| 24m goin on date with 17f
Posted: 4/14/2008 2:39:14 PM | | its not the age gap its the law. its illegal! She is underage.s ure my dad is 13 years older than my mom but they mmet when thery were both adults. | |
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| 24m goin on date with 17f
Posted: 4/14/2008 2:46:52 PM | | It matters on you and the girl involved. It also doesn't matter that your a good Christian boy. Most guys think of 2 things. Sex, and how to get more sex; Christian or not. Your obviously not wanting to date her because she memorized the beautitudes! I'd lay low; when she's 18 you can start to date her. Be her friend now and then go for it but at your age the differences in your needs are many. Your worried about rent and your job, she's worried about what to play in her IPOD during lunch break. If I was the dad, unless you were in college, getting a degree and we're a good guy, I wouldnt' let you near her. Good luck. | |
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| 24m goin on date with 17f
Posted: 4/14/2008 2:59:35 PM |
its not the age gap its the law. its illegal!
If every date guarantees that your going to have sex then you would be right. But that's not the question, is it... | |
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| 24m goin on date with 17f
Posted: 4/14/2008 3:15:16 PM | I don't think its to much of an age gap but to young of an age. When I was 21 and dated an 18 year old, I found it amazing how immature she was for me. I was only 3 years older but in those 3 years I became an adult. I think the difference in age will be fine when your older but right now she will be acting to silly and immature compared to you, unless you like that and can put up with her as she goes through the next few years of her life as she changes to a woman.
I would personally find someone a little older as people change from 17 to their 20's | |
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| 24m goin on date with 17f
Posted: 4/14/2008 5:52:03 PM | This can be ok, and it can be a huge kick in the face.
She'll be 18 - I'm canadian so I'm assuming she'll be of legal age which means one thing : drinking. I know a couple, the girl is 23 and the guy is 35. The guy is ready to settle down, start a family, be home by 5 every night and just be together - the girl wants to go out drinking EVERY weekend and on more then one occasion comes home drunk.
Now your fancy little miss lady may not be like this, but be prepared incase it happens!
You guys are from two different worlds - you're ready to get your career and life started (theoretically speaking since you're 24) and she's JUST leaving highschool (I'm assuming she's graduating this year) - she'll be entering college (again, presumably), meeting new people her own age. Are you prepared incase she leaves you for someone her own age?
If it works, great, but be ready incase it doesn't! | |
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| 24m goin on date with 17f
Posted: 4/14/2008 6:05:17 PM | If my daughter was 17 and I found out that some 24 year old guy was chasing after her. You would have a serious problem on your hands.
Dads were all your age once. We that you are just after a piece of ^$$. You can't BS anyone on here about your intentions, just cause you need further justification for your motives.
Try dating someone over 21, preferably closer to your age or older. See if you have the maturity to date a woman older than you.
Quit robbing the cradle, it just shows that you can't handle anything else.
Be a man, not a perv.
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| 24m goin on date with 17f
Posted: 4/15/2008 12:23:18 AM | Which is more likely to try and score. A 17 year old boy or a 24 year old man with responsibilities, bills, you know real problems. I hate to say it but in a way I'd rather my 17 year old daughter whose less than 2 months from being 18 (if or when I have one) date a 24 year old. As long as she brought him home first for me to see what kind of guy he was like. But the "show" for the parents isn't always true and thats for both sexes.
But like another poster said "getting a year older doesn't mean your more mature" and I totally agree with that. I've know 40 year olds that act like big babies when they don't get there way like an adult temper tantrum. And I've seen 17 year olds act the way 40 year olds are suppose to act. 
But none of this is general. There are quite a few "diamonds in the rough" people of both sexes that make the generalizations seem like a big pile of crap.
Something else that I've posted earlier in this thread that has yet to be addressed. What if it was a 17 year old boy with a 24 year old woman? How "different" would people treat it esp the dads.
I'm probably going to get blasted but at least I post what I believe and be honest. | |
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| 24m goin on date with 17f
Posted: 4/15/2008 11:17:57 AM | | I say go for it if there's a spark there. It's not illegal in most states - there's a difference between a minor and being above the age of consent. I don't necessarily think it's that creepy, though having things in common with her would be difficult. I dated an 18 year old for a while (college freshman) this past year, and it was a real struggle because we had so little in common. I would say she needs to let her parents know though, and you should encourage her to do so. Illegal or not, the last thing you need is parents mad because you kept her out past curfew. | |
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| 24m goin on date with 17f
Posted: 4/15/2008 2:36:03 PM | If you’re just going out on a date, (if anyone can remember for a second what that is)…there is no harm what so ever. The focus seems to be on her being 17 and not whether the two of you are compatible. Going to the movies or just to dinner should not be viewed as criminal so why the big deal. Do keep in mind that she has parents and it would be advisable to make sure they are aware of it. If you need to be discreet because of them, then you probably need to rethink your intentions. All the warnings sound more directed in your sleeping with her or marrying her. Again, make sure that you have the right intentions.
I know couples that met at approximately the same age and are still quite happy together, twenty five years later. There is no formula for success in age or anything for that matter. Just look at who you’re asking advice from, a bunch of divorced, married several times, men and women. I don’t think that constitutes us as experts, failures maybe, but certainly not experts. It’s true that some were not to blame for the failures, but being a part of the failure has some ownership just the same.
The main thing to remember is that you keep your sense of responsibility about you regardless of age. It’s just as easy to be of the same age and make bigger mistakes…life lasting one. Don’t always be influenced by others, follow your heart in all your decisions. If your heart says no, listen to it, it knows what it’s saying…that’s your heart, no other body parts…
For all the Chris Hansen comments, this guy hasn't done anything that would interest Chris Hansen... | |
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| 24m goin on date with 17f
Posted: 4/15/2008 2:50:49 PM | | People sure do get uptight over this kind of thing. I saw a recent study that showed people's brains do not fully develop until they turn 25. So a 24 yo and a 17 yo BOTH have underdeveloped brains. I guess that makes them even, right? | |
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| 24m goin on date with 17f
Posted: 4/16/2008 7:45:35 PM | ok to all the self righteous out there
how many of you actually were virgins at the age of 18????
i can honestly raise my hand as i was
whats with the guy with a daughter gettin his nose bent out of shape all about???
like he at 20+ dint think of dating younger females. he probably still fantasizes about it like most middle aged men
and the women calling foul???? how many of you as teenagers didnt want to date the older guy with a car and a job s opposed to the school boys living with their parents??
legal or not legal is irrelevant
its a date
not sex ,get your minds out of the gutter ya perves | |
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| 24m goin on date with 17f
Posted: 4/16/2008 10:54:39 PM | Depending on your state, that date could lead to a sequel, "24m pimped out by 37m for cigarettes" Check your local laws, many have an age difference clause that may require you to become a guest of the state. At 24 though, really, you should be setting your sights on someone that can go anywhere you go. Except the men's room that is. Unless you are into that. Not that there's anything wrong with it.
LOL
DPR | |
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| 24m goin on date with 17f
Posted: 4/17/2008 2:08:05 AM | She's just as safe dating you as she would be dating anyone her own age. I'm not sure where parents get the idea that 17 year old guys aren't after just as much sex as the 24 year olds. Or that 17 year old girls aren't after the same exact thing...
Anyway...
You will be held more accountable than she will if anything goes wrong because you're an adult male and she's an underage female. To top it off, her parents will probably be out for blood if they find out about it. I won't knock you for it, but I wouldn't be putting myself in that position. | |
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| 24m goin on date with 17f
Posted: 4/17/2008 2:25:40 AM | Give Cort1295 "Posting Cookie #34".
He said it, he knows it, he has the man-knowledge.
It isn't what you want, but also the price you pay as others see it.
You do the crime, even when it isn't a crime, and you do the time.
Good man Cort. And good advice to go with it. | |
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ndobsa
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Joined: 3/30/2008
Msg: 92 | |
| 24m goin on date with 17f
Posted: 4/17/2008 9:42:44 PM | | thats pretty disgusting. Don't you find her too young for you? Maybe your immature. Still why can't you find someone your age? | |
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| 24m goin on date with 17f
Posted: 4/17/2008 9:54:22 PM |
flybeta wrote:
Is this alright? Its not that big of gap...
Not that big a gap? Pardon?
Here's a guideline to tell you if the person you're think of dating might
be too much of a gap from your own age. This ain't etched in stone, but it's
a guideline..... Divide your age in half, and then add 7.
So in your case, half of 24 is 12.... plus 7..... gives you 19.
So as a guide, if you're now dating someone who's younger than 19,
you can reasonably say it's too much of a gap.
Apolinary. | |
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| 24m goin on date with 17f
Posted: 4/17/2008 10:19:44 PM | | Apolinary~ I'm curious as to where you found this formula. If I halve my age and add 10, I'm still pushing the "too young" limit, IMO. Does your formula adjust as the person gets older? | |
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| 24m goin on date with 17f
Posted: 4/18/2008 3:26:41 AM | I think it is alright, but I have been there and done that! I was barely 18, and I was going out with a guy who was 24. The only problem for us was that he could get into the bars and clubs and I couldn't! If you really like her, don't listen to others.  | |
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| 24m goin on date with 17f
Posted: 4/18/2008 3:26:50 AM |
Does your formula adjust as the person gets older?
Yeah, because you're adjusting for your age by a factor of 2, and the 7 just comes in to make things reasonable. The tolerances for age differences thus increase as one gets older.  | |
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| 24m goin on date with 17f
Posted: 4/18/2008 3:45:43 AM | heya!
well when i was 17 i was seein a 23/almost 24 year old and we got on soo well cos girls are that little bit more maturer than boys i found myself on his wave-length. But when he did go out nd i was scared of gettin ID it did kinda get to me cos he could do what he wanted and i couldn't.
But i was honest and told my parents about it and although they didnt agree they knew he made me happy.
We're not together any more for the pure fact i found out he was a cheat but we had such amazing times and ill never forget them.
At the end of the day you cant help who you're attracted to and if you're both happy thats all that matters in my opinion.
Good Luck xx | |
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NERO1
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Joined: 3/8/2008
Msg: 98 | |
| 24m goin on date with 17f
Posted: 4/18/2008 5:43:35 AM | | There are no hard and fast "formulas" that can be used to determine what is the right age. If 17 is within legal range where the OP lives (here in IL 17 is the "age of consent" while 18 is majority age, but I'm not sure how exactly that works) then it is essentially irrelevant whether he is 24 or 34. Or more. If he is not forcing the girl / "tricking" the girl into doing anything, and her family is alright with him, then anyone else who does not like it simply does not like it on a purely personal moral basis. Which is of course their own prerogative but at the same time affects nothing much in reality. The law becomes gray at 17 (again here in IL it seems) , and in any case dating is not illegal in and of itself, so he could date a 16 yr old and just not have sex with her until she reaches the "age of consent". My uncle married a girl 16 yrs younger than him (granted this was in Italy, a different culture) , he was 32 she was 16, but they are still happily married today, living here now, 38 yrs later. So clearly it can work if it's something real by any chance. | |
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| 24m goin on date with 17f
Posted: 4/18/2008 10:01:12 PM | | It's a good thing she ain't my daughter!!! I have a 19 year old son who isn't interested in anyone under 18.... | |
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| 24m goin on date with 17f
Posted: 4/19/2008 7:25:54 PM | bunnyhunny~~
With the 19 year old son how would you treat it if he was 17 and dating a 24 year old woman. The same as your daughter or differently because he's a guy. No bashing going on here I'm just curios. I have no limits on my email so you can do that if you like.
Thanks | |
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