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Posted: 4/22/2008 7:26:18 AM | by the way...every attempt to publically defame somebody is against the rules. This attempt was clear in the OP profile.
Perhaps people should read the profiles of those who post threads before answering the thread itself. Just a suggestion. | |
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Posted: 4/22/2008 7:42:22 AM |
by the way...every attempt to publically defame somebody is against the rules. This attempt was clear in the OP profile.
Perhaps people should read the profiles of those who post threads before answering the thread itself. Just a suggestion.
^^^^^^^^^^ And it's a great suggestion Bloom10......I read the OP's profile....she really had it in for the guy..
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Posted: 4/22/2008 10:05:28 AM | This thread should be stickied as a warning to all those that love to use this place as a dumping ground for their anger, frustration, and hatred towards the opposite sex.
Even in situations where the OP doesn't get bitten in the ass such as this... such whining never helps the person doing it, it only helps re-inforce their belief that their behaviour has nothing to do with their problems. (Which is almost always wrong)
OP: Get help. You're not ready to be in a relationship. With anybody.
Date of OP: Good for you, my man! Self-respect intact. | |
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Posted: 4/22/2008 10:11:13 AM | Who cares if he's bald and self employed, but appalling is the absolute perfect word for it. I personally (after several bad experiences) try to get to know a woman better than just seeing a picture and a few e-mails before a date. If that means no dates, fine by me!
I also (although I am sorry that happened to you) would like to point out that many women behave badly on dates. | |
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Posted: 4/22/2008 12:55:40 PM | [I also (although I am sorry that happened to you) would like to point out that many women behave badly on dates.]
YES!!! The op is one of them. I think lying about who you are, qualifies as bad. i think the OP got what she deserved!!! | |
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Posted: 4/22/2008 1:36:53 PM | Without a doubt there is always 2 sides. Forums are for discussions and thus when encountering a thread like this you can discuss or berate. Most would love to berate rather than discuss. I recognise this.
For those who like to pick on the details ... Of course the info is going to make her look good. Do you honestly think anyone would come here to get made fun of??
For those who like to argue ... If you are looking for an arguement then get some anger management.
Those who wish to only find fault ... Seriously look at your life a take a moment to figure out just how perfect you are and then answer the question, " why am I here ?" .
For all of those people here to simply have some entertainment and chat a bit ... Welcome and have a great day.
And I still think that the guy is a jackass. But I think she didn't know or realise that what he was looking for either.
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Posted: 4/22/2008 1:37:42 PM | american-soldier, msg 105:
I think lying about who you are, qualifies as bad. i think the OP got what she deserved!!!
I think the OP got off easy. | |
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Posted: 4/22/2008 1:39:28 PM | Walking in Memphis, msg 106:
Without a doubt there is always 2 sides. Forums are for discussions and thus when encountering a thread like this you can discuss or berate. Most would love to berate rather than discuss. I recognise this.
For those who like to pick on the details ... Of course the info is going to make her look good. Do you honestly think anyone would come here to get made fun of??
For those who like to argue ... If you are looking for an arguement then get some anger management.
Those who wish to only find fault ... Seriously look at your life a take a moment to figure out just how perfect you are and then answer the question, " why am I here ?" .
For all of those people here to simply have some entertainment and chat a bit ... Welcome and have a great day.
And I still think that the guy is a jackass. But I think she didn't know or realise that what he was looking for either.
Why do I think that, despite your arrogant tone, you STILL haven't read post 60? | |
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Posted: 4/22/2008 2:23:50 PM |
Would you do this?
hmmmmm, lemme see...........hypothetically, if the woman I was meeting was a lying, manipulating, obnoxious shrew........then ya, I probably would | |
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Posted: 4/22/2008 3:32:48 PM | | hmmm, and if the situation were reversed, and the man was a lying, fat, loud, obnoxious ahole, i too would do the same as bolger did. | |
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Posted: 4/22/2008 6:44:12 PM | | good for you beachbum...just because a woman is the one who lied....and got a taste of her own medicinece, doesnt mean the MAN is automatically at fault! | |
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Posted: 4/22/2008 10:22:17 PM | Op, nice to have you back with the photos.
But the fact remains, that you tried to defame somebody.
Good luck ! | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 2:05:50 AM | And I still think that the guy is a jackass.
The old saying goes, "Better to be thought a fool, than to open your mouth and remove all doubt." In this case, I guess we can also apply it to your use of your keyboard, hey Memphis?
Those who would toll their virtues of only reading what suits them and defending their actions thereof, especially when both sides have been told which is practically non-existent on this forum, should recognize it comes off as about as cheap and as lame of an excuse that can be given. We're not talking about 30+ pages here people. We're talking about 3 pages before the other side is told. Laziness reveals itself to be just that, nothing more and nothing less. Especially when these same posters would decry other men on other threads of pandering to women with their answers. Be careful of the standards you set forth when the chances are you cannot live up to them yourself.
I've read countless times by both posters of each gender how they wish or otherwise conceive of the other side of the story in these types of threads. These cries of the "other side" are interwoven in practically every thread and in nearly every post. And here it is in all it's glory and yet, still individual posters refuse (especially, after post 60) to at least own up to their follies after the fact. There is no excuse for it given these particular circumstances.
It would seem to me that those who cannot admit their mistakes should at least take the time to review the type of advice that they give in the future. That's a catch 22, I suppose. In order to admit a mistake one would have to realize that they made one in the first place. Alas, that would actually require some thought and introspection on their part.
It's not about the perfect answer people, since rarely can it ever be given regarding the subject matter and the method given here. However, it is your credibility that is made to suffer at your own hands when proven it's shortcomings. It is one thing to post a humorous and a$$hole-like reply, at least it has consistency and a form of harsh truth to it. I'm guilty of that and yes, it can be enjoyable since the humor at least provides a laugh if nothing else. Yet, it is quite another to completely waste your time and to freely admit that is has no merit whatsoever. Quite sad really. Not only are you single, but your loneliness must be unbearable. Something of which, once again, many of you posters here denounce of others. How unfortunate that you cannot even live up to your own standards.
The above does not apply to xNEROx.
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Posted: 4/23/2008 2:17:32 AM | [I think the OP got off easy. ]
Most definitely | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 6:46:21 AM |
Op, nice to have you back with the photos.
But the fact remains, that you tried to defame somebody.
^^^^^^^^Yep! she's back and her profile has totally changed.....all the wording is different and has removed all trace of that defamation from her profile....
But, some of us know what happend.....lol
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Posted: 4/23/2008 11:30:22 AM | Well let's just hope he's learning. (and you are too). At least he admitted that there was no connection (though by the amount of time he spent he meant attraction) instead of saying everything was fine and never speaking to you again. If he is still learning he will find that it takes a while to make a connection, usually, even with someone you might initially find annoying. Same goes with attraction, too.
Tact is important, as well as working to find that connection. It's easier in the short term to ignore someone rather than give them 'bad news', but in the long run a man will not find out what he wants, desires or appreciates unless he works at it. Maybe he learned that this is his MO, so a coffee date will be less expensive next time.
I'll read the rest of the comments to see if you left anything out. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 11:56:08 AM | Yep, OP you did leave some things out as I expected. And I agree with (someone) here that said most men would never do this, unless the woman was a complete****
With the OP comments, I stick to my original response, cof course I knew that was not the whole story. I applaud the guy for posting. OP, not so couragoues now, hmm?
This whole thing makes me think of (not just reading the whole thread) actually asking for a dinner date because they seem rare, better then the coffee date- of course, there should have been some online/phone time first. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2008 3:05:29 PM | | there is always three sides to every story. his story, her story and the truth. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2008 3:19:40 PM | Wow. This thread should be stickied. I'm serious...I've never seen an OP get so OWNED in these forums.
True, none of us witnessed the offending event but man...both sides represented. Impressive.
People, if you never read an entire thread again, this should be the only one you ever have. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2008 4:25:50 PM | | What's wrong with a male 41 year old that's bald and self employed? I know some VERY sexy bald men over 40. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2008 6:33:27 PM | | some people are rude. I could never do that, but I have had it happen to me like that. On the other hand, why waste time. Maybe he did you a favor if you can just get over the initial shock of it. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2008 6:39:40 PM | This thread is confusing since the OP and many of the posters have deleted their accounts
Edit: Okay, I found Bolger's post - interesting indeed! | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 1:04:41 AM | I like the title "would you do this?" ..bet she wishes she had never posted this!!!!...
.it is so great when someone tries to make themself look good at the expense of someone else and it backfires....and I happen to think 41 yr old bald self employed men are hot! | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 1:05:27 AM | several things...
1. i see no point in presenting a 1-sided story if one wants real advice
2. she shouldn't have misrepresented herself, but on the other hand, about 1/2 to 2/3 of the people i've met don't look as cute as their photos...so no real shock there. gotta say, one guy looked better, but that was a year and a half ago hee hee
3. it was still a bit obnoxious of him to leave and he might as well have hung around and enjoyed the restaurant ... if i'm not interested, i just figure what the heck, i'm already out...might as well have some fun & if they're not interested, i imagine they figure what the heck too trust me, 2 in particular, were very strange and i admit to inwardly cringing, but i tend to think those situations are funny
4. in her shoes, i'd feel insulted combined with a feeling of amused irony (considering she wasn't interested in him anyway) - but at least he was honest with her
5. i would have hung around and enjoyed the meal & other patrons after he left (i'm oddly shy at times yet oddly adventurous)
6. she was a tad nervy slamming him from a glass house
7. both of them have taken 1 misguided meet & greet far too seriously given the particular circumtances...ok, so she was heavy and he was hairless lol, but no one was really used (had that happen once...well, the guy tried...i thought only briefly about damaging his testicles  )
8. this is the juciest thread yet! eek! | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 1:47:10 AM |
rule to you baby doll: don't ever do first meetings over dinner, much easier to meet them casually for coffee
thast exactly what i do myself..whenever i meet someone from here, we always meet somewhere casual..like a mall or a coffee shop, or apizza joint or something and chit chat a bit..anyway OP that was rather rude of your date..i would never do that even if i didnt like the person.. | |
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