| Men and women who say they are good looking and/or look younger
Posted: 4/14/2008 10:55:44 AM | Women are just as guilty of this as the men!!!!
When they say they're hot and they appear to be in their pic...I think beauty and no personality(it's all about them)!
When they say they're hot and don't appear to be in my opinion....I think good luck with that!!
I do find it egotistical and somewhat funny when people declare themselves to be one thing and they don't look like it...much like some of the previous posters here.  | |
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| Men and women who say they are good looking and/or look younger
Posted: 4/14/2008 11:03:45 AM | It's a catch 22...if you claim that your "ugly" people are liekly turned off as well, whereas at least the "I'm good looking" gives the illusion of some confidence I guess.
Why do you have to claim to be anything?? Just simply let the other person decide if you are or aren't. I get compliments all the time about how pretty I am or how amazing my smile or eyes are or how gorgeous my baby smooth ivory skin is.. but I don't feel a need to talk about it. I have pictures up and people can see it for themselves, if they meet me in person then they'll even get a better picture for themselves (I'm told my pictures don't do my justice). If someone wants to date me because I'm pretty then we're not going to get far in a relationship. | |
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| Men and women who say they are good looking and/or look younger
Posted: 4/14/2008 11:09:21 AM | I don't claim anything in my profile. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and good looks are subjective...I was just saying...you effectively have said the same thing in this post that the topic of conversation is hilighting... 
I'm told my pictures don't do my justice
If a picture is worth a 1000 words, reality is worth a million?
My pictures don't me justice either, thats why I don't have any. | |
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| Men and women who say they are good looking and/or look younger
Posted: 4/14/2008 11:59:34 AM | I like to play a game:
I always ignore the 'age' and just look at pictures only, trying to guess their age (I'm studying to change my career to that guy at the Fair who guesses ages).
Often I nearly fall off the rolly ball that I sit on when I guess, say, '52' and then see they are 41 and claim that people 'always tell them' that they look 32. HA!!! There seem to be A LOT of early-forty people here who honestly LOOK like they're in their 50's.... haggard.
James, Seattle, Washington, USA, Earth | |
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| Men and women who say they are good looking and/or look younger
Posted: 4/14/2008 12:46:20 PM | Damned if you do, and damned if you don't, so in a market that places so much value on "confidence" (whatever that may be,) I think perhaps appearing arrogant is better than the other alternative.
Why do you have to claim to be anything?? - I thought that was the primary purpose of a profile?? Instructions for the POF Description text box say "...This is where you tell the world about yourself..." If we were to leave out every subjective bit of information, there wouldn't be much to write. Profiles are all about self-perception. As an example, in her profile, OP claims to be witty, funny, and someone who does not take herself too seriously. How does anyone know? Making such claims is not that different from guys claiming to be good looking. Yes, if a pic's available then one can leave it up to the viewer to judge, but the same goes for "witty, funny, etc etc" - a few dates should be enough to let people decide if one is witty, funny, etc. I guess I don't get the point... | |
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| Men and women who say they are good looking and/or look younger
Posted: 4/14/2008 12:59:13 PM | Saying, in your profile, that you are attractive and/or look younger than your "real" age, is not confidence in any way. In fact, it is likely a result of the opposite. Only someone who believes their picture/profile isn't that attractive would feel the need to further "sell" themselves. A confident person would take the time to find a good, recent, and accurate picture of him(her)self, post it, and let 'em come! :)
If you post it, they will come! lol! | |
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| Men and women who say they are good looking and/or look younger
Posted: 4/14/2008 1:20:22 PM | Yep, I agree with TallTexann, if you have to state it, then it probably isn’t true. Begs the question that if it is true, why say anything on that point?!? But I do find the opposite even stranger – those who write in their profiles that they’re ugly enough to scare dogs away, able to hide while standing in a field of cattle, or some other self-deprecating remark. Humor is one thing, but JEEZ!
Yep, “post it and they will come”.  | |
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| Men and women who say they are good looking and/or look younger
Posted: 4/14/2008 1:33:10 PM | Actually that is a good point, saying you look younger when your picture can speak for itself.
BUT:
The majority of men who contact me look old enough to be my dad and they are not even 45. Hence the reason I stated the younger thing. As one poster said "haggard".
That said, most people do look better in person. One guy on here is really fit and looks much better in person, but you would not know that by his pic at all!
I'm in pretty good shape looking for a partner to work out with too and those types of guys don't contact me either. This is almost a requirement for me now as I need an active partner. I can expect what I can offer.
Just one of the several reasons why I wish more people would attend the events. | |
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| Men and women who say they are good looking and/or look younger
Posted: 4/14/2008 2:19:48 PM | | What made the 49 year old look 45? Is there a certain appearance to 45 vs. 49? I don’t really pay much attention to those who say they look younger, or tell you they're funny, honest, “real”, or whatever. It is a dating profile, after all; an online billboard; an advertisement. I also don’t think that all Broadway shows are “better than 'Cats'”; or that Harold & Kumar’s escape from Guantanamo Bay is going to make me shit myself with laughter, either. People are going to sell themselves in the best way they possibly can, and not all will be good at it. | |
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| Men and women who say they are good looking and/or look younger
Posted: 4/14/2008 3:03:36 PM | As an example, in her profile, OP claims to be witty, funny, and someone who does not take herself too seriously
forum.sulker, being witty is an inner trait. People do know their own personalities. They know if they are quick to anger, or slow to anger, lazy or energetic, good humored, or bad humored, they know what they like, and what they don't like. These are things that may not be easily captured in a photograph; if at all! Think of the Mona Lisa..we can all see what she looks like; but no one can tell what she is thinking; or what her personality is like. These are things that might not be visible from a photo. But how a person looks and how old they look is visible in a photo! You are comparing chalk to cheese when you compare the obvious (how someone looks in a photograph) to the far less easily perceived...namely what kind of personality they have. The people who self-proclaim themselves to be good-looking don't come across as saying it tongue-in-cheek, or as an expression of wit; but as in they seriously believe they are seriouly good looking, and then some! If a good looking person has a photo up and then writes "I'm a very good looking man/woman," don't you think that's overkill?? Or conceit?? Or in poor taste?? I guess not, eh?! Well, to each his own! PS: Instead of attacking the OP, how about addressing the topic!!!!
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| Men and women who say they are good looking and/or look younger
Posted: 4/14/2008 3:21:07 PM | | I would never say I am "good looking"... that is purely subjective. However, most of my customers...when they see me in person can not believe I will be 45 next month. It is what it is... I just say "cool...thanks". I know plenty of women who take care of themselves (a slight degree is vanity is ok...as long as it doesn't go overboard)...and they do not look their age at all. | |
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| Men and women who say they are good looking and/or look younger
Posted: 4/14/2008 3:22:38 PM | | I'm guilty of reading lots of women's profiles and very few men's. Most profiles I read don't tell you anything more than what most of the rest tell you. My conclusion is that writing a profile that says something about you that is short, readable, not too brash, not too reserved, interesting to read, different than most,friendly,doesn't exclude those that you have something in common with that could work, excludes those that you don't want to encourage, etc is a very difficult proposition. I think most people give up and write a few sentences that are the same as everybody else. Put little effort in to it. That's why many ppl here just look at the pictures. I've rewritten my profile a dozen times and I still don't care for it. I can't fault ppl for what's in their profile, it isn't easy to be realistic and honest while also trying to flash your tail feathers to interest a mate. | |
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| Men and women who say they are good looking and/or look younger
Posted: 4/14/2008 3:33:57 PM | I had to alugh when I read this. I had on my profile for a long time that I thought I was seriously ugly and fat. I was suprised. Not one single lady contacted me, lol.
Well, now I'm not really fat, but I am still ugly. Hell of a nice guy, but ugly, lol. | |
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| Men and women who say they are good looking and/or look younger
Posted: 4/14/2008 3:34:34 PM |
I do receive compliments IE: I don't look my age and I thank them, however it's all relative and I don't post my own, personal opinion on my profile.
hmmm... if I would receive this I would still like to know how it was meant...  | |
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