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Posted: 6/20/2008 5:13:18 AM | oh and girls - male 41, self empl, bald, enough said
Maybe she said this so the rest of us women would be aware of him. so that we too dont get his rude treatment. she could have siad his username. but then she would have ruined his dating chances and prob banned by mods. The decent man would have atleast finished dinner. now i did not read all the post mainly just hers and few ohters. I will not excuse this man for his rude behavior.at 41 no matter what his reason he should have handled things in a more mature way. he is not 12 he is grown man. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 10:31:24 AM | He lost all of his hair from his last date..... | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 10:36:47 AM | it is disrespectful to leave a date like that. but it has nothing to do with his age? employment status? bald or not? you were on a date with him means you had no problem of him being bald. so i guess those info is not related to the topic.
if a guy ask out a girl, its his responsibility to treat her like a lady even though theres no connection whatsoever. i have been there and done that many many times, the only ocassion i may feel like to leave right away is when i feel that i have been lied. misrepresentation of pic or matiral status or any other imp information. other than that walking out is absolutely disrespectful. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2008 8:32:00 PM | Absolutely not. The proper thing to do would be to finish dinner.
Be glad you found out his true self earlier than later. That's the plus.
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Posted: 7/1/2008 6:13:43 AM | No, this is not something that I would do, unless.....
Upon meeting and seeing each other, the person I've just met is not the same person I was led to believe i.e. fake pictures which were obviously intended to mislead in order to get to the first meeting point. That would suggest to me what type of person she is (deceptive, underhanded, sneaky, disrespectful) and I would think it a waste of my time to spend any of it with a person like that. She can go line up another to try to dupe. Homey don't play that game. 
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Posted: 7/1/2008 6:19:23 AM | | Thats just bad manners, so long as a woman was being polite I would ofcourse do my part in being a gentleman. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 6:57:19 AM | | I guess I wouldnt have to worry about finding him becuase I dont date men with no hair lol. I like hair on a man's head. just my preference. sounds like you dated a real loser. be thankful you found out now rather than later. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 7:10:44 AM | | i would have stayed and finished, this guy is rude and will never find happiness with himself or with someone else.. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 7:22:40 AM | Future posters should read the entire thread before posting....or at least posts #1 & #60. Just an FYI.
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Posted: 7/1/2008 7:33:18 AM | well I never read post 60 until u put it in ur post lol i had to go read it. well I kinda feel sorry for him in a way lol. however still could have finished dinner. but I understand his side too now. given the cirucmstances i guess if i had a rude , loud man that everyone could hear I would leave too. I dont like attracting attention in public.
bolger, I hope my post did not offend you. its hard to answer someting when a perosn only has one side of a story.
still waiitn for geminitwist to respond to post 60 lol she has not responded yet. guess she didnt figure he would come tell his side of story. she must be in shock. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 11:34:43 AM | I got to say boo on the bald shot; it was below the belt. I commend him on his ability to size up the situation so fast. Perhaps he was too fast. I find that once the connection is lost, it is really hard to establish it again. If he thought it wasn't going to work because of him, or perhaps even you, I don't blame him.
It was a little rude to do what he did, but overall where do you think the evening would have gone if you both were at the table wondering why you were both filling your bellies for a different reason than you started out on? I mean I can see the date going very badly at the point. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 12:45:22 PM | wow... just wow... I feel like the old lady in one of those really high-gloss TV ads for faucets: "o.k., I've seen it all, now I can die..."
Soooooo rare to hear both sides (neither one of which, I might add, completely and accurately relates the reality of the experience both shared) of the story, from the participants to said OP's situation/quandary. I have to really say that I admire the courage exhibited by Bolger in post 60. Its tone speaks well of his overall character, even if his recitation of the event may have been slightly biased, being as it is, from his perspective. And, I have to also say, OP, that even when I read your initial opening post, my "spidey sense" started tingling when you mentioned the "41, bald, self-employed - nough said" stuff. (By the way, I paraphrased a bit there, those might not have been your exact words.) I've come to this thread fairly late in the game, so by now it's all Monday-morning quarter-backing. BUT... I have to say your post didn't speak well of your character, in my opinion.
If you truly just wanted to know whether this was standard male behavior on a date, or if others had shared the same experience... even if you just needed to vent and get some validation for having suffered what, in your own mind, was some extremely rude behavior.... then the classy thing to do would have been to leave out any mention of the man's biography, his appearance, etc. It's obvious that you were trying to identify him, thereby skirting even the letter, not to mention the spirit of the POF posting rules.
By the way, I have to agree with the poster who suggested this:
I think it should become common pof language to refer to these situations as "pulling a GeminiTwist." Think about it. Any time a woman comes in here ****ing about her date, and it sounds like she's only giving up the details that make her look like a saint and her date look horrible, we should consider the possibilty that she's "pulling a GeminiTwist."
Don't worry, OP. You'd still have your GeminiTwist2 account, and would hardly be tainted by association. Most people don't read the forums, anyway.
As far as the opening thread topic. No, I would not leave a date in the middle of it, even if there was absolutely no connection. However, if provoked by my date's bad behavior, I would likely be fairly vocal about commenting on such behavior, and it's likely, then, that my date would choose to leave. So, same result, just accomplished a little differently. Obviously, I do not have the wisdom and tact possessed by Bolger. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 3:07:08 PM | OP,
LOL wondering if "self-employed" is a euphemism for "unemployed?" OK, to the guy involved...couldn't resist, so don't get your feathers in an uproar!!
It sounds like the date from Hell in any event!!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 3:34:44 PM | Glad I got to read the other guy's rebuttal to this, because she made it seem like she was doing him a favor by gracing him with her presence.
She could've just mentioned the story without trying to run him down and from what he had said, she was no prize either.
I could definitely see why he wanted to get out of there, why prolong the suffering? I'm sure if a girl said that, most of those who are bashing the guy would be complimenting her saying she did the right thing.
It's not like he said "you cold heartless, low down bottom feeding trash bag ho,I want out of here NOW!" or anything. He said he would rather not finish the dinner, how exactly is that rude?
And to answer the question at hand, if she was that obnoxious or annoying or rude, I'd definitely end things right there and then. Hardly a sin. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 5:00:05 PM | It's women like the OP that gives us women on POF a bad name. I don't know if I would have ended the date but I would not have lingered over my meal that's for sure..... | |
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