| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 1/8/2009 3:03:08 PM | | It's in poor taste, yes. If a guy does that to me...it basically seals his fate that he will never meet me in real life. | |
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| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 1/8/2009 7:56:11 PM | | Nope, I wouldn't even meet the guy. I had one guy talk about masturbating since I wasn't into sex. I found it kinda creepy. He is like well if you and I get into a relationship. That's when I block the guy, when the conversation gets too in depth and that's ALL he talks about. | |
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| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 1/8/2009 8:01:40 PM | | It's def disrespectful...without a doubt..know that! I have a friend (or two) that discuss sexual things before the first date..and one guy just pulled out his penis on their first date (I could go on and on). There is no reason for it, even the lil "joke" that's said...watch that as a red flag. | |
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| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 1/9/2009 5:34:18 AM | I agree. I want to have that talk with someone who I know and will not tell the world about it. I tell the world about it if I don't know them, that is entertainment not a relationship builder.
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| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 1/9/2009 11:48:59 AM | | I sometimes talk about my sexuality on the first conversation. Does this mean I want to jump in bed with him...HELL NO and I'm very direct about my intentions . It is often misunderstood that just because a woman is sexual she's a slut or "easy". I have very high standards along with morals, values and respect for myself. | |
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| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 1/9/2009 3:54:10 PM | | I'm not saying I don't believe you flirty^^^^...BUT...what would be the reason to talk sexual/sexuality at all before you even meet someone in person for the first date/meet? Unless....you might be attracted to this person enough to maybe have sex on the first date...yes? No judgement, just asking...because that's exactly what the guy is going to think,no matter what...even if you make it quite clear that it isn't going to happen....hell, even by my pics a guy may think I'm going to give it up on the first date...were all sexual...but I would never discuss it unless I might be thinking of having a one night stand/#$%^ buddy. | |
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| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 1/9/2009 4:06:44 PM |
Am I being a prude by thinking that this is disprespectful???
Hello NO! Would you change your thinking if everyone on here said you were being a prude? Stick to what's right for you!! | |
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| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 1/10/2009 11:21:42 AM | | I am still trying to figure out why someone would want to give a complete stranger private, intimate information for which he has no use if you meet and there is no chemistry? It is on a need to know basis. | |
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| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 1/10/2009 11:31:24 AM | I had an email 'conversation' with a bloke tonight who seemed interesting enough to chat to. He started in on the sex talk in a flirty way, which is fine, but got graphic very quickly, so I said no thanks to that kind of conversation. He got all huffy and "fine, I was interested in knowing you better that is all". Yeah, right! Lol.
I'm not a prude, but neither am I a total fool. | |
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| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 1/10/2009 11:32:26 AM | | That's what makes the men look like bozos. They act like they are crazy about you and then you meet them and their fantasy of Miss America is shot to s**t, even though you have sent a picture and told them about your appearance. If I was going to lie, why would I lie and say that I am an average looking/cute 51 year old woman who looks like Thelma on Scooby Doo cartoons? (to my students, who of course think I am great since most of them still respect teachers and they do not judge a person by appearance). Maybe he has not had sex in such a long time he has to talk about it to get thrills? The real deal when there is chemistry is thrilling to me, I do not need to talk about it with a stranger. | |
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| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 1/10/2009 2:19:13 PM | | The last one told me that I was cold because I would not discuss sex with him before meeting.................my reply.....................you will never know how hot I can get since we will never meet................................ | |
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| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 1/10/2009 3:54:17 PM | I have seen an over abundance of people who want to tell me all about their sexual likes and dislikes and what they want to do to do me even before meeting me. Am I being a prude by thinking that this is disprespectful???
We are all adults and a part of having a succesfull relationship is sexual chemistry. When you meet face to face you know before you even say a word if your physicaly attracted to them or not. But on here you usually have a head shot and a profile thats full of crap lol. If you tell him it makes you feel uncomfortable and he continues to bring it up...yes its disrespectful. But most ppl will bring up sex before meeting. | |
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| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 1/11/2009 6:22:19 AM | | People don't want to admit it, women especially, but sex is a very important part of a relationship if it's going to last. Anyone saying anything else is confused, lost or nieve. Personal time, and sexual compatability are 2 huge factors in long lasting relationships. | |
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| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 1/11/2009 6:42:17 AM | | I've had sexual topics questioned by all the guys that messaged me on here thru email or chat. You're not the only one who encounters that. Nothing wrong with adult to adult conversation as long as it doesn't become the only topic. Doesn't mean you have to actually screw the guy after answering his questions. But you can be straight about who you are and what you want up front so this doesn't get out of hand. | |
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| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 1/11/2009 7:17:14 AM | If you meet someone at a gathering, the coversation doesn't go like this :
Hi I'm Joe Blow, how are you, oh btw what's your favorite position? Seriously, Joe knows he's going to get smacked!!
Online Joe is braver...if the conversation goes from chit chat and getting to know you to sex, that's usually it for me! Good-Bye Joe!!
I already am aware of the fact that sex is the first and most important thing on a mans mind. If he can't be bothered to care about or want to talk about what is on my mind then he's really not worth eventually messin up my hair for! | |
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| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 1/11/2009 8:05:06 AM | People are way too willing to take the mystery out of the thing. It's ridiculous, really.
Talking about sex in general before I meet someone isn't the problem.. I don't care one way or the other.. in fact hearing that you've got a large libido more or less up front, just tells me we might match after all... for one example, but I've adopted the stance of refusing to answer say.. a favorite position query, by saying something like, "For me to know and you to find out."
If they still pound away (pun) with the what do I like questions after that, I do write them off big time. | |
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| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 1/11/2009 8:38:40 AM | It's just like women always wanting to talk about relationships before meeting... It's the surest way to get written off big time. And in public, I just smack `em.  | |
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| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 1/11/2009 9:31:20 AM | ^^
Um, just wonderin...
How can you talk about a relationship you don't yet have with someone you've yet to meet?
Hope they smack you back.. seriously. | |
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| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 1/11/2009 9:49:31 AM | I've enjoyed learning about men's attitudes to sexuality and preferences - which is different than 'sex talk'. I think it is a legitimate part of the 'getting to know you' process and helped me decide who to meet... I wasn't going to bother to meet a man who obviously wasn't compatible with my sexuality.
On-line is backasswards to meeting in real life in many respects and one aspect of this is the ability to have conversations about sexuality before you know them well. I also discussed religion and politics too, go figure.
I do think there is a difference in the level of importance placed on sexual incompatibility in a relationship. It may well be that people who have been mismatched with prior partners place a higher priority on 'checking it out'. | |
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| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 1/11/2009 11:45:20 AM | I have mixed feelings about talking about sex even before meeting. First of all, you don't know if you'll hit it off in person; despite many interesting & deep conversations, there might not be any "chemistry" between the two of you. You can certainly talk about your general views on sexuality, if she asks you, as many people are much less inhibited online than in person, but you are treading on thin ice here. Once, I had a woman ask me, after chatting a few times on the phone, before we had ever met: "How do you like to made love? Fast or slow?" !!!??? So it's not just men who bring this subject up before meeting. Another woman wanted me to have phone sex with her, even before meeting her!
Admittedly, we're all sexual to a degree, some more, some less, but I don't think it's appropriate to bring sex up, especially before meeting. Unless she's only looking for a cybersex relationship.
It all depends on what you and your new "friend" are seeking. Certainly, there are some women out there that are seeking a strictly-sexual relationship.
In any case, people who only talk about sex are "One Trick Ponies" very one-dimensioned. It even gets boring after a while! My advice to men is to NEVER bring up this subject first, even if you're a sex-starved manslut!  It can be a big turn-off for women, and you need to appear as a gentleman at all times. | |
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