| Men and women who say they are good looking and/or look younger
Posted: 4/16/2008 3:14:11 AM | challenge wrote:
******As for me......at 50....I just clean up nice *****
I'd much rather have a man say that then he's attractive, handsome, or good looking.
******* Having said that...does that lessen my intellect or create the impression that I seek attention *******
I suppose it's all in the choice of words...."I clean up nice" doesn't *sound* like bragging.
******I would think the picture without the shirt gave it away ******
Unfortunately, if anyone writes to me and they have a posed pic without a shirt, I delete the email and move along. I'd much rather see someone's smiling face than someone who needs to show me their body. Just like a half naked woman... the impression you'd get is that they're looking for something other than a relationship. I could be wrong and they really do want a relationship, but I get the feeling it's more about sex. I also wonder what kind of women they attract.
Just my opinion.
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| Men and women who say they are good looking and/or look younger
Posted: 4/16/2008 4:56:23 AM | Sharzi.....
Thanks for your insight and opinion.....
With respect to your question on "what type of women" the picture would attract.....
Typically.......they are very attractive.....slim.....intelligent and not close minded.
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| Men and women who say they are good looking and/or look younger
Posted: 4/16/2008 5:47:39 AM | Its like this woman in my city, she has several kids and is 48... her kids are all over 18 and some have kids...
she says she is glad to be a YOUNG (???) grandma... since when is 48 young? ...
Now she thinks she's hot looking and looks younger than her age, I don't think so but its entertaining to listen to her brag on herself.  | |
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| Men and women who say they are good looking and/or look younger
Posted: 4/16/2008 6:16:24 AM | | Interesting thread here, personally I'm just grateful I wasn't born with a third eye in the middle of my forehead or something like that... then again, I probably could have made a lot of money off the novelty of it! If it makes a person feel better about themselves by stating that they look better or feel better than most people in their own age group I see no harm in it, nor do I care. Me, I'm 53, Joe average and content with that. Good luck people, be happy with who you are! | |
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| Men and women who say they are good looking and/or look younger
Posted: 4/16/2008 6:20:53 AM |
It's definitly easier approaching someone you know has accepted you and your race / looks, then sending out e-mails to girls who want tall, caucasian, athletic, secessful dude. I almost couldn't be any more opposite
This is an interesting point. Some people do not want to date outside their race. Some people will date outside their race, but only certain races. Some girls are not into long hair, some are. I've always found the lighter/darker skin of the mix of black/white attractive myself. I also like my guys between 5'6 and 5'11. And 5'11 is pretty tall for me, and I've only dated one guy who was!
Not all women are the same just as all men are not the same. It's just unfortunate that sometimes we find ourselves attracted to those that are not attracted to us lol
As for being sucessful at 19?! Well, the guy I dated at 19 worked at a gas station. Now that I'm 38 I am looking for someone successful, but that's because I am successful now.
I sincerely hope that 19 year olds have not changed THAT much!
As for someone stating they are attractive or whatnot. It really doesn't bother me - it's more their interests and how the rest of their profile "writes". Oh and yes, since I sometimes label myself as somewhat attractive and looking younger than my age, I guess that makes me now right?
There are alot more tell tale signs of being shallow than that. I'll look for those more subtle clues.... | |
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| Men and women who say they are good looking and/or look younger
Posted: 4/16/2008 2:37:16 PM | challenge wrote:
******With respect to your question on "what type of women" the picture would attract.....
Typically.......they are very attractive.....slim.....intelligent and not close minded.
******
Sorry if that sounded close minded, but I guess I'm going by my own experience. Every time I ever went out with someone who posted pics like that, they were looking for sex partners. The women I know who are looking for the same will usually always look for the guys showing their bodies online. I got to the point where I started to pass on any pics like that.
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| Men and women who say they are good looking and/or look younger
Posted: 4/16/2008 2:50:56 PM | | In the end it all boils down to one thing. You either like the guy or you do not. So what does it matter what they think about theirselves? That is unless of course, the guy is so conceited that he is impossible. We are here to sell ourselves to the opposite sex so we are certainly not going to write in our profile "By the way, I am uglier than dirt." I like a woman who thinks highly of herself as long as she is not a conceited c--t, whether she is hot looking or not. | |
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| Men and women who say they are good looking and/or look younger
Posted: 4/16/2008 8:05:44 PM | custis....
I don't think a woman has to write "I'm hot"..... she may be to some and not to others. The person viewing her pictures will be the one to decide for himself.
Of course no one is going to say they are uglier than dirt. But why say anything about how you look? To me it does sound conceited to say "I'm pretty" or "I'm handsome." That's your own perception.
To each their own, but for me, I'd rather read what someone likes doing or how they feel about life rather than how they look.
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| Men and women who say they are good looking and/or look younger
Posted: 4/17/2008 1:33:40 AM | I could care less if people think I look young/good for my age....Ill be 35 next month, and Im content simply to to be healthy and feeling good.When I was in my 20's I was much more into shopping for the latest styles and what I was going to wear for some upcoming occasion .Nowadays,Im happy if I manage to put on matching shoes:)I actually was in a rush one day and left the house wearing a brown shoe and a black one  People who constantly worry about looking younger will end up stressing themselves out so much about looking older,theyll age prematurely from the stress..Now theres some food for thought:) | |
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| Men and women who say they are good looking and/or look younger
Posted: 4/17/2008 8:27:24 AM | | I will never any consider answering an ad where the man says he is attractive or very attractive. That is just so conceited to me. Let others determine if you are attractive to them because attraction is different for everyone. While self esteem and confidence is important, overconfidence is a turn off. | |
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| Men and women who say they are good looking and/or look younger
Posted: 4/17/2008 8:34:57 AM | I find it's true in most cases.
People who aren't tend to be reluctant to say that; but maybe it's just people my age and older *LOL*
Wow... I went to my high school reunion last year and when I met some of the people I used to go to school with, I thought to myself things like: "are you sure you aren't his Mom? or Dad, or something?"
Most people I went to school with have aged faster than me. I'm not trying to attract anyone here. I'm just a married guy....and I'm trying to be objective in saying that I think most who claim that are telling the truth as best they know it. | |
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| Men and women who say they are good looking and/or look younger
Posted: 4/17/2008 8:46:41 AM | Yes.
Like the one lady always spouting about how she's mistaken for being ten years younger and has average as her body type.
Maybe she ate that 30-something for dinner but I'd never guess her for 30's or average with all those chins.
You know what they say tho, inside every fat woman is a skinny woman screaming to get out. But you can usually shut her up with cookies.
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| Men and women who say they are good looking and/or look younger
Posted: 4/17/2008 9:35:05 PM | Think you are taking profiles too seriously, no one is going to say they are ugly on sites like these are they?
also no one really feels their age once past 40 so why not say so, if they have a photo on their profile does it matter if its contrary to what the viewer thinks, another might think they are indeed nice looking, lve found its best to say very little and keep the photo private only showing to those that interest you .... and after reading your comments here l now know lm right .....  | |
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| Men and women who say they are good looking and/or look younger
Posted: 4/18/2008 3:38:31 AM | | Indie: It's ironic that you don't have it written on your profile because you actually do look a lot younger than you are. I think it's great that people don't feel their age, I just don't like it when older people who may not look so great, brag about physical appearance in their profile. | |
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| Men and women who say they are good looking and/or look younger
Posted: 4/18/2008 5:12:20 AM | I, too, thought Indigo was much younger than her actual age. You are quite beautiful but I think it's the beauty of your spirit making people feel that way! 
I don't know about this asking folks how young one looks. People are often surprised by my age, thinking I am quite the youngin. LOL. However, I'm grouped into those peeps who wonder why someone would put that on their page to begin with. Like beauty, appearance of age is in the eye of the beholder, it's subjective. It is up to the person viewing the pics whether or not they think you look younger than your years.
Personally, I dismiss claims of "I'm goodlooking" or "I look younger than my age" as it is not up to them about what I think. | |
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| Men and women who say they are good looking and/or look younger
Posted: 4/18/2008 5:49:41 AM | Even worse are those who try to "act" young. In reality its just immaturity and ego. I see it in lots of middle aged women, its a sad and pathetic thing.
I do like younger women but younger women who are mature.... being I met so many women my age who want to think of themselves as young, thought I'd do better just dating young women and many younger women not only have their heads on better and more mature but also better looking.
This is a dilemma the middle aged man faces in dating women his own age, the conciet/ vanity and enormous ego of the women his age... often they are women who have no concept based in reality | |
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| Men and women who say they are good looking and/or look younger
Posted: 4/18/2008 6:50:17 AM | Lets look at it this way; who would tell someone they look old for their age. As far as people telling others "you look great or young for your age" especially those of the opposite sex, you can draw your own conclusion. For those that state they look young for their age or hot, good for them, most would think immediately, "well they don't look as good as I do". What is your rational for thinking you look younger or are better looking than those who would publicly announce it here on a dating site.
When a woman asks or tells me they look young for their age, I simply reply "you look nice for your age". Then I put the question to them, remove the age, now tell me why you think someone is or isn't beautiful?  | |
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| Men and women who say they are good looking and/or look younger
Posted: 4/19/2008 6:14:03 AM | David said:
If you ask 20 or 30 strangers to guess your age,
that will give you an accurate idea.
Actually, the only way you'll get a accurate idea is to have someone show others a PICTURE of yourself and ask them to guess. People will always error on the side of too young than too old if there's a high likelihood of insulting the person with their true thoughts.
There are some pictures HERE that I've guessed around 48 and was SHOCKED to read they were mid-30's.
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| Men and women who say they are good looking and/or look younger
Posted: 4/19/2008 12:28:42 PM |
Lets look at it this way; who would tell someone they look old for their age.
Exactly, most people are usually (key word there) kind sometimes too kind, some have a hidden agenda.
I simply reply "you look nice for your age".
In your particular case I would say “Nice at any age”.(No hidden agenda.)
What ever happened to "beauty is in the eyes of the beholder"?
It still stands, people are just seem to be sick of hearing it , mainly the shallow people that are hung up on looks. | |
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