| Do people really spend hundreds on a date?
Posted: 4/15/2008 8:36:18 PM | first dates?
i NEVER pay. i don't even offer, or pretend to take the tab to pay. actually, this is for the first 3 dates, with that, i don't demand "expensive restaurants". we usually just grab coffee, and chill and get desserts if anything.
one time, i was really sick, and the guy wanted to see me. we said we'll meet, and he thought i was flaking cuz i told him last minute that i can't go. he insisted, so whatevers. we had some chinese dinner, he had egg foo yung i think...he had a decent meal (not fancy), and all i had was 2 dollar soup. we laughed it off and said if dates with me were like this, he'd love to take me out all the time.
even though i don't even bother to offer paying, i know my limits. i'm considerate enough to order the lower priced menu (never the cheapest so they don't notice i'm trying to save them money), and *always* just order water. that 2-3 dollar drink could add up...that could have been the tip! hahahahaha...ya...i settle for random grubs for first few dates.
so $100 dates...*rarely* happens...and only did with my bf....after a long time that we've been dating. actually, when we just started dating dating, i would split the bill. eventually, we just went out too much and i can't afford this lifestyle. it even reached to a point that i asked him not to ask me to go out anymore cuz i'm so broke...hahahahaha! he took that as an insult cuz he said money should never hinder us from dating. he can cover for me, or if i really feel bad about it, we'll stay home and cook...much cheaper. now, 90% of the time when we go out, he pays for me. sometimes he forgets his money, then i cover everything...but that's on such rare occasion. granted, he earns 2x as much as me...LOL! | |
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| Do people really spend hundreds on a date?
Posted: 4/15/2008 8:45:49 PM | I don't believe I've spent over $100 on a date. Close sometimes, probably topping out at 80 or 90. But often times you can get a half decent meal for around $50 - $60 for the two of you. I don't need a $50.00 bottle of wine to have an enjoyable time.
Although I did have this one girlfriend, and we would disappear for a weekend every now and then. Hotel in the mountains for a couple nights, looking at about a grand there, when it was all said and done. But we didn't do that all the time either. Just a special occasion kinda getaway weekend.
But generally I don't need to throw the bling around to impress someone. My charming personality, cynical wit, wide eyed innocence and exuberance always wins them over. Heheh kidding. I'm kind of a brat and it shows through sometimes.
Didn't bring my Halo.
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| Do people really spend hundreds on a date?
Posted: 4/15/2008 8:47:06 PM | QUOTE: So I am curious, How many people on this site regularly go to this kind of establishment for an early date.
>>>>>> Not me. She's not getting that kind of royal treatment until , perhaps our 1st year annv'y. Or some other sort of very special occasion you could think of. But to do so on a first date, as I've said in another thread somewhere on here, is IMO a total waste of money. A couple can eat just as well and have just a good a time at an average place , talk and get to know each other, etc etc. Just a casual average place. If the date's going really good, then expand it into doing something more afterwards. I like to pay for the date, I should stress, but spending that kind of money (100 - 200 bucks, or more, for instance) on an early date, is to me just "showy" and not worth it --- especially not seeing as though many "early dates" (obviously -- or we wouldn't all be around here) do not necessarily indicate that there will ever be any much later dates. Forget it. | |
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| Do people really spend hundreds on a date?
Posted: 4/16/2008 2:04:06 AM | | talk about upscale. im from detroit area. most people when we eat out a meal thats over 15 bucks is expensive. but in my personal opinion people live to good to enjoy life in its simplicity | |
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| Do people really spend hundreds on a date?
Posted: 4/16/2008 9:56:44 AM | Some men think that spending a lot of money on a date is a way to impress a woman. Some women have a sense of entitlement where they equate the amount of money he spends on her with how much he likes.
IMO it's not a bright idea to spend a lot of money on the first few dates. The first dates should be relatively simple and low key. Why spend a lot of money on someone that might not be interested in you or vice versa? If 2 people had been dating for awhile then I could understand spending a lot of money on a single date. | |
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| Do people really spend hundreds on a date?
Posted: 4/16/2008 10:08:49 AM | Getting up in the morning is expensive. It goes without saying that doing anything else is going to be expensive.
If I ask you to do anything with me, I'm buying. You're doing me the privilege of having your company and that's worth something to me, but I'm telling the guy at the counter at The Golden Corral that you're 8 to get the cheaper rate on dinner. | |
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| Do people really spend hundreds on a date?
Posted: 4/16/2008 10:13:38 AM |
but I'm telling the guy at the counter at The Golden Corral that you're 8 to get the cheaper rate on dinner.
Have you tried asking for the "senior discount"? That should impress your dates. | |
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| Do people really spend hundreds on a date?
Posted: 4/16/2008 10:15:29 AM | QUOTE: Some men think that spending a lot of money on a date is a way to impress a woman. Some women have a sense of entitlement where they equate the amount of money he spends on her with how much he likes.
IMO it's not a bright idea to spend a lot of money on the first few dates. The first dates should be relatively simple and low key. Why spend a lot of money on someone that might not be interested in you or vice versa? If 2 people had been dating for awhile then I could understand spending a lot of money on a single date.
>>> Exactly. Well put. Nice to see a female here say this. It's not to say that I don't want to or plan to, as the man, pay for any date I go on (I don't personally like the idea of "going Dutch"). But it's just that I feel like these outlandishly expensive dates , (let's say, a 75 -100 or more per plate type of restaurant) early on in the dating process, is a waste of money and probably a deliberate showiness that might even turn some girls off. | |
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| Do people really spend hundreds on a date?
Posted: 4/16/2008 10:17:37 AM | Yeah yeah homeonthecoast, we heard that all before, you spend hundreds on the ex and then want a glass of red wine on the sofa with the newby.
No sensible woman is ever going to date a man at his home, until she knows him well enough, it is mad to think anyone would want to be alone with a person they only met on the tinternet.
BASIC SECURITY TELLS YOU 'ONLY TO MEET A PERSON IN PUBLIC', do not go back to their home alone (that is men or women) until you are sure they are who they say they are. And if anyone wants to push another person into being alone with them on the first half a dozen dates then it is not worth meeting them again - something is wrong?? | |
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| Do people really spend hundreds on a date?
Posted: 4/16/2008 10:40:08 AM | | Most definitely Loz. A brief meeting in public over a coffee or a drink is quite standard for a first date with an internet connection. If you are hitting it off, you could expand the date to include a dinner or an activity still within a safe environment. | |
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| Do people really spend hundreds on a date?
Posted: 4/16/2008 10:49:14 AM | Just your assumptions...
Erm....so knowing nothing about me you come to this conclusion...how? You may have heard things upon which to base your opinions, but certainly not from me.
The *newby*, as you call her, doesn't see my place inside the first couple of months unless she demands it, nor do I expect to see hers. Your assumptions of my wants are not only wrong, but offensively so. Sadly the anonymity of the Internet allows people to behave like this. Fortunately it also allows for ignoring people who behave like this.
Cheers. | |
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| Do people really spend hundreds on a date?
Posted: 4/16/2008 12:03:39 PM |
Getting up in the morning is expensive. It goes without saying that doing anything else is going to be expensive.
If I ask you to do anything with me, I'm buying. You're doing me the privilege of having your company and that's worth something to me, but I'm telling the guy at the counter at The Golden Corral that you're 8 to get the cheaper rate on dinner.
But what about the privilege of your company? I mean, it sounds as if you're putting the woman on a pedestal and you're a lowly servant. Maybe I'm mistaken, I dunno. | |
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| Do people really spend hundreds on a date?
Posted: 4/16/2008 4:01:40 PM | First "date" we meet for coffee and that's it. I'm only 45 minutes and a couple of bucks in at that point. Anyway, after 4-6 dates, she should be offering to pay or make me dinner anyhow.
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| Do people really spend hundreds on a date?
Posted: 4/16/2008 4:06:40 PM | Where can I find me one of these men?! LOL. Teasing.
I'm lucky if I can get a date and let alone the offer to pay for my coffee...lol. So I've yet to meet a man like this. I can see this happening yes, but I've never had it happen to me! | |
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| Do people really spend hundreds on a date?
Posted: 5/2/2008 6:32:33 AM | I'm cheap. I don't think I have ever spent $100 on a date with someone I was not seriously involved with. I have bills just like she does and some moderation would be appreciated. I have no problem paying for a date and I would feel insulted if she wanted to go dutch when we are just getting to know one another, but we aren't going to hanging out at $100 restaurants either.
My idea of a nice restaurant is something like Carrabba's or something in the similar price and quality range. For some that is on the low end and all that means is we probably don't have much in common.
I have gone on dates where the goal of the other woman seemed to be finding out how much she could get me to spend. I wouldn't say they were gold diggers, but they had no consideration for me. They equate the amount of money spent with the level of interest. If it is just dinner and drinks, my interest level drops significantly anytime it starts going above about $60. It's DEAD after $70 unless we are doing something like going to am amusement park.
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| Do people really spend hundreds on a date?
Posted: 5/7/2008 12:52:23 PM | > Well dating is expensive so that is why you boys need a good job....
That's exactly why men deserve to earn more than women for the same work - at least until women learn not to be cheapskates - and why women should be kept out of high paying jobs which should rightfully go to a guy because he needs it more. | |
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| Do people really spend hundreds on a date?
Posted: 5/9/2008 6:26:43 PM | Usually the hotter the girl is, the fancier I try to be and obviously the more expensive the date gets. The most I ever spent on a single date was about $200 on dinner. We went out two days in a row though - so that added to the overall expense. Also, factor in the drive to Baltimore to see her (I did have another date planned for the third day - I didn't JUST go to see her - but certainly would have), the hotel room, etc., it was a $500 weekend min on just what was expensed to her. And to boot, she turned out to be probably the biggest whore and****tease I ever met in my life. 
I've basically learned that the less I spend and less fancy I try to be, the better the chances are of having a decent date. Guess that is connected to the phenomenon that the more successful you are and the more you have going for yourself, the harder it is to get any decent girl interested. So now, I'm coffee dating everyone!! 
Anyway, a $100 dinner is usually standard...  | |
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| Do people really spend hundreds on a date?
Posted: 5/10/2008 5:42:00 AM | Yeah, $100 isn't that uncommon.
I used to take women to dinner for our first meeting. However, I have taken to meeting more redily in the last few years with less emphasis on the initial correspondence.
So these days I tend to meet for coffee or drinks first and not so much for dinner.
However, dinner.
Low / High
Drinks: $20 / $60
Dinner: $40 / $120
After: $10 / $25
Grat: $15 / $50
TOTAL: $85 / $255
Then - as someone else pointed out - through in travel to destination (i.e. gas)... yikes.
That is only dinner too. If you go to a show. Perhaps parking. It can go on and on.
I dated a woman who was accustommed to the higher end of things in life. A hundred dollars for dinner for two was on the low end with her. | |
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| Do people really spend hundreds on a date?
Posted: 5/10/2008 6:24:33 AM | It really just depends on the person.
My GF invited me to her hometown for New Years, because she knew my work schedule sucks. This was after about 2 weeks. I accepted (again because I tend to be overworked as my work schedule sucks), so for a 3rd (or so) date, I happily spent 900-1000$. It was completely worth it, as we had an amazing time together.
But I think, like I said, it just depends on the person doing the spending. I have never been on a date where it's been dutch, so I've always picked up the tab.
For me, I don't think it's about me buying someone's love, it's about making someone else happy. I have been blessed with extra money, and if I can pick up someone's 10$ meal at a restaurant then great. That's 10$ extra she has for cab fare home if things don't work out. | |
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| Do people really spend hundreds on a date?
Posted: 5/17/2008 11:07:20 AM | I've spent $300 on a date before, but that was more than a meal. Flowers, gas, the meal, the fun stuff. Naturally the $300 date was a girl that at first started off as cheaply as possible.
The cheapest date I've ever had was $2 movie tickets and $2 hot chocolate. So $4 in all. I was fine with that, there was no chemistry though. | |
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| Do people really spend hundreds on a date?
Posted: 5/17/2008 11:10:10 AM | Oh and I have a guy friend that met a woman for a first date at a sports bar / pool hall. Well the woman had been drinking since before the date and she had a tab. At the end of the night, the tab was $75. She wanted him to pay it. He said no, cause she had been drinking a while before he got there.
The heart of Chicago is expensive. | |
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