| | dating and unemploymentPage 5 of 5 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5) | I cannot highly recommend staying out of dating and look for job.
work out and fap if you have to get women off your mind
3 months later you'll have a new job, bigger pecs, and a smaller waist line.
post your new self and watch the em's flow in. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2011 3:17:35 PM | Also, I forgot to add: I have no car or driver's license. I've failed driver's ed every time I took it (which was three times. I have a learning disorder, just don't ask), and employers have flat-out told me they were only hiring people with driver's licenses. That aggravates me. Every job I've applied for is one I could easily walk to in less than an hour.
There is also the mitigating factor of employers denying me because I had no prior work experience. -_- | |
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Posted: 6/17/2011 11:40:40 PM | @UkrainianSensation. It's not on YOUR dime. People on unemployment paid into the same system as everyone else. It's a form of insurance. Just like auto, home and life. So, in actuality, it's on THEIR dime. Regardless, noone is out there living the high life on unemployment. I don't know what kind of people you associate with, but many decent hard-working people lost their jobs over the last three years. You don't know everyone's circumstance nor are you in any position to pass judgement on them.
There are people out there losing their homes, having to sell off their possessions or put them into storage. People's credit ratings are going into the toilet while their savings are being depleted to nothing. You think UI pays all the bills? Ha! It's but a fraction of the old paycheck. People do what they can to find a new job, but in many areas, the jobs are just not there. Go to a job fair and you'll see lines of people that stretch out for blocks. Nor is it any easier to find a "survival" job. Nothing is hanging off a tree anymore. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2011 12:34:49 AM | | Not only did I date while unemployed, I got married while unemployed. I was still in college at the time. She knew I was a good risk even though I was slightly in debt. I within months got a good job and in a few years was making good money. I've made well over a million dollars since then. It can be worthwhile taking a risk on some that have potential but are currently unemployed. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2011 12:46:28 AM | First..I didn't read all of the other postings..I'm a bit lazy sometimes..
Secondly...yes you can search for a job and a relationsip at the same time...it's called double browsing..
One click away,
Sunny | |
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Posted: 6/18/2011 7:44:40 PM | | Ummm maybe my priorities are odd, but I do not think I would want to tell a girl. Yeah lets go back to my place. Ohh its the box in the alley with the cot, great view over looking the cat piss... Really? Really? | |
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Posted: 6/19/2011 2:49:35 PM | | I did meet someone who was unemployed due to him saying he had recently moved here. On our date I tried to make as inexpensive as possible. You have to consider the person who is unemployed if it's a legitimate reason. I was gonna help him looking around but he disappeared after the 2nd date.. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2011 6:33:04 AM | | Absolutely not, I am laid off right now and I haven't stopped dating. I like to trade off with who pays on dates, like, one date he pays, the other date I pay. lol I just cut back on how costly the dates are. :) | |
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Posted: 6/20/2011 7:34:33 AM | I'm not working and hence cannot afford to go on dates.
Were I to meet someone in the real world? I would explain my situation fully and if the person still wanted to get to know me, that would be fine but I'd not be available as much.
I'm just dealing with too much stress and worry and frankly don't wanna bring that into someone's life.
Heck, I've been saying that about myself my whole life. I was recently told to be less selfish.
Meh, what do I know...... | |
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Posted: 7/18/2011 7:51:55 PM | I have been looking and looking and looking for a job, and am beyond frustrated, I have hidden my profile and have lost interest in dating, self esteem is in the crapper, have always worked and been able to take care of myself, and to not be able to find a job is doing a number on me. I know it's the economy, but still, this is ridiculous.
In the beginning I still would venture out on a date, but now, am not am so discouraged and down, wouldn't want to drag someone into my drama.
Sorry folks, having a pity party for one right now.... : ( | |
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Posted: 7/19/2011 1:13:55 AM | | I think if you are unemployed, you should be putting your time, energy and effort into finding a job, not dating. Once you are back on your feet, then you get back to dating. If you need to relieve stress and have fun because you are unemployed, get some exercise--ride a bike, go hiking, do yard work--do stuff that doesn't cost money. When you are unemployed, that is not a good time to bring new people (at least not romantically) into your life; it is a time to focus on getting yourself back on your feet. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2011 1:11:44 PM | | I would think finding a job would be your first priority. Also... how can you go on dates if you don't have any money? I met an attractive man on here that didn't have work. I ended up taking him to dinner. I don't mind sharing expenses... but don't want it to be only on me. You can do a lot of things that don't cost anything, but you still need gas, might want to buy a drink or have a meal if you're together for four hours or more. I don't think it's attractive to a female to not have a job, especially at this age. Of course circumstances happen and you're laid off, getting a job has to be your first priority or how do you live... pay your bills? | |
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Posted: 7/25/2011 9:08:03 AM | | I have a job. It's PT and minimum wage. After living expenses I have virtually nothing left. If I was dating that would be a problem. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2011 10:32:51 AM | I've recently been laid off and don't think that makes me any less of a catch other than whoever I date will have to understand that I can't afford to go out all the time but then some of the best things in life are free and I should still enjoy myself because if I don't I think I will go nuts.
Would I date someone who was unemployed? It depends on the situation, if they are one of those who won't work because they think they are better off on benefits then no but if like many people out there at the moment they are a victim of the economic climate then yes.
I think it is unfair to instantly dismiss someone on the basis they don't have a job especially at the moment when the economic climate is still terrible and people with degrees etc can't even get a job at the moment round here you're lucky to get an interview as 100 people plus apply for jobs and even more for low paid jobs which go to those with little prospects and employers know they will stay.
Having a job doesn't mean someone has money though, I was skint when I was working with travel costs and college. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2011 11:46:35 PM | | I agree that it depends upon the situation. A few years ago I was willing to date a man who was unemployed...he stopped it- I think he felt self conscious. But last year there was a man who was unemployed with whom I was just emailing.....I am two years away from retirement and he was telling me that he couldn't afford to go anywhere and was keeping his unemployment until he could get his social security in a few months. I asked if he would be able to travel once he was receiving his Social Security because that is something I really want to do when I retire. He took great offense and canceled our date- then changed his profile and added a statement about how he didn't care how much money a person made... Now if I had been living with him or involved with him for years and years I would have been more than happy to pay for our travels together...but shoot I have worked hard for my retirement and for a man I haven't even met yet to get huffy because I want to travel and he can't.......But I would still consider someone who was unemployed as long as he wasn't asking me for money...I have kids who can do that..... | |
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Posted: 7/26/2011 9:57:23 AM | | im not working at the moment cos i had an operation in june so right now im not going on any dates as i cant afford to go out, so im waiting til im back at work | |
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Posted: 7/26/2011 11:31:05 AM | | I'm unemployed. I'm in college but I don't even get financial aid. I'm busting my ass working for a better future for myself. It makes dating a lot harder, but it's possible. You just have to find somebody that doesn't expect you to buy them gifts and take them out all the time. And to be perfectly honest, that's the kind of person I would prefer to have anyway. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2011 5:29:08 PM | this is ironic.....yesterday I had written a gentleman from PoF whose profile I have seen before...just decided it was time to contact him. he wrote back a very sweet email- admitted 'for full disclosure" that he was job hunting and said he just wanted to put it out there.
Not only did I say being unemployed wouldn't deter me but I sent him info about a job at the large organization I work for. Now I am not saying he'd get it but that's what connections are for.
So who knows.....we have a lot of free beaches for walking and free days at museums...we all have to eat- so once we know each other we could cook and be frugal...or it won't work out...but what the heck...have to take some chances. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2011 6:46:40 PM | Source of income - first priority
dating would be a silent distant 285th | |
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Posted: 7/27/2011 1:55:54 PM | | I'd date an unemployed man. He could work around MY schedule, and cook me dinner, if I brought home the bacon hahaha. Maybe even do some errands Aww heck, I'd hire him as an assistant with benefits | |
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