saying is - and this is not a come-on in any way, shape, or form - is that men and women can't be friends, because the sex part always gets in the way.
Sally: That's not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved.
Harry: No, you don't.
Sally: Yes, I do.
Harry: No, you don't.
Sally: Yes, I do.
Harry: You only think you do.
Sally: You're saying I'm having sex with these men without my knowledge?
Harry: No, what I'm saying is they all want to have sex with you.
Sally: They do not.
Harry: Do too.
Sally: They do not.
Harry: Do too.
Sally: How do you know?
Harry: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her.
Sally: So you're saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive.
Harry: No, you pretty much want to nail them, too.
Sally: What if they don't want to have sex with you?
Harry: Doesn't matter, because the sex thing is already out there, so the friendship is ultimately doomed, and that is the end of the story.
Most men can be friends with women, even attractive women. But that doesn't mean that in the back of their minds they wouldn't fvck them if they thought there weren't too many negative repercussions.
I've been cheated on three times in my life and every single case the other guy was a "friend" just looking for a back door way into a relationship with her. | |
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| Can men and women be friends?
Posted: 5/9/2008 2:22:45 PM | True friends are friends for life.
I've had some great female friends. But none of them has lasted like my male friends. | |
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