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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:47:48 PM | OK here is a answer for you to think about.
ALL people love sex. Women love sex and men love sex. The big misunderstanding is that a guy can bang every woman in his town and he is called a "stud". A female does the same thing and she gets labeled a slut....a ho...trailer trash...etc..etc.
So why do women show meat...to get attention and also competition against the other females. All women want to stand out in a males eyes. The one thing all males need to learn is a small word called "RESPECT". All women want to have sex but they also want the romance and intimacy part (that is how they are wired) but they also love to have some good wild sex on the beach, role play, sex in the staircase something DIFFERENT than just roses and candles all the time. This helps keep the sex INTERESTING and when sex gets boring they leave. But the next morning she wants to know you still RESPECT her for being the wild thing behind closed doors. Guys this is our problem that you must fix on your own.
Ladies the one problem you all do is you want sex and you come to bed in a granny suit? Hair is wet and no make-up and we are supposed to get all hot and bothered over THAT? Some of you will get married and gain 50 pounds and think that males are not visually excitable? All males want you to look good for us...in our eyes you can either be the goddess or the grandma...your choice. Guys it is also up to you to stay in shape and so you are not the best looking thing on the block all you have to do is work with what you have. Learn some fashion sense and dress for females to notice you. In other words throw the damn socks away when you wear sandals! | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 5/31/2008 9:17:20 PM | I think CrazeeJ is hawt. Er.. I mean, she's on the mark to a large degree.
For the most part, I think what's going on is a communication mismatch. What the woman is trying to convey is that she can be sexy, and will want sex... at some point. So, she puts a little something sexy in her profile to show that side of herself. The complaint isn't about a guy who can see the sexy side, but also see through the sexy and take in the whole package. The reality is, unless you're blind what you see is the first thing you're going to notice.
I also think that there is a certain amount of issues caused by the semi-anonymity of the internet going on on BOTH sides. It's totally true that there are a few guys who will wander up to a strange woman and make an extremely vulgar pass -up to and including showing her the angle of his dangle. But, in person these are very few and very far between... online it's much more common. The same thing applies to women... I have seen some extremely provocative (un)dress on profiles, that I would not expect to see out on the street. Sure, it's true that guys will do stuff online that they'd never dream of doing in person, but so will women.
So, some guys just can't be helped. I'm sure even women who don't even HAVE a profile pic get told they're "smokin' hawt sausage gobblers" or something like that from time to time... but I also think that some women are posting pics that go beyond showing their sexy side. | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 5/31/2008 11:42:05 PM | Everyone loves attention...
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Yes. Just like the woman you see in the grocery store provocatively dressed. She is showing off her sexuality but that doesn't mean she's going to go into the public restroom and screw the next guy that gives her "the look".
If someone dresses to seek attention, he/she should not be surprised nor put out when the plan succeeds. Maybe the woman in your hypothetical example isn't going to boink everyone who asks, but if dresses to encourage people to see her in that way, she shouldn't be offended by the offers. | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 6/3/2008 9:27:51 PM | Aw come on guys, you all know that we women can't make up our minds!!!!  Or perhaps it's if we want the attention of men these are the actions that attract. Or maybe women have a better understanding that while we shouldn't judge a book by its cover this is what first attracts us. OK, everyone return to your respective corners, no more interaction, in the game of semantics, sex and seduction, there's something for everyone.  | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 6/3/2008 9:49:32 PM | | We have a total need to control, while leaving suggestive material in the wake of our passing...sometimes there is a set up to make the natural instinct in a male get slapped down (more control here). Women want to be noticed while keeping in control of the situation. Be a gentleman first, develop a friendship, let chemistry happen and nature will take care of itself...if you keep being a gentleman first. All things good are worth waiting for. (We want love and not lust; true love takes time to develop.) | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 6/4/2008 4:53:17 AM | Why do women post provocative pics of themselves? Not unlike Playboy magazine, it's so 'us guys' will pause and read their articles.
It's perhaps their wishful thinking that most of us w/ an eye for beauty will ...or who at least can read, much less thoroughly, what they've written as their truth. That they're not afraid to show a little of this or some of that w/ in the parameters of 'visual decency' here on Pof might 'push these boundaries' a bit, but then she's likely looking to 'inspire a man to rise' to the occasion that she enjoys also ...once she knows "the right one" well enough, Ironically, most desirable prospects can't past the pics that the posters might've thought as 'playful', but come across as tease to rarely please ...and especially for the disclaimer. Time to rethink their advertising? | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 6/9/2008 11:25:48 PM | However; I see that one person has determined it to be redundant! Is there an existing thread that I missed? I didn't have the time to peruse the 1000's of posts here to locate a similar one. - FMouie
I am not surprised this thread was determined to be possibly redundant. That's why they suggest that you do a
thread search, before starting a new thread. I've seen this question asked many times.
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I have seen some extremely provocative (un)dress on profiles, that I would not expect to see out on the street. Sure, it's true that guys will do stuff online that they'd never dream of doing in person, but so will women. - garnet73
I always tend to dress somewhat provocatively, but I certainly wouldn't wear something in a picture on here, that
I wouldn't wear outside. That's just ridiculous & I understand why these mixed messages get men confused.
But I think the title of this thread is a little wrong, as well. Most healthy well-adjusted people like sex. But dressing
sexy, does not neccessarily mean that we want an intimtae encounter, especially if our profile clearly states otherwise. | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 6/10/2008 4:09:40 AM |
I'm sorry, but you're marketing is reaching a definite demographic, it's probably best not to complain when they come looking for the product.
I absolutely agree with ExplosiveSheep (bwahahahaa - love the nick! lol)
I'm pretty appalled at the older ladies' profiles where they're stretched out on beds in various stages of undress. I'm actually embarrassed for them. Portraying yourself that way is not going to get you a man of substance; it's going to attract a guy whose looking to get laid, pure and simple. | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 6/11/2008 2:53:21 AM | Thanks, it was the only thing I could think of at the time.
Oh and to the above poster, first impressions mean everything. Both men and women are going to notice a half naked provocative picture before they see that somewhere in the profile the person has a degree in quantam mechanics. When I see those kinds of pictures in profiles, the first thing I think of is "What are they trying to make up for with that picture?"
If you're lookin to get noticed for your mind, then maybe trying to attract with your body isn't such a smooth move because then it moves into the foreground and the mind is just a "bonus". | |
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Joined: 5/30/2008
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 6/11/2008 3:54:11 AM | I've also noticed some women on here saying "I don't want to be messaged for sex", but have a profile on another site wanting sex with one, two or three guys at a time and their girlfriends and various farm animals, ok I'm kidding about the girlfriends. LOL.
Some women, like some men are just liars. Others are just stupid and some are a tease.
If you don't want "sex" only fine, but if not post more conservative pictures. I get a laugh also from people who say "I'm fun loving" or "I love to laugh" but have the most serious look on their face. Makes no sense to me. So I guess they will keep getting those "do me tonight" type messages until they figure out that they are sending mixed signals. | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 6/11/2008 4:39:42 AM | Re the Opost
"Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?"
a) For the same reason that wet T-shirt contests exist
b) sometimes they mean that while they are interested in sex and "advertising their goodies" they are not open to sex with anybody and that makes sense. A person who flaunts her/his sexy bod does not mean that this bod is there for anyone! Probably the opposite!
c) Yet it is true that some people would rather talk about sex, rather than do the deed. Scare of STDs, baggage, many reasons! For form of a "BOB" IMO, actually! | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 6/11/2008 2:24:44 PM | I have socalled provocative pics on my profiles,because 1) those are the latest pics taken of me .2) I get tons of messages all making comments about my pics.
I'm 45 years old and have lived life! Any guy who says he's not interested in sexual pics ,their not even gay,gay guys just love me! I don't know what to say to the VERY FEW who asmyourself are offended. | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 6/11/2008 5:10:08 PM | If someone post provocative pictures, who cares. If you got it, flaunt it. But if you do post pics with your privates hanging out for all to see, and then say, "I want to be wanted for my mind" and get upset if people notice your body, that makes no sense to me.
It's like fishing, if your trying to find "Nemo", don't use shark bait! | |
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Joined: 12/8/2005
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 6/11/2008 5:39:08 PM | just because we are sensual and sexual creatures, it does NOT mean we are not also very selective.
the fact that we like to feel and dress provocative and sexuality is a big part of who we are, does NOT mean we want to share that with just anyone. the difference between homo sapiens and other animal species, IS the ability to REASON and add that to instinct, so one can think before acting out on an impulse.
i LOVE showing off, after all, that's why i started working as a dancer. it does not mean that what partner i choose and how does not make a difference. it makes ALL the difference.
when a guy strikes up a conversation, as women, we ALREADY know there is sexual chemistry. a guy need not make it crass, because being crude just shows one is oblivious to what the other person might want or need. a guy that emails crass sexual come-ons, is the type of guy that is oblivious when and if his woman has or had an orgasm, chances are. and it shows high levels of immaturity, maybe a low IQ also, paired w impatience. NONE of those r attractive. a man with no self control is NOT something a woman wants.
women want more of a connection, it's not just about having sex, WHO we have sex w is just as important - we wanna be into the guy. and him opening w 'i wanna f*u'. well, first, i already know, second, that kills it right there. it's like someone sticking their hands down your pants before kissing you. | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 6/11/2008 5:46:12 PM | when a guy strikes up a conversation, as women, we ALREADY know there is sexual chemistry. a guy need not make it crass, because being crude just shows one is oblivious to what the other person might want or need. a guy that emails crass sexual come-ons, is the type of guy that is oblivious when and if his woman has or had an orgasm, chances are. and it shows high levels of immaturity, maybe a low IQ also, paired w impatience. NONE of those r attractive. a man with no self control is NOT something a woman wants.
women want more of a connection, it's not just about having sex, WHO we have sex w is just as important - we wanna be into the guy. and him openieng w 'i wanna f*u'. well, first, i already know, second, that kills it right there
uh huh.......
I think it's not woth the trouble it attracts is he emailing you because you look good or is he emailing because he's saying to him self now there's a real smart lady I want to get to know. Dangeling a raw steak in front of a lion isn't wisest thing to do some times.
but any how back to enjoying some of the fake responses................LOL! | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 6/11/2008 7:56:16 PM |
I wonder if some women do that just to see if they are attractive; to sort of feed their ego; get responses from men, but have no real intention of letting them close to them.
I've debated this issue with myself... and since I could not come up with an easy answer I decided to do a test. For a month or so I posted only conservative pictures and got hardly any interest. My mailbox never had any mail...sooooo....I put up some sexy pictures and guess what? I became famous!!
Seriously though...I think a sexy picture will be more apt to get noticed and hopefully some of the men will not ONLY be after sex.
It's not that I don't want a sexual relationship ever - I just want to know that a man is going to treat me with respect and I am not going to be just a one night stand or booty call.
I think I've been dating long enough to be able to ask the right questions and be able to weed out the players.
I have no problem with men complimenting me but if that's the only thing that they can talk about then I assume it's the only thing they are after. | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 6/11/2008 8:30:02 PM |
Dangeling a raw steak in front of a lion isn't wisest thing to do some times.
but any how back to enjoying some of the fake responses................LOL!
Dangling a raw steak in front of a lion is a VERY wise thing to do, for those of us who are interested in, um, interacting with lions.
I concede that it's likely only poodle-fanciers who use inappropriate "bait," and ALSO state that "sex is not their desire." They're either complete goofs, or on some kind of ego journey, or actually enjoy being offended by the guys who take it the "wrong" way, according to whatever strange criteria they have in their minds.
Personally, I post semi-provocative photos, in hopes of finding and enjoying a lion or two before I croak, or my bait stops being tempting, whichever comes first. | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 6/11/2008 8:35:28 PM | re post 123
"Dangling a raw steak in front of a lion is a VERY wise thing to do, for those of us who are interested in, um, interacting with lions."
Wise, indeed! I agree.
"Personally, I post semi-provocative photos, in hopes of finding and enjoying a lion or two before I croak, or my bait stops being tempting, whichever comes first."
Sounds like a wise "carpe diem" policy. We only live once!
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 6/11/2008 10:18:26 PM | I'm not commenting one way or the other on their pictures, the thing I have to ask is why would you be so crass to introduce yourself with comments about how their pictures effect your libido in the first place? I have a hard time wrapping my mind around that one.
Wouldn't you think it's rude, crass, or non-gentleman like? Of course I was raised with a more old world ideal.
It is what it is I guess. | |
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