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Posted: 4/21/2008 10:00:50 AM | Some men and women are clearly single for a reason...he would be one of them.
I hope he paid the bill since he asked you out? I can see why you were insulted dumped by a dude you wouldn't have met a second time with anyway, but why not let him leave is all is paid for and enjoy the meal alone? Certainly after the trip outside it was more comfortable without him? | |
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Posted: 4/21/2008 10:20:36 AM | | I think he was very rude. I have been on many dates with guys I did'n't click with but have enough manners to finish the date. Gee what a rude jerk. Dinner doesn't take an eternity and how can he know he doesn't like you if he doesn't spend a little time getting to know you. | |
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Posted: 4/21/2008 10:29:44 AM | | I love seeing all these people post who have no idea what revelations there have been in this thread cuz they didn't even bother to skim it! Yea, peddling easy answers sure is easy. | |
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Posted: 4/21/2008 10:54:04 AM | yeah.......people people words words facts facts opinions opinions Blahhhhhhhhhhhh
Read the thread!
As far as I was concerned, it was sufficient reading her profile. It told me the truth in an instant. I wonder how gullible guys are....why would you even meet a woman like that? Why would you consider a profile that screams "read this"? Blah!
What a fun thread, by the way, no wonder the classy lady is hiding......"How dared the bold self employed dump me, the classy lady I am" This could keep me laugh for years.
I am being a brat. But she deserves the shame.
What goes around, comes around: karma in action.
Be careful next time.
And don't piss people off: they might defame you the day after.
Any time a woman or a man comes in here bitching about her/his date...you will know what that means.
Adults with the personal maturity of a 3 year old kid!
God save us.
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Posted: 4/21/2008 12:14:09 PM |
I love seeing all these people post who have no idea what revelations there have been in this thread cuz they didn't even bother to skim it!
So true, so true 
I think it nice to finally get to see "both" sides of the story.
Having read all of that,....I don't blame the guy one bit for not staying! | |
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Posted: 4/21/2008 1:40:23 PM | | Im thinking she has probably done this to many guys, herself, and is pouting after getting a taste of her own medicine | |
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Posted: 4/21/2008 1:56:41 PM | msg 76 pokerjimmy said:
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Some men and women are clearly single for a reason...he would be one of them.
I hope he paid the bill since he asked you out?
Obviously....you read the entire thread and saw that the OP's date came into the thread and told his side of the story....and she has disappeared.
Hmmmm....quick to judge aren't we
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Posted: 4/21/2008 2:06:56 PM | msg 77 ang65 wrote:
I think he was very rude. I have been on many dates with guys I did'n't click with but have enough manners to finish the date. Gee what a rude jerk. Dinner doesn't take an eternity and how can he know he doesn't like you if he doesn't spend a little time getting to know you
Don't tell me......you are one of those people who just read the opening post without reading the entire thread before passing judgement....right?
So? you would finish the date someone who obviously lied about their profile and kept harping on a subject that you found quite distasteful and made you feel uncomfortable...
Obviously, you didn't read the post about 17 messages back on msg 60......when the OP's date told his side...
Gee...it burns me up....when people don't read the entire thread | |
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Posted: 4/21/2008 4:27:53 PM | | Thats a bummer. No accounting for class sometimes | |
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Posted: 4/21/2008 4:46:17 PM | He was very rude. He asked you out, he is responsible to complete the date in as pleasant a manner as possible and to ensure you enjoy yourself.
Oh yeah, in your description your forgot LOOSER | |
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Posted: 4/21/2008 4:51:00 PM | | Ignore the above post . . . . . . . . I found the other side of the story. | |
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Posted: 4/21/2008 4:51:50 PM | | no I would not and he sounds like a total aZZ and no wonder he is single.. I've dated woman i've had no connection with .. but i could finish the dinner have some laughs and end it as friends unless she was a real B! count your self luck you seen his true colors before anything more happend.. | |
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Posted: 4/21/2008 5:04:53 PM | | God you most recent posters crack me up! Post 1 and post 60! Check em out and then reflect on why you reacted the way you did right off the bat! | |
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Posted: 4/21/2008 5:51:19 PM | Like all things with relationships there are always 2 sides.
In this case he was definately way to forward with his thoughts about things. And that can tell you some important things about maybe what you were looking for in meeting him and his intentions as well.
First of all if he was going to end the date that abruptly he most likely was looking for something easy to score with. Not your style and score one for you.
Second, considering the fact that he was not interested in allowing to finish the meal also denotes that he is unwilling to simply enjoy platonic company. Score another for you.
Third, and last, your response from his actions and need for clarification on his actions can lead one to the conclusion that you were looking for something completely different than him and did not make that clearly known before had to avoid any misconceptions. Now this is not to say you didn't try but alas, when dealing with the internet you can not leave things to chance. So your surprise is something of your own creation and thus I am left to say that it could have been avoided. One for hium for holding true to what he wanted and getting out before it became even more uncomfortable in his mind then it already was.
Now that being said ... Bad form on his part for bolting and not at least being man enough to stick out for the sake of respect for another person. so I guess the final score shall be 3 for you and 1 for him ... Need I say more? | |
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Posted: 4/21/2008 7:33:56 PM |
Need I say more?
Please no, that's already enough ignorance for one thread. | |
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Posted: 4/21/2008 7:42:55 PM | somehow, i'm left thinking there is a lot of detail left out of this date...
-first of all (any profile with no picture posted) is a red flag.
-second, she called a male friend after the date ended, -(so was her cell phone constantly ringing at the table) -and was it her male friend(s)? -typical pity posts: she's so into herself -probibly she wouldn't know if she was being inconsiderate or not.
-earlier poster: dont apologize for me or any other of the males here. even if i had something to do with this single situation,
-asses are for sitting -not kissing... | |
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Posted: 4/21/2008 7:58:13 PM | | i would have just said ok have a good night and got in my car and left. no questions asked . | |
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Posted: 4/21/2008 8:17:29 PM | Hmmm sounds like he was trying to hurt and dump you before you hurt or dumped him-- he likely sensed that he wasnt your type and that you were "going outside the box" as you say to meet with him... no man wants to feel like that-- and whether you conciously expressed that or not, a lot is said non-verbally -- we give ourselves away in more ways than might realize.
This time dont settle for less... and dont expect others too either!
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Posted: 4/21/2008 8:35:18 PM | Bolgor and Gemini.....(both parties involved) never go on a dinner date as a first meet ever again. I can see both sides. I can't say either one was right or wrong in their feelings. If I was Bolgor, yes I would feel deceived, but I would probably suck it up for a bit longer, since I already ordered OR I would of ended it at the end of the drink.
If I was Gemini, I would have been a bit shocked if that never happened to me before.
I would of questioned why he didn't just end it at the drink. Instead of feeling humiliated by being left in the restaurant with two orders coming to the table.
I don't believe in humiliating anyone unless they are down right being loud, rude and obnoxious in public. Then I would just silently walk away like I didn't know them.
I am thankful right now that I have never experienced anyone walking out or ending a date right away with me! | |
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Posted: 4/21/2008 10:10:56 PM | At first, I was thinking about reiterating why everyone should read this thread thoroughly before posting, as singerJames has stressed. But to be honest, it kind of reveals to me the type of people who are so ready to jump to conclusions and take sides. The fact that it is only three pages long before the other side was told reveals people's laziness at reading and trying to garner a complete understanding of the situation. The resulting responses are like a car pile up. If everyone would slow down, you guys wouldn't be wrecking yourselves in public for the rest of us to shake our heads at.
Props to xNEROx for eating crow though and manning up to it. I wonder how many others will admit to it?
And to you bolger2277, nothing but mad respect, brother.
Worth quoting...
Wow. Just...wow. I've never seen such ownage on this site. I actually feel really bad for all the men and women who immediately took the OP's side; for the women - talk about backing the wrong person and thus revealing the true bitterness inside you, and for the men - talk about proving to the world of pof that you base your life on trying to gain acceptance from women.
Attention readers: Read post 1, and then read post 60. You will understand everything about this situation.
I think it should become common pof language to refer to these situations as "pulling a GeminiTwist." Think about it. Any time a woman comes in here ****ing about her date, and it sounds like she's only giving up the details that make her look like a saint and her date look horrible, we should consider the possibilty that she's "pulling a GeminiTwist." | |
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Posted: 4/21/2008 10:20:06 PM | A: I am sorry
B: The guy obviously has no class
C: I would rather meet somewhere where we could talk more like maybe for a coffee or someplace where its a little quiet but yet public like a borders. so you can talk and possibly find something in common.
D: to answer your question,..NO, never | |
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Posted: 4/21/2008 11:22:55 PM | | [I think it should become common pof language to refer to these situations as "pulling a GeminiTwist." Think about it. Any time a woman comes in here ****ing about her date, and it sounds like she's only giving up the details that make her look like a saint and her date look horrible, we should consider the possibilty that she's "pulling a GeminiTwist."] I second that one brother! | |
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Posted: 4/22/2008 1:56:26 AM | Quick to judge....Yes I am. When I come to forums, it's to answer "ask a guy" because I would be one.
Do I read most of what the rest of you write for advice or have to say? Nope. I come on to make quick answers. You have a problem with that...tough!
The author posed the question and based on what she said I answer. I don't research these people and never see the opposing views since I don't really care.
I just happened to be bored this evening and came back for the first time ever to see if someone commented about my comments afterwards and you obviously did.
I accept there are two sides to the story and that the author may not be a wonderful woman. I don't really care. She asked...I answered and my opinion was worth every penny she paid for it.
Look, I do this like some people do crosswords over coffee. Mild amusement some mornings...not my life. | |
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Posted: 4/22/2008 3:48:55 AM |
I just happened to be bored this evening and came back for the first time ever to see if someone commented about my comments afterwards and you obviously did.
I accept there are two sides to the story and that the author may not be a wonderful woman. I don't really care. She asked...I answered and my opinion was worth every penny she paid for it.
Look, I do this like some people do crosswords over coffee. Mild amusement some mornings...not my life.
^^^^^^ It's all cool Jimmy.....thanks for been honest that you don't give a frig about opposing views on a thread.
Yeah...I hear ya...these forums aren't my life either, I also find them entertaining.....
I guess I like sticking up for the under dog when they are not here to defend themselves......
I just enjoy debates rather than one -sided posts......JMO | |
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