| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/15/2008 11:03:26 PM |
I'm pretty sure a 46 year old doctor wouldn't have a cheap ass prison tattoo. He certainly wouldn't flaunt it.
Why not? Doctors are some of the quirkiest people I have ever met... | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/16/2008 12:09:33 AM | lol
you should tell them asap... you will surely get the occassional lady that would like you to take her temperature...
some of us girls, like a chap with a bit of imagination tho.
if they don't go for the doctor line, try being a pilot, that one also works quite well. personally, horticulturist, vet or superman works for me. i don't like office bound guys, their hands are far too soft.... eeeeeewww! | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/16/2008 1:07:28 AM | Hey OP, you can't be too surprised by the skepticism. I have met a couple of guys who have lied about their occupation. It's not and incredibly uncommon thing. If men are going to lie about their profession the top three choices are doctor, lawyer and international finance. Some people think all women are searching for the big payday.
As for your question, I would not flaunt it but I also would not hide it. I often ask men what they do for a living; I'm not interested in someone who works at Taco Bell. If they are evasive it's a real turn off. Being a doctor is impressive, but as you said, you still have flaws and your job doesn't make you the biggest fish in the sea!
Good Luck! | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/16/2008 8:49:53 AM |
You have your age for dating set at 'over 18'...you'll probably find the youngins are interested in your wallet.
i'm young and definitely not interested in a wallet. :[
sigh. | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/16/2008 9:00:50 AM | Prefers not to say, doctor, looking for long term . . .
hmmm. . . .maybe you could tell them you are a doctor when you explain all about that "prefers not to say" marital status. The ladies here don't like married men - and "prefers not to say" screams married.
Good luck with that. . .
~tb~ | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/16/2008 9:07:41 AM | "When should you reveal what you do for a living?"
I would think about the same time you tell them why you have "prefer not to say" for marital status should do the trick, although opinions may differ.
Or you could always start an attention seeking self serving won't you look at me thread on the forums to announce
to EVERYONE that you are a doctor even though you claim that you don't want anyone to know I suppose.
Oh wait!! You did just do that didn't you...my bad!
Sorry I couldn't be of much help but I'm "just" the clerk who has spent the last 18 years of her life working
on a Gyne/Onc ward with "some" people who think just like you.
So it's probably best for everyone that I keep the rest of my opinions to myself and besides, I don't have that problem
since I'm "just" the clerk ya know? 
JMO | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/16/2008 9:36:14 AM | | Be honest. If they turn out to be after your money, then dump them. I know a lot of doctors (worked as an aid and secretary for four years in the hospital) and I wouldn't date one. That being said, that's because the small-town docs I worked with were all chasing tail even though they were married. Plus, well, I don't have much in common with doctors, usually. They're pretty logical and I'm pretty, well, not. | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/16/2008 10:28:06 AM | Good attitude OP. I don't know if your lying or not, but your still human and don't need to be accused of crap that can only be speculated on. You have your reasons for adding whatever you want on your profile, and people should not be so quick to judge.
To answer your question:
Tell them whenever you want. Its a good way to weed out the bad ones. | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/19/2008 1:15:53 PM | *surreptitiously notes that OP's profile is still "UP" and has NOT been deleted*
But, he is not married... He just prefers not to say.
We all know that means that.... that.... he... is.... mmmmm.... maried?
Good catch, serendipitious.
Ok... who wants to place a bet? How long before OP deletes his profile?
I give it an hour. $10.
Anyone?
Hey, Red... can I still get in on that bet? 
Seriously, OP -- whether you are a doctor or not, recently divorced or not, welcome to POF, and consider this your baptism by fire. People (o.k, women) don't like "prefer not to say" as an answer to anything on a person's profile. That's understandable. Seems a really guarded place from which to try to be open to meet someone. Good luck with your kids, and I hope you have some luck here... By the way, after you post 5 times to the forums, your posts will show on your profile. So, be forewarned. Oh, and tell a girl/woman what you do for a living when she asks. Just be direct. You'll be able to tell what kind of person she is by getting to know her over time . If she's freaked out that you're an OB/GYN, she's obviously not for you, and wouldn't you want to know this sooner rather than later?
Personally, I liked the Pig Semen-Collector's answer!
Locario | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/19/2008 1:28:20 PM | Tell them you work in the medical field.
When you feel ready and really like the person and vice versa, then be more specific.
On your profile, it screams "beg me to tell you", so just put medical or technical from the drop down.
I went to school with pre-med and I can tell you "most" of them have no personality.
So it would actually have an opposite effect on me if I didn't know you first if I knew you were a doctor.
I would be leery also of the "god-complex" some of them have that I work with. | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/19/2008 1:32:30 PM |
*surreptitiously notes that OP's profile is still "UP" and has NOT been deleted*
Hey, Red... can I still get in on that bet?
Meh.... such a disappointment... I was really hoping to make some monies here.
*scratches her head*
I HATE losing bets.
OP... you can always ease people into what you do... say that you are in the medical profession, and then inform them about details on a need to know basis.
That's what I do.
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/19/2008 1:45:07 PM | | Well, whenever you want. Just like your marital status and filling the blanks in on your profile. If someone is interested in you, they'll be good with that and if not? too bad! | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/19/2008 2:05:06 PM | When I look at the profession of a man here, I am less concerned with what he makes, than it is to get an idea of his level of education. I am very likely to have more in common with someone who is well educated, than with someone who is not.
Just because you are a doctor, does not mean you are wealthy. Those student loans take a long time to pay off once you actually get into practice.
I don't know what it would be like to date a man that knows more about my genitalia than I do. However, it is an intriguing notion. | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/19/2008 2:07:58 PM |
I don't know what it would be like to date a man that knows more about my genitalia than I do.
Well there's knowledge and then there's experience!! I'll take the experience any day....ehh...well most of the time. | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/19/2008 2:19:37 PM | Well, you have to admit that finding a man that actually knows what the clitoris is and what it is for, would be a welcome relief.
I'll take the experience any day....ehh...well most of the time. One word here... condom.
I imagine looking at vulva day in and day out, would get a bit dull, like any other job. I wonder if an OB/GYN would have a foot fetish or something like that. I am studying to be a midwife. I will probably see a lot of vulva eventually when I am finished.
A lot of women would like that as a job for a man. That whole doctor patient/medical fantasy is strictly popular. | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/19/2008 2:23:04 PM | | When should you reveal your profession? Now that you’ve posted this, most are gonna know what’s up, Doc. Still, if you encounter a first date that’s unaware of what you do for a living, asking her to “slide down” when you offer her a chair will make a great segue to revealing your livelihood. | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/19/2008 2:47:02 PM | I come from a family of doctors, and I can see the dilemma.
Perhaps on your listing you can put "Medicine," or something along those lines, for your profession.
I have left mine intentionally vague because I am not going make it easy for some stalker to come looking for me. I generally don't give up my name for a bit, either for the same reason. It is prudent to proceed a little slower when you can't really see all of the little things that are telling about a person that you might recognize quickly IRL.
Hopefully you will have had a chance to correspond a bit before you talk, then meet.
Telling someone, "Let's just say I am in the medical field, for now. I'll tell you more when we know each other a little better," is a perfectly honest response to further inquiry.
A little extra time in a careful screening process, before you ever meet face-to-face, has worked well for me.
I have always found it fairly easy to read people when I meet them, so deceptive people can't fool me too easily for very long.
Do you have your perceptive radar on when you meet these women for the first time?
If you are looking to hook up with these women right away, you may find yourself more vulnerable to the clouding of your gold-digger sensors.
Sex does that to people, M & F.
Perhaps you only have enough time to "hit-it and quit-it" with everything that is going on in your life (<---not a judgment, btw...).
...But, you're a doctor, so they only have 18 seconds or less to state their case, right?
Good Luck!
JM
P.S. Like people are saying: watch it with the "prefers not to say" on that side of the profile page. It makes you look dishonest. JM | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/19/2008 2:53:31 PM |
My job is to collect semen samples from pigs at a research facility.............so I just tell women I'm unemployed
Well, you could always tell them you deal with pork futures..... | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/19/2008 4:42:12 PM | Seriously ladies, what is your take on this?
But, he is not married... He just prefers not to say.laugh: We all know that means that.... that.... he... is.... mmmmm....:maried?
Naaa, he just prefers not to say...what a prick...
Ok... who wants to place a bet? How long before OP deletes his profile.
I give it an hour. $10.
Anyone??
Seriously, where the heck was I when this thread started; me thinks too busy with the tunes...
I would have seen your bet, and raised you $2,000,000.00...that, or the MoronBat, your choice...
I'm pretty sure a 46 year old doctor wouldn't have a cheap ass prison tattoo. He certainly wouldn't flaunt it.
Here I thought I was the only one that noticed the tat...
since I'm "just" the clerk ya know?
Which, IMHO, makes you everything, Oldsoul...
Meh.... such a disappointment... I was really hoping to make some monies here.
*scratches her head*
I HATE losing bets.
I'm thinking dungeon...that always makes you feel better..can't lose any bets down there...
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