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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 4/16/2008 8:55:03 AM | Geez, Tee. I can't imagine a justification to send something like that until at least the 3rd email. lol
It boggles my mind to think how many guys use that approach, but as they say the batter that swings for the fences sometimes hits a home run. The guy that never swings is the scorekeeper. | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 4/16/2008 8:56:42 AM | Validation, and false belief that you are in control.
This topics is almost good enough for it's own thread..
It's the same reason some women wear short skirts and low cut tops out to go grocery shopping. It's because she feels good dressing like that and it's also for attention and there is nothing wrong with that.
A lot of people here are socially retarded, a lot of men here are frustrated.
A lady post her Librarian photo and get's little attention = little validation from men, the emails she gets probably tend to be BORING
A lady post her Sexy beast photo and get's a lot of attention = lots of validation from frustrated men, The E-mails Tend To Be Vulgar
For the men, First they try the witty 1 page e-mail = no response = no Validation
Then they try the witty 3 liner = No response = no Validation
Then they try Vulgar = negative response = but Validation
Any woman here that recieves more than 10 e- mails a week and is still single only has herself to blame.
Anybody who recieves ANY email and does not respond only has themselves to blame, and they are rude.
And all of you people who say I am single because I am picky, are not using the right word. The correct word is Selfish. i.e I only want to date women with a d cup bra or larger, The reason is not picky it is Selfish, the supposed benefit is only for me, and it is probably eliminating Millions of possible dates/mates
I am not picky I have high standards~ similar but completley different
Don Quixote
Jousting high standards
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 4/16/2008 9:09:10 AM | don't understand women, OBviously! Some will post pics in their negligees, bent over, either facing the camera or away from it, proudly displaying their provocative poses and suggestive attire, but then go to the extent of saying that they are NOT looking for sexual encounters, and may even get pissed if you allude to their attractiveness,
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Let me be the first Human to welcome you to Planet Earth. How was your trip? Surely you have had time to study our race, our customs, and know that America is the greatest country, that's why we put "ATV's" and muddin on our profiles, and not "green living". Ahh ha, that's an old interstellar joke.
So, if you want to learn about Earthling women, SEARCH THE POF FORUMS FIRST. Many Earth men are clueless, not just about women, but how to learn about women. I know you are smarter than that.
Love and sex and reproduction has evolved on Earth over our 1 billion year biologic history. You will find that almost all Earth animal females use "attraction" to umm, err , well how do I explain this to a a Galactic Warrior? Oh, yea, TO ATTRACT MEN!.
I will tell you an Earth secret (fyi, we like to play games with strangers so be prepared): Here it is...."WHY DO YOU THINK FLOWERS SMELL SO SWEET"?
Go now weird stranger, take that message back to the men of your planet, and come back when you are ready for some Earth Women, AND WE WILL PARTY!!! with the girls from Playboy. I'm sure you know a lot about them. | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 4/16/2008 9:32:47 AM | I see! Well, thank you, "Earthling" for your "enlightened" response. Very interesting that you should try to appear helpful, while actually exuding condescension and sarcasm; all the while attempting to appear as an "intelligent lifeform".
I appreciate you taking time out from your very busy day to inform me of your Earthly ways. Thank you for the inclusion of such vitriolic sarcasm! You really have a great command of the language and knowledge of the people. You have opened my eyes!
This being my first day in the Forums, I thought I'd found a place where dialog and discussion could be held without the customary smarmy shit so readily available everywhere else. Thanks for hitting me with reality, earthling. I wonder if the rest of the species is like you? | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 4/16/2008 9:40:34 AM | Is there an existing thread that I missed? I didn't have the time to peruse the 1000's of posts here to locate a similar one. - FMouie
This is exactly why they suggest that you do a thread search fist,FMouie. I've read dozens of these threads. My
take on the situation is this: while the majority of what others consider to be "risque" pics, are really quite tame to
me, I do agree with you that a woman looking for long term, should probably not be posing in her negligee. It may
be attractive, it may be sexy, but it is also bound to give men the wrong idea.
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It's pretty simple: because men are VISUAL creatures and this is a competitive market- like ordering off a menu, so the entrees feel the need to be attractive and show "assets".
It is indeed a good "filter test" as the man who can see beyond the boobs yet appreciate them is the one for me- I'm a multi-faceted gem and seek to be seen from all angles, not just one, so men who are blinded won't get me, just as those who don't appreciate the wrappings as well as the package. - jhawkgirl
Yes, exactly!!
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If it states they are not looking for sexual encouters on their profile then respect that. If they are half naked in their photo and say they are not interested in sexual encounters then respect that as well. It is their choice to dress as they choose.
It is your choice to put your libido away. - Mirage111
I definintely agree. One of the mottos I live by is the R's:
Respect for yourself,
Respect for other,
& Responsibiltiy for all your actions. | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 4/16/2008 9:50:36 AM | | In some ways, it does weed out the bad ones. See, I'm a freak by nature. If guys are looking for a "good girl", they are quickly going to be fed up with me. However, I also don't want the ones who just want to hit and run. I'm looking for something between that (when I am looking). It's a way to see if you are the type that can accept the various facets of my personality. | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 4/16/2008 10:11:56 AM | However, I also don't want the ones who just want to hit and run. I'm looking for something between that (when I am looking). It's a way to see if you are the type that can accept the various facets of my personality.
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If a guy wants great relationships with women, that's what he needs to understand. Of course, other female facets and features are more complex. But if a guy is "ignorant" about the basics of love and lust, AND HIS COMMUNICATION SKILLS, then hey may have a pattern of failed lifelong relationships. Maybe 1/2 the guys and girls figure this out when we are about 20-25-30 (please don't have kids when you are 18 or 20, there is plenty of time for everyone to grow up first). Me? I was 40. And yes I was/have BEEN GUILTY OF SAYING RUDE THINGS TO WOMEN WHO POSTED SEXY PICS, now I just ask them nicely if they have anymore......Go figure eh guys? | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 4/17/2008 5:12:18 AM |
displaying their provocative poses and suggestive attire, but then go to the extent of saying that they are NOT looking for sexual encounters
They're testing you. They want to see if you actually read their profile or if you are "*drool* Pretty picture. You! Me! Go out!". In a way, it's kind of clever. It helps them weed out the guys that are only after one thing, but it will also help them weed out the guys that can't handle the woman who is comfortable with their sexuality. | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 4/17/2008 6:16:16 AM | Provocative is good, I enjoy looking at the pics. They will attract men and if those men will read the text they will get the idea of what the woman is interested in. It's simple!!! You can go out to the mall and see women dressed in a manner meant to draw attention but that does not mean they want to screw you. Get it under control, we all know women are difficult to understand and always will be.
So, more provocative pictures please, thank you. | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 4/17/2008 6:43:43 AM | "Any woman here that recieves more than 10 e- mails a week and is still single only has herself to blame."- Don Coyote
HUH??? WOW... yeah, it's MY fault that I won't settle and commit to the mismatched, unemployed, 20 years younger or older, players or pen pal only seeking, living in another state or country, nothing in common men who mail me... Ummm, could it possibly be that it's TOUGH out there at my age to find a good match, despite being open and trying my best? The pickin's are slim. My standards are high. (No, not materialistic or physical... how about common interests, some depth, a heart of gold? Too much to ask for?) If so, then yes, I suppose it's MY fault, despite the mail volume, that I am still single... *sigh* Come on man! | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 4/17/2008 7:27:16 AM | They know it's an attention getter. More people will look at their profile or message them if they have a provocative picture up.
But the notion that they're offended by men being aroused by their sexuality on display is totally bogus. That's what they were going for or they wouldn't have done it. They want you to notice.
The twist here is that they want you message them and act like you didn't notice at all because then you will suddenly seem different and by default better than all the guys who message them blatantly commenting on it. They will want to know why their sexuality didn't grab your attention like it did everyone else.
Women are full of crap like this. It's nothing personal. They just put up tests to weed out all the losers. But they actually want you to pass these tests. They don't want you to be a loser.
The whole thing is a giant game. If you know how to read it and play along, it's really not that hard. And it's actually kind of fun.
The key is to acknowledge that it's attractive to yourself but not make a big deal about it to her. Don't be impressed by it. Rather than thinking, "Wow! She looks hot!" just think to yourself, "So what. Another skimpy dressed chick. How many of those have I seen today on here? What else does this girl have going for her?"
Bottom line; women are much more attracted to guys who have control over their sexual urges than those who just spew them everywhere. Pardon the pun. | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 4/17/2008 10:24:43 AM | the same reason why wearing provocative clothing isn't an invitation for rape- yes, as people we have instincts, but also a brain that says what is and what is not appropriate behavior.
i have pics like that. so what, i am a free being and a freak. i am actually a nudist - i only have clothes on when others r around... it means i might be a sex fiend, but it doesn't mean i want to have sex. maybe just that i am a bit kinky and love letting that show.
that's what men do not understand: we are not animals in heat blinded by hormones into taking any partner any time - women need a strong emotional and mental connection to enjoy sex. so solicitations of casual sex go against that, and when a man asks for that, he kills it.
there isn't a more effective turn off, i tell u, then having a guy u just met talk about sex all the time. if i look like i want it, i might, but not like that, and not w u right this second.
w me, it's simple:
1. i am a freak, i love nudity. it's who i am. doesn't mean i love sleeping around.
2. i make a living taking my clothes off, so i am used to it, it doesn't mean much of anything to me (which doesn't mean i'll get naked when someone asks me or that i want to, just i am def not a prude. i just had a convo yesterday w my new roommate, telling him how if i am walkign around w not much clothes on it is NOT an invitation for sex, just my lifestyle)
3. i say in my profile that i don't appreciate sexual come-ons and how am sick of them from work already. if they write me still, shows they didnt read, so usually i will chew their a.s.s. off on that one
for me, as a woman, a man i am impressed with is definitely one that has learnt to control his hormones. | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 4/17/2008 10:44:27 AM | Ok, my own point of view is this...do they have to dress provocatively to get noticed?
The answer is a simple NO,NO,NO!
There are other females who dress reasonably well and still get loads of attention, you don't have to be half naked to get noticed.
Any female that dresses in such a manner is asking for negative comments or remarks, not all men can control their sexual urge especially when they see such pictures.
Ladies, if you want to be viewed seriously, dress properly or deal with whatever messages you get...you asked for it.
I totally understand that females might be doing this for various reasons best known to them and them alone, but the truth of the matter is this...the way females reason can never be the same way males reason, take it or leave it, that's the gospel truth!!!
Being a woman is enough to get male attention, why go the extra mile???
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 4/17/2008 10:50:31 AM |
not all men can control their sexual urge
I call BS on this one. Yes, all men, unless they are mentally ill, can control their sexual urges. They may have a sense of entitlement that makes them not care to do so but that is something they are choosing to do. I think it's wrong to demean the male species by indicating they are slaves to their****. | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 4/17/2008 10:58:51 AM | Any female that dresses in such a manner is asking for negative comments or remarks, not all men can control their sexual urge especially when they see such pictures.
BullSh!t
Some men choose not to control them. Too many men try to pass of such behavior as "I couldn't control it". No, you made the conscious effort to make such comments, or take such actions. It's that kind of thinking that lets people get away with "She dresses like a $lut, she was asking for it"
Do not presume to speak for all men. | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 4/17/2008 11:05:05 AM | "I think it's wrong to demean the male species by indicating they are slaves to their****. "
Read carefully and properly before misquoting someone else's comments (which is usually the case in these forums)
I wrote "not all men can control their sexual urge" ...meaning some men cannot control their sexual urge.
You don't have to agree with my post or view, its just my own point of view like i said earlier on, thanks!!!
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 4/17/2008 11:08:07 AM | | I've also wondered this, but I still think it's just a ploy from those needing/craving attention from anyone who will give it to them. Pictures of their stomach, their rear end, their bust, or in provocative shots of licking inanimate objects....I think I am going to post pictures of my elbow, my knee, and the sexiest part of all...my nostril! | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 4/17/2008 1:02:07 PM | "There are a select group of men who make a choice not to excercise restraint and there are a select group, like you, who excuse their behaviour. Both kinds are pigs "
Hmm, someone sounds bitter and frustrated.
This is just an open forum where people speak their minds and also learn new things, like they say...'life is a learning process'
You do not have to call names or take anything posted here seriously, as it would only do you more harm than good.
Learn to be nice to strangers!
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