| The upside of being single!
Posted: 4/16/2008 4:45:45 AM | Ooooh! Sandy Freckle,
you may be onto something there! Adore Audrey. Think "Our Cate" is wonderful & amazing though!!!
She's so brilliant ,talented & amazing............ she makes me proud to be Australian!!! | |
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| The upside of being single!
Posted: 4/16/2008 4:50:20 AM | Thank you all!
There are definitely good points for being single and good points for being attached!
Personally I'd rather be attached. Only to someone I like/admire/respect/ though!
No morons! | |
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| The upside of being single!
Posted: 4/16/2008 5:53:39 PM | MissMilly, if you wouldnt have started this thread , i would have - so thanx.
To those poor suckers who own a queen size bed and think its big:
i have a king size and sleep wherever there is spare room . . .
one morning i wake up at the crack of Dawn,
the next morning i wake up to a blowing Gail - thats when i get up and close the window. 
I do not need to pretend to enjoy "Breakfast at Tiffany's", or "Beaches" - i watch things i really like.
As i get older i find i need my own space and time more and more.
There is friends to go out with, dancing, dining, wining, drives, walks and 'do breakfast'.
Why would i need anything else?
On weekends i go down to the coffee shop with my notebook puter, have breakfast, browse the net, do some work on my projects, people that know me drop in for a coffee and a chat. I love my life.
The only way i would swap that (and i am not really looking) is if i would badly fall for some girl - and SOME girl she would have to be !
If you think that life owes you a perfect partner, you will most likely never be happy.
If you think that life owes you nothing, and your default state is to be single - then you will appreciate every person that acknowledges you or just touches you on the shoulder.
We are born alone and we will die alone - everything in-between is a gift. Kobalt | |
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| The upside of being single!
Posted: 4/16/2008 6:52:57 PM |
If you think that life owes you a perfect partner, you will most likely never be happy.
If you think that life owes you nothing, and your default state is to be single - then you will appreciate every person that acknowledges you or just touches you on the shoulder.
We are born alone and we will die alone - everything in-between is a gift.
Now that screams a happy soul and a peaceful heart..
I concur in all you said. Are you in my mind.. is there a vulcan mind meld going on..
...lol
xmmm
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Posted: 4/16/2008 8:37:28 PM | Yeah Barra, that was my thought too... at first.
Then I had to admit that during a previous relationship with an ex-military guy, I tended to 'adapt' things when he was around, just for peace I guess. He'd walk in and change Beyonce to Led Zeppelin and I'd just shrug, comment on things until I stopped doing them... that kind of thing. I guess I did the same to him. I'm not even sure if its conscious, is it?
I guess the ideal would be meeting someone we could just totally be ourselves with, but we are adaptive creatures, and I think regardless of how much respect I've had for guys in my past, there has still been some sense of relief when things have ended and I have realised I can just get back to 'being me and living our lives'. (The kids and I)
I have a female friend who is allergic to animals... whenever she planned on visiting the farm, I would give the house a total overhaul and remove pets (my dog and bird used to come inside there). I love her to bits, and she is a cherished friend who always told me not to do it, but we do these things when we consider someone special. When she recently visited me here where the animals are outside, I remember thinking "Oh thank the God of Vaccuum Cleaners I don't have to go through that today!"
So, it's not that the changes are always bad ones, they are usually just adaptations I guess... that we make happily, but also surrender just as happily when they no longer apply, maybe? | |
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Posted: 4/16/2008 11:36:05 PM | Hey MissMilly,
I have to say that most of what you said i agree with and it seems perfectly fine to me, I would think it fine to find you doing the following things...(i certainly wouldnt mind)
I can put on a CD & sing & dance at the top of my lungs without being "caught"
I can eat pasta with lots of Parmesan in bed with no complaints
Changing into my daggy tracky dacks after work doesn't make anyone think "I've let myself go!"
On a weekend, I don't have to get dressed & can spend the whole day reading a book
I can watch "Breakfast at Tiffany's" and cry at the end without being embarrassed
I can wear boots or pants so I don't have to worry if I've shaved my legs
My vibrator will never get me pregnant & I don't have to worry if it had a orgasm
I can yak to my Mum/friend on the phone for two hours and no one cares
I don't have to cook. Cheese, dip & crackers is a perfectly good meal! (as is beer!)
Tho i do cook, and enjoy it.
Play saxaphone (thankfully dont sing so dont ask),
like parmesan on pasta (and a little Bazil),
Like my comfy Trackie Dacks,
Will watch "Breakfast at Tiffany's" with you,
(skipped as not appropriate for this thread),
Will yak to my Mum on the other line :),
But do snore (doh). Did i mention that i clean up after myself ?
What do you say Milly? | |
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Posted: 4/17/2008 9:16:45 PM | positives
1. you dont have anyone to argue with!
2. you don`t have to have meals on the table at any set time.
3. You don`t have a mile high load of HIS shirts to iron (work ones and his home ones.) In fact I threw out the iron when he left. The only time I did the ironing was in front of cricket and I hate cricket.
4. You can change bedrooms any time ( I have 4, two for sleeping in, summer and winter.
5.You can shop whenever you want, not have set days to do it.
6.You can Play your music LOUDLY any time, and its YoUR music.
7. the TV remote is MINE, I can even take it with me shopping (done that a few times accidently)
8. I can invite whoever I like to stroll around my lounge room naked, anytime.
(oops wrong window)
9.I can go looking for the perfect man on any website site, and not have someone hanging over my shoulder, saying *surely you don`t like him*!
10. I can talk to myself without anyone hearing me asking *what did you say dear, I missed that?*
11 I can stop now!
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Posted: 4/18/2008 3:16:17 AM | Damsel, the very first thing this mama teaches her boys... is how to choose clothes that don't need ironing...
If it's not wash and wear, it's destined to live in the cupboard until they bump into an ex-military mate who knows how to iron and sew! | |
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Posted: 4/18/2008 3:34:24 AM | Hear you Kobalt1963! (Wish I had a Kingsize bed!)
I love my own company. I think that is a good reason to be in a relationship.
I think it's "cheesy" (for want of a better word). If you don't like your own company, who else will ?
A friend of mine (who's husband constantly cheats on her with hookers) has been married for 20yrs. She tells me I've left it "too long" and now I'm set in my ways! Who isn't?
I don't yearn to be single. If I did I wouldn't be here. I just figure, whilst I'm single I should embrace it & make the most of it! I think before you get to know someone else you should know yourself first!
Like everyone else here, I'd love to meet a great person!!! I'm not the sort of girl to just "be with someone" too not be on my own. I have a friend getting marrried so she doesn't have to be alone. That's not for me. I'd rather be on my own than not love & admire the person I'm with.
Relationships are difficult. I find no reason to be with someone because they're a warm body! | |
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Posted: 4/18/2008 3:53:47 AM | Kobalt,i did have a kingsize bed.It was a white four poster style,i didn't think it was what i wanted to sleep in when i became single??
I echo your sentiments about being single Miss Millly.I don't need someone in my life,i want someone.I don't want to be in a relationship just for the sake of not being single.When i find someone i want to be with,i hope to never to be single again,so untill then,i'll be happy and enjoy being single.No need to be sad about being single,embrace it,hopefully it wont last forever. | |
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Posted: 4/18/2008 6:17:06 AM | answer to message 36.
He hated ironing as much as I did......I showed him wash n wear about a year after HE had moved out! I , however, had been wearing those for about 2 years.... it was always his ironing not mine.. This was in the 1990s mind.
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Posted: 4/18/2008 6:27:30 AM | you can sleep around and around and around without anyone except your consence having a problem with it
life is simple you eat what you want you go where you want you wear what you want you listen to the music you like | |
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Posted: 5/4/2008 7:37:12 AM | i agree with everyone.... the positives to being single are neverending however dinner out isnt romantic when you are eating alone. having someone special to spend time with, money on and to tell them you love them and be told they love you, well i miss that heaps.... guess i will keep looking, somewhere out there is a lady looking for a gentleman. | |
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Posted: 5/4/2008 10:33:44 AM | Well not sure ... But yea had a mate have abit of a fight with his G/F... one nite..
she walked away... He said to me...
" see , (my name) its sometimes good to be single.. you dont have to put up with that shit.."
yea went, yea maybes... But yea. Id like to be taken at times... get too lonely at times. :( | |
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Posted: 5/4/2008 3:14:44 PM | It's great to be single when I see my ex bogged down with the woman he 'chose' to be with after I accidentally finished the relationship (long and very confusing story)....I'm having a ball and laughing with our friends...and he's stuck in a corner with her cos nobody likes her. And it sucks to know he's going home with her...and that she gets to wake up next to him.
I like being single simply because I don't have to consider anyone else in my decisions of what to do and when (cept my kids). But that is something I am happy to change. Compromise is an art!
All in all, I'd rather be in a relationship - but for the right reasons. Right now tho, this is where I am, and I'm gonna make the most of it.
I'm gonna go with Kobalt - anything in between is a bonus. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2008 4:11:50 AM | novelty of single life has definately worn off i'm afraid. I actually would like to be able to fight over the remote control again  | |
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Posted: 5/5/2008 4:31:27 AM | The upside of being single is being single 
Agree with most...except the pants and boots I wore them last weekend and at the Sydney airport got stopped for the explosive device check  and got into trouble all the way through
The best thing is I can decide what to do and when to do it ... and if I want something I'll go ahead and buy it without having to hide it in the garage first... oh I can even buy a new home if I want to  | |
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Posted: 5/5/2008 7:19:08 PM | i can talk on msn all night if i want - and to 7 different people at once
i am in charge of the remote - and i get to watch all the girly/lifetstyle/brainless programs i want
i only have to do a load of washing once a week
i can have an egg on toast for dinner
i can line up a different date for every night of the week if i want
i can let my phone ring and not answer it or explain why
i can prance around in my pjs on a cold sunday if i want
i dont have to cook if i dont feel like it
i can go to the footy with my mates
i can sleep in and not worry if i dont get out until 11.00am
yep it is all about me!
but...........i am getting sick of me. anyone volunteers to make an us or a we, or a you and me?!
whilst being single can be what you make it, it is not something i chose to be, but rather was forced to be. I have met some great people and had some wonderful times, and trips etc etc. but it would be nice to have a special someone to tame my selfish batchelorette ways.............
ah well - back to the remote it is!  | |
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Posted: 5/5/2008 10:12:00 PM | I cant say that i have had any complaints about my habbits ..thats if i have any and no one has said anything..But...i can get take away and not have to buy him any..because its for me..I can cook a nice nutritious meal without worrying how much it cost..its like men think money grows on trees...I can go go carting without him thinking how pathetic i am at it..i can have midnight snacks and not care if i wake him.. yes.. i also get my whole bed to myself and my dooner..i do have a spare..when i am almost left frozen... i can dance a little mumbo in my room without being laughed at..a latin lounge cd i have...i can pick up my keys and go shopping whenever i want..i dont have to worry about whon is paying for who..the list just goes on .............  | |
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Posted: 5/5/2008 10:57:43 PM | | Pretty simple. being single is not as good as a loving warm wonderful relationship, but it craps all over being stuck in a bad one. I want someone loves me for who I am rather than just the concept of being in a relationship. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2008 11:32:19 PM | OMG
come on guys...you look fine...whats wrong with you?
just your attitude!!
When you enjoy YOUR own comapny...others will start to also :>
carpe diem
Sieze the day...talk to everyone...be fun and wacky...this day will never cum again
bernie | |
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