| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/24/2008 1:42:07 PM |
...But, you're a doctor, so they only have 18 seconds or less to state their case, right?
hopefully this doesn't hold true in other areas.
Knowing WHERE everything is does not equal SKILL in all areas! | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/24/2008 1:49:17 PM | Seriously Doc, what's up with the 'look at my tattoo' pic?
I don't know when you graduated from medical school, but most med students whose parents did not pay their way are up to their eyeballs in seriously heavy debt that takes years to pay off. Far beyond what an engineering grad would be looking at and some of them look at more than 50 Grand in debt by graduation.
As for why women are freaked out, I'd say you'd find a great deal of women would put an ob/gyn doc at the bottom of their list of 'Most desirable dr's to date according to specialty'. For the same reasons a man might be turned off by the idea of dating a female urologist  | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/24/2008 2:36:12 PM | Well ....look at it at this way ...be as honest as possible about who you are and what you do.
You'll weed out the people who aren't a good match for you fairly easily you just have to listen to your gut instinct a bit more.
You can tell if a woman is talking to you because you're a doctor ..or because you're a great human being. If a women is freaked because you're a obgyn ....well I doubt that will change so you might as well be up front about it and get rid of the ones who panic over it. | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 5/10/2008 11:22:52 PM | OMG - I simply can't believe that not only are you an Obs/Gyn Doctor, but you have also posted a photo of yourself on this site.
That is so unprofessional as I would have thought that the discretion, tact and professionalism you use (or I hope you use) in your working life should spill over into your private life and everything you do and say in your private life.
If any of your colleagues or patients see this thread, it will really discredit you.
I very much doubt whether you are in the field of medicine you say you are, or even if you are a doctor in the first place. To mention in particular that you are an obs/gyn doctor is, to my point of view, a way of starting conversations with women that will go straight to the point of being able to start talking about their body and gyn functions. Perhaps you think it will enable you to talk dirty to them quicker??? | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 5/10/2008 11:59:17 PM | When do I tell women that I am a Doctor?
At about 10: 12: 15PM on 4/15/2008 and anytime they look at your profile and see this forum post ;) No more problems letting them know now :D
I really hope in 4 pages this has already been pointed out, but I'm reading to find out...
Post #43
EDIT:
A REAL doctor would know that smoking is harmful to his health, and wouldn't do it.
I've seen a lot of doctors who smoke, rediculous but true.
you will surely get the occassional lady that would like you to take her temperature
bwah hahahaha was this a sexual inuendo? if so, orally or rectally??
By the way, after you post 5 times to the forums, your posts will show on your profile. So, be forewarned.
Reiterated in Post #60
dammit I never knew of this stipulation, and apparently he hasn't made a 5th post yet...so altho I could edit out my original post completely I chose not to, hahaha.
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 5/11/2008 1:12:33 AM |
I very much doubt whether you are in the field of medicine you say you are, or even if you are a doctor in the first place. To mention in particular that you are an obs/gyn doctor is, to my point of view, a way of starting conversations with women that will go straight to the point of being able to start talking about their body and gyn functions. Perhaps you think it will enable you to talk dirty to them quicker???
This is a forum, and he was asking for advice regarding dating. Considering that he hasn't even posted 5 times yet, it is quite possible that he doesn't realize how connected our profiles and forum accounts are.
Normally I wouldn't be responding to a thread like this, but I'm kind of disappointed in the responses he has received. It wasn't a particularly hard question to answer, yet most people decided it would be more fun to pick apart his profile in order to resort to personal attacks. Sometimes I wonder why anyone bothers to post anything when most threads receive similar responses (to a lesser extent.) POF has to be one of the worst forums I've ever participated in when it comes to flaming.
Anyway, have fun with that. Chill out, people.  | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 5/11/2008 8:19:58 AM | Has anybody heard from Dr Weqqqqie? You know the doctor who prefers not to say that he's married? He was here a few weeks ago, but now he's gone.
Anyway IF there is a doctor in the house then I need his help.....I have a corn under my big toe and I was wondering.....
Actually Dr Weqqqqie can get away with this cause I once put "Brain surgeon" on my profile AND it was taken to heart! | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 5/11/2008 8:44:25 AM | This is how you tell a woman what you do for a living.
Some women can get intimidated if what you do is so far removed from what they are doing in their lives.
The way you get them comfortable is tell them the a story how you were a normal guy before and had to work your way to were you are today like "when i was a student I used have to volunteer for human lab experiments /nude modeling just to make ends meet" . What this does is humanize you and makes you seem accessible. Plus its fun and makes for a good conversational piece. | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 5/11/2008 12:46:43 PM | | I really don't want to go through another "too good for me" date. Yes, I was very flattered that a doctor would want to go out with me. Until I had to listen to hours of what a great catch he is and how I didn't have enough to offer him (ouch). Nobody was good enough for him and everybody wants him, according to him. It was painful and humiliating without laying a finger on me. He was an embarrassment to be seen in public with and a disgrace of a man. He seemed to enjoy calling me occassionally to feel superior at my expense until I changed my number. I did trust him more because he is a doctor which I wouldn't do so quickly again. That would be the only part that bothers me. | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 5/12/2008 1:00:37 AM | | I work around Doctors all day (in London, UK) and a lot of them (but not all) are the most boorish, snobby people I have ever come across. More so if they work privately rather than simply for the UK state health service. Having money is no excuse for bad manners. You say "good morning" to them and are lucky if you get a grunt back. I know they are focussed on their job and they are under immense pressure to 'produce results and hit targets' but that is no excuse for rudeness and stand-offishness. | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 5/12/2008 5:35:46 PM | Wow, you guys are really harsh. I'm a med student and I'm actually considering OBS/GYN simply because it's a surgical specialty without the hours of a general surgeon. The way you think about these subject matters is very different when you're in clinic, but I guess the average person wouldn't understand that. You don't chose a specialty because you're fascinated with the main organs that you're going to treat (think of a GI specialist... yeah), it's the physiology and the lifestyle that attracts.
As for tattoos, I know a lot of people in the profession with tattoos. What's the big deal? The only guideline is that it's not visible when in clinic (so it has to be hidden by your clothes/scrubs). I also know of some people who smoke, although they are very few. And what's so unprofessional about stating your specialty on a dating site? This confused the hell out of me... The OP wasn't be derogatory in any way, he wasn't misrepresenting the profession or the specialty, he was simply stating his profession. Interesting...
I never thought that specializing in OBS/GYN would turn women off but hey... there's another factor to consider when choosing specialties. | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 5/14/2008 10:40:21 AM | | ^^^^Perhaps some women wouldn't know how to seem somehow "different" from all the "other" ladies when it is time for their "inspection" from their Ob/GYN doctor husbands! Now, that's intimidating! | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 5/16/2008 10:36:22 AM | Msg 87. I hope when you are a 46 year old doctor, hopefully by that age high up on your professional scale,
you would have the tact and discretion to, (if you have to display everything about you on a free dating site), have the experience to know what is right and wrong in everything you do.
At the best the original poster would be teased by his colleagues and patients, and at the worst he would probably have to be asked to have a 'chat' with the medical director of his hospital.
That is why I disbelieve him. | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 5/16/2008 11:49:29 AM | If you're divorced, then come out and say it in your profile. Most women go on to the next profile when they read "prefer not to say."
When I don't want to tell someone my profession, I tell them I'm a retired roller derby queen. That shuts them up for awhile. When I get to know them better, I 'fess up. My profession shouldn't matter and is not a vital piece of information when I first meet someone. If they can't wait to find out, they aren't my kind of guy.
Tell them you're a dog catcher. Leave it til you know them better. If they have a problem, they aren't for you. I think there are more important problems, like a bit too much ego and a lack of straightforwardness. | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 5/21/2008 6:23:55 AM | man you guys are a rough crowd
rough?? I'd say harsh is more like it.
If nothing else this string should help you filter out the egotistical, feminists with the superiority complexes.
Best advice I can give you is that the folks using dating web sites all seem to be looking for the honest truth, so you might try updating you profile to include that. I read through your profile, and it came across as cryptic at best and (to be honest) a baited hook at worst. If you are a divorced single father trying to raise your children on your own, then say so -- that will have a lot more impact on your relationship with a woman than your profession will, and most women will be impressed by it. If you've had a problem with the consequences of telling women what you do for a living in the past, then say so. It's okay to wait until you're asked what you do for a living -- what seems more important here are the things like when you go on a date, who pays; do you expect to pay your own bills; do you expect your partner to work, or would you prefer a stay at home mom? Try answering these questions about yourself.
I can't really blame those "ladies" for seeing your profile as a baited hook. Their willingness, however, to post such harsh responses tells me alot more about them than you, though -- I now know that those women value their own assumptions more than they value truth, and I like to avoid those kind of women. Thank you "ladies" for being so honest about yourselves.
Give my profile a readthrough -- tell me what you think. To be honest, I had some trepidation about being so brutally honest. I really thought I was going to scare everyone away. To my surprise, the opposite actually happened. I've had ladies email me to tell me they were rewriting their own profiles after reading mine because they were impressed with how straight forward my profile is.
Good luck, and Godspeed.
And, now that I've read the rest of the posts in this string, I'd like to add that you should mention on your profile that you work 60+ hours each week, and that between work and your children you have no time or energy for traditional dating. Also, you might try telling folks why you're giving internet dating a try as well as why you're giving POF a try. (Not only do doctors frequently find themselves burdened with unusually high debt, divorced doctors often find themselves further burdened with unusually high alimony or lawyers fees as well.)
As for posting to free dating sites goes, quite frankly, I've given a couple of pay sites a try and despite the fact that I'm paying for them, I've been happier with the results I'm getting from POF. For some reason, people seem to put on a front moreso when they're paying for a dating web site than they do when it's free. Here, everybody seems to let their hair down -- thanks again "ladies" for being so honest with your replies to this thread: it really told me a lot about each and every one of you. | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 5/21/2008 7:30:20 AM |
Best advice I can give you is that the folks using dating web sites all seem to be looking for the honest truth,
As opposed to that other kind of Truth we hear so much about ? The dishonest kind of truth ?
I can't really blame those "ladies" for seeing your profile as a baited hook. Their willingness, however, to post such harsh responses tells me alot more about them than you, though -- I now know that those women value their own assumptions more than they value truth, and I like to avoid those kind of women. Thank you "ladies" for being so honest about yourselves.
Yes indeedy ! One should NEVER make assumptions based on Forum posts or reading profiles !
People who do THAT might “Value their own assumptions more than they value truth” . I am so glad
to see that some here would never assume anything about “ladies” and make “harsh responses”
based on Forum Posts.
Innuendos are so much more fun ! “Gentlemen” prefer “honest truth” .....and innuendos as well as
contradictory logic and blatant requests for attention ( Read MY profile! MINE MINE MINE!)
when dealing with a thread from a person who was just seeking attention.  | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 5/21/2008 7:35:38 AM | Yeah! Geez, leave the guy alone. I really appreciate him putting up this question because it was something I wrestled with when I was Vice Chancellor of Monash University.
Now that I'm a Pilot I mostly score with.... well, I'd prefer not to say.
But here's a tip for you Doc', if you can't find a date amongst the hundreds of nurses you probably come into contact with every month, try a new location.
Whenever I'm down at the Stock Exchange watching my International Financial Services company soar up the board I have soooooo many hot little cuties throwing themselves at me I have to get my personal assistant, my chauffeur, or my personal photographer, or sometimes even my security consultant to clear a path!
What a drag.
I'm sure it's not my sophisticated and charismatic appearance that attracts them, or my wittily seductive charm.... they really only like me because I've got a huge c0ck. | |
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| When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 5/21/2008 9:17:49 AM | Ok then. Sooo.. Successful doctors NEED to go on free dating websites to
find a date? Huh?
being here is beneath a doctor, but not the people who are not doctors?
could you more carefully elaborate on your not so eloquently written message. | |
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