| Men and cooking
Posted: 6/27/2008 11:05:41 AM | Rose - I guess we didn't need to Ask your man....seems he answered the question for us..... | |
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| Men and cooking
Posted: 6/27/2008 11:06:31 AM | [qoute] Do you cook? If he cooks do you pay for dinner?
Why should men be doing both? Paying for dinner? And cooking dinner?
I swear to God women are turning into dependent children each day. There used to be a time where they could feed you and you could give them your paycheck and know it would be spent and invested wisely. Now they need a man to feed them and the paycheck lol (wouldn't even dream about doing this). Feminism just dumbed down women, made them less trustworthy and useless. I'm generalizing here. There are the 15% of women who can truly be a partner and not a leech.[/qoute]
ummm well when i cooked dinner for any of my exes i ALSO bought the supplies and the food. I feel the person making dinner should be the one paying for the supplies because they are the one's that know what they want to make. the only thing i ask him to do is help me with the dishes. | |
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| Men and cooking
Posted: 6/27/2008 11:27:47 AM | While I promote the traditional role of men and women, it's also a fact that women grow up cooking and cleaning and then go out and earn a living - typically while raising a family.
Is that a joke? Did you not read this thread? most of these women can't cook.
I'm just saying a relationship should be 50/50. You can't expect a guy to pay for your dinners out and then expect him to cook. One does one, the other person does the other or both you do both things. It should be fair and EQUAL. Shouldn't a lady treat a gentleman right? Give as good as you get.
But its men doing all the giving for the most part (not close to equal). Every relationship the woman gets more out it. The vice versa never exists. No rules on how to treat a man right?
Most women don't grow up cooking or cleaning lol.
According to most traditional models, women are thought of as being the more romantic because biologically they tend toward using a specific hemisphere of the brain.
Women are more romantic as in they EXPECT romance. They want to be the recievers not givers. | |
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| Men and cooking
Posted: 6/27/2008 11:30:48 AM | | I don't really cook often. I can but I don't. I wouldn't expect the person I am with to do something I don't do. However... I think it's very sexy to see a man cooking burgers on the grill. Especially if he's got an apron on. Bonus pts for chefs hat. | |
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| Men and cooking
Posted: 6/27/2008 11:33:17 AM | I'm just saying a relationship should be 50/50. You can't expect a guy to pay for your dinners out and then expect him to cook. One does one, the other person does the other or both you do both things. It should be fair and EQUAL. SHouldn't a lady treat a gentleman right? Give as good as you get.
Ah, Grasshopper, you have attained Enlightenment!   | |
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| Men and cooking
Posted: 6/27/2008 11:57:16 AM | | to john.duke12 I was raised to cook i have been cooking sence i was 4 with help and with out help sence i was 9. I have always LOVED to cook. Yes things need to be 50/50 like i belive the one who cook should NOT do the dishes. The thing that gets me is when men who think stay at home moms are lazy and don't do anything in their day and refuse to help around the house because the woman should do it because the stay at home moms so call do nothing. A stay at home mother works just as hard as a man that works EXPECIALY if there is more then one kid in the house!!! the street goes both ways my friend. Men and women tend want things done the way THEY want it done. People nowdays in general are selfish! one reason most mariges fail! there is no comprimise! it's the "my way or the highway" | |
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| Men and cooking
Posted: 6/27/2008 12:02:58 PM |
Yes things need to be 50/50 like i belive the one who cook should NOT do the dishes.
No I believe the one who cooks does the dishes. When someone picks you up for dinner they drive and pay. There's no assistance on your part for that date. The same thing should apply here. | |
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| Men and cooking
Posted: 6/27/2008 12:50:33 PM | Mojitojo wrote:
Rose - I guess we didn't need to Ask your man....seems he answered the question for us..... Yeah he sure did didn't he...I guess I missed that lesson in Biology class.... I think I need one of those margarita's right about now... | |
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| Men and cooking
Posted: 6/27/2008 2:19:20 PM |
No I believe the one who cooks does the dishes. When someone picks you up for dinner they drive and pay. There's no assistance on your part for that date. The same thing should apply here.
Whoa, the person who cooks also does the dishes?? Now that's just splitting hairs. You're assuming the person taking you out to dinner is picking you up. They may drive you, but you also may live together or meet there after work. And driving is far from being as difficult as cooking a home cooked meal.
Lets break down the process of cooking a home cooked meal:
1. Meal Planning: can take anywhere from 15 - 30 minutes depending on the recipients tastes and allergies, writing down the recipes if necessary, making a grocery list
2. Grocery Shopping: Dodging idiots in the aisles, listening to screaming children, reading the backs of labels to avoid trans fats, selecting produce (pressure tests, smell tests, looking for signs of bruising), suffering through the antics of horny butchers, waiting in line, carting everything to the car and driving home. Estimated time: 30 minutes - 1 hour
3. Pre-Cooking Prep: Carting everything from the car into the kitchen, rinsing produce, trimming meats, tenderizing if necessary, creating marinades, marinating meats if necessary, chopping produce, measuring out spices, pre-heating oven, getting all utensils ready and within reach. Estimated time: 30 minutes - 1 hour
4. Cooking: Timing when elements begin cooking so everything is done at the same time, stirring, folding, flipping, etc. Basically cooking the food. Estimated time: 30 minutes - 1 hour
5. Serving: Setting the table, serving the food, and finally getting off your feet long enough to eat. Estimated time: 10 - 15 minutes
Let's not forget that this entire venture sans the meal planning is done on your feet.
And now after a person has done all of that, you expect them to also Do the Dishes? If I had to compare the amount of work necessary to take someone out to dinner to cooking a home cooked meal, a home cooked meal takes a hell of a lot more work. A lot more. Driving is not the equivalent of all elements necessary to cook a meal. As far as paying, well the person cooking the meal is paying for the home-cooked meal. They're also working while they're doing it. Food doesn't cook itself. Sitting in an air-conditioned restaurant on a cushy seat ordering from a menu is far from being as work intensive as cooking over a hot stove.
I'm all for cooking for a loved one, but to have someone go sit on the couch and not even offer to help is a slap in the face. I'd at least want them to offer to dry the dishes. I mean, damn. That's just cold. I have thankfully never dealt with a man that ungrateful. And no man kind enough to cook for me has received such poor treatment. | |
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| Men and cooking
Posted: 6/28/2008 9:55:15 AM | i do a pretty mean pizza pop---- any takers? | |
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| Men and cooking
Posted: 6/28/2008 10:06:55 AM | | ok Troy, I give up..what is a Pizza Pop??? | |
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| Men and cooking
Posted: 6/28/2008 12:13:42 PM |
I'm all for cooking for a loved one, but to have someone go sit on the couch and not even offer to help is a slap in the face. I'd at least want them to offer to dry the dishes. I mean, damn. That's just cold. I have thankfully never dealt with a man that ungrateful. And no man kind enough to cook for me has received such poor treatment.
Well I've never been cooked a meal that took more than 20 minutes so what would I know? | |
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| Men and cooking
Posted: 6/28/2008 2:49:20 PM | Well, so far when my sweetie has cooked for me, we've left the dishes for him to do later... and we've done the same thing when he is over at my place.
If we ever live together he's said how he wants it to be is one cooks/the other washes.
He absolutely detests washing dishes, and finds cooking to be creative... so I think he is angling to be the one who primarily cooks. Works for me. | |
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| Men and cooking
Posted: 6/28/2008 3:00:15 PM | | Lucky you Margo..you go girl..LOL I am cooking dinner right now..for one..I hate cooking for one.. | |
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| Men and cooking
Posted: 6/28/2008 3:30:55 PM | | Men that can cook are very very sexy. GREAT quality to have. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2008 3:36:54 PM | | I still think its unfair that men pay for dinner out and now cook it. Women just scoff down free food. Freeloaders. | |
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| Men and cooking
Posted: 6/28/2008 3:47:59 PM |
Well, so far when my sweetie has cooked for me, we've left the dishes for him to do later... and we've done the same thing when he is over at my place.
If we ever live together he's said how he wants it to be is one cooks/the other washes.
That's been my experience when dating as well. When we're just dating, who does the dishes is a non-issue. You want to relax and cuddle after you eat, not continue working. When things got serious and he was basically living at my place, then he would always offer to wash the dishes since he knew how much effort I put into cooking. My favorite set-up is when both cook and both clean since the entire process is very intimate. There's also something about a man chopping vegetables. Adorable! | |
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| Men and cooking
Posted: 6/28/2008 4:34:22 PM |
still think its unfair that men pay for dinner out and now cook it. Women just scoff down free food. Freeloaders. Oh Johnny stop pouting..come over for dinner, my treat, I'll even do the dishes honey...as long as you please me all night long..can you at least handle that much?? Gosh John, did none of our chat's break through that thick skull??? Over my knee, right now young man! | |
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| Men and cooking
Posted: 6/28/2008 5:18:42 PM | I don't mind cooking but it's not my favorite thing to do. If a man wants to cook for me....VERY SEXY! Let me buy the ingredients and clean up the kitchen afterwards!
If it's just me eating...I'll just grab a peanut butter and jelly sandwich and call it good... | |
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| Men and cooking
Posted: 6/28/2008 6:20:34 PM | HAVE YOU EVER GONE OUT FOR A MEAL, THEERE IS A 99.99999999999999999% CHANCE YOUR MEAL WAS "COOKED" BY A MAN, I'M A SINGLE DAD OF FOUR CHILDREN,I DONT GET MANY COMPLAINTS !!!! | |
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| Men and cooking
Posted: 6/28/2008 6:36:00 PM |
Attention Whore *points finger* Haha.
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| Men and cooking
Posted: 6/30/2008 4:46:35 PM | I don't think a guy should try to force himself to get into cooking. If you like trying different cooking styles (I do) then it just becomes a bonus if you meet a girl that likes guys who cook. Personally I enjoy trying different things in the kitchen with a special someone. Much like trying different things in the bedroom!
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| Men and cooking
Posted: 6/30/2008 4:53:46 PM | There are reasons why most chefs are male gwertyup.
Here's why:
nymag.com/restaurants/features/39595
Also states most pastry chefs are women and food women cook are typically better. I agree. The best meals are cooked by female chefs. Cooking is one area where women won't embrace trends while men will for money. This keeps a woman's food simple, tasty yet elegant. | |
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| Men and cooking
Posted: 9/1/2008 1:57:00 PM | | A roulade is anything with meat and other ingredients. they started in france, and have been adapted throughout the world. does that answer your question? | |
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