| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 4/22/2008 8:40:42 PM | | Tonight I have come to realize that I do talk about sex in a way before meeting men. I realized it because I talk about some of the funny things I have read on the forums. Some of the funniest sexual threads are deleted. I wish some of the comments could be kept and put in the comment hall of fame. | |
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| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 4/22/2008 8:49:09 PM | I think it is a good idea to talk about sexual perferences. That way I can weed out the guys that would not be suitable for me. For example I do not engage in so call oral sex. I weed out men who must engage on oral. I want a man who will learn where and how to touch me with his hands also not jerk off on the day, and a day before we decide to have sex so he can maintain an erection. Getting sex issues out in the open is good because it helps avoid a dissapointment.
Talking about sex perferences, what I like and don't like, does not mean I am going to do it with the person I am sharing this with, but it can avoid dissappointments if and when it happens. | |
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| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 4/22/2008 9:32:53 PM | I cannot imagine any reason why discussing sexual preferences before even meeting in person would be remotely necessary.
9 times out of 10 the chemistry won't be there anyway, which makes the whole exchange pointless and a waste of time.
Any guy who starts talking about sex right away looks like a dumb wanker to a woman who is looking for a relationship. Whether men think that's rational or not really makes no difference. | |
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| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 4/22/2008 9:53:18 PM | | Reggyboy...do you ever fantasize about men? Just wondered. I think you're protesting just a bit too much...it sounds a little desperate! | |
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| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 4/23/2008 1:01:20 AM |
Tonight I have come to realize that I do talk about sex in a way before meeting men. I realized it because I talk about some of the funny things I have read on the forums. Some of the funniest sexual threads are deleted. I wish some of the comments could be kept and put in the comment hall of fame. Do you often tease and not deliver? | |
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| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 4/23/2008 1:32:13 AM | | alot prolly are pervert's...But alot of men think it's cool to talk about sex..Instead of amking a good impression..they end up looking like clown's..If they had a mirrow right next to them when their talking about it...They would see how stupid they sound and look. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 2:20:24 AM | | Agree with Apolinary 100%. Depends on each individual. I know someone who is quite candid with her emails. At first I thought "eww", but then after reflecting, just because I'm not comfortable with it at first doesn't make it wrong. it's not a " one size fits all " type of deal. If you don't like it, just say so. | |
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| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 4/23/2008 5:33:49 AM | i closed an im from a guy yesterday that he asked if i would have a baby with him . I told him i been told i cant get pregnant . But i would consider it if i ever will be in relaationship where the guy wanted a child i wld try cause there is a med that wld allow me get pregnant . I thinks that is something that people shld wait thinks abt cause u shld be allowed get know person first an that u shld be in love with the person cause ure going havedeal with the father your whole life . | |
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| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 4/23/2008 5:53:30 AM | I think it smacks of immaturity, for sure! It's very inappropriate to talk about sexuality if you haven't even met someone!
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| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 4/23/2008 4:58:23 PM | | I know that this happens a lot. But I also know that those are not the guys I want to get into a car with, or that I will not have a real long-lasting relationship with them either. They are just used to women doing that. So the assume that allwomen want to talk about sex. I talk about sex with my male friends sometimes. But not with someone who I just met. To me it's a turn off, and it's juvenile. | |
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| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 4/23/2008 5:30:36 PM | | I am totally with you on this. I'm definitely no prude, but i'm not sure I want to sleep with ANYONE until I meet face to face with them (at least). You never know if the chemistry is right until you meet. I don't even like to entertain a discussion about sex with someone before i'm certain I would be interested in being with them in that way..otherwise it's leading them on, right? It really makes me very uncomfortable when guys persue the topic. Especially when they are referring to what they would like to do to me personally. | |
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| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 4/23/2008 5:47:53 PM | Oh this bugs me too-- where are peoples manners and where is civility and chivalry these days??? Drives me absolutely nuts.
I was just chatting the other day with this guy who seemed awesome---until he started right in with the sex chat innuendos-- and strong too!
I politely hung up and blocked him.
Treat enough men bad enough for disrespecting you and they'll get the message on a global level FAST! lol | |
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| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 4/25/2008 4:14:52 PM | No one has to talk about anything they dont feel comfortable about, and if men are guilty of trying to shift the conversation to what they find most important, then I guess its fair to say women do the same..
One thing that always bugs me is the amount of effort some women seem to make trying to find out what a bloke does for a living..
Seems obvious to me that they are trying to suss out a mans earnings, because, at the end of the day, why does it matter what a man does for a job as they are not likely to be involved in that anyway! Just about everything else is more important than that "unshared" time ..
Whether its trying to suss out what your job is, your kids, or whatever else, I find women very persistant and there refusal to take the hint that its not something you want to talk about, is probably as much a turn off to me as sex talk seems to be to women..
I guess women only get horny for rich men who can afford the child support they are hoping to get!!  | |
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| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 4/25/2008 4:20:23 PM | I guess if you're meeting FOR SEX then that makes sense. But, come on, the first meeting should be like any other first date - a get to know you in person session. If it's just an avenue to getting laid the first time out the, yeah, it would seem that the person is more interested in having sex with you than with who you are.
I think sex discussions have a place (and are necessary) but I think that place is the point where you have established that you are into EACH OTHER and want to take it to the next level.
Not at initial contact or on the first date. | |
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| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 4/25/2008 4:32:57 PM |
One thing that always bugs me is the amount of effort some women seem to make trying to find out what a bloke does for a living..
Seems obvious to me that they are trying to suss out a mans earnings, because, at the end of the day, why does it matter what a man does for a job as they are not likely to be involved in that anyway! Just about everything else is more important than that "unshared" time ..
Not always. Sometimes I want to know what a man does because that can tell me something about his personality or our potential compatibility.
There are some professions that attract certain personality types (or appear to). And some jobs require a HUGE time investment so I may want to know if I'm going to have to compete with a man's job for his time.
So it's not always about money. | |
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| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 4/25/2008 4:48:49 PM | | No you are not a prude....they lack class imo. I believe any profile that indicates what they like sexually is a bad way to intro themselves. After all would they do that in a bar...."Hi my name is so and so and I have a high sexual energy," as so candidly written in some of these profiles. Now if they try to discuss this on dates I would politely tell them it is presumptuous and inappropriate to talk about such things, and if they get defensive about it I would shorten the date and block their profile/s. I mean c'mon what happened to being gentlemen? | |
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| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 4/25/2008 6:34:04 PM | Rude, crude and socially unaceptable people will want to have conversations that belong in a porn magazine fantasy section.
Real men won't.
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Those who can... Do.
Those who can't... talk about it.
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| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 4/25/2008 6:59:20 PM | read most
best written...canoist
simple moral fabric really
we're not delivering pizzas here, we're trying to find something very real, and it sure as hell isn't going to be found out through messaging and all the other bs
and if you're not looking for something real, you've given up, and in the end, that is sad indeed...intimate encounters only for you
not sure if i'm a hopeless romantic, or just a guy wanting the most life has to offer | |
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| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 4/25/2008 6:59:51 PM | | Hey ReggyBOY....Ever hear that saying..If you don't have something nice to say, then don't say nothing at all....Or gee he seemed nice until he opend his mouth...Most of the ladies on this site are looking for love. Not just sex. Hell we can get that anytime, and we don't need a man...Hey ladies, do you think Reggy needs to apologize to the lady...Don't put someone down for how they feel Reg...Not cool man..... | |
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| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 4/25/2008 7:06:44 PM | Oh man! Could I tell you a earfull!  There is a REASON why I don't bother looking anymore! I got really tired of hearing from guys about what they like! Boooorrrring! | |
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| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 4/25/2008 7:14:53 PM | | Totally creeps me out,plus its usually ALL talk no action for those so eager to tell you their sex capades after the word HELLO! in time when your at least comfortable with one another... | |
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| Talking about sex before even meeting
Posted: 4/25/2008 7:31:09 PM | Everyone ahs differnt opinions on sex and the act of sex. Some people may have fetishes or amy be a little on the kinky side. Some people don;t like sex or hav e anegative opinion about it or think that people jsut want to use them for sex. Others wantt o wait for marriage. And talking about sex is good so that people kjow what they like and know what to expect. And to know where each party stands. Iw ould never get inviolved with someone waiting for marriage. As I eniyo sex. i also might be hesitant to be witha girl who thinks sex is morally wrong. some people are jsut into things that are too kinky. its all about comfort levels.
So you have to ask yourself are you comfortable with yourself sexually and out tlaking about sex and about having sex? Are you ok with being in a relationship that involves sex? Are you comfortable being with someone period? Are you comfortable being kissed by someone next to you who may not be wewaring any pants? There are people out there who will use you for sex as there are people who just want you to enioy being with them. its always ok to talk about a subject but you should tlet the person know whether or not you feel comfortable tlaking about the subbject whether is sex, abortion, or politics. | |
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