| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/19/2008 5:01:01 PM | first of all, you're getting grief cuz of the "prefer not to say" on the status, if you're really here checking this site, be as truthful as you can be, with you saying "prefer not to say" it speaks you have a hidden agenda.
as for your career, put it down, and then you can weed out those who wrote to you, on the first few dates keep the dates low key, don't impress, just be yourself. I also wouldn't get gifts either. Get to know the person, if she opens up that's great. If's patient with you being a busy doctor and single parent, then that's great. Bells will ring if she suggest going on high/pricey restaurants or whatnot. See how she handles it if you give her a low key restaurant. | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/19/2008 5:10:46 PM |
I'm pretty sure a 46 year old doctor wouldn't have a cheap ass prison tattoo. He certainly wouldn't flaunt it.
Ha ha.............I thought the same thing when I saw the pic. He is full of it. | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/19/2008 5:39:47 PM | I always thought doctors can make their profiles more well-written due to an extensive education. I indeed think that when they look for LTR they can present something further than that arm with that tatoo.
From A daughter of neurosurgen(DOC) and university provost (DOC) who is a professor (DOC) by now. | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/19/2008 5:45:04 PM | Darlin .....
I dated a doctor ..... surprise .. surprize he was also a obgyn....... umm but Catholic and would not prescribe birth control ...... now that pissed me off .... hahaha.... we had many conversations about this! Bottom line .. congratulations on your degree however the most important thing is the connection with someone ... of course u are going to have to weed thru alot of garbage but so do women. I happen to make a pretty tidy income but a person soon discovers what the interest is all about.
Good luck darlin............ | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/19/2008 6:31:27 PM | | uh oh you've gone and done it now! you revealed your profession online ~ now the stampede to gold-dig you will begin immediately!!!! run!!!!! LOL c'mon are you kidding me? I've dated doctors, lawyers, mechanics, teachers, hockey players you name it, who cares? | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/19/2008 7:14:37 PM | Honestly, I don't believe you are an obgyn. You smoke!! Your tattoo isn't small and tasteful. I live very close to a major medical center / school and lots of my neighbors and even some of my friends are doctors. You don't strike me as a doctor. I don't think a doctor would announce on a dating site that he is an obgyn, since doctors are professional and typically more discrete than that. Sorry. But I call it as I see it.
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/20/2008 7:42:31 AM | I got hit on by a so-called OBGYN on another dating site. When we spoke on the phone, I only knew he was a doctor. I asked his specialty and he said OBGYN. I then threw a medical term out at him and he wasn't quite sure what I referred to ... leading me to believe he plays doctor only.
One of my doctors had a big tattoo on her ankle. It didn't make me think she was any less of a doctor.
I think I'd pick on you more for living in Jersey than being a doctor.
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/20/2008 8:26:30 AM | I don't think you'll have to worry about telling women that you're a doctor with PNTS as a marital status. You're probably not going to get any mail.
Further, most doctors don't make the kind of money they used to, so a golddigger would be more likely to go after a successful business owner, stockbroker, etc. There are some exceptions, of course, mostly in the surgical specialties.
If you really want to meet a woman, and you really are divorced, put divorced in the marital status column, and put medical or physician in the profession column.
BTW to everyone: Being in the industry, I can tell you that there are all kinds of different people who are doctors. Some have tattoos, some drive motorcycles on the weekends, some have long scraggly beards (not the women -- at least usually :wink).
Doctors, like everyone else, come in all shapes, sizes and personalities. | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/20/2008 9:51:18 AM |
Should we tell the OP he needs to post at least five times? (forum posters will understand this one)
You make one, I'll second it....do we have dibs for spots number 3, 4, and 5????
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/20/2008 10:18:31 AM | Just be yourself. To let them know or not and how soon it's all your right. But not all women looking for money.
you don't have to worry about it this thread is showing on your profile anyway  | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/20/2008 10:33:03 AM | You know, I have to say I think the OP (weggggie) IS a doctor.... why? you ask.... It strikes me that his profile is a lot like a form you'd find at a doctor's office. Here, fill in the blanks before I'll take a look at you! 
Hey, we only have to bait the OP into 2 more posts, then his fame will go "international." Just to be clear, weggggie, you can solve your problem of when to disclose your profession to potential partners by post two more times. After that, if you are getting a lot of gold-diggers who want to help you pay back your student loans, I'd advise posting at least 30 times over the course of a weekend or so. That will put these posts sooooooo far down in your history that no one will really take the time to go find them. Problem solved. Once again you will be an anonymous tattooed guy from -- NJ, was it?
Thanks, no charge. After all, I really didn't do anything, did I? Oh, hey, wait... I'll still need to charge you for the office visit. | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/21/2008 5:49:23 AM | | Well, there has been alot of food for thought, as I read all posts. How about we give him the benefit of the doubt. What can that hurt??? Its no skin off our noses if he is slammed with a plethora of money hungry 18 year olds.... With all that information about who he says he is, and what he likes to do....how could a woman resist?? I like the part where he cracks his self up the most!! | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/21/2008 6:42:28 AM | I posted a response and then I went and looked at the profile and now I change my post.
Yeah, and what's up with the smoking and the "prefer not to say"? lmao
Besides, you just advertised what you claim to do for a living, so why are you not putting it on your profile? | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/21/2008 12:06:08 PM | Well, original poster, if you're wondering why your particular profession is an issue to any woman, you're terribly mistaken. What average Western Hesmisphere-based woman doesn't want a nicotine-coated, married guy with bad tattoos?
Eh, I'm far too picky.
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/21/2008 12:17:17 PM | I didn't read every one of the responses but I do have a couple of things to add:
Not dating a guy who works for taco bell? I used to tease a highschool buddy of mine that worked at McDonalds at lunch hour, then after school, then after graduation. Used to make fun of his dopey uniform.....well, the laughs on us, he owns one now and is a multi-millionaire.....
Man, you women are HARSH on this site. So the guy says prefer not to say about his marital status. Maybe he's a little ashamed of a failed marriage? Would you say the same thing about a woman who doesn't want to disclose her body type?
As for dating an OBGYN: you'd think women would love it, least he'd be able to find your G spot!!!! Hell, that's like not marrying a mechanic because he can fix your car for free....
Smoking: Jesus people, are you all that naive or dumb to remember that doctors once prescribed smoking to patients? That they endorsed it? As for the health hazards, do you know you get far more toxins in your body walking downtown at rush hour? And don't even get me started on jogging in this city......
I say: give the guy a break and the next time you feel the need to jump on someone just remember: you can only give someone sh*t when you can come on here and say yours doesn't stink!!! | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/21/2008 12:23:44 PM | Wow - an Ob/Gyn, eh?
You tell them when the occasion calls for sharing it. Obviously if they ask you you don't want to lie. You are just going to have to play it by ear.
Best,
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/21/2008 12:33:47 PM | | I'm guessing maybe a 3rd date might be the best time to tell them. I think if you had a great speech prepared that addresses the different concerns that you've come across ultimately expressing that your job won't affect any personal relationship you have, you should be in good shape. Have you got your list of objections together or have you never made them explain themselves? | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/23/2008 9:48:47 AM | BTW....
I know a buddy of my brother's who has a Batman tattoo on his forearm and he's a surgeon.
I am not sure of the stats, but the last I checked, the group of doctors who smoked the most was the respiratory therapists.
Smoking = not logical | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/23/2008 11:47:53 AM | | I'd let her ask you. Usually after a brief conversation on the superficial topics if I have no clue what a guys does for a living i'll say hey I fix phone lines for a living what do you do? Or put your occupation on your profile and weed out the gold diggers (anyone that says so how much does an OBGYN make being a dead give away). | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/23/2008 3:06:06 PM | Professions come out on the first date. It is part of who you are. I personally would never date a doctor and I know many of my friends feel the same. First of all, there are professions that make a hell of a lot more money and second of all, being an OB/GYN you would be on call often.
So, the answer is, a date has a right to know what you do with the majority of your time so she can determine if it is something she wants to deal with or not. | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/23/2008 3:27:21 PM | | Personally it wouldn't be a problem with me. In fact, if I were to date a doctor I would prefer him to be something like a obgyn than someone who has to work odd hours in the ER. I guess you should just look for different "types" of women. Good luck! | |
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